I have also learned that although all my life I have been a people pleaser, right now I first need to think of pleasing myself. People will love or hate or judge you whether you're a celebrity, public figure, or a hardworking person that is not recognized in the media. They will draw conclusions about you based on what they know, or even if they have never met you, or whatever they want to believe. I can't control people’s feelings and try to have everyone love me. I live my life without trying to do any harm to anyone. I give of myself to the people I care about and also through my foundation, Sharing Smiles. I was reminded also that not even God or Jesus Christ was loved by all. Even him, without any sin, was wrongly accused and hated by many. So who am I to think that I can have everyone love me, defects and all? I guess it was naive, yet eternally optimistic on my part. I still choose to not let the negative circumstances that have played out this season change the person that I am. To harden my heart and not continue to be the happy, free spirited, loving person that I am would mean allowing those that want to hurt me win. I will never allow that.
I thank Joanna and Lisa in particular for being amazing friends to me from day one. I built a bond with them that won't be easily broken. I believe that loyalty and true friendship was demonstrated both ways. For that, I am eternally grateful. Lea was a tricky one. At first her personality and humor did not sit well with me. But in time I realized that if you peel off the layer of her humor and sometimes not so funny jokes, you will find a woman that is a true friend and also very loyal. If people take the time to truly get to know her, I think you will all agree. We all have different personalities, and it’s just about figuring out which ones you can live with, and also who will contribute something positive to your life. Surround yourself with people you admire and that have a shining light and positive energy. I have been very blessed to have a nucleus of friends that are just that. I have made a conscious choice and effort many years ago to no longer surround myself with people who are constantly negative and whose objective in life is to tear others apart by their words or actions. I celebrate my friends’ successes and wish and hope that each and every one of you are able to achieve all your goals and dreams.
Thank you for all your kind words that I have received on Twitter and Facebook. I try to answer as many of you as I can, and I am humbled by all your beautiful comments.
To all these ladies, I wish them happiness, love, and light.
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