Lea Black

Lea explains why she had reservations about joining the ladies in Bimini.

on Dec 6, 20120

Lonely on the Road

After 17 years of marriage, this was my first "girls" trip. I was very reluctant to go, because I hated leaving my 11-year-old son RJ and my husband to go for a weekend trip outside of the country. Since I have met Roy, the longest time we have ever been apart is 6 days and nights and the longest time I have ever been away from RJ was the 3 nights I spent in Bimini.

So for me, if I am going to take time away from my husband and son, I want it to be time well spent. Adriana and I have always had a special bond, but the other girls I really don't know so well, even though we've sort of hung out together off and on at social events or been involved in work projects together.

So here we go. Starting with Adriana missing the plane, to the weather raining on our parade, to the confrontations and the uncertainties of when we would be able to leave because of weather conditions, it was a mixed bag of the good, the bad, and the ugly. I learned a lot about people, and I left having a more profound understanding of the saying, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them."

Things to think about this week:

Are we as understanding and compassionate about people as we could be or should be?

Do we get pleasure out of others’ pain, and if so, why is it that misery loves company?

When we get invested in people, is it out of love, joy, and kindness? Is it out of curiosity? Or is it to deepen and strengthen a relationship? And why do we get invested in people anyway? Is it to look for the good? Or look for the bad? And why is it that some people just "push our buttons" enough that it sometimes brings out the worst in us?

114 comments
cindy1963
cindy1963

I was just watching the repeat of some of the episodes from this season and on the episode entitled "Eager Beaver" you made a comment to Marysol about her husband leaving her because he got his "green card" and left. That was really not very nice to say. Then there was another episode where you said "this is Miami, people run on Latin time." What is Latin time because I am Latin and I am never late for anything? I don't think you should be saying things like that. You know it's almost like "we as Hispanics always get stereotyped" for a lot of things. I really do think you should apologize to "all of us who are NOT on Latin time!" Just saying. Thank you.

monteburke
monteburke

Lea, without you the program would be nothing. You add class, elegence and humor to the show. You are the Rock Star of the entire series. Bravo would be smart to launch a new program entitled "Lea" and let the other girls, do what they do anyway, orbit around you! Keep-up the humor and we'll keep watching.

Houston
Houston

Lea, you are the reason we watch the program. You are class, elegence and humor. I really believe without you being the hub in which the other girls orbit, there would be no program at all. Keep it up girl; you're the best!

sallysnowflake
sallysnowflake

Lea', you make the show with your wit and humor yet you still work on keeping the other girls staying focused on something other than themselves.  

Nebfan22
Nebfan22

My goodness woman you have more money than most of us would see in two lifetimes.  Hire yourself a fashion consultant!

hopelogin
hopelogin

I felt that all the girls shared a time when they had been cheated on and how much it hurt. It gave Karent and opportunity to have support from someone who had been in the same situation.Why does everyone think someone has a vindictive motive when saying something,

tammyburke1
tammyburke1

You were great on the show and looking forward to Thursday. You are a classy caring lady and it appears that maybe the viewers are seeing the quiet side as negative when you are clearly uncomfortable being thrown in the middle of the drama. Alexia should have never shown the whole group pictures of Karent's cheating boyfriend. A good friend should have told her privately or waited until she has her own suspicions and was asking for information or opinions. It appeared to me that you were just saying IF you are going to tell the whole group then you should let her know what you were saying. Karent doesn't want to believe that the man she loves would do that to her. Keep up the good job!

txchick
txchick

Loved your outfit with the turban!!!!  You looked fabulous!!  So glad you were happy with your accommodations unlike Lisa, nice to see someone humble!  Great blog once again, hope you and your family have a wonderful holiday season!!  Ready for next Thursday!!!

Happy-Housewife
Happy-Housewife

As always-love your blog.  Don't listen to any of these negative jealous viewers, too bad they don't get you, perhaps they are some of your castmates???  If there should be any finger pointing it should be pointed at Alexia not you for any of this situation and especially pointed towards Rodolfo!  Hope we get to see more of your beautiful family and mansions!!!  Looking forward to the next episode.

hotintexas
hotintexas

I cannot believe you are getting any negative comments about this weeks show!!!  Alexia is the one to put this on!!!  She opened up this hot mess!!!  No matter what people think of you from what I've seen you are such a compassionate person who worries for others!!!  You are a true person and we love your personality!  Keep on Ms. Lea!!!

jhazm
jhazm

I find your questions annoying, because rather than just describe your values you imply them.  Find the courage to just say what you want to say.  Take a stand.  You shouldn't have brought up that private discussion with Karent at dinner.  I think in subtle ways throughout the season and last season you feel disdain towards people, you don't seem to really care about others. Your charity is probably an exception.

AnnaManager
AnnaManager

Can't wait to see this week and what pans out on the trip.  You looked stunning and very classy.

Twiz
Twiz

I think you are the peacemaker of the group and work on keeping everything in perspective. You clearly showed you are the most down to earth of the bunch especially when you took the room with the twin beds on the trip.  Lisa showed that she is spoiled and is not use to adapting to her surroundings.   

Clinks
Clinks

You are still by far the classiest one on the show.  I loved your outfit you wore on to go on the trip.

CNelon
CNelon

Alexia was the one that didn't handle the situation properly about Karent! So some of the people making posts should get off your back. She involved everyone and should have gone straight to Karent before telling ALL the other housewives.  I guess that was why she was invited to go on the trip since she had the dirty scoop.  Shame on Alexia, she was they one out of line, not you, Lea'.

lisas58
lisas58

Give me a break!  I think the people posting negative blogs need to look at themselves.  Lea you are the most genuine person on the show, and these people must just envy you so much they just wish they could have a great marriage and like who they are without being a phony.

You are the lucky one, don't listen to any negative posts on this blog!  

myfairlady12
myfairlady12

Wow Lea - I really liked you until I starting seeing your very catty, nasty side. Anyone who finds it "entertaining" to watch another human being pain is disgusting!  You couldn't wait for Alexia to tell Karent Rodolfo was cheating.

 

YOU are the one who needs to ask and answer YOUR OWN QUESTIONS. You are the biggest offender of all!  At least we all know who YOU REALLY ARE!

miamihousewivesfan
miamihousewivesfan

After reading your blog. It seems you don't practice what you preach.

I just caught up w all the shows during the RHOM marathon. Which was great!

But, you appear to be the least genuine person on the show.

I can't stand your elitist attitude or that shrilling, whiney voice of yours.

It looks as though you get pleasure in causing pain to the other ladies on the show. 

I just don't get you Lea. 

nycarrie
nycarrie

Who was the designer of the straw hat that you were wearing for this episodes?  It was absolutely gorgeous!

reality4real
reality4real

Bravo, can you substitute the "real" Lea Black with Amy Phillips? Pretty please??? At least her appearance on the show and blogs would be entertaining!

andebrown70
andebrown70

Good and meaningful questions....  you are a good person!

Siagdo
Siagdo

You are awesome.

shysharon
shysharon

Barely a compliment here, finally tyou are seen for who you are! I love you questions to ask yourself! Doesn't seem like you ask yourself ANY of them! I have volunteered fo several charities and have not found many good people involved. That was my first clue. Your choice friends, my second clue. Lying about neck surgery, calling it being ''refreshed'' my third clue. I don't need another.

rosyposy
rosyposy

Lea, you just derive  too much joy from others' pain.  You were so excited over the possibility of Karent being told about her lover's infidelity, that you could not sit still.  I just cannot seem to like Karent because of her constant "death mask" grin, but she deserved better.  I hope she apologizes to Ana, and watches the episode carefully to see who her real friends are.  You are really coming off as two-faced this season.  Stop trying to destroy Marysol.  By the way, my main thought of you is "birds of a feather".  I am talking about some of the men you hang with.

Tania1234
Tania1234

Ms. Lea, I like you…but, you don't deal with Stupid?? Um, Adriana is the dullest tool in the shed. And Joe Francis -EW. That whole relationship sure isn't  helping your reputation-but I guess ka-ching ka-ching!$!! Anyhow-I know you have a kind heart -you just need to use it a TAD more-and that sharp tongue  tad less. And remember $ doesn't equal class-someone should tell your OTHER friend -Thomas Kramer that-like YOU. Don't stick up for people simply because the are wealthy -they often need to be brought down to earth again-by people they look up to -like yourself. Use your platform to better this world -the gala's just a drop in the bucket of life. 

Happy-Housewife
Happy-Housewife

 @Nebfan22

 I love how she dresses!  I don't think you should judge anyone on what they wear anyway.  But she always looks great!

 

Happy-Housewife
Happy-Housewife

 @jhazm

 There's nothing subtle in these shows... it's how it is.  I really do see Lea cares very much about her friends hope they see that.  Seems like she is a great Mother and loves her Mr. Black.   She keeps it light for us.

 

gini
gini

@jhazm You must be living in fantasy land. I think she does have the courage to say wat needs to be said.

Happy-Housewife
Happy-Housewife

 @lisas58I  definitely agree, Lea is getting heat she doesn't deserve- think I smell a rat or castmates????

 

 

Kim-in-PB
Kim-in-PB

 @lisas58

 I agree with you Lisas58!  Lea does so much for her family and her community and has for many, many years - way before RHOM was on her radar screen.  She is a tireless and truly dedicated worker for her charity and a compassionate person who truly does want the best for everyone! 

hotintexas
hotintexas

 @myfairlady12

 Wow and you call yourself myfairlady???  Think you need to watch the show again!!  Who are YOU REALLY??

AnnaManager
AnnaManager

 @myfairlady12 Catty, nasty side?  I didn't get that she was being entertained watching another being in pain.  Lea' was being Karent's friend and friends don't hide a mates cheating from a friend.  If you do hide it, you are not a friend.

Clinks
Clinks

 @myfairlady12  I disagree..you don't have a clue as to who Lea' really is in REAL life. 

 

Twiz
Twiz

 @miamihousewivesfan you clearly don't get Lea', looks like you are looking for her being the least genuine.  I think quite the opposite, but I guess everyone is entitled to their opinion and you get what you look for.

txchick
txchick

 @nycarrie  I liked it too and the cream outfit with the cute turban great for a vacation like that.  I want to order one of her handbags so bad for New Year's.  Maybe next year.

 

gini
gini

@reality4real The fact that Amy Philips is showing Lea's humorous side is a plus for Lea. I think Lea likes it.

Twiz
Twiz

 @shysharon Lying? Really, so where do you get your first hand information?

gini
gini

@rosyposy Lea is not coming off as two faced. She is the most upfront of all the cast. My mother always said when people look for faults in others is because they have the same fault in themselves. Look for the good in people and you will feel better about yourself. Just sayin!!!

txchick
txchick

 @AnnaManager  @CNelon  Agreed- fingers should be pointed at Alexia (not Lea) but most importantly at Rodolfo!!!  Karent needs to move on, which I'm sure she has.  Lea did no wrong here.

 

Kim-in-PB
Kim-in-PB

 @Happy-Housewife  @lisas58

 Yes, probably the heat is from Marysol and/or Ana!  It will take a lot more than rude comments on a blog to bring down Lea Black. She is a force of nature!

txchick
txchick

 @hotintexas  @myfairlady12

 Absolutely... "myfairlady" too funny on that name for her!!!  Sounds like she needs a name like "greenwithenvy"!!!  We love our Ms. Black, she makes the show for us!!!

Happy-Housewife
Happy-Housewife

 @reality4real   Looks like Lea has many fans and she is hilarious!!!  Love her wardrobe!!!  Don't care for the pity-party gal's on this show.  As always Lea has always stood on her own, she does so much for our community as we will stand by her. 

 

reality4real
reality4real

@Happy-Housewife @gini - Knock yourselves out defending her. To me (and many others) Lea is tacky, annoying, two-faced and has less than desirable friends. Even Karent did not appreciate her questions at dinner after she had confided in her. Lea was giddy with anticipation waiting for Karent to be told about Rodolfo's cheating and did everything possible to egg the others on. And no, she's not the least bit funny. (Her wardrobe is, though).