Cast Blog: #RHOM

Did Thomas Kramer Overreact?

Lea thinks he went too far with Elsa (but is glad she stood her ground).

Confusion, Contradiction, Confrontation, Fashion, Fun, Food and Fights
 
...and let’s add a large dose of hypocrisy as well!
 
Wow! This week’s episode had it all:

Let's start with Elsa.

She started the week straightening things out (how James becomes Elaine) and ended it getting voluntarily kicked out of her extended family’s dinner party.

Explaining to Elsa the James to Elaine transformation was a combination of confusion, contradiction, fashion, and fun (and we had a laugh and giggle too).
 
The Thomas Kramer (TK) dinner party started out fun -- loves, hugs, kisses, and more -- then went downhill quickly with confrontation and fights.
 
Was I upset Elsa "shushed" me? No. Did TK overreact a bit? Ya think? And in Elsa style, she stood her ground. Good for her. After a 20-year friendship, should anyone be surprised there was some family feuding?


 
At least when I got "shushed," I didn't take on the diva role, make the dinner party about me and frump out of the room in a noisy huff.Then there was the Pliner Fashion show – just loaded with fun, fashion, confrontation, food, and fights. Seems to start out OK. And of course we got to witness more of the non-gossipers gossip, bringing us to more contradictions. I am always amused by the rampant gossipers who claim to not gossip then talk trash behind backs then lack the backbone to stand behind their ugly words.
 
This Elaine-Marysol thing could have all been avoided if Marysol were ever up for an adult conversation -- confrontation instead of always running away causing things to boil over. And of course if she didn't continue to interfere with the diva’s red carpet of life. Joanna made a good point -- Marysol backstabbed Elaine and this time she got caught. Oh and Marysol never misses an opportunity to blame me for the problems she brings on herself.

 
And of course, more "Karentland" bashing by Ana. Always so gratuitous with her uncalled for malicious gossip. Relevance, anyone? And she pointed out Karent "won't hang out with just anyone, only people that bring her attention," as she continues to  bad mouth TK while entering his home and drinking his $1,000 a bottle wine and eating his home cooked gourmet meal. And she was so "offended" by his asking us all to change the subject and have a good time. I'm trying to distinguish between  being judgmental about a dinner party where adults speak about problems and conflict versus a dinner table where families talk about "a--- sex" and "com--- on girls" and "barbeque on p----s." I'm just glad TK didn't mention "wiping his ---," "picking his nose," and "someone’s v-----" before preparing the meal. Confused anyone? Real outrage or phony outrage?And what was the offending joke that so outraged "poor little" Ana? TK asked Lisa if she had trouble stuffing her boobs in that dress. Now you have all seen and heard Lisa during this series... do you think for a second she was offended? Much of her conversation is about her boobs. Her home is the "house that boobs built." Just check out her tagline. Let’s get serious here. Lisa is proud of her figure and how her husband designed it. And why shouldn’t she be? This is phony outrage if I have ever seen it.
 
Then Ana finally made a legitimate point -- what is Marysol so afraid of? Truth, anyone?
 
It’s nice to know that Joanna and Adriana are mending fences and we can all go to Bimini together and "bond" (do we really want to, LOL?). Too bad Marysol has to hold a grudge and "never" mend a fence with Elaine. Stubborn, anyone? And who should be forgiving who anyway? Did Marysol mention "twisting stories"?
 
And then finally Ana sees Marysol won't have adult conversations and doesn’t have her back. So why should she stand up for Marysol when Marysol won't stand up for her? Seems Ana is finally getting it: Marysol would rather play the victim and then sneak around behind people’s backs rather than talk to their face. And surprise, bells ringing -- Ana concludes Marysol "makes herself a victim." Newsflash!
 
But all's well that ends well. Leave it to a glamorous bombshell to dance on the table of a "misogyny and sexism" host who had the best of intentions and just likes to laugh and have a good time –- well that is until the guests start feuding, fighting, and insulting the host and other guests. Sounds like a typical South Beach dinner party to me. Fine wine, eclectic group of guests, fabulous food, tits, ass, fights and pole dancing. Who wouldn't want to be at this Star Island dinner party?
Things to think about this week:

Do we sometimes have double standards?

Do we sometimes take things too personally?

When we are amongst friends and they disagree are we supposed to take sides? Try to broker peace? Or take a stand on what's right versus what's wrong, a stand on principle, realizing that every friend can't always be right every time, and neither can we.

Do we sometimes just keep digging ourselves into a bigger hole? And then blame others?

When a lot of strong personalities and differences of opinions start up a lively conversation, should we energize it up or shut it down?

When we are invited to someone’s home that we don't like or respect and speak ill of, should we accept the invitation or decline it?

And in the spirit of Thanksgiving next week, do we give enough thanks for our blessings?
 
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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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