Cast Blog: #RHOM

Alexia Puts Family First

Alexia provides some insight into her life, her boys, and her mother.

I'm so excited to be back as a full-time Housewife and be able to share my miracle with you. I knew it was a story of so many that had to be told. It was God's love and grace that brought me through this difficult time.

I never imagined a phone call on a Sunday, August 14, 2011 at approximately 3 PM would plunge me into the journey ahead and a battle to bring my family through every parent's worst nightmare. I had never had my strength so challenged or my faith so tested as it would be in the last two years. All I knew was that my world was spinning out of control, and I didn't know how I was going to get my family through this, let alone me.

In this season, you will see just that -- the difficulties and challenges of recovering both of my boys, Peter and Frankie. My boys have always been my life and my priority. You can say whatever you want about me, but not that I am not a good mother. They have and will always be first. I have sacrificed many things in life because of them, and I continue to do so. I just want to see them healthy, both emotionally and physically. So my mom, Nancy, is in Miami now. She lives in Madrid and has been living there for the past 20 years. She's decided to spend some time here, because I, as well as my kids, need her. She's a psychiatrist and a very strong and wise woman. My boys are close to her, and Peter especially feels comfortable talking to her.



I spend all of my days with Frankie. My day is filled with his therapies, driving to and from school, and Venue Magazine (Frankie comes along), and I have Peter there often helping out. I feel that integrating and exposing him to social settings has helped him in his recovery; his language and ability to communicate continues to improve.I'm happy about seeing the ladies at Miami Fashion Week. I've only seen Ana, Marysol, and Adriana since the reunion. I already knew about Adriana being married, because Adriana had called me herself when the article came out in the paper. I'm not surprised that Lisa started up the conversation about Adriana being already legally married to Frederic. I don't think she cared so much about the it, it was more that she wanted Adriana to know how upset Lea was and suggested they speak. In my opinion, the only ones who can resolve this are Lea and Adriana, and that's if they want to, and I don't think they do. Adriana explains herself very well. She is sincere and convincing, at least to me!

Lisa invited us all to her house with plans of talking, mending, and reconciling friendships and relationships, but it wasn’t going to happen, especially since Lea didn’t even show up. I must say it was a nice afternoon with beautiful weather, appetizers, and cockies (as Marysol calls them, LOL!). I also feel that Joanna and Adriana are ready and willing to move forward, but not sure for how long... Let’s just enjoy the happy moment.
What wasn't so happy was seeing Marysol break down about her mom. I know that pain -- the fear and the helplessness. I know that your life can change in one second. That is why we have to enjoy every minute of it, be at peace with ourselves, and tell everyone you love "I love you every time you get the chance. Take it from me, those were Frankie's words to me before his accident, and lucky for me they still are today!

God Bless,
Besos (Kisses)
Alexia

Like always I leave you with these thoughts:

Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement.
Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.
- Hellen Keller

I KNOW that miracles exist.
Frankie is a walking miracle.
- Alexia

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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

Please comment below, it would mean a lot to me to hear your final thoughts.



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