The Complexities of Relationships
This week we got a glimpse into the relationships of families.
Lenny's family and the beautiful lunch served by Lisa for her in-laws shows once again how important it is to Lisa to have a close relationship with Lenny's parents. You can see and feel the tension between Lisa and her in-laws, and see how difficult it is for her to be accepted by them. One wonders what expectations her in-laws had of who Lenny would marry. Obviously Lisa isn't quite what they expected. I find it sad that they can't see who Lisa is for Lenny, how happy they are as a couple, all the goodness Lisa has, and how important it is to Lisa to win them over. It once again points out the obvious: what you look for, you will find. If you look for the goodness, it is there, and if you look for what's wrong, you can always find something.
Fast forward to the relationship between Adriana, Frederick, Alex, and Frederick's family. You can see, and feel, the love in the air. Frederick's parents have embraced Adriana and Alex as children of their own. It's easy to see where Frederick gets his class, style, and generosity from.
No one watching your show can afford to buy that purse. If they could, they wouldn’t be watching their show because they would be living their own expensive and fun lifestyle.
So I’ve been following the show for awhile, and you have never liked Lisa. Did something happen off air that we don’t know about or something?
Why do you keep mentioning your purse on every blog post? I think we saw it the first time, and everybody knows how to find it…
I don’t really have a choice about whether I see my mother-in law or not considering I live with her…Yes, there are times I have to suck it up but I am thankful for the roof she puts over our heads.
I absolutely loathe my mother in law. I don’t even know why for certain, she just annoys me to no end and she never stops nagging…when it’s not like she doesn’t get enough chances to do that in her own marriage!
What an interesting blog post on something that I think all of your readers can agree to dislike together…IN-LAWS!!!
Lea, how old are you exactly? LOL sometimes to me you seem like you are an in-law yourself…
You can’t ever fake maturity or kindness. There will be a day when you slip up and everyone will finally get to see what the real you is like. Don’t cover yourself up for others, be real.
Thanks for the questions you asked at the end – as always, they give me a much needed reality check as well as a ton to think about. Still wondering what your answers would be on the subject.
Thanks for giving us a break in the negativity and just talking about something real for once! You should try it more often Lea, you may get more readers.
It’s nice to hear you say something nice about Lisa for once, but also extremely weird and unsettling at the same time.
Lenny didn’t stand up for Lisa like I thought he would have. Come on, it’s his parents so it is his problem too. Not to mention his unhappy WIFE.
I don’t know what they were expecting, it’s not like Lisa was going to change after marriage or anything. They already knew what they were getting into.
Any true housewife simply wouldn’t have the time to watch this show…so who are all you imposters..?? LOL
It’s all for ratings. Who really knows whats real and whats not. We don’t that’s for sure, and we’re all being taken for the ride. I don’t enjoy it anymore, so I’m hopping off the whole housewives wagon.
You girls really need to try out the whole “walk in the other persons shoes” thing for your in-laws.. Will you argue as much when your head isn’t so full of your own ego? That goes for everyone actually. Ego gets in the way of most things.
In-laws have their own marriage to worry about, how can they possibly find the time to worry about ours as well??
In-laws will always be difficult to get along with because they still think that they matter in your spouse’s life. Until they get a realization, nothing will be simple.
Lea, why are you being so nice to Lisa in this post? The last ten or so blog posts you always make your distaste for her clear…
I like my inlaws but I have never gotten upset if I thought they didn’t like me…I see them a couple hours at a time maybe once a month. It’s not a big deal.
Kudos on not ripping on Lisa in this post, but what called for the kindness? You never seem to practice what you preach unless you are being a hypocrite.
It’s around the holidays that I usually have to suck my ego up and show some kindness to the in-laws…besides that, I hardly ever see them which completely works for me.
I’ve gotta ask…what kind of double standards is this post?? Last we heard, you pretty much couldn’t stand Lisa…now you are standing up for her?
I like your purse and all Lea but the self marketing technique you are using is only going to lose you readers…
Stop plugging yourself at the end of every blog post. Honestly, like three people asked about it. They got the link. No need to keep reposting for people who aren’t interested.
Lea, you are supposed to be smarter concerning business…why do you keep pushing your purse on us blog readers? Do you think we really care and/or can afford to care about that purse??
If someone wants to find your purse, they will probably google it before they see this post. You can stop adding in the pointless self marketing.
You girls have some really irritating and mean brunches for such lovely looking girls…and food. Take advantage of all that food!
What works for me is being kind and ignoring anything else. I don’t need to bring out a mean or crazy side of myself just to deal with my in-laws. I treat them fine and if they don’t like me, oh well. I am still myself.
It’s whatever for me. I don’t really care either way if I get along with my husband’s family. I didn’t marry them. So I don’t care.
Lisa made them all an amazing brunch, the least they could do is act like they are enjoying her company…it’s not like they are being served frozen meatloaf, my god.
As long as a relationship keeps me happy and does not add too much stress to my life, I keep it. Once it starts wearing me down, it’s about time to go.
I just want my relationships to make me happy. As simple as that, and I believe it should be that way for everyone.
I hate all the ego-pushing everyone does once two families are together…it really isn’t that important and you shouldn’t be so self involved, it won’t get you anywhere.
I am VERY glad that I don’t celebrate most holidays…this means less in-law family time and more just bonding with the one I love! The way that it should be!
I place a lot of value in making my relationships work, unless they are with crappy people, and then I just drop them and try to ignore them so as not to upset my inner psyche.
Don’t deal with people that can’t even put effort into getting along with you. Honestly, it will go nowhere and will completely wear you out. Not worth it at all.
Does Lisa not know about “toxic” relationships? Lenny’s parents are obviously a big one, so you know what that means…get rid of them!!!
All Lisa has to remember to do is cherish her husband. The in-laws don’t matter, they are not part of your marriage.
Marriages will last as long as you put effort into them. Once the effort slips, the relationship slips. True story.
I wish that my husband was nicer to his mother, like Fredrick is, but that is his own personal business and I don’t really like to get into it.
I would like to fix the relationship with my father in law, but he is a jerk so that won’t be happening anytime soon.
LOL some of these responses are hilarious. My in-laws are easy to deal with, thank god. After reading some of those comments I actually went to go hug my mother in law!
Sometimes having a conversation with your mother in law is akin to smacking your face into a brick wall and then going back over later in the night for dinner to talk to the same wall.
My relationship with my husband is doing just fine even without the added support of inlaws. We each don’t like eachothers parents and we respect that. Our relationship includes two others – OUR DOGS. Much happier than in-laws.
My relationship works wonders for me and my husband. We kind of get along with his mother and both hate his father. That works just fine for us, and as a couple, we are lovely together.
You write so well Lea!! This is the first time that I have visited your blog and I am very happy to see a rich housewife that knows her spelling and grammar rules!