Cast Blog: #RHOM

Ana and Lea's Hypocritical Behavior

Alexia shares her thoughts on all the conflict at her Venue party.

Hi everyone! Hoping you all enjoyed your Labor Day weekend!

All I can say is wowww about my Venue cover party at Story Night Club! Did all of that go down that night? I was getting sick that night (the night before Lea's gala ) as you can hear in my voice, and on top of that being that it was a club it was very loud and difficult to speak and listen. On top of everything, it was my party and I was not getting involved. The good thing was that I didn't have to throw anyone out!

Seriously, it is not my fight. I had many other important things to be worried about that night, and fighting with girls was not one of them. I invited ALL of the girls, because I am friendly with all of them and always invite them to my things. I was a bit concerned because I knew they were all going and things could get ugly like they did.I was really happy to see Lea there. Like usual she was punctual and I wasn't. It's always a long night for me, so I try not to be the first one there, LOL! Herman always wants us to be there first since we are the hosts, but it never happens that way. Sorry, Lea! LOL!

I was happy to have that moment with Lea especially when she got on her knees. Lea has always supported Herman and I, and I am very grateful to her. She is that kind of friend, and I love and respect that about her. Even though it was the night before her gala and she was extremely busy, she made it a point to attend.

Looking now at all of this, I see that Lea was being diplomatic and trying to avoid conflict. She didn't want to be disrespectful towards me and didn't want any kind of trouble or drama, but it was inevitable. There is so much anger and resentment between the ladies that it had to come out. I was so nervous that I didn't even know what to do. I myself was shaking just like Lea. I wasn't aware of the problems between Frederic and Romain. What I was aware of was the fact that Lea and Ana dislike each other to put it mildly, and that's why I was in complete shock when I see Ana and Lea saying hello to each other and exchanging kisses! What? Seriously? They left me no choice but to call them hypocrites! I've been listening to both of them for all of this time, and now they are saying hello? I CAN'T! You don't have to go at each other, especially at my party, but simply ignoring each other would suffice. What is going on with these ladies? Do they forget what they say and do? Do they have selective memory? Whatever.


Needless to say, after the storm comes the calm and indeed everything calmed down. Some of the ladies stayed and some left, and I got to have my champagne and enjoy the rest of the evening with Herman and our guests that were there just like me to celebrate our cover with Juanes.So Adriana's story continues to get juicier… The only story I know and I'm believing is the one about her son Alex. It's the only one that makes sense to me. I'm a mother of two boys, and when I met Herman, they were 3 and 7 years old and they too gave me a very hard time. Except I didn't live with or marry Herman right away like she did. I waited 3 years until Peter and Frankie and I were ready. Adriana told me she decided to call things off as well as Frederic because of her son Alex. He didn't want her to marry Frederic at that time, because it was too soon and he was giving her a hard time. This started bringing problems and fights into their relationship, so they decided to call it off . They had gotten married civilly so it was too late, but they decided to keep it to themselves and just tell people they weren't doing it and never told Alex. I could honestly see a mom doing that, regretting it, and wanting to take it back even though it was too late.

What I am now confused about is the fact that it is a big deal NOW if they continued as a couple living together and everyone knew it? To me the piece of paper is just that, a piece of paper. To me the important thing is their love and commitment was there. They lived together the 3 of them under the same roof and as a family, married or not. I feel like Lisa right now – CONFUSED! In my eyes, they have always been married, piece of paper or not.Marysol asked me to come over to her apartment to chat. I've been spending quite some time with her since her mom's injury. She asked a tarot reader, Cari, to come over and give her a reading. Like Elsa, my mom would read my sister and I the tarot cards on Sunday afternoons. That was the day she was inspired. So I get that whole thing, especially at a time like this when she is so worried and concerned about her mom. She feels maybe Cari can tell her something about her mom's health. I personally am afraid and don't want to know. I like to live in my own little world. Denial? Maybe? Anyhow, I sit back and I listen and I continue to do what I do best: Pray, pray, and pray!



Thank you for watching. Thank you for all of your love, support, and prayers. I've received so many beautiful comments and tweets. I've met such amazing people in Publix, on the street, everywhere. Since the show started there are so many people that have thanked me for sharing my story, and honestly this is the best part of being on the show -- meeting exceptional people like you!



 

Until next week!



God Bless,


Besos (Kisses)


Alexia



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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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