Cast Blog: #RHOM

Elsa, Elaine, and a Near Purse-Slapping

Lea was glad that Elsa and Elaine handled themselves like ladies during their confrontation.

“It’s an Observer Created Reality”

KARENT
#The Punishment Doesn’t Equal the Crime

When I saw Karent at the party, she sat down beside me (or I sat down beside her) and I immediately said something to the effect of, “I just want to personally tell you that I made some remarks about your chattering in my ear and getting on my nerves.” Her response: “I respect that.” And that is when we both knew exactly where we stood with each other. That was that. (Later in the evening I was not laughing because she left, I was laughing because Elsa pulled her "bloomers" down underneath her skirt as she bent over to hug her bye.)

ADRIANA
#Not Holding Back May be being True to Yourself, But It Has Its Consequences.

Like her or not, she wears her Brazilian feelings on her sleeves. I will take that over the behind-the-scenes plotting, conniving, and scheming any day of the week. And “at the end of the day” LOL! And no, Adriana, I wouldn’t want you pulling any teeth.

ROMAIN
#Second Chances

I forgive you, Romain. Now if you ever do it again, I will personally haunt you for the rest of this life and the next life too. And you know I love you. Now please, stop texting me and flirting with me. Party is over.JOANNA

#Heartbreak

Everyone has been there at one time or another. I immediately noticed how she took some responsibility for their issues, rather than immediately blaming everything on Romain. (Perhaps that’s why it all worked out in the end). I admire how she wanted to get all the facts and hear Romain's side of the story before making a decision or punishing him too severely. Let’s hope that this is one of those times when out of adversity comes opportunity. And no more tears, we don’t want any bags under those pretty blue eyes.

ALEXIA
#What Lies Beneath the Surface...

Alexia, it’s your party and you can “scream” if you want to. Alexia can have a bit of a temper, but I think some of what was driving her emotions the night of the Venue party was the pain and suffering she had gone through over the last year. It broke my heart seeing her with Frankie and the tears underneath the smile. But I don’t think Karent was there to ruin her party. Karent was just there to party! And only Alexia can look like a model on the cover of a magazine while telling someone to “get out.”

ANA
#Puppeteer in Chief

Ana is a “protector” to Marysol and a “watchdog for her gullible ex-husband.” I admire the fact she is thinking forward and protecting her children’s future. The video was clever, I admired his sincerity. I don’t admire that she’s protecting Marysol without having been there or knowing the facts. She should advise her client: the more she brings up and has others bring up issues regarding the charity debacle or writes about it, the more attention she brings to it. The gala guests and volunteers will clarify any of the things she can't remember seeing or experiencing. To clarify other “misunderstandings,” should we refer to the charity’s internal video footage of the evening? She should quit digging herself into a deeper hole. Public Relations 101: don’t keep a story going when the facts and tangible evidence aren’t on your side. No one is trying to hurt her or her business. But there is no limit to what I will do to protect the charity, the kids that benefit from it, the donors, the volunteers, and the truth. This story would have never seen the light of day if it weren’t for the denial, lack of accountability, and behind-the-scenes justifications and chatter, or you, Ana, accusing me of having James do my dirty work, and putting me in a position to defend the truth.

MARYSOL
#Sweeping Things Under the (Red) Carpet

Regarding Elaine -- there's a lot more to this story than not walking the carpet. Keep watching as there may be a lot more dirt swept under the "red rug" than meets the current eye. This is between her and James/Elaine. And as far as the charity, volunteers, donors, and me -- well, as long as Marysol chooses to keep spreading lies about us, I will be forced to continue to tell the truth about what happened. She's never let the facts get in the way of a "poor me" story. #Age Trumps Beauty

I admire Mama Elsa for defending her daughter. That’s what moms do. I also admire Elaine Lancaster for treating her with the respect she deserves. And I am so glad we didn’t witness a “purse-slapping.” Both of my ladies remained ladies, and that’s just what I would have expected. I predict wine and laughs -- well, eventually perhaps? One can hope.



LISA
#A Girl’s Best Friend: Loyalty

Lisa, I admire you defending your friend Karent, and you were able to do it without throwing anyone under the bus. Maybe you pointed out a little bit of fodder, but not in a malicious way. Now go hug your dogs, as we all know, they’re really our best friends.

#Earning One’s Place

Well, I signed on for this, so everyone has earned their place with me. But to be honest, sometimes the places people occupy, in both behavior and intent, are places I prefer not to dwell.

To sum it up, (other than my jokes that some people choose to take issue with rather than laugh at) I have simply reacted to what others do and say. I have not gone out of my way to hurt anyone along this journey, but I also won’t sit back and let people wrongly accuse me or others. I would rather stand for something than be popular.

Like I have said before, if you’re the underdog I am your girl, and that’s everything from a charity to a friend or even someone I maybe don’t even know. (And yes, that includes Karent.)Don’t miss next week -- this show may drive me to drink! Enter Joe Francis and it just escalates from there. Conflict and drama around every corner. Let me know if you think something was in the cocktails or in the air. This will be the episode that just keeps on giving, oh, and someone breaks a nail too!



#Things to Think About This Week

-Would you rather be right or happy or credible? Are they mutually exclusive?
-Does taking responsibility take a lot of oxygen out of an issue?
-If you want something to go away, should you quit talking about it?
-Should you put your credibility on the line if you don't have the facts?
-When you want to document something, should you video it? (Could it be helpful if ever you need it or if stories change?)
-Don’t be too anxious to walk on any filthy red rugs. It may not be worth the photo op...
-While some issues seem of colossal importance to some, one thing is true: pettiness will never be the new relevance.
-And pocketbooks are the new mace.

Spread the love and keep the peace and #don’tdealwithstupid!

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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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