Cast Blog: #RHOM

Lea's Nasty Comments

After watching the episode, Marysol wishes she had never made up with Lea.

Wow!  It seems that any chance Lea has to make a snarky, nasty comment about me, she takes and goes full force, and now she has taken things way too far. For most of you watching since Season 1, our show was taped a year prior to being aired. I was actually married on March 25, 2010, my husband and I separated in December 2011. After many emotional attempts to reconcile, we went back and forth for months and finally decided to proceed with our divorce this past summer, July 30, 2012 –- knowing that there’s always an option to reunite if it felt right. In no way is it appropriate and out of context to make fun of the downfall of someone else’s marriage. The difference between us is that I don’t find pleasure in hurting others.

As far as Karent’s relationship with Rodolfo, I don’t know them on a personal level and I don’t stick my nose in other people’s relationships. While we were in Bimini, Mom asked me to call her every day to fill her in on what was happening. I can never predict how my mother is going to react, but she was right about Karent’s personal life not being anyone’s business, and I couldn’t agree more. I know everyone felt uncomfortable having the article laying around so Alexia decided to rip it up and flush it down the toilet and it was never brought up again.

Ana decides to cook a lovely dinner and invite the other ladies over to our house. I was really looking forward to a nice meal and pleasant conversation, however the evening’s tone turned very quickly the minute we sat down.  Let’s just say, there was no bread to break.  First topic of conversation was Lisa Pliner and the big blonde and how he felt that I did not apologize even though I did -– twice. In efforts to eliminate expenses, Lisa texted me that she did not want to use James to host her event if he was going to charge her.  Not only did she say it once, but twice in a text message and admitted it on camera to Ana and me -– end of story. She knew she couldn’t lie to me and tell me the story she told everyone else and get away with it, because I had the proof in a text message from her. Why did Lisa and the big blonde go to such great lengths to create all this drama? If I had to guess, it would be a combination of fame hungry sprinkled with the desperate desire to be on TV.Quite often, Lea likes to throw around contentious words like “denial” when she is talking or referring to me. She is right about one thing: I was in denial to ever believe she could have been my friend. She doesn’t know the true meaning of friendship or camaraderie; it seems she doesn’t like other women and thrives on hurting them with nasty insults. Let it be clear that just because someone is louder and more hysterically animated when they speak does not mean they are telling the truth. Just because I am calm and soft spoken by nature, does not mean I am hiding or omitting anything. No one knows what exactly happened at Lea’s gala except for her employees and mine. I know the conversation seemed confusing to the rest of the ladies and probably to the viewers, but that is the language of our business and if you weren’t an intricate part of the daily details, it is difficult to understand this situation.

To clarify, I volunteered the services of my staff to work on the gala press two out of three years, so figure about three months of work per gala (six months in total). We take our work very seriously, whether we are paid or not. The Black’s gala was not properly staffed to assist my team in executing the red carpet. If her donors were so important to her, she should have sent their names to us in advance so my staff was prepared to recognize and receive them on the red carpet. We asked several times for the names and we only received two names the day before the gala. Sending the names (and photos) of your VIP’s or sponsors to a PR firm is essential and is standard event protocol.  This insures that people who so generously have helped you create the evening are recognized and are escorted down the red carpet. Neither myself nor my staff could ever begin to guess who gives the Black’s big sponsorship dollars. Many of those relationships are cultivated through personal friends and business associates and are people that are not often in the limelight.  The lack of transferring this simple information to my team could have avoided whatever problems she had with the people that were important to her foundation.

I knew she blew everything up at my expense to create drama around her gala again.  I’m not surprised by this behavior, since Lea surrounds herself with dregs of society so she must assume that everyone is just as underhanded and calculating (birds of a feather).On one last note, I would like to say that while I was filming this season I was an emotional mess and there wasn’t a day that went by that I didn’t break down and cry at least three times. My parent’s health, 50 year marriage, and my marriage were all falling apart and subsequently so was I. I tried very hard to hide my tears and hurt for the cameras, but by the time we got to Bimini and Lea and I argued for what seemed hours, I just cracked. I know it seemed like a touching moment, but at the time Charles Manson could have hugged me and I would have collapsed in tears. I wish I could take back everything I said to Lea when she hugged me. Had I known all the things she had been saying behind my back on camera leading up to that dinner, things would have been quite different.

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!

It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.

I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!

I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.

Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.

Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.

I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.

Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.

And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.

My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.

So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.

I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.

Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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