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Lea's Changing Friendships

Ana questions Lea's intentions.

Dec 14, 2012

 “It is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.” ― Abraham Maslow

Assumptions and presumptions are dangerous things.  Last week I received quite a bit of criticism for the title of my blog. I think it read: “Rodolfo is not good enough for Karent” or the other way around.  While I mentioned in my blog that “I am happy for Karent” (I would be happy for any woman that excised a malignant tumor from her life) I would not go so far as to presume what is or is not “good enough” for her.  Only she knows that and frankly it’s her issue and I really don’t care.

I have never pretended to like Karent. I’ve been cordial and on one particular occasion very helpful to her, and while I wish she had the integrity to admit it, she has not and for that reason I highly doubt that I could ever foster a real friendship with her. That being said, I take no pleasure in the heartache of others.  As you have all witnessed, I have suffered my own pain during this process and while some people have belittled and mocked it- it’s still painful and sad.

Being part of a show like this requires that we comment on each other’s lives and sometimes titles are created in an effort to lure the reader as well as summarize the general sentiment. Without such commentary there would be little interaction between us and the show would cease to exist.

So for those who went on a tirade about the title, this is just another reminder of the danger of assumptions.  There are plenty of things that I am guilty of and am happy to be lectured on or berated about; the title of last week’s blog, however, is not one of them.

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Miminola 5 pts

You seem like a good person and mother, I'm sure there are dynamics at play we as viewers won't see, but taking a swipe at someone's child is really wrong. Be Better than that, you would not want any frustration with you directed at your daughters, they would not nor did Lea's son deserve that.

alliewhoopwhoop 6 pts

I can't believe you go after Lea's child! BULLY!!!!!

ak1993 669 pts

YOU  SAYING  THAT  YOU  DO  NOT  CARE  ABOUT   KARENT'S  RELATIONSHIP  IS  YET  ANOTHER  LAYER  OF  WHO  YOU  ARE  BECAUSE  THE  WHOLE   SEASON  YOU  OBSESSED  ABOUT  PROVING  HER  RELATIONSHIP  TO  BE  FAKE .YOU  ARE  ONE  SHADY  LADY.

Maya2 3339 pts

Ana , i loved you on the show you are a breath of fresh air ! loyal and honest ! Karent said Rodolfo didn't care for "older women" trying to offend you and put you down and that poor dillusional fool was right because he left her for a much much younger woman ! You were so nice and classy you didn't even point out that you weren't the "Ana" texting her 'hot latino super star" lol she's so pathetic !        

mickeyman14 80 pts

I saw the previews for the reunion and boy was I right. You are mean and nasty and you hide it behind a facade of caring for other people such as Marysol, but the second she didn't do what you wanted (aka leave Thomas Kramer's party with you) you questioned whether you should help her, sorry Ana but a friend is a friend no matter what not only when it benefits you. And you're relentless attack on Karent and Lea is so classless that you sink to such a low level that it just makes you look bitter and jealous. And first off you make fun of Lea for her age, but aren't you 40 something too?? And had the audacity to say she makes her money on her back when she devotes her time to helping keep kids out of jail??? Maybe you should look in the mirror and decide if you like what you see cause if you do then something is seriously wrong with you.

Sneener 239 pts

I couldn't figure out why you kept going after Lea in your interviews and blogs, but didn't say a word to her to her face.  Now I see you going after her at the reunion.  Wow.  I guess it's your attempt to stay on the show since you didn't really have much of a story line.

Trixiebelle 77 pts

You are my favorite housewife and the voice of reason.  I loved how you called Thomas Kramer out for being an a** hole.  OMG what a pompous jerk!  Best of luck Ana.  I hope you and your ex are happy in your new lives.  All will be well. 

XOXO

GigiSeaStarr 59 pts

You are truly the Total Woman.  Confident, Secure and Beautiful.  However Be Careful - with the setting of the bar:  Allow yourself Ana to really let loose enjoy being the woman you have accomplished in becoming.  Focus on You having a great life .Chill Out a little on the female Gladiator... we really have come a long way,,,don't ever send us back. 

arikah 247 pts

My heart breaks for you and Robert...don't give up!  I would have never signed those papers!  My heart broke as I saw you doing that.  But even though you are divorced, it's not too late!  Life has it's way of turning things around.  You two have a "bond" and it's so evident...Stevie Wonder could see it!  You two belong together!!  I have been married for 17 years and believe me, there were many times when I wanted to give up...but we share "that bond"...not everyone has "it".  You and Robert do!  Don't give him up to some young chick who is not going to appreciate him for who he is.  Don't open your heart to a new man who you really don't know.  At our age, you don't want to put up with someone else's baggage...they all carry it...although they never say it at first.  Pray that the love between you and Robert will flourish again...it can happen!  I've experienced it!  No te des por vencida porque vale la pena pelear por él, que eventualmente es tu felicidad y la de tu familia :)

bearlovesmouse 18 pts

Ana, my heart went out to you as I watched the finale tonight. I totally understand it can't be easy going through the legal process of ending your 23-year marriage. Also with your girls growing up and thinking about moving away, that's a lot to adjust to. I think you are a very brave lady. When you said you wished Robert happiness because he deserves it, I wanted you to know that you deserve it too! Not only are you a sweetheart, you have a good head on your shoulders, you are strong, and beautiful. I can relate to you as a person and also love to cook. Although all of my siblings are attorneys like my Dad was, I chose to be a journalist. I am trying to forge some strong female friendships in my life as well to help see me through the hard times. Happy holidays to you and your girls, and best wishes for your future. Take care of you.

 

awex 66 pts

Ah, Ana, I am disappointed the end of the season is upon us this evening because I will miss your words of wisdom and recipes. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us! And thank you to your brother and his friend who wrote you for serving our country!

favalos1 14 pts

Ana, you're boring and a debbie downer - I don't know why you're one the show because your married - well you not fun to see on TV just saying

rosyposy 2658 pts

Ana, you are the most genuine one on the show.  I love that you share recipes and speak the truth.  I suspect some of the other "ladies" would not even know how to turn a stove on.  It must feel good that Karent has been exposed for her vindictive words and actions toward you.  She was trashing you before she ever met you.  She was right about one thing......her "man" prefers young women....much younger than Karent.  Karma!  Just keep on being yourself and ignore the robo haters.  One thing.....let go of the ex.   After a while you can be friends again....but he needs to stop hanging around for a while.  My best friend?.....my ex.  After all the years, we still have so many things in common.  We just cannot coexist under the same roof..

HWfan175 567 pts

love you Ana forget the haters

rhondaevigil@gmail.com 22 pts

Get a clue Ana.

You are passive aggressive! Everyone is on to you! SOME of the women are sheep and need to follow...But the true smart beauties do not give your opinion much merrit.....You are so JEALOUS of Karent it is so obvious. Rudolpho does not want you. Rudolpho proved that when he acted like he didn't know you....By the way Karent is really beautiful...But Ana you are not bad....Stop being a hater and men/people won't run from you...or...divorce you or go to restroom break when you appear... maybe? If you keep on spewing hateful comments then maybe you will understand why you look so insecure...your behavior/jealousy is unbecoming. Get it together so maybe we will want to watch your segment. When it's your turn for the camera to focus on you, I go get water or go to the restroom. This is because you are to predictable and uninteresting...Hate spewer. Come on now, think right!

shannonkgold 120 pts

Just stop talking. You are annoying because you have such a cold heart. 

Chiquistrikis81- 47 pts

I love your blog and your recipes. I see you on tv like wonderful human being.

ilovebravo2 13 pts

Que linda:  My impression of you so far is that  A) Your beautiful.  B) Your daughters are cool.  c) You are VERY, VERY smart and I appreciate watching a smart, sassy Latina on TV. 

Also, I don't know much about your dating life but I hope you find a strong, sexy and loyal man - you deserve one!

ak1993 669 pts

Diniva  put   it  togather  so  perfectly  as  to  why  is  Ana  is  so  resentful  towards  Karent.Ana  thought  that  Rodolfo  was  smitten  with  her  but  he  was  in  relationship  with  Karent  and  he  snubbed  Ana  at  an  event   and  ignored  her  when  he  was  with  Karent. From  that  event  Ana  tried  to  deny  the  fact  that  him  AND  Karent   were  a  couple  and  kept  using  air  quotes  to  mock  their  relationship.SOUR  GRAPES? .That  explains  every  thing  as  to    why  ANA  behaved   the  way  she  did  towards  Karent   the  whole  season. PATHETIC.

ak1993 669 pts

Ana  is  a  wolf  in  sheep's  clothing.

Vigdis 994 pts

 ak1993 And you know this how?  Are you an expert of wolfs or sheep's?

Eca 1484 pts

 ak1993 Wolf- hm no, wimp - yes.

alison954 62 pts

Ana you are obviously a very intelligent woman and I think other [intelligent] women recognize this quality.  Your realness is appreciated and although I am sick of hearing about Karent.  I liked her at first but now her smile is like staring at the sun.  I do agree that you are too smart for this show!

ak1993 669 pts

Jealousy  is  an  ugly  thing, so  are  you.

MarcieMRochyNY 23 pts

I think you are a wonderful new addition to this show. (The two who left??? NOW they were "mean girls".) I am saddened that others find your demeanor, wit, heart and common sense to be so irritating. You aren't an attorney because you look pretty. I can empathize in regard to your marriage breaking up. It's hard to leave when there IS some love and friendship within the relationship. Sometimes a good thing can sour---it doesn't mean it went completely bad. Keeping an amicable relationship for your daughters is a good thing; for Robert and you too. Plain and simple...I like you. You have yet to exhibit any behavior which could make me dislike you. Unlike Joanna and Karent.

rhondaevigil@gmail.com 22 pts

 MarcieMRochyNY

 Ana is an attorney because she went to law school....Not all attorneys are pretty or smart....

Call_It_Out 821 pts

Ana forget the stupids. I like you

still think you're too smart for this show

Tania1234 265 pts

I won't even bother reading your whole post this time, because what you write and how you behave are two different things. I WANT to like you-in theory, you appear to be a good person-but I can't ignore that you throw a lot of meaness around -all the little one liners under your breath. You are actually a mean girl, I'm starting to believe. A smart girl -but a mean girl. You need to take the excellent quotes you so love to use as a measure of what everyone else is doing wrong-and turn around and use them on yourself. You've got work to do -if you actually want to be as good a person as you think you already are. Hanging with the mean girls probably isn't helping. Remember this famous quote, "You are who you're seen with." 

 

gabbyval 164 pts

I really wanted to like you, truely. But bottom line is you are insecure, judgemental, jealous and a trouble maker who wants to see others not succeed.  You need to do some soul searching or at the very least , understand how you are coming across to the viewers.  Changes need to be made and some maturity at your age.

dallas_girl214 11 pts

 gabbyval you're ridiculous. You should watch the episodes again. There is not one insecure bone on her.

 
rhondaevigil@gmail.com 22 pts

 dallas_girl214  gabbyval

 Hey do you need some ocean front property in...the sahara? Just joking...You seem to like that kind of humor!

Sabisf 616 pts

I think Karent needs to apologize to you for claiming to have seen texts from you to Rodolfo when they were actually from the other Ana.

Rockerman 3447 pts

 Sabisf

 Ana needs to apologize for showin everyone the texts first off! She was gloatin!

@seasonedviewer7 3513 pts

Angry over your divorce is an understatement.  Bitterness oozes through you. Quite frankly you knew it was coming for a couple of years now.  I am not saying it doesn't take the sting out of it but you have had time to process it. 

Lea has a very biting tongue.  She probably thinks she comes off jokingly. Unless you really know her; Lea's comments can hurt.  She just doesn't fit in with you all. 

Marysol  has issues.  I am very sure that there is some truth in what she has said but also in what Lea has said.  I think both feel strongly either way and it is clear the ladies are diviided.  Marysol seems like she needs to get emotions in check.

You are not kind by no means.  You are so caught up in you that you forget to see that others have issues and hurts as well.

TSan 798 pts

I saw through you from the very beginning, glad others are starting to finally see your true colors. Lea is neutral and therefore doesn't have a desire to side with either clique. Are you in high school?

Vigdis 994 pts

I´m looking for your email address, I saw somebody. If it´s available, please let me no.

One thing is clear, I´m not a stalker.  

Diniva 439 pts

You really need to loosen up and not take everything so seriously, Ana.  Life is not about how smart you are, it's about how you use it.  Knowledge is impressive to a point, but wisdom is much more valuable and to strive for.  Here's a quote to consider:

 "Knowledge is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad."

 Ponder that thought, hopefully you will learn from it...

Just because it's a fact that something is a certain way, doesn't mean it applies to every situation.  Not everything is black and white.  Having the wisdom to discern when that is so is priceless, and would make life for you and with you so much easier.

mrsdonut 2152 pts

 Diniva

 "Knowledge is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad." I love it!

 

I'm gonna have to remember that one!! ;-)

Caligirldream 244 pts

Why be two faced and follow those mean girls. You seem better than that.

MYA1212 12 pts

I honestly think you have a good heart but my issue is if you didnt care why do you keep bringing her up. You are so quick to judge Karent when you have a ex husband you cant get over you have a man in your life but are still legally married. So if Karent is dumb for being with Rodolfo what does that make you hun. This whole season you have made it about Karent and what she does and say get over it.We have all witness you talking about her back every episode but let me ask you this has she done it to you.

ak1993 669 pts

Your  hypocritical  blogs  and  your  passive agressive  behaviour  on  the  show  is  not  fooling  the  viewers. I  do not        understand  why  you  and  Alexia  are  so  obsessed  with  Rodolfo?You  two  seem  to  be  properiety  about  him  and  think  he  BELONGS  to  you.I  don't  see  any  other  reason  as  to  why  you  two  always  trying  to  prove his  and  Karent 's  relationship  is  fake.Ok  it  is  fake, so  what?????????????????.BTW  you,Alexia  and  Marysol  are  the  ones  who look  like  their  biological  clock  has run  out.LOL.

Kim-in-PB 168 pts

 sisi1

 And if you believe that, sisi1, I have some earth to sell you in the Florida Everglades!

miamihousewivesfan 177 pts

Anna, I love that you are the voice of reason on this show!

I really like how smart you are and come across as the most sincere. 

You are by far the best new addition to the cast this season. 

I think you are spot on about Lea. 

neworleansgirl 223 pts

Love you, Ana! You're loyal, intelligent and have Lea's number. You were not a mean girl and were not enjoying Karent's pain-unlike some of your cast mates. I don't think I'd watch if you left.  You add depth to a pretty superficial, self-absorbed group. How many times can we watch these women getting drunk and acting like idiots before it gets old?

Kim-in-PB 168 pts

 neworleansgirl

 Au contraire neworleansgirl. Ana is the meanest of the mean - she just hides her darkness better than the others.

FlutterBy 1173 pts

Whats with all the philosophical quotes?? Every blog......here's mine..."divorce a man who wants his freedom, or you will never be free" ...lol....so deep...

Rockerman 3447 pts

 FlutterBy

 Adios, Senorita Ana.  Miss Ana! The bloke must've been countin the seconds!

wivdiamonds 738 pts

 Rockerman  FlutterBy

 Ciao Ana. : )