Cast Blog: #RHOM

Ana's Moment of Catharsis

A Therapeutic Season for Alexia

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea's Double Standards

Hoping to Move Forward with Lea

An X-Rated Reunion

Lisa's Vegas Regret

Joanna's Perfect Day

Lea and the Beefy Bus Boy Duo

Lea's Lip Service

Lisa's "Peacemaker" Problems

Alexia's Not Sweating the Small Stuff

Real Friends Don't Hold Grudges

A Fun Party, Minus the Distractions

Apologizing to Lea

Alexia's Anniversary Celebration

Lisa Loves Texas

Meet Joanna's New Puppy!

Lea's Walk Down Memory Lane

Adriana's Wedding Full of Waiting

Adriana's Two Loves

May Adriana Live Happily Ever After

Romain's Troubled Past

Alexia's Birthday Drama

Meet Dr. Sex Therapist Lisa

The Wedding Evite Explained

Targeted by the Hate Club

Lisa's Button-Pushing Behavior

Peter's Healing Process

Lenny's Lipo

Lea's Over the Haters

Adriana's Difficult Past

Joanna Talks Role Playing

Update on Elsa

Recovering Frankie and Peter

Lisa's Bridesmaid Ultimatum

Joanna's Outright Insult

The Birkin Bag Bonanza

Adriana's Glamorous 'Great Gatsby' Wedding

Lisa's In-Law Issues

Shocked by Lea's Secrets

Ana's Moment of Catharsis

Ana opens up about her experience during the flower ritual.

"On the road from the City of Skepticism, I had to pass through the Valley of Ambiguity."-Adam Smith

Sometimes my skepticism borders on cynicism. On our last day in Bimini, my patience had worn thin and the cynic in me was front and center. All I wanted was to get off that island. The tribe had spoken and I wanted to go home.

What started out as a silly ritual became the most cathartic moment for me this season. I think we all have our dragons to slay, and my dragon doesn’t seem so scary anymore. A lot of the guilt and fear I was carrying around drifted into the ocean that day.  I left Bimini a lot stronger emotionally and even a little hopeful about my future.

Signing the divorce papers was tough. Closing the door on something that defined you for so long is never easy. It has been several months and I am at peace with the decision. No second guesses. No could’ve, should’ve, would’ve. Robert and I continue to co-parent our girls and help each other in any way we can. It works for us and that is all that matters.

At the core of this season were our ever-evolving relationships -- we saw them begin and fizzle out, we saw them end only to begin again, we struggled to hold on, and struggled to let go. We’ve all had our share of heartache this season, but we also experienced a healthy dose of joy. We made new friends, strengthened existing friendships, burned bridges, and waged unnecessary wars. We all did and said things that made us proud and others that perhaps we regret. I believe that feelings both of happiness and pain let us know that we are alive -- and being alive is a really wonderful thing.  

I also learned about the benefits of social media and how it can be a great way to connect with amazing people all over the world. But I’ve also seen the pitfalls of and witnessed the abuse by those who use it as a tool to elevate themselves at the expense of others. Things like fake Twitter followers, fake Facebook accounts, and blog posters with many aliases are rampant across the franchise. Who knew? I have been lucky to have the unwavering support of so many of you, and for that I am so very grateful. While I may not have enjoyed hearing criticism, I have carefully considered many of your valid points and advice. No one is harder on me than I am on myself, so in the spirit of self-preservation I did my best to ignore some of the more gratuitously offensive rants.I hope you will continue to share your thoughts with me via Twitter @AnaQooks or via the contact page on my website at anaquincoces.com where I will continue to blog and post recipes.

Wishing all of you a beautiful holiday season filled with peace and surrounded by the love of your family and friends.
Here’s a traditional Coquito recipe (our version of eggnog) to add a little Christmas cheer to your holidays.

Coquito

Ingredients:
2 large egg yolks
1 (12 fluid ounce) can evaporated milk
1 (14 ounce) can cream of coconut
1 (14 ounce) can sweetened condensed milk
2/3 cup rum
1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
2 teaspoons vanilla extract

Directions
Lightly beat the egg yolks and place in a double boiler with the evaporated milk. Whisking constantly, cook over simmering water stirring continuously until slightly thickened. Allow to cool to room temperature. Place the mixture in the blender, add the cream of coconut, condensed milk, rum, vanilla, and ground cinnamon. Pour into decorative glass bottles and chill until ready to serve.

Salud!

Until next time,
Ana

Lea's Double Standards

Adriana explains why she was so surprised by Joanna and Lea's behavior.

I would like to start by saying that I tried my best to bond with Joanna and remain friendly after attending her bachorelette party and wedding. I truly was hoping for a budding friendship. All season long, she criticized me in her weekly blogs, criticized my wedding, and even then I took the high road and didn't engage in the low blows and continued hostility she has demonstrated towards me for a while now. However, I couldn’t stay quiet any longer when she started to attack my credibility. Enough is enough! I've learned that bullies like her will not stop the attack until you stand your ground. She showed me her true colors when she stated she wanted “to rip my head off.” Such aggressive behavior like that could no longer be ignored. Joanna is always stating that she is beautiful and because of that she thinks she has license to act UGLY!

Furthermore, I couldn't remain silent while she was attacking Lisa and being so cold to her and her struggle with infertility. Claiming that Lisa is a party girl and is always drinking is not the attitude of a friend. Joanna and Lisa had been friends and even had dinner together the night before and all was well between them, until Joanna decided to turn on Lisa... I was shocked, how can a friend blatantly attack her friend with such coldness?! She should not talk about things she knows nothing about!