Cast Blog: #RHOM

Ana and Marysol's Two-Faced Behavior

Lea was shocked by the gossiping that went on at Ana and Marysol's lunch.

Behind the Curtains

Life always looks so perfect looking from the outside in. Tonight’s episode pulled back a few of those perfectly coiffed curtains. Watching the conversation with Joanna and Romain was a bit uncomfortable. Haven't we all had those intimate conversations at one time or another?  I personally adore both of them, and my fingers are crossed that they make it together as a couple, make beautiful babies, and live happily ever after.

Then we peek behind the curtain of when is enough "skin" enough? Wow! You go, Adriana. It takes a lot of courage to show so much skin, but it seems Frederic enjoyed every minute of it. I had to laugh hearing people call you a "flirt" last week. Haha, tell me something I don't know. I think Frederic gets a kick out of the flirting! Gotta love a guy that thinks everything about his girl is perfect. And the photo, let's not call it nude -- I prefer to think of it as revealing. The "Pandora’s Box" title -- let's leave that to the imagination! LOL! Who wouldn't flirt with a body like that?
 
As for Karent and Rodolfo, I get it -- mom doesn't love Rodolfo. I also get it that sometimes people have to see things for themselves, and maybe Karent is not ready to shed light behind the curtain in the relationship that she still wants to believe in. And maybe some of us on the outside looking in don't have a clue what is behind that curtain, we just think we do. And really, is it any of our business? It was sad to see Karent smiling through the tears. So for my part, I only wish them both well. But if he turns out to treat her like anything less than a goddess, I hope she gets rid of him.

Everyone has something in life to deal with, no matter how perfect it may appear as we look in. With two young, healthy people, who would ever think that Lisa and Lenny had a care in the world? I think it was very touching and very generous of them to share what's behind their well-maintained curtain. What I took away from that moment is that they both really love each other, and we all know the Power Of Love. My hope for them is that power helps them create lots and lots of babies.Then there is always what lies behind the curtains of friendships. I've always said, "Some people collect things, and I collect people." Well Elaine Lancaster is one of those collectibles. It is unfortunate that people make false accusations with absolutely no evidence to back them up. So for the record -- I can't and don't try to control my friends or use my friends, including the crazies I collect along the way. I love them for who they are and who they are not. I try to back them when they are right and show tough love when I disagree with them. There is one thing that is absolutely positively not true and cannot be said with a straight face about me -- that I need anyone to speak for me or do my "dirty work." If I have something to say, everyone that knows me knows that I am very capable of having straightforward, adult conversations and say what is on my mind. I've never been one to hold back. So if anyone thinks or says otherwise, they don't know me, they just think they know me or prefer not to know me and make false accusations about me.

It didn't go unnoticed that at the art gallery the night before the gossip lunch, Ana says, "Marysol thinks..." but by the time they have their rehearsed lunch the next day, it’s "Ana that thinks..." When making accusations, it's best to keep the stories straight. And when the facts aren't on your side, maybe it's better to keep the mouths shut. And it's never a good thing to throw rocks and hide your hands, it will eventually become transparent.
 
And regarding Marysol, I did get her two different jobs, I won't comment on whether or not she still has them, but to hear that I never helped her get a job, well, the facts are on my side once again. The irony of two single women taking pot shots at my nearly 20-year marriage speaks volumes. Like they say, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them." I have been nothing but nice to those two, helped them whenever I could, and defended one of them even at the expense of my own credibility many times. You're welcome.Joanna was fab during the gay Winter Party weekend; she rocked the dance and the costume. I remember having the white party (South Florida's HIV-AIDS fundraiser) at my home sixteen years ago. I had dancers too (mermen) in my pool, and they rocked it too! The event brought back fun memories. It is overwhelming to see that the cause has grown so big it covers the beach in all directions. Wow. So proud of Miami and its social progress. The curtain of secrecy and shame has become a beaming light of pride and progress.



To sum up tonight’s episode -- a few personal observations as I look behind the curtains -- and BTW if the shoe doesn't fit someone specific, don't force their foot into it.

Adriana is a harmless serial flirt.
Frederic is a charmer and loves every minute of it.
Joanna has a temper and a soft heart.
Romain is always the gentleman.
Lisa doesn't know me but will see that I am her friend, if she lets me be.
Lenny will make a wonderful dad.
Karent believes in love and will find it, with or without Rodolfo.
It's obvious Karent cares deeply about her parents.
Some people accuse others of what they're doing.
It's easy to make false accusations about people.
Some work so hard at portraying who they are not, that they don't recognize who they are.
Some people just want to be relevant at anyone’s expense.
Some people choose being two-faced rather than facing up to an honest, genuine conversation.
Some pretend they don't want to be associated with gossip during their uninterrupted gossip-feasts.
Happy marriages are fodder for some -- "If you can't have a happy marriage, besmirch one!"
Elaine Lancaster has never met a camera she didn't like.
Some people are larger than life, and their bright light makes some people very uncomfortable.Then there is me, and I find all these people fascinating to watch. I may decide to add a few of them to my collection, and others, well, maybe not so much

Spread the love and keep the peace, and don't deal with stupid.

Stay tuned, bitch slapping will seem like child’s play by the time this season wraps.


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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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