“It is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.” ― Abraham Maslow
Assumptions and presumptions are dangerous things. Last week I received quite a bit of criticism for the title of my blog. I think it read: “Rodolfo is not good enough for Karent” or the other way around. While I mentioned in my blog that “I am happy for Karent” (I would be happy for any woman that excised a malignant tumor from her life) I would not go so far as to presume what is or is not “good enough” for her. Only she knows that and frankly it’s her issue and I really don’t care.
I have never pretended to like Karent. I’ve been cordial and on one particular occasion very helpful to her, and while I wish she had the integrity to admit it, she has not and for that reason I highly doubt that I could ever foster a real friendship with her. That being said, I take no pleasure in the heartache of others. As you have all witnessed, I have suffered my own pain during this process and while some people have belittled and mocked it- it’s still painful and sad.
Being part of a show like this requires that we comment on each other’s lives and sometimes titles are created in an effort to lure the reader as well as summarize the general sentiment. Without such commentary there would be little interaction between us and the show would cease to exist.
So for those who went on a tirade about the title, this is just another reminder of the danger of assumptions. There are plenty of things that I am guilty of and am happy to be lectured on or berated about; the title of last week’s blog, however, is not one of them.
You seem like a good person and mother, I'm sure there are dynamics at play we as viewers won't see, but taking a swipe at someone's child is really wrong. Be Better than that, you would not want any frustration with you directed at your daughters, they would not nor did Lea's son deserve that.
Ana , i loved you on the show you are a breath of fresh air ! loyal and honest ! Karent said Rodolfo didn't care for "older women" trying to offend you and put you down and that poor dillusional fool was right because he left her for a much much younger woman ! You were so nice and classy you didn't even point out that you weren't the "Ana" texting her 'hot latino super star" lol she's so pathetic !
I saw the previews for the reunion and boy was I right. You are mean and nasty and you hide it behind a facade of caring for other people such as Marysol, but the second she didn't do what you wanted (aka leave Thomas Kramer's party with you) you questioned whether you should help her, sorry Ana but a friend is a friend no matter what not only when it benefits you. And you're relentless attack on Karent and Lea is so classless that you sink to such a low level that it just makes you look bitter and jealous. And first off you make fun of Lea for her age, but aren't you 40 something too?? And had the audacity to say she makes her money on her back when she devotes her time to helping keep kids out of jail??? Maybe you should look in the mirror and decide if you like what you see cause if you do then something is seriously wrong with you.
I couldn't figure out why you kept going after Lea in your interviews and blogs, but didn't say a word to her to her face. Now I see you going after her at the reunion. Wow. I guess it's your attempt to stay on the show since you didn't really have much of a story line.
You are my favorite housewife and the voice of reason. I loved how you called Thomas Kramer out for being an a** hole. OMG what a pompous jerk! Best of luck Ana. I hope you and your ex are happy in your new lives. All will be well.
You are truly the Total Woman. Confident, Secure and Beautiful. However Be Careful - with the setting of the bar: Allow yourself Ana to really let loose enjoy being the woman you have accomplished in becoming. Focus on You having a great life .Chill Out a little on the female Gladiator... we really have come a long way,,,don't ever send us back.
My heart breaks for you and Robert...don't give up! I would have never signed those papers! My heart broke as I saw you doing that. But even though you are divorced, it's not too late! Life has it's way of turning things around. You two have a "bond" and it's so evident...Stevie Wonder could see it! You two belong together!! I have been married for 17 years and believe me, there were many times when I wanted to give up...but we share "that bond"...not everyone has "it". You and Robert do! Don't give him up to some young chick who is not going to appreciate him for who he is. Don't open your heart to a new man who you really don't know. At our age, you don't want to put up with someone else's baggage...they all carry it...although they never say it at first. Pray that the love between you and Robert will flourish again...it can happen! I've experienced it! No te des por vencida porque vale la pena pelear por él, que eventualmente es tu felicidad y la de tu familia :)
Ana, my heart went out to you as I watched the finale tonight. I totally understand it can't be easy going through the legal process of ending your 23-year marriage. Also with your girls growing up and thinking about moving away, that's a lot to adjust to. I think you are a very brave lady. When you said you wished Robert happiness because he deserves it, I wanted you to know that you deserve it too! Not only are you a sweetheart, you have a good head on your shoulders, you are strong, and beautiful. I can relate to you as a person and also love to cook. Although all of my siblings are attorneys like my Dad was, I chose to be a journalist. I am trying to forge some strong female friendships in my life as well to help see me through the hard times. Happy holidays to you and your girls, and best wishes for your future. Take care of you.
Ah, Ana, I am disappointed the end of the season is upon us this evening because I will miss your words of wisdom and recipes. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us! And thank you to your brother and his friend who wrote you for serving our country!
Ana, you're boring and a debbie downer - I don't know why you're one the show because your married - well you not fun to see on TV just saying
Ana, you are the most genuine one on the show. I love that you share recipes and speak the truth. I suspect some of the other "ladies" would not even know how to turn a stove on. It must feel good that Karent has been exposed for her vindictive words and actions toward you. She was trashing you before she ever met you. She was right about one thing......her "man" prefers young women....much younger than Karent. Karma! Just keep on being yourself and ignore the robo haters. One thing.....let go of the ex. After a while you can be friends again....but he needs to stop hanging around for a while. My best friend?.....my ex. After all the years, we still have so many things in common. We just cannot coexist under the same roof..
Get a clue Ana.
You are passive aggressive! Everyone is on to you! SOME of the women are sheep and need to follow...But the true smart beauties do not give your opinion much merrit.....You are so JEALOUS of Karent it is so obvious. Rudolpho does not want you. Rudolpho proved that when he acted like he didn't know you....By the way Karent is really beautiful...But Ana you are not bad....Stop being a hater and men/people won't run from you...or...divorce you or go to restroom break when you appear... maybe? If you keep on spewing hateful comments then maybe you will understand why you look so insecure...your behavior/jealousy is unbecoming. Get it together so maybe we will want to watch your segment. When it's your turn for the camera to focus on you, I go get water or go to the restroom. This is because you are to predictable and uninteresting...Hate spewer. Come on now, think right!
Que linda: My impression of you so far is that A) Your beautiful. B) Your daughters are cool. c) You are VERY, VERY smart and I appreciate watching a smart, sassy Latina on TV.
Also, I don't know much about your dating life but I hope you find a strong, sexy and loyal man - you deserve one!
Ana you are obviously a very intelligent woman and I think other [intelligent] women recognize this quality. Your realness is appreciated and although I am sick of hearing about Karent. I liked her at first but now her smile is like staring at the sun. I do agree that you are too smart for this show!
I think you are a wonderful new addition to this show. (The two who left??? NOW they were "mean girls".) I am saddened that others find your demeanor, wit, heart and common sense to be so irritating. You aren't an attorney because you look pretty. I can empathize in regard to your marriage breaking up. It's hard to leave when there IS some love and friendship within the relationship. Sometimes a good thing can sour---it doesn't mean it went completely bad. Keeping an amicable relationship for your daughters is a good thing; for Robert and you too. Plain and simple...I like you. You have yet to exhibit any behavior which could make me dislike you. Unlike Joanna and Karent.
Ana is an attorney because she went to law school....Not all attorneys are pretty or smart....
I won't even bother reading your whole post this time, because what you write and how you behave are two different things. I WANT to like you-in theory, you appear to be a good person-but I can't ignore that you throw a lot of meaness around -all the little one liners under your breath. You are actually a mean girl, I'm starting to believe. A smart girl -but a mean girl. You need to take the excellent quotes you so love to use as a measure of what everyone else is doing wrong-and turn around and use them on yourself. You've got work to do -if you actually want to be as good a person as you think you already are. Hanging with the mean girls probably isn't helping. Remember this famous quote, "You are who you're seen with."
I really wanted to like you, truely. But bottom line is you are insecure, judgemental, jealous and a trouble maker who wants to see others not succeed. You need to do some soul searching or at the very least , understand how you are coming across to the viewers. Changes need to be made and some maturity at your age.
gabbyval you're ridiculous. You should watch the episodes again. There is not one insecure bone on her.
Hey do you need some ocean front property in...the sahara? Just joking...You seem to like that kind of humor!
I think Karent needs to apologize to you for claiming to have seen texts from you to Rodolfo when they were actually from the other Ana.
Angry over your divorce is an understatement. Bitterness oozes through you. Quite frankly you knew it was coming for a couple of years now. I am not saying it doesn't take the sting out of it but you have had time to process it.
Lea has a very biting tongue. She probably thinks she comes off jokingly. Unless you really know her; Lea's comments can hurt. She just doesn't fit in with you all.
Marysol has issues. I am very sure that there is some truth in what she has said but also in what Lea has said. I think both feel strongly either way and it is clear the ladies are diviided. Marysol seems like she needs to get emotions in check.
You are not kind by no means. You are so caught up in you that you forget to see that others have issues and hurts as well.
I saw through you from the very beginning, glad others are starting to finally see your true colors. Lea is neutral and therefore doesn't have a desire to side with either clique. Are you in high school?
I´m looking for your email address, I saw somebody. If it´s available, please let me no.
One thing is clear, I´m not a stalker.
You really need to loosen up and not take everything so seriously, Ana. Life is not about how smart you are, it's about how you use it. Knowledge is impressive to a point, but wisdom is much more valuable and to strive for. Here's a quote to consider:
"Knowledge is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad."
Ponder that thought, hopefully you will learn from it...
Just because it's a fact that something is a certain way, doesn't mean it applies to every situation. Not everything is black and white. Having the wisdom to discern when that is so is priceless, and would make life for you and with you so much easier.
"Knowledge is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad." I love it!
I'm gonna have to remember that one!! ;-)
I honestly think you have a good heart but my issue is if you didnt care why do you keep bringing her up. You are so quick to judge Karent when you have a ex husband you cant get over you have a man in your life but are still legally married. So if Karent is dumb for being with Rodolfo what does that make you hun. This whole season you have made it about Karent and what she does and say get over it.We have all witness you talking about her back every episode but let me ask you this has she done it to you.
And if you believe that, sisi1, I have some earth to sell you in the Florida Everglades!
Anna, I love that you are the voice of reason on this show!
I really like how smart you are and come across as the most sincere.
You are by far the best new addition to the cast this season.
I think you are spot on about Lea.
Love you, Ana! You're loyal, intelligent and have Lea's number. You were not a mean girl and were not enjoying Karent's pain-unlike some of your cast mates. I don't think I'd watch if you left. You add depth to a pretty superficial, self-absorbed group. How many times can we watch these women getting drunk and acting like idiots before it gets old?
Au contraire neworleansgirl. Ana is the meanest of the mean - she just hides her darkness better than the others.
Whats with all the philosophical quotes?? Every blog......here's mine..."divorce a man who wants his freedom, or you will never be free" ...lol....so deep...
Take Alexia and Adriana with you. Don't trip on the piles of ---- you surround yourself with!
@FlutterBy - LOL! That's pretty funny! I actually like Ana's quote this week and some others, but see how they can get annoying- Like Lea's (hypocritical) questions- Ugh!!!
Ana, please don't let me down, you thus far are the voice of reason. I meant to write on your blog about that "D" (ick) real estate mogul (forgot his name THANK GOD and I hope he reads this), because at his house at that dinner party he was a total DOOSH (I know it's mis-spelled, Bravo won't post anything with words they deem vulgar). His behavior is horrid and the words that come out of his mouth are extremely disrespectful...BRAVO for leaving his dinner, there's a special place in Hell for people of his kind. Back to Bimini and choices, I don't care for Karent either, but she is really a harm only to herself so it's ok to be coidial with her. Marysol does NOT need to grow a pair, what she needs are more friends like you. Weak people (or those who appear to be weak because they are too nice (i.e. Marysol) will always attract a shark (like Lea)....Lea is a shark ready to feed on the weak and vunerable. All Marysol has to do is drop Lea as a friend and keep you! You guys are great and I hope that future editing on shows does not wind up disappointing, because Bravo has done that before with other housewife personalitites leaving me let down.....stay this way Anna (and Marysol), stay this way please.
I don't understand why you felt the need to jump in and defend Marysol AGAIN when she was arguing (or whatever) with Lea. Marysol is a big girl and you really had no right sticking your nose in there. I originally liked you, not so much anymore.