Romain also could have made the effort and came to LA more often knowing that I was going through a tough time in my career/life. He could have understood that I was not being myself and just needed him to be there and emotionally support me through this tough time instead of looking at cowardly ways to get out of the relationship and leave me. I believe if you love someone, you do everything in your power to fight for the other person and not let them go.
However, no matter what I did, there is no excuse that would make the flirtatious emails OK. If I forgive and forget, will I trust him that this won't happen again in the future whenever we are in a fight? I won't make excuses for myself, and I definitely don't blame myself, because it takes two people to make a relationship successful or fall apart. But I am also not the easiest person to deal with, especially if I have issues that I am dealing with in my life. I close down and don't want to be around anyone. I am glad that I cooked Romain a nice dinner to bring this up to him and found another approach to deal with this, rather than calling him and yelling at him and moving out, like I would normally do in this kind of situation.
Time will tell and hopefully will heal the pain.
Furious!! So NOW you're the "WHITE GIRL"??? Did anyone else catch Marisol say that to the one that hit Joanna?? She spoke in Spanish, of course but she referred to her as the white girl!
I felt horribly for Karent, being ganged up against like that at a PARTY!! Truly tacky Mean Girl behavior on the part of Adriana and Alexia.
First- I don't condone cheating from anyone- either say you want out and then pursue others or have respect for the person you are with and work out the issues which are keeping you apart.
Second- It does seem that a lot of your problems with Romain could be avoided by you growing up and acting like a woman instead of a spoiled child. That is to say you need to recognize what your relationship needs and stop putting your sister and work first- especially if that is what you want in return. Your blog is so full of hypocritical stuff- it isn't even funny. You are mad that R didn't make more of an effort to maintain a long distance relationship and then say you don't like to be close to someone and are hard to deal with? What? Why would he take you seriously? You don't even know who you are- how is he supposed to?
Joanna like Ana said if it hasn't gone further than texts and emails try to work it out. I'm 47 and consider myself to be still attractive so I decided to try and find someone online. It is like a feeding frenzy of really ugly sharks!!!! Young and old the lewd remarks are horrible!!!! The only gentlemen are very unattractive and sooooo old!!! I fear I will alone the rest of my days. Work it out with him girl. He just needs your attention :)
Omg....are you serious....emails flirting,......form if cheating......are you so desperate that you can not find a GOOD MAN! Silly girl, emails are only the beginning, he will hide better next time
Joanna, Honestly I feel for you girl. I've been in a similar situation. I know it's impossible for outsiders to judge - or rather, it's EASY for others to judge, but only you understand your situation in its entirety. I hope that you guys can work things out. Unfortunately, life isn't simple and it's tough when you're both juggling careers and are swept up in a crazy hectic pace of life. One thing for sure is that nothing is black and white. Listen to your heart, but also use your head. Trust your gut here, and somehow try and ignore the pain of your heart to figure out what can ultimately make you happy in the longer term. Either way, you will find the strength to figure it out. But realizing the need to take time for each other is critical, and I'm glad you spoke with Ana about it and that you're trying to make that time for each other. I'm an artist, living an ocean apart from a guy consumed by his career and honestly - our connection is amazing - but time and distance and all that energy you put into your career and not into each other, can kill even the greatest love. I wish you the best - hopefully together, but even if not - I applaud you for being true to yourself. Disregard our comments, listen to yourself.
Where is your self esteem? you should never take any ownership in a man failing to treat you well and stay true to you. You need to be true to yourself and stop taking blame for his poor actions and decisions. I hope you truly think about this and look deeply at what is lacking in your life. I wish you well!
I think you are stunningly beautiful Joanna and I love your relationship with Marta and the girls. There is one thing I am curious about...can you ever REALLY trust Romain again? If you hadn't found the e-mails, would he have told you about the "almost" affair? Be careful darling girl...wolves are all around you!
Wow how SAD!! He blames you for him straying and YOU not only Believed it BUT ACCEPTED it as a Valid explanation. You are HOPELESS. Now I THINK EVEN if you actually saw him with your OWN eyes kissing another girl ,as long as he "explained" himself and found some way to Blame you for it, YOU would still refuse to Admit that HE is a CHEATER. I didn't think of you as a dumb girl but now I'm having my doubts. The girl "worked" with him for FIVE years & he was talking about taking her away on trip & YOU still don't think they slept together!!! REALLY!! Come On. And let's just PRETEND that they didn't isn't what he did bad enough??? He was literally starting & discussing a NEW relationship with another woman...THAT IS WORST!!
I just don't understand why a Woman would choose to stay with a Cheater! And this why men do that stuff cause there are Women out there who will put up with it and make excuses for it.
So what if he is good looking and has money. YOU have a Successful career and YOU are attractive YOU do NOT need him. You can find another man who actually respects you and treats you like a partner NOT just dumb arm candy.
Good Luck to You!
From a guy's perspective - most guys know within a year if they want to marry you. They might get ingaged to keep you happy, but put it off for a reason. You see it all the time - living together for how long - they break up - and the guy marries someone after knowing her for a year or less. Be wary - he knows that while you are on that show and together, he gets to be seen also - and he gets to keep his business in the spotlight - would be a bad move for him to break up with you now. Attractive couple - not soul mates - sorry.
You come off as a pot stirring trouble maker! Your story line is boring for sure! Is it about you or your sister?! BORING! I don't like that you have tried to create drama & be involved in the drama Adriana is a flirt! She is engaged, she was just being friendly & silly w/Romain! I hope you aren't on next year. I had never heard of you before except w/Dancing w/the stars so you must not be as important as you think you are!
EjadeS You are so mean!!! I bet you are jealous of her beauty!! If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!!!!!
wendy.g.crowe EjadeS ouch, no kidding!! she doesnt come off as a troublemaker, she comes across like a good friend and does what a NORMAL girl would do in REAL life; go and tell their girlfriend if someone is talking crap about them, not like these other women who just keep the catty gossip flowing. i think she is refreshingly down to earth, for what a stunning beauty she is. she has morals and convictions and she stands by them. but thats just me, im liberated enough to acknowledge another woman's beauty and not be threatened by it OR turn green with envy. joanna's awesome
Good of you to give Karent the heads up on the gang that were waiting to confront Karent in public? Adriana turns my stomach! Joanna your hot and sweet!
I think any girl that has been cheated on can completely relate to what you felt like when you saw those emails. You handled it much more rationally than I did when I found out. I stayed with the guy for almost a year after, but it turned out to be irreparable damage.
Joanna-I record RHOM so I'm late to the party. Here goes girl.....Wake up. He got caught. He's a cheater. He will say anything to worm his way out of a big fat lie. 5 YEARS?? Really?? You are so beautiful and seem to be a really good person. Suck it up and kick him to the curb. It will be painful but not near as painful 10 years from now when you have a couple of kids and he pulls this crap. AGAIN.
It seemed like Romain was turning the tables. He got caught but blamed you because you hadn't done this, or only done this once or twice. I am not sure why you stay with him because as an outsider looking in, it seems you are more of arm candy than someone he wants to spend a lifetime with. Five years and no wedding date in site, you might have to realize there isn't going to be one. Move on and find someone else you dont worry about cheating.
Karent seems nice enough but she also seems to need be in the middle of everything and all the attention dote upon her.
Glad to see you are able to keep it all together in spite of the chaos that permeates all of the housewives’ outings. Romain was direct and honest. ~ That’s good!! You use your head in addition to your model looks, that’s why fans like me tune in.
Why would such a beautiful and successful woman like yourself stay with this guy. As I read your blog I am thinking how sad I am for you that you would lie to yourself about him. He's a cheater......you deserve better. Kick that guy to the curb. Think about how many times he has done this and you haven't found out. You're kidding yourself if you truly think he hasn't cheated. He's a dog.
Are you so HIGH ON TERESSA juice that you are seriously bringing up something from N.J. to MiA?????? GET A LIFE!!!!!
Now I know I love Joanna. Anybody who can see that Teresa is a NUTJOB! is someone i will support.
C'mon with all due respect..just because she likes or supports another housewive, clearly the one you have strong opinions about, does not warrant a comment that Joanna lacks 'common sense'. Should someone say this about you in the same content , as a Teresa fan, I'd say the same thing to you. Not cool. Don't define people who disagree with your perceptions. It's all good. Who cares!!
We don't really know these people in real life and perhaps (given the benefit of the doubt) the 'housewives' meet at different Bravo related functions and if not, she's just as entitled to her kind opinion as well as your not so kind opinion.
Joanna- time to dump Romain. He's a player--and he's not willing to make a committment to you after all this time.
The fact that these "so called ladies" feel that being that mean to any other woman is OK is a disgrace. Guess they don't care how they look to the viewers. Karent is an accomplish and professional woman who just happens to be successful and quite beautiful. If they can't handle that, then its their problem not hers. You need to set your sister straight. There is no reason why she shouldn't cook, clean and run errands when she's not working - especially since you pay her bills and living expenses. The fact that you've allowed her to behave that disrepectfully toward Romain is the root of the problem. That is his home too. You talk about the mean girls in your blog and then attacked Teresa. It is none of your business and had you watched the shows you would see that Teresa was the victim in all the bullying that took place. How would you feel if 4 women constantly demeaned, attacked and bullied you for everything you said or did? These women even bullied her children. So get the facts before you take a stand.
While I agree that Tre is a whack job, you may want to go mum on the other housewives to silence these (ridiculous) vitriolic comments. I can't believe people still think she's a reasonable person, but hey, if she/her lovers can't be, you can be.
I loved the fact you allowed Bravo to air some flaws in your relationship. I too checked my husbands emails a few years ago after I had that "something is wrong" feeling. I was devasted to see he had cheated on me months prior to me seeing his emails. We were married for 4 years at the time and had a 2 yr old daughter. I struggled over it so much because I put 100% into my marriage. I worked full time, excellednt mom, and my body was in my all-time best condition. Him and I decided to work through things and we still are to this day but that nagging question in my mind was how could he do this to me, I look the best I ever have. My point here, is after I saw you struggling in your relationship over some of the exact same things my husband and I faced, I related and thought....if it could happen to her, a supermodel, it can happen to us regular people too. It must really not be about what you look like because you are a drop deaad beauty, there is more to the unfaithfulness. My husband claimed my attention was all over the place and I was focused on the baby more than him, my animal charity was getting too much attetion, my work...and so on. I don't know why I just dumped my story on here like this...I just really wanted to try to get a Thank You into you for really showing people the insides to your relationship, in some way, your story unfolding on here really hits home with me. Good Luck to you and Romain, I hope the best for the two of you.
Maybe someone can clarify this: I don't get the timeline. Last week he was accused of making out with someone, and this someone (it was implied) is this same girl/dancer in his club that sent him the e-mails, BUT when she talks about the e-mails, she refers to them as a few months back (and yes I know it was taped long ago). This is one of the reasons she forgives him, but if it was only happening a week before, that should change a lot of his story about wanted to leave her and changing his mind. ???
Absolutely love you! Glad you seem so authentic on the show. You're not trying to cover anything up to make your life seem perfect. But. With that said, you should not forgive romain like that. Wow. Doesn't matter who you are or who you date, if you cheat once (mentally or physically) you will do it again, and I don't care what anyone says, once the trust is lost...you don't get it back...if you had done this to him would he have forgiven you? You could have a million guys that would treat you with more respect. You seem to put a lot of the blame on this other woman, and yourself. This is 100% his fault. If it wasn't her, it would have been someone else. Time to find a great guy, get married and have a trustful relationship
You handled the 'flirting' situation very well. What is most important in this sort of situation is that the couple COMMUNICATES ~ and you both did a good job of that. It's also good that you recognize that you too contributed to the stagnation of the relationship. I fully agree that it still doesn't excuse what he did ~ but you both share responsibility for the deterioration of the relationship. Bravo Joanna - for recognizing this.
I assume you two have talked more, off camera. Not to re-hash the past missteps, but to continue communicating as well as supporting each other. This aids rebuilding and strengthening the relationship.
Someone else here (below) said that a relationship takes TWO and that it takes effort by BOTH ~ and this is 100% correct.
Also important to note: when one is straying emotionally or physically, they will have to EARN BACK the trust in the relationship. You cannot give Romain trust. He has to earn it back. How? Answer: Over a long period of time, thru his actions.
Romain telling you he wants the relationship is good but, he needs to demonstrate this over many weeks, months and years. (And, i assume he has been doing this, since these episodes were filmed awhile ago and you two looked pretty happy on the recent segment of WWWH). The bottom line is: Romain needs to earn his trust (1) through his actions, (2) by accepting responsibility for his past actions, (3) by showing true remorse, (4) and by being accountable.
Last bit of advice: "Trust, but verify." It is good to verify occasionally. He should have no issues with you ever looking at his email or texts; it is fantastic to "verify" and to find nothing. THAT is a great feeling and it is one of the ways a straying partner earns back their trust.
You're pretty real, Joanna, and he comes across that way too. I hope you two make it and i think you actually might. Glad you are part of the cast. Blow off the haters here...... they're just jealous. ; - )
I just read your comments about Teresa Giudice! You need to mind your own business and not be quick to judge people that you do not know! Your on a big platform now and you wouldn't like it if people judged you on your insecurities, your drama, the way you don't appreciate your sister and had her kicked out of your home only so you can stay with your cheating boyfriend! Your a gossiper, a trouble maker, instigator, cry baby, with no morals, thats how you have come off so far on television! How does it feel for someone to judge you without really knowing you?! Anyhow, I know talking about Teresa might help you get attention, but Teresa doesn't get involved with your business because she doesn't care, do the same and "go scratch"!!!!
Always-Right Dude. Lady. Tre is whacked. She's got issues and she has put them out there for all to judge. Even if being judged by other women on other shows. Get over it. You aren't always right, get used to that, too.
Always-Right Also, J has 500 times more class than Tre, at least thus far. You are from another planet. Why don't you go scratch with the alley cats or whatever trash uses that term.
Always-Right WOW, Teresa is paying so many to spread her lies & do her dirty work. Don't you feel dirty?
I like Joanna even more since I heard how she feels about CRAZY Teresa....I bet u even think Adriana is all that.
What is going on? How in the hell is Teresa being brought up on 'this blog post'.
Speaking of diehard fans. As a mom, I would only DIE HARD if something happened to my sons. Let it go, turn the page, move on to the next chapter.... unless you ARE Teresa OR one of her 'writers' sticking up for her. This has gotten out of hand. Wow!!!
I LOVE YOU JOANA!! you and Lisa are my favorites ever!! I ejoty watching you and your sister Marta. it is cute how you two go back anbd forth at each other but yet deeply love and care for one another. do not let the fame or anyone destroy that.the Theresa(RHWNJ) fans are the most obnouxious people ever you propably want to stay out of anything involving her. Other than that keep doing your thing and don`t worry about the "mean girls" in your cast. it is so clear that Adriana is jalous of you. first she hits on your boy friend so blatantly, then she poses nude in photo shoot (how desprate) and dedicates her whole blog to you...
As for your relationship I will let you be the judge, after all you know more about it than any ofv us viewers, so I hope you will make the right decision.
I thought you handled the Romain situation perfectly, no reason to yell and scream and not get any real answers. The way you did it, cooking a nice quiet dinner and talking calmly, was the way to get answers.
I think you are awesome, Haven't seen what you've said about Teresa though.
You're fun enough on RHOM so far, but I'm disappointed with your comments about Teresa!
I think you are uninformed about the real situation.
It was just in really bad taste for her to do that. Most of the of the other housewives know to just stay in their own lane when it comes to the other 'Housewives' shows. Love her or hate her, at least Teresa has the professional courtesy not to throw any negative outside opinions around about the ladies on the other shows..
marc823 TreFaninFargo so the little stab at Bethenny Frankle's drink was what, a joke? Please, Teresa is not courteous.
marc823 TreFaninFargo probably because she (Teresa) hasn''t thought about doing it yet. Give her time.
TreFaninFargo Didnt know she said something abt Teresa. Thats a no no. Who is she to accuse her for hitting below the belt. In case she didnt get the memo, Teresa didnt "set her up". Melissa hit below the belt for joining the show and trashing teresa for two seasons and yet she gets a pass
you need to dump that fiance of yours. what other proof do you need? I would say the same thing to my friends. like it or not, the truth sucks! you are better than that. Don't let anyone or any man bring you down. you are an intelligent strong woman. when someone you love makes you feel bad or doubt yourself, it's time to move on no matter how much you love him you are not going to fix him. Go on with your life and like I tell my friends NEXT! that's why they always come to me when stuff goes down. Good luck and keep your chin up:)
Romain so smooth he almost had me forgiving him. I think you let him off the hook to easily. He basically told another woman he was leaving you for her. What's up with that?
I just read an interview you gave about RHONJ I really think you shouldn't be giving mean interviews about people you don't personally know. Who are you to speak about anybody's family. I get Caroline talking trash about Teresa at least they were close at some point but who the hell are you? Now I can see why you defend Karent so strongly thats because you arejust like her will do anything for 5 min of fame. I used to like you but not anymore worry about your own issues you seem to have plenty