Cast Blog: #RHOM

Romain Should Be Sexting Not Texting

Lea weighs in on Joanna and Romain's turbulent relationship.

Miami in the Fast Lane, starring Joanna and Romain!

Finally, Miami shows up! And it’s ORGASMIC. And it’s about time. Now I recognize Miami, the Miami I know and love. It's so exciting to see the supermodels, hot bodies, bikinis, sports cars, nightclubs, drag queens, hot tempers, boobs, pretenders, champagne, and the American flag.
This is the “Romain and Joanna take Miami” episode. Let’s start with the blonde bombshell in a skimpy negligee (and we know he likes vanilla not chocolate, thank you, Adriana!) sitting on top of the super hunk who prefers texting to sexting. "Show me a beautiful woman and I will show you a man tired of taking her sh--," he says. What was that about? Hmmm... Certainly no “climax” here.
Then fast forward to the thrill of Romain getting his citizenship; that was truly overwhelming. Was I the only one wiping tears away? What a special time for him and what a way to showcase Miami. This is the city that is the nucleus of many people’s dreams. Miami is inspiring for so many who started with so little other than their aspirations and dreams. It epitomizes hope, freedom, and prosperity and rewards you; if you work hard, you get to play hard. People from all over the globe risk everything and come here to chase the American dream. What a dream come true and such an inspiration for so many! You see, dreams really do come true. Isn’t that what life should be? Work hard, pay your dues, dream big, and make it happen. Congratulations, Romain, now that’s a “climax!” Who says you need sex to have a climax?
Intermingled amongst the “stars” of Episode 3 are the “extras.” That would be the rest of us. Compared to the accomplishment of becoming an American citizen and the blonde bombshell explosion -- well, some of the “extras” weren’t quite as exciting. Yawn.Thank you, Karent, for sharing the Skype a doodle with Rodolfo. I suppose some of us are curious, just not necessarily me. I hope your non-romance (according to some) romance (according to others) makes all your dreams come true. If you’re happy, I’m happy. Apparently not everyone feels the same.
And Adriana, the art gallery in the design district is filled with things that make your heart smile, so if you’re happy, I’m happy. I won’t be a spoiler, but as it unfolds, we will see that not everyone leaves your party happy. Stay tuned.
And then there are the “extras” that will do and say anything just to try to be relevant. Yawn. Snooze-fest.

Marta and Lisa, if it makes everyone happy, then move in together. Let’s just make it one big happy family. But "shoot me if at over the age of 25" I am having a friend move in so I can be busy. And if the highlight of my day is talking about my tits and ass. LOL!
Along come RJ and Freda -- welcome to my world. If they’re happy, I’m happy. Glad Roy was in Palm Beach working that week, or I may not have had time to do Freda’s hair.

And for me (one of the "extras"), well, I am working towards the annual charity gala, which has often been called the "party of the year." The one where those “unorganized” volunteers work year round for FREE and have been able over the last 18 years to raise well over twelve million dollars for of at risk kids that have no hope, no support, no family, and their only hope for a promising future are the volunteers that work tirelessly to help those who can't help themselves. Shame on anyone who would criticize a charity while being paid by the charity. Oops! But like they say, people will go to great lengths to justify their failures. I just cringe when they do it at the expense of a charity and charity volunteers; all while biting the hand that feeds them.
Enter diva Elaine Lancaster. Well Elaine and I go back many years. We aren’t “best” friends, but we are very good friends. Elaine’s best friends are people like Pamela Anderson, Zac Posen, and people whose names she wouldn't want me to drop. And she is welcome and invited into the biggest A-list celebrities’ homes and parties in the world -- people like Mick Jagger, Dennis Rodman, Kidd Rock, Jeremy Piven and so many others, the list is endless (just Google search her), and there is a reason for it. Elaine is a good friend to anyone who will let her be a good friend and has never sold out or betrayed a confidence. She always takes responsibility for her actions, who she is, and the character her counterpart, James Davis, has developed over the years. The diva is sometimes misunderstood, sometimes intimidating, and sometimes brings out the best in people and sometimes the worst. Being around a drag queen is sort of like being drunk -- it doesn’t change who you are, but it REVEALS who you are.

I have a lot of respect for someone who creates a vision from nothing and then makes it happen and works hard day and night to entertain people and help brighten someone’s day. Bless anyone who can spend five hours gluing on nails and eyelashes, and tucking away the obvious. That girl works hard for her money! And I love helping make her dreams come true. You haven’t seen the rest or the best of her yet. You go, girl, don’t let anyone rain on your parade! (Although some do keep trying.)I don’t know about you, but I was super duper shocked when out of nowhere came the Joanna explosion. Romain, you should have stopped the texting and had some sexting that day -- you know when a woman is hot she can only get hotter. And she was one hot mama that night. The best line of the night: “I felt anger filling my body.” Was that a blonde moment? Hilarious! Whew! But as much as I love Romain, Joanna is my girl, so you go, girl, don’t hold back, tell us how you really feel. At least you’re authentic and real, and I am not so sure we can say that about everyone. In fact, I am quite sure we can’t.

As the show continues, keep your eyes wide open. Watch to see who can fool some of the people some of the time. (As our 16th President Abraham Lincoln once said, "You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all of the time.") Wonder who this stiletto will fit, if anyone. Haha, someone stop me, I am having way too much fun. You know I can't deal with stupid.And then the soap opera ending, poor Romain, walking away with his tail between his legs, his ten-year Mynt anniversary party went awry. But don’t feel too sorry for him, I have a feeling the making up was as explosive as the fighting. It's definitely worth staying tuned for!

Spread the love, keep the peace, and whatever else you do this week, "don't deal with stupid."

By the way, many of you asked about the handbag I wore at the premiere, it’s my personal design at And if you watched Watch What Happens Live, callers mentioned my face looked “refreshed.”  For all my beauty secrets, go to Enjoy!

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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!

It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.

I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!

I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.

Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.

Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.

I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.

Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.

And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.

My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.

So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.

I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.

Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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