Cast Blog: #RHOM

Ana and Marysol's Two-Faced Behavior

A Therapeutic Season for Alexia

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea's Double Standards

Hoping to Move Forward with Lea

An X-Rated Reunion

Lisa's Vegas Regret

Joanna's Perfect Day

Lea and the Beefy Bus Boy Duo

Lea's Lip Service

Lisa's "Peacemaker" Problems

Alexia's Not Sweating the Small Stuff

Real Friends Don't Hold Grudges

A Fun Party, Minus the Distractions

Apologizing to Lea

Alexia's Anniversary Celebration

Lisa Loves Texas

Meet Joanna's New Puppy!

Lea's Walk Down Memory Lane

Adriana's Wedding Full of Waiting

Adriana's Two Loves

May Adriana Live Happily Ever After

Romain's Troubled Past

Alexia's Birthday Drama

Meet Dr. Sex Therapist Lisa

The Wedding Evite Explained

Targeted by the Hate Club

Lisa's Button-Pushing Behavior

Peter's Healing Process

Lenny's Lipo

Lea's Over the Haters

Adriana's Difficult Past

Joanna Talks Role Playing

Update on Elsa

Recovering Frankie and Peter

Lisa's Bridesmaid Ultimatum

Joanna's Outright Insult

The Birkin Bag Bonanza

Adriana's Glamorous 'Great Gatsby' Wedding

Lisa's In-Law Issues

Shocked by Lea's Secrets

Ana and Marysol's Two-Faced Behavior

Lea was shocked by the gossiping that went on at Ana and Marysol's lunch.

Behind the Curtains

Life always looks so perfect looking from the outside in. Tonight’s episode pulled back a few of those perfectly coiffed curtains. Watching the conversation with Joanna and Romain was a bit uncomfortable. Haven't we all had those intimate conversations at one time or another?  I personally adore both of them, and my fingers are crossed that they make it together as a couple, make beautiful babies, and live happily ever after.

Then we peek behind the curtain of when is enough "skin" enough? Wow! You go, Adriana. It takes a lot of courage to show so much skin, but it seems Frederic enjoyed every minute of it. I had to laugh hearing people call you a "flirt" last week. Haha, tell me something I don't know. I think Frederic gets a kick out of the flirting! Gotta love a guy that thinks everything about his girl is perfect. And the photo, let's not call it nude -- I prefer to think of it as revealing. The "Pandora’s Box" title -- let's leave that to the imagination! LOL! Who wouldn't flirt with a body like that?
 
As for Karent and Rodolfo, I get it -- mom doesn't love Rodolfo. I also get it that sometimes people have to see things for themselves, and maybe Karent is not ready to shed light behind the curtain in the relationship that she still wants to believe in. And maybe some of us on the outside looking in don't have a clue what is behind that curtain, we just think we do. And really, is it any of our business? It was sad to see Karent smiling through the tears. So for my part, I only wish them both well. But if he turns out to treat her like anything less than a goddess, I hope she gets rid of him.

Everyone has something in life to deal with, no matter how perfect it may appear as we look in. With two young, healthy people, who would ever think that Lisa and Lenny had a care in the world? I think it was very touching and very generous of them to share what's behind their well-maintained curtain. What I took away from that moment is that they both really love each other, and we all know the Power Of Love. My hope for them is that power helps them create lots and lots of babies.Then there is always what lies behind the curtains of friendships. I've always said, "Some people collect things, and I collect people." Well Elaine Lancaster is one of those collectibles. It is unfortunate that people make false accusations with absolutely no evidence to back them up. So for the record -- I can't and don't try to control my friends or use my friends, including the crazies I collect along the way. I love them for who they are and who they are not. I try to back them when they are right and show tough love when I disagree with them. There is one thing that is absolutely positively not true and cannot be said with a straight face about me -- that I need anyone to speak for me or do my "dirty work." If I have something to say, everyone that knows me knows that I am very capable of having straightforward, adult conversations and say what is on my mind. I've never been one to hold back. So if anyone thinks or says otherwise, they don't know me, they just think they know me or prefer not to know me and make false accusations about me.

It didn't go unnoticed that at the art gallery the night before the gossip lunch, Ana says, "Marysol thinks..." but by the time they have their rehearsed lunch the next day, it’s "Ana that thinks..." When making accusations, it's best to keep the stories straight. And when the facts aren't on your side, maybe it's better to keep the mouths shut. And it's never a good thing to throw rocks and hide your hands, it will eventually become transparent.
 
And regarding Marysol, I did get her two different jobs, I won't comment on whether or not she still has them, but to hear that I never helped her get a job, well, the facts are on my side once again. The irony of two single women taking pot shots at my nearly 20-year marriage speaks volumes. Like they say, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them." I have been nothing but nice to those two, helped them whenever I could, and defended one of them even at the expense of my own credibility many times. You're welcome.Joanna was fab during the gay Winter Party weekend; she rocked the dance and the costume. I remember having the white party (South Florida's HIV-AIDS fundraiser) at my home sixteen years ago. I had dancers too (mermen) in my pool, and they rocked it too! The event brought back fun memories. It is overwhelming to see that the cause has grown so big it covers the beach in all directions. Wow. So proud of Miami and its social progress. The curtain of secrecy and shame has become a beaming light of pride and progress.



To sum up tonight’s episode -- a few personal observations as I look behind the curtains -- and BTW if the shoe doesn't fit someone specific, don't force their foot into it.

Adriana is a harmless serial flirt.
Frederic is a charmer and loves every minute of it.
Joanna has a temper and a soft heart.
Romain is always the gentleman.
Lisa doesn't know me but will see that I am her friend, if she lets me be.
Lenny will make a wonderful dad.
Karent believes in love and will find it, with or without Rodolfo.
It's obvious Karent cares deeply about her parents.
Some people accuse others of what they're doing.
It's easy to make false accusations about people.
Some work so hard at portraying who they are not, that they don't recognize who they are.
Some people just want to be relevant at anyone’s expense.
Some people choose being two-faced rather than facing up to an honest, genuine conversation.
Some pretend they don't want to be associated with gossip during their uninterrupted gossip-feasts.
Happy marriages are fodder for some -- "If you can't have a happy marriage, besmirch one!"
Elaine Lancaster has never met a camera she didn't like.
Some people are larger than life, and their bright light makes some people very uncomfortable.Then there is me, and I find all these people fascinating to watch. I may decide to add a few of them to my collection, and others, well, maybe not so much

Spread the love and keep the peace, and don't deal with stupid.

Stay tuned, bitch slapping will seem like child’s play by the time this season wraps.


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Hoping to Move Forward with Lea

Marysol shares what she hopes will come out of the reunion.

For me the reunion is a forum to hash things out and engage in verbal mud wrestling and hopefully come out cleansed from the tension and disagreements. I would like to make it clear that I do not hate anyone; I am not a person that likes to live in anger as it only makes you miserable and takes away from the precious moments of our lives. It is no secret that I have spent a couple of years being accused of lying by Lea when we do not see eye to eye on something. It is very frustrating to have issues with someone and always end up at the same place of “her word against mine.”

Unfortunately, my father this year has also had a rapid decline in his health and has spent the better part of the past few months in and out of the hospital. While dad was in the hospital with nothing else to do besides sleep, read, and watch TV he watched every episode of RHOM. He was very upset when he saw Lea saying I was lying when I said she didn’t call, write, or send flowers to mom for 8 weeks. He called me and said to figure out a way to video tape me and put it on that show of yours because I’ve had enough of the lies. My father was by mother’s side every day from the moment she went into the hospital to the day she came home (2 months later). He saw everyone who passed by, saw every flower and card that was sent etc. I truly was uncomfortable videotaping him in a hospital setting, but I was leaving for the reunion and he called relentlessly several times a day insisting I let him speak his mind for the cameras. If you thought Mama Elsa was tough, guess who she learned it from, that’s right, her husband of 52 years, Donald Patton. You never met anyone more ornery, stubborn, or tough, but I wouldn’t trade him for the world.

I have said my peace, which is what I went to the reunion to do. I have moved forward and forgive those who have hurt me and I forgive myself for those I may have hurt. I truly want to move forward to a better place with Lea to the best of our ability. We may never be best friends, but I’d like to think we can at least be in the same room, be cordial, and maybe even share a laugh someday.

It has been a fun season with the ladies and it provided a great distraction from the personal emotional struggles I was going through with my parents’ declining health.  I hope you enjoyed the season, thank you for all of your support and best wishes for my mother as that has been the greatest gift the show has brought us.

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