Ana Quincoces

Ana knows her heartbreak isn't unique, but it hurts just the same.

on Nov 12, 20120

"All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on." -- Havelock Ellis

The end of any relationship is difficult. I am not the first and I will not be the last. Everyone reading this blog has at one point or another felt the particular sting of heartbreak. When you are in it, it seems insurmountable. With the passing of each day, each week, each month, the pain begins to subside and you think you will be OK.

My separation has been particularly grueling. No, not because we were more in love than any other couple or because our kids were hurt as a result. The truth is that while we were once very much in love, and our girls have suffered the consequences of this separation, the many ways in which Robert and I were connected have made it necessary for us to endure the end of more than one relationship. Relationships forged over decades; personal and business relationships that survived moments of both triumph and failure. Ending something over and over again has been heart wrenching for both of us.

60 comments
hotintexas
hotintexas

Your behavior and your actions are unacceptable!!  Get off your high horse!  And please find another show to be on!

miamideb
miamideb

Don't fall into the same category as Audriana, she is a miserable person and wants everyone around her to act the same way towards people who don't like her. Leave Karent alone.. If you have issues with her deal with them one on one.  Don't judge her based on everyone else's gossip especially wanna be Audriana.. She will be the first person to talk the crap.. You are better than this. Try and extend an olive branch to Karent and see how quickly everyone will be talking about you, especially Mariysol who has no backbone to stand up for herself..

 

1056618525
1056618525

Ana, I am glad that you stood up to Thomas Kramer in a dignified manner. Although you did not receive any support from Marysol in the situation, you took the high road by leaving TK (a-hole's) house. 

caligirl9498
caligirl9498

You are such a classy lady and I applaud you for standing up to that egomaniac Thomas.  He was rude and you stood your ground for women,,,thank you!

JESSICAMILLER
JESSICAMILLER

You are the classiest.  You are the only one standing up and not being a follower.  Your a leader and that's how I would be.  Thank you for being that way!

love3sons
love3sons

Ana - you are the smartest and most decent woman on that show. I am so digusted with the glorification of that man...it makes me embarassed to be a local Miamian. Mr. Kramer is not "high society" and definitely known for his disrespectful behavior so I am so glad to see someone stand up and put him in his place on his favorite platform (TV - I think ANY TV). You are so much more elegant and level-headed than any of the other women on the show. I also completeley agree with your assessment of Marysol and her lack of coming to your defense, etc. You are also honest and no-nonsense. I am hoping you can be an example or even a tiny influence on the other ladies who clearly need some guidance!

methinks
methinks

Ana, I think you're the voice of sanity on this show. Don't let them drive you nuts. Good one on you, for not putting up with that creep's condescending attitude. It made all the other ladies look desperate, because they just took it. Women have to respect themselves, if they want anyone else to respect them. You 've earned our respect.

C_Jam526
C_Jam526

Wow, what a breath of fresh air you are! I can honestly say I have NEVER liked any of the Housewives as quickly as I do you! Thank you for allowing us to see such a hard time in your personal life. Moving on can be hard and I think you're doing great. As far as your drama with Karent, I feel like you need to squash it. The fact that her boyfriend is a grade A creep is a moot point, she seems a little bit much in social situations...but can she really be THAT bad? I love both you and Karent, and if you two got along I'd want RHOM to basically just be the two of you. Thanks so much for being the best addition to any of the Housewives franchises!

xxxemxxx
xxxemxxx

I'm happy you stood up to TK he was totally out of line. You shoul've slapped him but I know you're too much of a lady to do that but he deserved a slap. The way he treated Elsa was disgusting who does that to Elsa. All the girls should've walked out with you. At least Joanna is say something to him without going off the deep end. I don't care how much money of how famous he is I think he's an ass. Thank you for standing up for all women. Karent was to busy kissing his ass to notice that he has insulted her good friend Joanna. and everyone there. I don't understand her is she making a move on him she was like all over him. Because he's well known? has money? or what? she so dumb. In her interview she says Joanna was crying because TK made a joke. What? He insulted her and not in a nice way. Karent I guess could've thought is was funny since she was trying to inpress and kissing ass.  Anyway Thanks Again for standing up for women. I really liked that.And Elsa said it best when she said "he's a stupied man" and left the dinner Like all the girls should've. X0X0

grrandram
grrandram

Well thank god it's over. Talk about dragging something out. What was that crying in the office about? Robert is all smiles and laughing when you're blubbering like a baby.  It didn't seem heart wrenching for Robert.  So what have you learned from this?  Once you break up with someone, let them go.  Move on.  If you're "in business" together, that has to end too. You cannot end a personal relationship and expect to continue to work with them.  It's obvious you didn't want to let go and probably hoped you would somehow get him back.  Now when it really is over, you turn on the waterworks.  That's not going to make him have a change of heart and stay with you.  Did you notice he kept his distance during your performance?  You may feel that the two of you were more in love than any other couple, but you know what?  Maybe, maybe not, but either way, it's over. As an attorney, you should try to make better decisions in your personal life, because that has an effect on your professional career.  

CHITEA1
CHITEA1

I am sorry for your loss, time heals. I understand your life is miserable, that explains why you spend so much time and energy talking about others (Karent).  Yes, she is annoying!!! But at least she is not laughing at your misery neither talking trash about your  ex-husband.  Get a hobby.  Note that gossip is not a hobby and if it is to you I doubt it will help you feel better.

GREAT BRAINS TALK ABOUT IDEAS, AVERAGE BRAINS TALK ABOUT EVENTS, SHORT BRAINS TALK ABOUT PEOPLE!!!! 

Mia2012
Mia2012

Ana,

 

If you felt the need to tell Thomas off for belittling women, why didn't you do as much when your nasty little daughters ridiculed some woman for having asymetrical breasts? I think you told Thomas off because he offended your little ego. You seem to be full of a lot of crap, turning your tantrum into some act of righteousness which it was not. Please go teach your lewd daughter some manners and perhaps not to ridicule peoples deformities if you're such a champion of women.

Mia2012
Mia2012

Ana,

 

If you felt the need to tell Thomas off for belittling women, why didn't you do as much when your nasty little daughters ridiculed some woman for having asymetrical breasts? I think you told Thomas off because he offended your little go. You seem to be full of a lot of crap, turning your tantrum into some act of righteousness which it was not. Please go teach your lewd daughter some manners and perhaps not to ridicule peoples deformities if you're such a champion of women.

neworleansgirl
neworleansgirl

You are my new favorite of all the housewives.I cheered when you told that jackass that his behavior was unacceptable! You did it with more class than he deserved. Your daughters are so lucky to have such a role model. I wish Marysol would grow a pair, too. Go Ana!

Bren12
Bren12

Oh my god, I officially love you Ana!!  I think tonight how you left TKs house and stood up for women I just want to say YOU ROCK GIRL!!!

aliceandwonderland@626
aliceandwonderland@626

Ana, your ok, but I wonder why a successfull woman like you and a title of lawyer would even care so much about Karent?  Just leave her alone, some people smile alot because they are nervous or stressed as she mentioned, even if she was the pigeon carrier of some situations I don't think she means any harm by it, I think she truly believes she was doing good intentions, but clearly she needs to learn on her own and maybe now she will learn not to pigeon carry anymore cuz everyone's feathers get all ruffled up easy, geez.

BravoPrincess
BravoPrincess

Hello Ana well let  me just say that you had all my mascara running down my face ok having pms was not helping lol.Wao you go forward what else can you do but is emotional.I am going to give it to you directo! i did not like how that whole thing with Karent went i understand you are mad about certain things she has done but it was not ok to do it in that manner i Mean Alexia talking to her like she is a litte kid no respect. I think it would have been better for you to talk to her about any issue you have with her alone.Adrianna insulting and her comments not helping.I'm the type of person that if i dont like somebody i"m not going to invite them over to get them ambush not my style thats the way it came out on film.I know that you are a professional and that article could have been ofensive i get that, but how you know for sure that says those things.Maybe going after the reporter or bloger would have been better.Bueno cuidate y bendiciones.

nvs
nvs

Of all the new housewives of the year, you are my favorite! I appreciate your candor and sensitivity. You made the most sense of all the women during the "meeting of minds" at Alexias...thank you for that. Although we all obviously enjoy the drama that is the Real Housewives franchise, most of us appreciate a little sense sprinkled in there. You're the Calroline Manzo of the south (pre-angry phase). I really hope your boyfriend (if you're still together) is a great guy, because you're too good to be with some phony like Rodolfo...regardless of the washboard abs and dimples. He's a Mario Lopez wannabe...Anyway, good luck with your love life and career. There can only be good things in your future!

theyogahottie
theyogahottie

Ana I completely empathize with your pain...breaking up can be so incredibly difficult.  I don't care how long it's been since you two separated- he is the father of your children and you were married to him for two decades.  I'm praying for you and hope in time your pain will heal.

minea
minea

While Ana is not my favorite on the show, I still like her, but I think her situation is pretty pathetic. You are divorced, you have a new boyfriend and your ex has a new girlfriend, so move the heck on. He is clearly OVER you Ana...stop crying over what has been. It's in the past for a reason.

reality4real
reality4real

Ana, you are the most genuine and real out of the group...faults and all. It must've been hard letting them film such a tough moment for you, and I hope after these months that have passed you are in a much better place. As far as Karent is concerned, alot of what bothers you about her bothers me as well. She comes off as wanting to insert herself wherever there's some attention going on- especially in front of a camera and trying too hard to prove she is part some "in" crowd. And I do recall how she accused you of going after her boyfriend first, when it was the other way around. However, I think you and the other women are handling her all wrong and it's making you look bad. You're way smarter and better than that, and I'd love to see you turn the situation with Karent around, because I think you could actually bring out good things in eachother the way you do with Joanna.

loveallRHW
loveallRHW

Karent isn't perfect, are you? why are you so mean to her? if you don't want to be her friend, then don't..just stop the bullying..i really want to like you Ana..i almost cried seeing you so hurt and scared as you were leaving your office..hope you feel better, may be you'll treat people around you better

sunshine1058
sunshine1058

Ana, you are my favorite housewife. Until people like Karent actually get married for 20 yrs. and have children, plus own a business together, they can't understand your pain. But on the other hand if you have a part-time boyfriend, you now think you are Dr. Ruth.

addiemarable
addiemarable

Her ex has the right idea to get away from her because she depending on him too much. It's time to let go, he has a girlfriend, so how do you think she feels? As long as he take care of his kids, that's all that matters. Ana need to get a life and stop being a bully to Karent because she's unhappy with her life. Let that man go, he does not want you anymore!

Nebfan22
Nebfan22

Your ex is truly over you.  It was kind of embarrassing seeing you blubbering and he thought it was a joke that you were leaving the office.

lovethedrama
lovethedrama

This episode made me cry.  Not just a sniffle either.  Your pain is so visible. 

 

You should just start dating like crazy to make yourself feel better!!!   Fake it 'til you make it!

thenerve
thenerve

Ana- your Ex was/is a clown!! Doesn’t he know a divorce is like a death; thank your lucky stars he is gone. What guy acts like he does on the first few episodes. I know these shows are pre-tapped but start being nice and show your girls how it is done or otherwise they will end up being mean to total strangers on the street

mimilandia
mimilandia

I hope things have gotten easier for you. No divorce is ever easy.  It is good to hear you have great support.

Shelleycon
Shelleycon

You are the kind of friend we all want to have :) real, strong, vulnerable, self aware and honest. You'll be fine without the sidekick too, I think your time is just starting now...

MissDixie
MissDixie

I think you're lovely and good luck to you!

becourteous
becourteous

It was so funny to watch you blame Karent for all the trouble, when originally everything started with you when Rudolfo ignored you at the party.  You starting going around so hard trying to prove yourself.  

bravoluvva
bravoluvva

I wanted to throw my remote through the tv as your ex made light of your pain with that ugly smirk on his face. And to Karent's army of idiots - back off!!!! Whether you agree with her or not, she is a human being with real emotions, brave enough to share them all with YOU who not only tune in each week but took the time to read her blog. You cowards say horrible things in the safety of your homes. Your cruel words speak volumes of your character while you are attacking Ana's - who by the way didn't start this crap with Karent's - do your feeble minds forget the "older woman" comment in episode one? You all or no better than any of these women - for you to do exactly what you are critisizing her for is insane.

Maya2
Maya2

You are not in any form of competition with Karent, and yes she lacks social skills, her good for nothing bf flirted with you and she likes to stirr the pot so what smile back at that lunetic when she smiles !  she wants to be relevant and be the victim and you ladys are playing right into it !

shysharon
shysharon

you are the prettiest on the show, you have the prettiest home, prettiest kids, prettiest ex...things could be worse! Surely you resolved your stuff in the 2 years leading up to cameras being in your office that day!

Billybob
Billybob

Stop right there my "friend" in my head! You are the real, real, real housewife,and that was hard, but you are the ultimate housewife!! Congratz for your courage to let that piece be filmed!

Bravo.Bravo.Bravo
Bravo.Bravo.Bravo

Bravo on your blog Ana. Beautifully written and thought provoking. If only the other women could watch the show and recognize the places where lessons are waiting to be learned...

zaira.cedano
zaira.cedano

You've quickly become one of my favorites on the show. I love your honesty and realness. I really felt for you this episode, I know that kind of loss and it stings. Wish you all the best.

grrandram
grrandram

I agree minea. At the beginning of the season she said something like she doesn't care what people think about the way she acts with Robert. I didn't say "about their relationship", because they don't have one.  It's so clear he has moved on, but is just indulging her. It doesn't seem heart wrenching for him at all.  While she's crying like a fool, he's smiling, joking, and keeping his distance.The way they were connected they have to endure the end of more than one relationship?  They shared office space?  Wow. She probably didn't want to let him go and it's obvious. Even in the way she talks about it.  They were more in love than any other couple? I guess, so much for love.  But what kind of fool tortures themselves like that?  She should not have him around or work with him.  She must be a glutton for punishment.  Her kids are old enough to see their dad outside of her home on their own. He has the relationship with his kids, not with her anymore.  She needs to accept their break up and move on in every way.  Time will tell if it is really over. 

Seeingisbelieving
Seeingisbelieving

@minea I understand what you are saying, but i wouldnt call her situation "pathetic". She is just acting differently than you would. Doesnt mean it is wrong, just that she copes differently...as we all do. She probably cant move on until she deals with it...and she will when SHE is ready...not when you are.

ANGEL4critters
ANGEL4critters

@loveallRHW if there was a way to hit the Like button a hundred times I would! You said EXACTLY how I, & I'm sure a LOT of others feel!

Shelleycon
Shelleycon

I think we should start calling that clown Rudolf too! Lol!

ginmartini
ginmartini

 @shysharon

 So what are you saying? She's fake right? A total sham? A master pretender?

emine99
emine99

 @janetz  @loveallRHW  The guy should be the one getting the heat for the whole text situation, instead they have turned on each other. Typical stupid mistake many women make. If the guy is a dog, why are you blaming the other chick? 

Rockerman
Rockerman

Ana was so sneaky and tacky from the start. First she's being pursued, next thing you know she's all teary about her long ended marriage. That woman just doesn't know what she thinks or feels. Karent owes her nothing. I think Ana should thank Rodolfo for the use of his name and the illusion she tried to float.

zumie
zumie

 @Rockerman  @shysharon Anyone with a second grade education will know what that meant.  Sheeesh.  Reading comprehension struggles???

reality4real
reality4real

@Rockerman @emine99 - I agree with you, emine. And even if Ana were available, Rodolfo wasn't and he shouldn't have been flirting with her or texting her. Typical tool that thinks he's some kind've gift to women and loves seeing them fight over him. Btw, the drama surrounding him on this show is no doubt THE highlight of his "acting" career.

Rockerman
Rockerman

 @emine99  @janetz  @loveallRHW

 I happen to think Ana put herself out there as available. Makes her feel good and then she likes to laugh at the bloke who falls for it.

Shelleycon
Shelleycon

@zumie @Rockerman @shysharon Lol this could be a really good thread here.... What the freaking hell was that?? What was that?? Lololo