Cast Blog: #RHOM

RHOM Meets Mean Girls

A Therapeutic Season for Alexia

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea's Double Standards

Hoping to Move Forward with Lea

An X-Rated Reunion

Lisa's Vegas Regret

Joanna's Perfect Day

Lea and the Beefy Bus Boy Duo

Lea's Lip Service

Lisa's "Peacemaker" Problems

Alexia's Not Sweating the Small Stuff

Real Friends Don't Hold Grudges

A Fun Party, Minus the Distractions

Apologizing to Lea

Alexia's Anniversary Celebration

Lisa Loves Texas

Meet Joanna's New Puppy!

Lea's Walk Down Memory Lane

Adriana's Wedding Full of Waiting

Adriana's Two Loves

May Adriana Live Happily Ever After

Romain's Troubled Past

Alexia's Birthday Drama

Meet Dr. Sex Therapist Lisa

The Wedding Evite Explained

Targeted by the Hate Club

Lisa's Button-Pushing Behavior

Peter's Healing Process

Lenny's Lipo

Lea's Over the Haters

Adriana's Difficult Past

Joanna Talks Role Playing

Update on Elsa

Recovering Frankie and Peter

Lisa's Bridesmaid Ultimatum

Joanna's Outright Insult

The Birkin Bag Bonanza

Adriana's Glamorous 'Great Gatsby' Wedding

Lisa's In-Law Issues

Shocked by Lea's Secrets

RHOM Meets Mean Girls

Joanna couldn't believe how some of the ladies were treating Karent.

I can't get over the fact that Adriana said that Miami is “full of wannabes” and that Karent “wants the limelight so bad.” Hello, Adriana, you are on a reality show -- don’t tell me that you don't want the limelight so badly. The last I checked, we are all on a reality show, so doesn't that make you a bit of a hypocrite? We are all on a reality show for a reason, and we use it as a platform for whatever business ventures we have. For her to say these things about Karent is laughable when Adriana is the one that seems to be so desperate to be seen and stand out of our group of women, especially after her big complaint over who tweeted the photos of the artist first. It all seems very immature to me. This episode reminds me of the movie Mean Girls. Some of these women need to be less bitter and focus on their own lives! The energy they spend on worrying about why Karent has a publicist could be used for a better cause. I am so happy I didn’t go to this party filled with classless bullies that are just trying to make themselves visible and important. (I am not speaking about all the ladies; Ana and Lea seemed to want to stay out of it.)

Alexia should worry less about Karent having a publicist, but more about her own life and her own family. I have to say that Karent is full of class to go back and say good-bye to the women after that unnecessary drama.

Rumors are a natural thing in Miami. The more successful you are, the more people talk, and I never believe that nonsense. But after that call I got about Romain being too close with one of the dancers at Mynt, it made me start thinking, especially since he had been distant lately and something was telling me to check his laptop, since it was right there in front of me… Once I found the emails with Romain and this girl flirting, telling her he wants to take her away for a few days to a secluded island, I will admit that for a second I wish I never went on his laptop and found them. I became numb and my heart was breaking. I never in over five years even thought Romain would be capable of flirting, let alone cheating with another woman. But the emails were written proof that it was in his thoughts, and it now made perfect sense why he had been a bit cold and distant towards me. At that moment, I would normally call Romain and rip him a new one, but I wanted to think this through, and that is why I decided to meet with Ana and get her opinion, since she had been married for many years and I wanted to get advice from her. I’m glad Ana and I had our conversation, as she opened my eyes that texts and emails are one thing, but actually going out and cheating is another story.
Before I cooked him dinner, I also called the girl and confronted her. She told me they never slept together, but in the back of my mind I didn’t know if I believed her, since I am sure she was planning this all along. I never trusted her, and Marta told me numerous times to keep an eye on her. I didn't think of her as a threat, so obviously this shows that Marta was right and I should have listened to my sister. I had a feeling she was a trouble-maker, and I’m sure that for the five years that she was working at Mynt she took advantage of their friendship and Romain’s being nice to her, trying to manipulate and flirt with him. Since I am sure he told her our relationship was on the rocks, she found the perfect time to try to step in and make him feel wanted. (I am sure he told her that he doesn't feel wanted by me and she dove right in just like a typical girl that has no shame). But no matter what, this is something that will always be in the back of my mind, because if he wasn't happy and wanted to leave me, he should have broken it off with me or told me that he needed a break. Even if nothing happened, what if I didn't find the emails and it happened eventually? But I do believe the truth will come out one way or another.

During our dinner, the points Romain offered made a lot of sense. The fact he told me he wanted to leave me and tried to forget me really hurt, because no matter what obstacles I had to overcome over the last year, I never once looked at another man or even thought of going away with someone, even though I wasn't happy and had the same thoughts of leaving him. My love for him was too strong for me to let go. I understand he felt that I abandoned him last year, since I hardly ever came to Miami. I was too focused on my career, especially since a big project I had waited two years for had fallen through. It devastated me, and my relationship with Romain wasn't my priority. I will admit that I was being selfish, but at the same time I was very down and hard on myself, and I should have just let Romain be the shoulder I cried on. But instead I shut him out and pushed him away. Romain also could have made the effort and came to LA more often knowing that I was going through a tough time in my career/life. He could have understood that I was not being myself and just needed him to be there and emotionally support me through this tough time instead of looking at cowardly ways to get out of the relationship and leave me. I believe if you love someone, you do everything in your power to fight for the other person and not let them go.

However, no matter what I did, there is no excuse that would make the flirtatious emails OK. If I forgive and forget, will I trust him that this won't happen again in the future whenever we are in a fight? I won't make excuses for myself, and I definitely don't blame myself, because it takes two people to make a relationship successful or fall apart. But I am also not the easiest person to deal with, especially if I have issues that I am dealing with in my life. I close down and don't want to be around anyone. I am glad that I cooked Romain a nice dinner to bring this up to him and found another approach to deal with this, rather than calling him and yelling at him and moving out, like I would normally do in this kind of situation.

Time will tell and hopefully will heal the pain.

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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