Cast Blog: #RHOM

Adriana's Flirting Has Gone Too Far

Joanna thinks Adriana disrespected her fiancé by flirting with Romain.

I feel like my life is falling apart at this moment -- my fiancé won't have sex with me, or marry me, and my sister wants to move out. The perfect world I live in seems to be crumbling down faster than the speed of light.

I won't say I am surprised that Marta wants to move out, as she and Romain have been going at it for a while, and unless they figure things out on their own, I don't think I can be of any help.  I see both sides and am sick of being stuck in the middle:  one is my blood and the other is my future. I won't lie that it breaks my heart and makes me want to disappear somewhere far away and not have to deal with it sometimes.

This is supposed to be a wonderful time for all of us to appreciate each other and thank God for what we have, and instead it’s high tension everywhere. Between Romain’s citizenship and his 10-year anniversary at Mynt, I feel like the pressure he is going through is taking a huge toll on our relationship. Now, I think Marta sees that, and it makes her resent him even more, but I’m hoping it will all get better. I guess Romain just wants Marta to be more helpful around the house, and I guess Marta just wants more brotherly love from him, like it used to be. Oh well, it is what it is at this point, and I’m not gonna put too much thought into it, and I’ll hope it works itself out…

This week was super important for Romain, since he was celebrating two things: his new American citizenship and 10-Year Anniversary at Mynt.  What attracts me to Romain is that we have a similar story: we both emigrated  to America with nothing, and worked from the bottom up without giving up for a second, even though there were many times when it would have been easier to just give up than to keep fighting, but we never ever gave up and still don't. I respect him so much more that he built everything on his own instead of being born into a rich family where he would take life for granted. Instead, he treats everyone equally, no matter the size of their wallet. I believe when you work hard for something, that’s when you appreciate it more. Romain and I both have big hearts, and we always make sure to give back, because that’s what makes us happy (especially if it’s for animals or those in need). That is our motto in life: to help as much as we can, because we can't take the money, the cars, or the houses with us when we die; we were put on this earth to help others and not be selfish. That’s what makes me and Romain bond the most. (And the fact that we are living proof the American dream. Don’t ever give up, because it can happen and I still didn't give up, as I have a lot more to accomplish in my life!)

I am also proud to be Polish and also proud to be living in such an amazing country as America, which gives you the opportunities like nowhere else. I thank God every day for being able to live here and to have the career that I love.

When I look back at the night of the Mynt’s 10-year anniversary, I am definitely not happy about the way I acted -- especially letting the alcohol take over, instead of controlling myself. I was hurt by my sister when she said I never defend her to Romain, and that made me extra sensitive that evening, especially after drinking a lot of alcohol at Lisa’s beforehand... I guess I wanted to show Marta that I do love her more than anything, and that she is so important to me, and that I will do whatever it takes to defend her. However, I went a little overboard, and had a major meltdown and tantrum attack, haha!

Now I think it’s funny, but the next morning I just wanted to hide, and prayed it was just a nightmare that I would awake from. Unfortunately that wasn't the case! I was truly upset that Romain didn't have my sister’s back, and invited the DJ-ex to work at Mynt the night he knew we were there to celebrate. I was thinking he might take a night off to avoid any drama. Too many drinks + sisterly love = trouble in paradise!

I feel really bad for the DJ, because there was no reason for me to get that out of hand, but I guess that night I let out how hurt I felt after what he did. But as many times as I said I hate him that night, I want make it clear that I don't hate him. Life goes on, and people breakup all the time. I can't hate everyone that breaks my sister’s heart, because it’s a part of life, and a cycle we all go through (or have been through), and I was just trying to protect my sister.

It’s obvious that Adriana had no idea what the whole meltdown was about, otherwise she wouldn’t make her nasty comment to Romain, suggesting that he reconsider blondes (“they might wake up pretty, but sure are ugly at night”).  Well unfortunately this specific brunette is just plain ugly day or night, and I am not talking about her outward appearance. I feel bad for her fiancé, because why is she flirting with mine? No wonder she doesn't wear her engagement ring: maybe he didn't feel she is worthy and never bought her one? She has the nerve to make a comment about me, when here she is, full-on flirting with my man when her fiancé is at home??? She wasn't even wasted, so if I had to choose, I’d rather have a meltdown because I had too much to drink (while protecting my sister) than be sober and hit on other men and disrespect my fiancé because I am just so desperate for attention. Hopefully her man wakes up one day and realizes that she is just a big flirt. He should have more respect for himself.
The night before the whole drama unfolded with me and Romain and Marta, I realized that not everyone is speaking the truth, and that there are some snakes in this group… But I am hoping everyone will get to see their true colors. Otherwise, I will make sure to expose them.

God Bless,

Joanna

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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

Please comment below, it would mean a lot to me to hear your final thoughts.



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