Cast Blog: #RHOM

Joanna Talks Role Playing

Joanna reveals how she felt playing Natalia the Russian ballerina.

After my trip back from LA, I thought a lot about what my mom said and also about the fact that Romain made amends with Frederic. That got me thinking and that is why I deiced to have a sit down lunch meeting with Adriana and try to work out our issues and past harassments. I hate having the horrible knot in my stomach every time I know I am going to see her. I wanted once and for all to sit down and move forward from this, since I am focused on my career and wedding and don't have the time nor the energy to keep going back in circles over the same thing over and over again.

I won’t lie, I was super nervous how the lunch would turn out and if she would understand why I feel the way I do and if she would sincerely apologize to me. I was on the fence, since I thought her apology in Bimini was sincere and turned out not to be. I don't have time in my life for hate and bad energy, and I only try to surround myself with good people, but I do believe in second chances and that is why I want to give that opportunity to her. I am not planning on being her best friend, but I want to move forward from this and focus on the important things in my life.

I thought it was quite rude for Adriana and Frederic to be late over an hour to the lunch, because I took time from my busy schedule and I made it on time… Since they were so late, I was worried this lunch was going to end up badly or they wouldn’t show up at all. I was utterly surprised how the lunch meeting went, and for once we got everything off our chest without having a screaming match. I think a lot had to do with the fact that both of our men were there and kept us calm. Probably means we should always have them around when we are together to make sure nothing gets out of hand, haha!
 
Finally Romain made it to the sex therapy session, and I though it went quite well. I loved the idea of role playing to spice up our love life a bit, but I was also worried how I was going to pull this off, so I decided to totally revamp and change my look and take this acting assignment quite seriously.

The night of the role playing I had major anxiety and was having second thoughts about this role playing assignment. But I am the type of person that sticks to a commitment and doesn't give up easily, so I knew I had to get myself together to make this work. And also have fun with it, because it was my Romain after all… I wanted to look the opposite of how I normally look, so I got a short dark wig and did my makeup super dark, which is the opposite of what I normally do. I really wanted to get into the whole character I was going to play -- Natalia the Russian ballerina. I came up with Natalia, because I felt it seemed exotic, plus Russian girls are super hot and maybe that would get Romain excited LOL!


On my way to the Four Seasons bar I already had a few shots of vodka at home, since I was super nervous and felt uncomfortable because it wasn't Halloween and I felt out of my comfort zone. But I had to go on with it as I went this far to get ready and change my look, but didn't want to give up now. When I sat down at the bar and saw Romain, it was hard for me to keep a straight face without blowing up in laughter, because this was so different from how we are, but at that point I was feeling good since the alcohol had kicked, and I started feeling much more confident in my character. As the conversation went on, I couldn't believe the things Romain was saying, so I was playing along and decided that Natalia wasn't going to be a sweet little girl like the sex therapist would like her to be and I made her a tough chick – an exaggerated version of myself LOL! As we went up to the room things just went downhill from there, and I ended up taking off my wig and giving up on the whole role playing thing, but I will say I had so much fun playing someone else for a few hours, and that is what I love about Romain. We are so goofy together! He is not an uptight guy and he’s open to doing whatever he needs to make our relationship strong. We are a dream team, even though we are crazy, but one thing no one can deny is that we are REAL!

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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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