Leroy Black March 11, 1999 - March 27, 2012
This week’s episode was all about losses.
We had losses of marriages, losses of pregnancies, losses of communication, losses of relationships, losses of body weight and an old body, and for me personally -- loss of a pet.
I think it’s a reminder to give thanks for what we have and hold dear. Focus on what we have, not what we don't have, and give thanks. They say that when you lose someone, a time will come when you will be able to smile before you cry. I guess it can take a long time, because I'm not there yet with Leroy (was named after Lea and Roy).
I try to focus on all the unconditional love and joy that Leroy gave us, and I wait for the day that the tears are of joy and not sadness, knowing that there is nothing I can do that will ever allow me to get over him. I wake up every morning reaching for him before I realize he's no longer physically here.
Things to think about this week-
What do we have that we take for granted and if lost, we could never get over?
Do we spend too much time dwelling on things that aren't really that important?
Do we go out of our way to hurt or help people and do we compliment or criticize?
Do we look for the good or focus on the bad?
Do we give thanks and appreciation for our blessings or do we take things for granted?
Do we hold grudges or forgive and move on? And if we hold grudges, are we suffering unnecessarily and giving up who we could be during the process?
Do we have our priorities in order?
Do we realize what we put our attention on expands?
Till next week -- spread the love and keep the peace and don't deal with stupid.
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lea, you will meet leroy again across "rainbow bridge". its a beautiful poem that will give you comfort during the sad loss of your pet. google "rainbow bridge". so sorry, our prayers are with you.
Don’t take your pets for granted!!! Spoil them and love them with all your might. It is very hard to lose a little cuddlebug like Leroy.
What a good boy I’m sure Leroy was!!! Don’t worry Lea honey, you will see him again and those cute little eyes looking up at you. Just be patient and love.
Marvelous doggy you had Lea. Never forget and don’t be afraid to cry. It’s all natural and all part of the great love a dog can give us. A great pain as well, but the love will always outlive and outweigh the pain.
Thanks for the questions at the end. I really needed to hear them. You should try asking some of the other housewives some of that stuff. I’d really be interested in hearing some of those responses.
This is real life, girls, and this poor woman just lost a very important part of her life. Be kind. Hope to you, Lea. Sending you love.
What a rollercoaster…I have laughed, gotten angry and cried so much during this season. Geez!
Hopefully the girls will take it easy on you now for the rest of the season… or else I would just leave, personally…it’s not worth the time or emotional drama..
It can be easy to feel angry at the world right now, but remember what a great life you guys had and just work through the tough moments to get to the happy ones to come.
Do not be afraid to mourn all you want, but remember to be healthy and still take care of yourself Lea.
Hope the rest of the season turns out better for all of you girls… you need a bit of sunshine instead of all the drama and sadness.
Good to see so many pet lovers on this blog… they are little angels, aren’t they? We never forget a pet, they live on forever in our hearts.
I think I love my dog more than my husband… haha…made me think a lot though.. (and cry!!)….I never want that day to come.
Leroy, I’m sure, was an absolutely wonderful dog who led a great life. Never feel guilty about outliving them – that’s just the way that life works. If dogs lived longer and could talk, we’d probably marry them instead of men.
Strength is contagious – your son needs you right now so be sure to understand and listen to everything he says.
You are strong and you will persevere – learn how to cope and make sure that everyone in your family is alright as well of course. Your poor little son.
You have a great talent at seeing the bigger picture when others seem to fail to. You have a great head on your shoulders, Lea – glad to see such a wonderful woman doing so well in her life, even through tough times.
It’s a lovely day Lea, do not spend it sulking. Leroy is already outside right now, playing with all the other wonderful doggies that have so much love in them.
Maybe you should have a little pet funeral for Leroy! I’m sure your family would appreciate the words being spoken and a beautiful little service. They make doggy coffins (not to be too vulgar).
So sorry for both you and your son… losing a pet is extremely hard on a child, it can through them into a deep depression (I know it did for me…) watch out for him sweetie, look for any warning signs before it is too late.
Do not be sad when you don’t feel him next to you…he is just on another plane, where all the happy doggy souls are still following around their owners.
It will be during the hard times like these where you will realize who you have been surrounding yourself with and which of your friends will actually end up being there for you. Hope you are well.
I hope you can find another doggy to help you through and make you happy. It should never be thought of as replacing, it is just another soul to love!
Never feel sorry for not having spent more time with him – him and you had a wonderful life that cannot be competed with. Enjoy your day Lea.
Lea, here’s to hoping you get through the next couple episodes in one piece! I know that just about anything will be able to set you off now…
You should have a doggy fundraiser to raise money for all the sick dogs out there just waiting in shelters!! Call it the LEROY FOUNDATION!!!
In the hardest times, it is the easiest to see who our true friends are. Maybe you will learn something from this that will show who you should trust and invest your time into.
Sending you lots of hugs and kisses!!! Sorry for baby Leroy!!!! He is in doggy heaven now smiling down at you
Take whatever amount of time that you need to heal…and then, when you feel ready, I really think you should get a dog again. Animals give us something special that no person can compete with.
True, our pets do not outlive us, but that does not mean that we should not enjoy their company and try and love all the animals that we can…
Your post reminded me about what is important and what’s not. Thank you for the “reality check”. It is much needed and appreciated these days.
I don’t know what life would be like without my darling chihuahus. I have two of the little monsters and they are my biggest loves in the whole world. So sorry about Leroy..
I always put all of my effort and love into every pet that I own, and that’s the way it should be! I never get too afraid to get attached because I already know they will leave me, but that doesn’t mean I don’t love them any less.
You say “no more dogs” now, but honestly, that’s what everyone says after they lose a pet. It will change, it always does. Pets are a wonderful part of life and should never be given up just because they don’t outlive us.
Don’t run yourself out of steam, Lea. This type of event will make even the sanest person lose it. Doggies are very hard to lose, it’s true.
Personally, I think you should take a break from the show so that you can heal properly…hopefully the show executives know how to deal with this sort of thing.
You will see Leroy again in your dreams and in every doggy you see…his soul will live on and you will always feel the love.
I hate the drama on the show but I keep watching to see the true characters come out. Yours, Lea, is absolutely beautiful. Thanks for giving me some hope in television that real people can come forward and be honest.
I don’t believe that you will see any hate for you here, Lea. All love and positive vibes being sent your way. We know what it is like to lose something so special.
A sad but very true lesson that you have learned and shown us Lea. Thank you for being so open and honest about everything.
Do not take anything for granted!! People, understand that absolutely nothing on this world is guaranteed, not even the next hour!! Do not put off your love for someone until it is “convenient”, do it now!!
Honestly Lea, even if you aren’t ever planning on getting another dog, you really should consider. Believe me, you will not regret it. We have been through plenty of dogs in our lifetime and never regretted having to go through when they leave us because we enjoy the memories the most.
Hearts do heal, and of course the biggest take the most time but it is always worth the effort.
Thanks for sharing with us Lea, I appreciate you taking the time out of your day just to let us know about Leroy. Very sad news indeed.
Dogs are very hard to lose. I have never been a cat person, they don’t seem to be as loyal and truly loving as dogs are. So sorry for your baby.
I have had two babies of mine go to doggy heaven as well and although it can be very hard to accept, I always find another loveable doggy that needs to be cared for and I still put my all into loving them. It is a part of life.
I am happy that you were a responsible pet owner, unlike so many others today. The moment a dog of theirs get sick, I have known of some owners that just drop them off wherever they can. It’s terrible. Rest in peace Leroy!!
We had a Housewives gathering the other night for this episode and there wasn’t a dry eye in the room…needless to say we all had puppies.
Wishing you all the best. No one should have to lose something so important to them. Pets can really be our anchors at times…when one passes away, it becomes very easy to lose it.