Alexia Echevarria

Alexia explains how this season really helped her family's healing process.

on Nov 15, 20130

So it's that time again! REUNION... What can I say? As expected, to say there was drama is an UNDERSTATEMENT! LOL! It would not be a Miami reunion without any. You always go into these things expecting that we will all walk away and it will be peaches and cream, but the only peachy thing that came out of this reunion was the color of our blush. The energy and tension was so present during filming, it was not a fun environment on and off camera. There was so much chaos that I had no other option than to try to sit back and not feed into it, not that I had a second to chime in… I couldn’t get a single word in with all these ladies yelling over each other!

It's not worth it. I won't fight other people's battles, especially if I feel it's useless, unimportant, and I am not going to accomplish anything. I'm not saying that my problems are more important than theirs, I'm just saying that mine are mine and they are real problems, so I won't bother. I have enough with mine. The past is the past and you can't hold on to it if you want to move forward.

For me particularly, as I have stated before, this season was very therapeutic for me, because I got to really share my personal challenges and progress with my family after Frankie's accident. I also feel liberated, because I finally was able to speak about something that happened 23 years ago that I was so ashamed of and had caused so much pain in my life and in my son Peter's life. I am so glad that all of you, my fans, got to see this, because I know that I'm not alone. I am eternally grateful for all of the incredible people showing support and sharing their own stories and how I have served as inspiration to them. That is what it’s all about!

Another subject I got to speak about at the reunion was my ex-husband Peter (Peter and Frankie's Dad) and our past. It was a very trying time for me; I struggled with acceptance, being a single mother, and loving someone enough to stand behind them and wait around. I kept his past from my kids for too long and maybe that was a mistake, but I am human and no one is perfect in life. I felt I was doing the correct thing by protecting them.

83 comments
KathyFay1
KathyFay1

Love you Alexia, you are so straightforward and sensible yet fun and beautiful, your a strong woman but also candid,  cannot wait for next season, hope your family continues to stay healthy, xo

samuelpolanca
samuelpolanca

Cuban doll?

I would say Cuban SCARECROW!

U ARE DISGUSTING!

Cindy81
Cindy81

you attacked Lisa!!! You're delusional!

zoeyblu
zoeyblu

I don't think you add anything to the show . I think you are boring .................

 

Very ordinary lady

cars121
cars121

While I clearly understand your perspective resulting in you choosing not to get involved in petty arguements, your inconsistency in application & definition of the term friend is confusing.  A true friend does provide tacit approval to deceitful behavior of one friend while judging a different 'friend''s reaction to being the victim of the deceit of the first.  You don't seem to have a problem calling 'friend' Lea out on what you percieve as her character flaws while turning a blind eye to Adriana's histrionic manipulations & outright proven lies.  You seem to have a real problem holding those closest to you accountable.  Expecting viewers to give you a pass on your selectivity of who you call out by glossing over significant issues between friends by devaluing their importance in comparison to your personal family struggles doesn't fly when you choose to insert your two sense when it suits you.  You DO play both sides of the fence...not well, but you try.  You are no friend to Lea, you clearly make what effort you feel is required to maintain cordial contact for business/professional benefit.  You think you're a loyal friend to Adriana but you are enabling & feeding into the worst parts of who she is by not holding her accountable for choices & actions that you would have vilified others for.  You end up looking two faced & hypocritical while trying to 'as you say' stay 'neutral.

Tjjoanna
Tjjoanna

I just wanted to share something with you. It has nothing to do with your blog but I didn't know where else to post. I love RHWM (and a few other real housewives shows). I just wanted to let you know that I think you are such an incredibly strong woman and mom. My 9 yr old boy had a bad concussion a week ago where he was drooling and couldn't tell the doctors his birthday, what hews for Halloween or who I was. Needless to say it was one of the scariest moments of my life. When I would burst out in tears a nurse would tell me to try and be strong for my son because he hears and sees my fear and worry. I have to tell you, YOU popped in my mind. How strong you were/are for Frankie when he went through an even more sever brain injury. I just felt I must share with you that I WAS able to keep myself together thinking that a mom must and CAN be strong for her baby. Needless to say he is doing well and is gradually getting back on track. Thank you for showing me (and I am sure many other moms) how strong we can be for our babies. You are an amazing person and by far my favorite!

plainandsimple
plainandsimple

As a person who is not of Cuban descent from Miami, I find it pretty funny that you think Lisa calling you and your group of friends a "gang", as racist. First of all being Cuban doesn't make you a member of any one "race"... you belong to an ethnicity composed of different races.. which if you don't know consists of Caucasion, African, Native American, Chinese etc. Sooo with that said Lisa was simply comparing you guys to a "gang" because of your gang like behavior. Get a dictionary.. please.

 

And, while I am definitely not saying you are racist because I don't know you. I do know from experience that many Cubans, (not all) have an elitist, ethnocentric way to them. So before you use the "race card" make sure you have a convincing explanation.

 

And as for your son, unfortunately you are an enabler... There is not one ounce of doubt that you love your son, but You are Enabling him and you're just setting him up. Tough Love Lady!

 

And your Ex was a part of the whole Cocaine Cowboys ring! And Miami was built on drug money...nothing legit!

 

Take care Ya'll :)

wiscfan
wiscfan

I have sons so I understand your protectiveness and caring heart.  I just wish you didn't try to play both sides with the women to stay in everyone's good graces.

HW84
HW84

You are definitely my favorite Alexia!  I have enjoyed watching you, I hope you are back next season.  Best wishes to you and your family.

NBBG
NBBG

Alexia,I am happy for you that finally you've made a peace with your past, I am sure this will make you a better and happier person.I think that trying to be very defensive and strong for so long in your life have weakened you in other areas and for that reason I think you must seek therapy asap- You are often acting in such obnoxious condescending behaviors - You have insecurities and jealousy and it's so clear to me and many more viewers that you can't be objective with Lea. Either your star signs are not a match or she reminded you that once you dreamed of having it all at high school. And there she is in your eyes having it all. You know Lea's husband money didn't give a new life has just escalated what she already accomplished by herself. She was successful and giving enough to pay her some if not all (can't remember) nephew and niece college funds.You can't be angry with Lea for talking about your son's wrong doing what happens in society talked by everyone, that's a reality !  I don't think she wished your son to be in jail afterall her charity is all about preventing youngsters to end up in jail !!!Stop being jealous, enjoy your privileged life and try to become better person. It seems like you won't be able to help yourself with all that happens in your life, see a therapist.   Lea has handled all situation with Marysol and Adrianna like a class act but your personal feelings towards her blinds you and as result you look spiteful and mean all the time and it is not attractive.

My guess is Herman is suggesting you to be friendly with Lea for social obligations listen to him. Anytime you make silly comments about Lea; I like her more

writing on your blog that  ''I feel Lea will never forgive Adriana deep inside and will continue to bring up her past and everything she did for her" is a dig and shows that you don't have the intelligent to be able to see what is right and wrong in that situation or perhaps you can relate to Adriana in that case and your values are not match with LeaAttacking Lisa with racist comment was laughable so unintelligent and sadly ignorance, read more, rest more, eat well may help to increase your brain functioning !

I like watching you the times when you are real, mature, honest and smiling

alexandra1
alexandra1

Alexia, I love watching you when you interact with your kids and your mom. I would like to see more of that in the show and maybe some nice places to visit in Miami with your family.

drh255
drh255

Good Luck with your son Peter...and thank you for sharing your story...it really touched me...I loved the show with your family dinner.  I hope you and Lea remain friends...you are both honest, straightforward women who try their best to keep things civil.  When you two are together I can relax and enjoy and not worry about stupid nonsense transpiring. Yes, digs are thrown on occasion, but I do commend you for sticking up for Lea on that day trip with the other women as you were leaving to go to Lea's event.  It can't be easy navigating amongst all those personalities.  You rose above the fray and hopefully they learned something from you...especially that awful Ana...ugh.  You don't need to be socializing with someone like her.  Sorry to see the fight with Lisa on the reunion...she was extremely emotional and didn't seem to be holding up like the others under the insults, etc.  I am glad you had positive things to say about her in your blog...she seems fragile right now and needs the support of good friends.  Looking forward to seeing you next season.

Anne0
Anne0

I thought the scene with your family celebrating your anniversary was beautiful. Continued healing for your son.

Dreid123
Dreid123

Please go away next season! Bravo, replace Alexia and Adriana. You can take Lisa too please! I will have to deal with Marysol but without the other two her power will weaken!

Constance1
Constance1

Sorry Alexia, you did play both sides in several episodes, especially where Lea was concerned.  And as far as some of the ladies never speaking to each other again, where does that leave the show?  Seems to me it should either be recast or cancelled.  Good luck to you.

hannah79
hannah79

I haven't watched you enough to have an opinion on your character.  I don't think you are mean but inconsistent.  It's not clear to me who are your real friends; and, if you are actually real friends to anyone on this show.

Jonster
Jonster

I felt there was a moment on that leaky stripper bus when you were going to Gay Polo with those clowns where you could have gone either way re Lea.  You were telling the truth, that the auction benefitted kids, etc.  But the gang on the bus didn't want to hear about that.  Marysol's Gucci dress was getting wet, you were on the fence, but they went all out to convince you Lea is a two-faced liar, and in the following episodes it seemed they convinced you that she was, which I found sad.  You can rise above your past.  I hope you do.

be@ch
be@ch

Alexia, you should be thankful to Adriana, she keeps you from being the most hated RHOM.  You seem to think you are above other people, and that other people are stupid.  You must think fans are stupid too, if you think we're going to buy the BS you're trying to sell.

JuanCarlos
JuanCarlos

We can all judge you.  You're an enabler to your children, you're phoney to your "friends." and you're exaggerrating about being prejudiced against.  

 

However, if I were your child (mind you, I'm old enough to be your older brother) - I'd sell half my soul to have a mother who defended me as you do your kids.   I might question your timing with regard to your comments to Lea but, we have a different and edited vantage point.  As for prejudice... well, I'm Cuban and I refer to myself in so many different ways - most of which might appear to be quite self hating or prejudiced.  It's not.  But, again, prejudice is a private thing - it's all within your perception. 

 

All in all, whilst I can't say BRAVO - I can definitely say I love the fact you are such a loving mother to your children.  I certainly hope they grow up to be the sons you want them to be.  It's been insightful to have you all a part of our lives and ... well, this reunion will propbably be the last we see of the Miami housewives ... but mazel tov to you and yours.  

Kate123
Kate123

Alexia, you are no friend of Lea's even though you try to appear to be. You are ever so as mean and vicious as the other girls and partake in the vicious talk when you are around them. You don't have Lea's back and is not her friend and try to play both sides of the fence but it comes off as so un authentic. Take a stand one way or another otherwise you come across as two faced. I want to like you but you talk out of both sides of your mouth and your actions are very telling. You are pretty transparent where you really stand.

 

dobnerk
dobnerk

Alexia, I've been 'on the wall' about whether or not I was a fan of yours.  Well after the last season (and especially the reunion) I've decided that there was no way I could possibly be a fan of yours.  You were horrible to Lisa, who is ten times the woman you are, and are not the kind of mother that anyone should aspire to be.  I'm so disappointed in you! 

Shelleycon
Shelleycon

Yeah great nobody cares we thought you'd gone.

sillytv
sillytv

omg amazed that you threw Lisa under the bus at the reunion, and in such a high-handed manner!

rudy90210
rudy90210

Alexia, I have always wanted to like you, but this season you showed a real cowardly side, and I know you can do better. You have been strong for your son, yet you don't appear to stick with your convictions, or you haven't figured them out yet.

Dreid123
Dreid123

I'd like to thank Bravo for getting Ana and Roberts tighty whiteys off the tv !!!! Good looking out!

sholly
sholly

You are an amazing mom. Peter made some HORRIBLE choices but hopefully he has learned and repented for them. No one is perfect but I have faith that he will turn his life around. Frankie never fails to make me smile! His progress is amazing and is happiness contagious! I hope peter realizes how much Frankie looks up to him! Good luck and stay above the fray!

Sweeteena1018
Sweeteena1018

Get this in your "Cuban Barbie doll" head.....We are not FANS, we are VIEWERS!

You are on a reality TV show, I can do that.  People on TV with special gifts and talents

such as musicians and sports figures have fans but not reality TV personalities IMO.

Candy_V
Candy_V

There are a lot of strange and some mean comments below but I just want you to know I like you.  I didn't like EVERYONE during most of the reunion - I think you and the rest of the housewives did say things that should not have been said out of anger or frustration.   I hope you are back next season and I really hope that Lea is gone.

Heidi_Ylenni
Heidi_Ylenni

I actually liked you much better this season. It is very clear how much you love your kids and I respect you for that. I don’t think you are a being an enabler because you did get that Peter was going down the wrong path and you got him help. I get why you would want to stay out of the others ladies drama because you do have “real problems”.

WCW
WCW

Alexia, Sorry but I simply am not a fan of yours. Your life, your struggles, your enabling, your backstabbing and your need to feel superior are simply just plain delusional and boring to watch. Take your pretentious nonsense and go home.

metoo2
metoo2

I disagree that Alxeis is two faced. She has FIVE FACES!!  She is phony and I hate her blonde hair. She is an insecure  "wanna be" Just  saying LOL

kawiega2001
kawiega2001

Alexia, I love the way you handled yourself and others this season.  You obviously will always stand up for what you believe is right, even if so many others disagree, and I admire that about you.  You also show a great deal of care for your family and it's obvious that you have kept your faith in both of your sons as they became better people this season.  The only thing I did not like about you was how mean you were to Karent Sierra in the past.  You can be a bit bully-ish at times and need to temper that.  But you call it like it is and I love it.  When Lea and Lisa acted out of line, you corrected them.  I think what you went through with your family has made you a very strong person and so nobody had better mess with you!  

zarathustra
zarathustra

Alexia, For some reason unbeknownst to me, I am a fan of all of the real housewives shows, they're my guilty pleasure.. I would never take the time to write a comment because to consider myself a "fan" would send my neurons on a suicide mission. But I just had to write you this and express to you that you are the O N L Y  person on all of these shows, that I would ever look up to. You are the epitome of HONOR and STRENGTH in a woman. Disregarding your mistakes with your ex-husband etc.. you always manage yourself with such dignity and powerful determination that is truly inspiring. You are the only one of the girls that is painstakingly honest about everything, the way you handled everybody banding against lea or leah (however you spell her name) is a tribute to your moral compass. You always left it very clear that you had no problem with her, but that you understood that due to her history with everybody else you'd have your guard up. The only reason that Leah? backfired at you at the reunion is due to the fact that you are the only one honorable enough to take seriously in that show. She understood that if doubts about her character came from Your mouth, then it MUST be true. You are the only rival worth having on that show, and due to that she'll make sure to never make an enemy out of you. You are the only reason anyone with half an ounce of integrity watches this stupid show, and I just really wanted you to know that. Your sons will be fine, there is no way you could ever be a better mother. My heart goes out to you and your family, and I send you all my blessings, Never stop being the role model that you are, and please continue showcasing your strength in this show, as ridiculous as it might sound, (to take lessons in life from a reality show) Some of us are ACTUALLY learning a lot from you. God bless xx

wayiseeit
wayiseeit

As Lisa said, you really are a b. And your friend Ana and adriana are evil.

wayiseeit
wayiseeit

ALEXIA!  You are a bully! You said you have fun fighting with Lisa because she is easy to beat. You excuse your son kicking a homeless person.  I have had as much tragedy as you and your son, yet I don't abuse others or make excuses for my family members to hurt others. I have a relative who is homeless due to mental illness and I find it appalling how self serving you are. You are so passive aggressive with Lea. You are not her friend. Seems you are so jealous and threatened by Lea. You seem so materialistic. I read you were a massive coke head and that is why your nose is wonky.

I hate how you hold your head and chin up because you do look like a PUNK. You bullied Karent last season. Its a joke to me that you see no foul in lunatic and liar Adriana. You are not a good person. You live in a glass house and seem to have a lot underneath your fake composure. You are just as bad as adriana and such a fake fake person.

Dr.Di
Dr.Di

Playing both sides of the fence is never easy, but when you have a camera crew there to record every duplicitous word you say, it's kind of impossible.  You act like you are above all the drama, but you are right there in the mix with the rest of them.  Not sure why you think you are superior Lisa.  You are both privileged because you married well.  Period.  

gessie
gessie

I can't believe you expect sympathy for your son who attacked a homeless person.  and nobody had the guts on that show to say what your son is inexcusable.

somershousewife
somershousewife

Do you actually believe that your castmates should have said it was ok for you son to beat up a homeless person.  As far as his story for being angry "daddy didn't love him"...give me a break.  Everyone has a story including the homeless man and he didn't deserve to be beat up!!!

You are pathetic.

kekekinz1
kekekinz1

Umm but you did fight people's battles ALL seaon long. You are SO passive aggressive! You kept chiming in every time Joanna was arguing with Lisa. Why would you even think to ask what Lisa did before Lenny?! Lisa's job was very similar to Joanna's! Only difference between her and Joanna is that Lenny makes so much money so she doesn't have to now!

 

And how dare you try to say Lea doesn't know how her son will be when he is older. What a nasty dig and all over a lie Adrianna told you! I don't believe for one second she wished bad upon your son who DOES deserve to go to jail.

bjunebug28
bjunebug28

You most definitely enable your son.  You did at the reunion by downplaying everything he's done.  You say Peter and the cabbie were both wrong, but the cabbie only made a gesture and Peter resorted to physical force buy hitting the cab.  That is not the same in the eyes of the law.

 

You have been talking smack about Lea all season long and she has done nothing to you.  Your digs against her all relate to what you now term as other people's battles that suddenly you don't have time to engage in.

 

Finally, Lisa a racist?  Get real.  You know that Cuban comment was not racist.  Jesus if you are going to pull out the racist card, then make sure you have the facts to back it up, or else you take away from legitimate cases of racism.

 

I suggest next season you pick a side.  

 

 

 

jordy
jordy

Alexia, Please quit trying to act like you're above all the drama!! Your obnoxious condescending behavior was recorded and aired for all the viewers to see.

bosheba
bosheba

Your words inspired me when my 15 month old was in the hospital. You are gorgeous, intelligent and strong. God bless you and your family!

sarah100
sarah100

You aren't a very beautiful woman. That's about it. I don't enjoy listening to your rants.

kabergen2
kabergen2

I think your son needs counseling, but not with your mother.

she-devils-advocate
she-devils-advocate

 @plainandsimple Mhmm, and for her to play it out like she didn't know what was going on because she was young, naive and in love is cute to see--NOT!  Maybe her mom bought that story, but nobody else is biting.  

 

She was all about that lifestyle and loving it.  

J.Mobile
J.Mobile

 @sillytv Throwing anyone under the bus (even more so in a disgusting manner like Alexia did) shows her own insecurities such as marrying for money. Strong people don't throw anyone under the bus.