Cast Blog: #RHOM

Introductions, Romance, and Insecurities

A Therapeutic Season for Alexia

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea's Double Standards

Hoping to Move Forward with Lea

An X-Rated Reunion

Lisa's Vegas Regret

Joanna's Perfect Day

Lea and the Beefy Bus Boy Duo

Lea's Lip Service

Lisa's "Peacemaker" Problems

Alexia's Not Sweating the Small Stuff

Real Friends Don't Hold Grudges

A Fun Party, Minus the Distractions

Apologizing to Lea

Alexia's Anniversary Celebration

Lisa Loves Texas

Meet Joanna's New Puppy!

Lea's Walk Down Memory Lane

Adriana's Wedding Full of Waiting

Adriana's Two Loves

May Adriana Live Happily Ever After

Romain's Troubled Past

Alexia's Birthday Drama

Meet Dr. Sex Therapist Lisa

The Wedding Evite Explained

Targeted by the Hate Club

Lisa's Button-Pushing Behavior

Peter's Healing Process

Lenny's Lipo

Lea's Over the Haters

Adriana's Difficult Past

Joanna Talks Role Playing

Update on Elsa

Recovering Frankie and Peter

Lisa's Bridesmaid Ultimatum

Joanna's Outright Insult

The Birkin Bag Bonanza

Adriana's Glamorous 'Great Gatsby' Wedding

Lisa's In-Law Issues

Shocked by Lea's Secrets

Introductions, Romance, and Insecurities

Lea Black breaks down this week's episode into three simple categories.

It’s all about introductions, sex, romance... and insecurities

Watching Episode 2, you probably noticed my "red eyes" constantly, especially during the interviews. Well, I cried a lot during that time; I tried to put on a happy face, but there was a tragedy in the making. You will see as it unfolds. Looking back on it 5 months and 21 days later, it still brings tears to my eyes. It was a romance that ended in a tragedy like so many romances do.  Enough about that for now.  Let's put a smile on our faces and do what all “Housewives” do -- let’s talk about ourselves and “each other” (Housewife Qualification #2). You remember Housewife Qualification #1 -- let’s talk about "me."

So let’s get started !

The "Introductions"  

We got through the non-introduction, introduction: Rodolfo meet Ana, Ana meet Rodolfo. We've survived the introduction of too much introduction -- Marta meet Romain’s private part and the surrounding forest. And then there is the shout-out to Lenny's boob clients’ introduction -- introducing Mrs. Lenny Hochstein, yes ladies, he's married!  The evidence:  photos and more photos of "wife" on the walls.  We even got re-introduced to little miss piggy (Joanna, please -- red alert PETA). Where was Herman? Ooh, maybe he was around somewhere roasting another pig. (But I love him anyway. Every guy’s entitled to one vice…besides, otherwise he's perfect and has a picture-perfect wife, Alexia.)

And pirate ship, meet luxury yacht. I know you're thinking, “We’ve got a long way to go to get from here to there -- big closet, piano, and all.”  No worries, you can do it pirate ship! I know just how you feel, I feel it  too every time one of the bombshells (that would be the #RHOM bombshells) show up and showcase their picture perfect bodies as I try to zip up my jeans.  So we all have a little maintenance to do (and a few little insecurities). So now that we've gotten through the introductions...Let’s follow the “romances.”

Romance number one, the "he said, she said, they said, he texted, she texted, they texted" romance, whew! (That’s a "long distance" relationship between Karent, Rodolfo, and Ana!)

Romance number two -- The soon to be "too close for comfort" pirate ship relationship (Adriana-Frederic, I’ve got a question for you -- have you ever tried living on a boat with three people and a dog? I have trouble doing it in a 14,000 square foot house.)

Next --The five-year, it’s "time to get married" romance (Joanna and Romain).  Then there's the non- relationship relationship that we don't talk about relationship. (Mum’s the word.)  Followed by the, “I am married and here are the photos to prove it romance!” (Lisa-Lenny).  And the ex-husband-no-more, enter-my-serious-boyfriend romance (Ana-Robert -- serious mystery man). And then the “now we know how they really met” romance -- lawyer meet juror (9 months after the trial, no matter what rumors you hear) romance (that's me), and we now know that 18 years later we are still talking romance. Romance talk can be exhausting, and we are just getting started.  Some of these romances will be fodder for bloggers for years to come. (And some of what you read about may even be true!)You won't want to miss Episode 3 -- that would be when old relationships meet new relationships… It always comes back to insecurities, sex, and relationships, doesn't it?



And of course we can't overlook the telenovela relationship (background music included), Adrianna and Mama’s heart to heart talk about love and romance. Did anyone else laugh out loud watching the two soap opera stars fanning themselves with those dramatic hand fans while talking more about romance?  I started to think that I was watching a romantic comedy, subtitles needed. Oh, the drama of the real life housewives’ romances and non-romance romances. Pay attention, it will all make sense later…

If you feel you need a little romance to be one of the girls, just book a rose petal massage, get those pheromones aroused, but don't kill the euphoric buzz by bringing up marriage. You risk your soul mate (Rodolfo) going to snoring sleep. And they said it wouldn't last.And at last, the “insecurities”

MARYSOL AND MAMA, OR SHOULD I SAY MAMA AND MARYSOL?

Let’s sprinkle some rice and spray some perfume and create prosperity.  Wonder if Apple or IBM has thought of that? What's next? Chickens? Prosperity Insecurity (Insecurity #1)



KARENT

When a guy pretends to be sleeping the moment you bring up marriage even though you're in the nude and holding hands -- hello? Marriage Insecurity (Insecurity #2)

ANA

When you're holding on to an ex-romance (sort of) while having a serious man romance blossoming and a text maybe romance? Commitment Insecurity (Insecurity #3)JOANNA

And when you're saying enough is enough of this ongoing romance, commitment please? And the cell phone and the Blackberry are getting all the attention?  Lots of guys could be lining up for this bombshell. This is the “Someone Should Be Insecure” Insecurity (Insecurity #4)

LISA

And if you're competing with the diplomas that built the house you live in -- Attention Insecurity (Insecurity #5)

ADRIANNA

When the advice is "rest your pretty head on a pillow of cash" but you've got to wait till the boat that’s being refurbished in mañana-land Miami (and all mañana means in Miami is not today) is finished while you're recovering from a rotten marriage that ended years ago -- That’s the “Never get over the Scorn” Insecurity (Insecurity Exhibit # 6)

ME

Then there's the I am so insecure that I have to write an entire blog about insecurities. That’s the “Pot call the Kettle Black" Insecurity (no pun intended) -- Projection Insecurity (Insecurity #7?  You decide!)

WHO DO YOU KNOW?

Now, if you're too insecure to admit you have insecurities, that would be the Insecurity of being Insecure Insecurity  (Insecurity #8). Don't expect to see that insecurity; it hides behind rose colored glasses and Spanx.And what have we learned about insecurities? No matter how successful or accomplished or beautiful or in love we may be, all of us are full of insecurities and they are all on full display in Episode 2 of #RHOM.

Spread the love and keep the peace, and whatever you do this next week, "don't deal with stupid."

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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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