Joanna Krupa

Joanna explains why she wanted Lisa to choose either her wedding or Adriana's.

on Sep 24, 20130

I was thrilled to go to LA to plan my wedding and also see my mom and my six rescue dogs, which I missed deeply. Traveling with Lisa and Lea definitely made the flight anything but dull. I was excited to introduce the girls to my LA life and why I love it so much there. Of course when we got to my home the girls were greeted with my six rescue dogs and some from my own animal rescue with my rescue partner Gabriela Gutierrez. Welcome to the KRUPA ZOO LOL! Make sure to check out all the animals that are available under our rescue at www.angelsforanimalrescue.org.

Lisa was staying with me and I was happy to have her stay in order for her to get to know my mom, but I won’t lie, I was scared she was going to be high maintenance and complain about her room (I remember that from our trip to Bimini), so I asked my mom to make sure to go to the store before we arrive to buy the most comfortable pillow bedding and bathroom towels and also buy new accessories for the bathroom to make sure Lisa would be comfortable.

159 comments
Rebound
Rebound

Joanna, you're being ridiculous.  You named 10 reasons why you really don't want Lisa to be a bridesmaid and they all really stem from the fact that you have closer friends, for longer amounts of time that you'd rather have in your wedding.  So you have your answer, don't ask her.  But you did.  Your mistake.  The whole Adrianna backstory is ridiculous.  Adrianna herself is often Ridiculous, and often a mean and nasty person whose rants and attacks seem to stem from crazy things she makes up in her mind.  But, you're all stuck with her, Lea included, because you are cast mates and Lea and A's sons are friends, so you have no choice but to to make the best of it and this goes for Lisa as well -- she too has to keep it as harmonious as possible.  From what I have seen on the show (as much as we see as viewers),  Lisa has been a fantastic friend to you.  So the loyalty argument seems like a childish and absurd excuse to back track on what you did to her and why.  If you would have had preferred to have your life long friends in the wedding instead, you should have done that and never asked her.  I am betting Lisa was quite hurt by that behavior at your LA home.  I know I would be.  But, you made it worse, girl.  You've now blogged about her loyalty and not being a friend to you for "long enough."  I am betting you won't have to worry about Lisa being a bridesmaid.  I'm betting this will be the last dagger she takes and she will tell you "No thank you, but I'd love to be a guest and celebrate your day with you."

KatiainHB
KatiainHB

Stop being so selfish the world doesn't revolve around you. I'm happy your sister finally has her own life so she isn't your whipping post any longer. You need to grow up you act like you are in 8th grade. And honestly you are cute but far from beautiful

Fortunate
Fortunate

Joanna you should have just explained to lisa that the wedding party is set and they are friends that have been there for 17 years. You can't expect to tell people who they can be friends with. Also, if you were questioning her motives you should have just said I have already chosen the wedding party. I do understand how you feel about Adriana but don't hold lisa to sharing those feelings. I think lisa is a good person and try to enjoy her friendship. You are very blunt about your feelings but most people aren't . Take care and enjoy the wonderful ice you have

Sophia74
Sophia74

Joanna I love the person you are. you and romain are a perfect couple and I know 

that god willing your marriage will last forever. What Lisa is doing to you is very unfair. Lisa could learn so much from you, like to get a job and stop having plastic surgery. I laugh when some people call Lisa pretty, she can't hardly move her face. She keeps going on about having a child but yet she doesn't act on it. She's also a two face person. I hope you don't keep her as a friend. xxx

hannah79
hannah79

Lisa you and your family are a testament of so many immigrants who come to USA and start with nothing and progress.  You deserve the best.

samsung
samsung

Joanna, you are the prettiest and most real of them all! I love what you said about you don't want to let anyone bring you down and won't stand for someone who doesn't wish you well.  Just those words with you being someone I admire help me out so much. The reason is I had a "frienemy" that I recently let go of for those very reasons. She did a good job of masking her truth, but more and more I saw she was deliberately saying things that were undermined and hurtful. Not to mention she would rant on and on about people she found great qualities in who happened to be people she knew had betrayed me. I walked away and am so glad I did. I am now free. Your words reestablished that I made the right decision. Thanks..................

maria89
maria89

You and Lisa have only known each other for a little while, was all this bridesmaid drama just for the show? Why would Lisa be in your wedding anyways? She said on the first show this season that she barely sees you.

piperbeau
piperbeau

Joanna I loved this episode!! I loved getting to see your life in LA! I love how close you are with both your mom and your sister! I totally got your standpoint with Lisa! I would have done the same thing! Besides your not the one who brought up Lisa being a bridesmaid, she did that all by herself! She kind of put you on the spot!! Besides Lisa sometimes plays both sides of the fence! She loves to throw out catty little comments! And for that reason alone I wouldn't want her as a bridesmaid! I was kind of hoping you would ask Lea to be a bridesmaid?! 

Dreid123
Dreid123

If you knew that Botox for Brains Lisa was in that witch Adriana's wedding then you should have said nothing. There would have been no drama. As for your sex life, I'm sure Romain would do better in that department if you weren't telling him he has a problem all day long.

KALanne
KALanne

Joanna's blog and the resulting comments about whether or not Lisa should be a bridesmaid are academic because Joanna & Romain's wedding was last June -- & the photos show that Lisa was indeed a bridesmaid. So apparently these two women came to terms with whatever issues they had & moved forward. For myself, I'm going to simply sit back & watch the episodes coming up to see what skills they used to problem solve. My hope is that in the process they discovered a deeper and more meaningful richness to their friendship. And -- that it is indeed possible to resolve differences in a caring, civilized way. God bless them both.

balmoralgal
balmoralgal

There is a huge difference between asking a friend to not be friends with someone you don't like (that would be very immature and self-serving) and asking a friend not to be a bridesmaid to someone that has physically assaulted, publicly insulted and defamed you. If you ask a friend to be a bridesmaid at your wedding, that's a special thing. But if your "bridesmaid" is also going to be part of the wedding entourage of the woman that hurt you in unthinkable ways, then yes, it's not unreasonable to be affronted by it. Joanna was NOT asking Lisa to not be in her wedding nor was she saying she won't be friends with her at all if she remained friends with Adriana. The friendship, in and of itself, was not in question. She was merely saying she couldn't, in all sincerity, ask her to be part of her close circle entourage when Lisa's loyalty, as it turned out,  was more that of a pleasant acquaintance.

 

rudy90210
rudy90210

I get how sometimes poeple can be extra sensitive, while trying to get pregnant, over everything little thing say, if not said perfectly sensitively. Yet, I'm sorry but Adrianna whole story is a lie. I would be more likely to call her party, a celebration of making it five years of marriage, so with that said, I don't see any of Adrianna's bridesmaid being for real, I'd call them renewal-maids! Lisa made too big of a deal about what you said, concerning her not being a bridemaid for Adrianna, if she is one for you!

solomonlady1
solomonlady1

 all the immigrants who came to america weather professional or not had to go to school for higher learning. people who were born in america are doing that today.  and i am well versed on our immigration laws and requirement and speaking english is one.STOP HATING THE FACTS! JUST BE THANKFUL THAT AMERICA WAS HERE FOR YOU.

LoveBravoBB
LoveBravoBB

Joanna,

Generally I wouldn't agree with you on a situation like this--but given how deceitful and cruel Adriana has been and continues to be; I don't blame you for asking Lisa to chose.  

 

I think it would probably be better to tell Lisa you don't want her in the wedding rather than to chose because I don't think Lisa is capable of understanding the issue which is related to character. A real wedding versus a fake. A real friend versus a fake friend.  I like Lisa, but I do believe she's more interested in being popular than being genuine. 

Rocky_Grundle
Rocky_Grundle

so....you feel a certain way about lisa being friends with someone that you say defamed you (hmm thought you two had moved forward..) but it's perfectly fine to stay bestie's with lea, who simply adores joe francis? a man that says he bedded both you and your little sister? a man that actually DID accuse you of being an "escort"??  something stinks about that joanna...what gives?

bpster
bpster

You have to realize some people have reached a state of maturity where they can have friends on both sides. Maybe you can't wrap your head around why Lisa would want to be in the wedding, I think that's because Lisa isn't as close to you guys as you would like her to be. She probably never will be. So if she isn't a great friend don't have her in your wedding. You won't be disappointed that way. 

ShaneeceDixon
ShaneeceDixon

If what you say is true about your reasons for not wanting Lisa to be a bridesmaid in your wedding, then why even give her the ultimatum? You should have simply said that you haven't known her long enough to choose her. You say you have friends you've known for 17 years  as your bridesmaids. Where were they when you were crying about not having anyone to help you plan the wedding? Say what you want about Lisa, but it's still admirable for her to travel all the way to L.A. to help you plan a wedding you didn't want her to be part of. And she was dead on about the Lea and Joe Francis situation. You question Lisa about her friendship with Adriana but not question Lea on her friendship with Joe. If anything, all the mess Adriana put out there about you being an escort came from Joe, did it not? 

 

By no means am I saying Lisa should have been in your wedding party. It doesn't make sense for someone to be in two weddings that are going on at the same time. It's just the principle of the matter. 

TIGERGIRL
TIGERGIRL

Your a beautiful hard working girl, beautiful home in LA, keep on enjoying your life. Enjoy the show very much

WVWorkingWife
WVWorkingWife

I wouldn't use the term "hustling" to describe my friends.  There's a different, negative meaning to the word that you may not quite understand.  It is similar to "swindling".  Just say your friends are "go-getters" or "hard workers".  

 

I realize for the show that you have to have drama, but I certainly hope that you are more of the animal lover, taking care of your mom and sister type and the person who hadn't let on that you have so many homes and wonderful homes at that.  I really liked the fact that we had no clue you had such a wonderful mansion in Hollywood.    Even if snot Lea tried to insult your beautiful home by saying it was over the hill from and not really in Hollywood Hills.  Whatever Lea!!  Go scratch!

kimmerb
kimmerb

I don't know, people with "thick skin" don't issue ultimatums to their "friends" because they're friends with someone that person doesn't like. What's confusing to me is why would you choose to ask Lisa, a person whom you've only recently met through being a cast member on a reality show, over any friend who's been tru-blue and loyal to you for 17 plus years? Also, I'm from Chicago. Most people in the city neighborhoods take buses/public transportation to school/work. We also have one of the highest polish populations in the world so I'm not clear on why you'd be bullied at school when it's likely a good number of the people you went to school with were also of polish descent. Your hard-scrabble story seems a little less than accurate.....

AlexF
AlexF

But you didn't say anything about the many wonderful friends you've had for 17 years. You said "I wanted you as a bridesmaid but you're in Adriana's wedding."

eastcoastgal38
eastcoastgal38

I usually love you Joanna...But I think if you were so concerned about Lisa's intentions, or her loyalties, you should have never entertained the idea of her being in your wedding. Especially if it's at the expense of a friend you've had for years and had to get rid of to make room for her. I'm also sure that Lisa wouldn't have wanted you to go out and redo your bathroom and beddings for her either. That's silly.

C...
C...

Just because you have had struggles in your life does not give you a license to be a ''mean girl''.....   We all have had our share..... get over yourself and you will become a more likeable girl.  My guess is the reason your sister hasn't been around is because she became fed up with your ''I'm number one'' attitude - that get old.

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

 @KALanne Bravo must not have been able to get the rights to blur out Lisa's image.  It was easy to check into when this controversy first aired.

KALanne
KALanne

@balmoralgal "Balmoralgal" makes me wonder if you're from Scotland? I visited there for the first time recently and I can say I've never met people anywhere more universally kind, welcoming and friendly.

hannah79
hannah79

 @solomonlady1 I think you misunderstood what Joanna wrote.  She was just explaining her and her families beginnings.  She expressed disappointment that her sister was not part of looking for bridesmaid dresses.  Joanna and her family are a testament that all immigrants should strive for.

jersey01girl
jersey01girl

 @solomonlady1 First of all, you have no idea what you're talking about. Many immigrants have fought for this country so for you to make a comment like "Just be thankful that America was here for you" is totally ignorant. Many people that have migrated here are thankful and therefore work where they can to make a life for themselves. Go back and get re-versed because you have absolutely no clue what you're talking about. Your other ignorant comment was "and your perants had professional skills why could they not get jobs in their fields???" so you're not making any sense now.

ccollier08
ccollier08

 @solomonlady1 if you were well versed on it, then you wouldn't have made that stupid comments. It just shows that you are, in fact, not well versed on Immigration!

Gezlouise
Gezlouise

@Rocky_Grundle Totally agree, different standards depending on the person just like Lisa stated in her blog.

ccollier08
ccollier08

 @bpster That's not maturity - that's called trying to be switzerland. I am sorry, but I cannot be friends with a person who chooses to be friends with someone like Adriana - especially after all the lies she has said... Joanna has a right to her feelings and her opinion... In my opinion, Lisa is just trying to be popular and straddle the fence.... That's fake to me! You cannot be friends and talk to everyone - I am skeptical of people who try to befriend everyone... They are not trust worthy.

ccollier08
ccollier08

 @kimmerb are you serious? just because there were polish people around meaning that she couldn't be bullied?? I guess because Americans are around, then Americans cannot be bullied? If that scenario was accurate then bullying wouldn't be on the rise in America!?!

Rocky_Grundle
Rocky_Grundle

 @kimmerb guess who else is from Chicago? ME, and, apart from Poland itself,Chicago has THE highest Polish population in the entire world! when any and all public notices are provided to the citizens of the the Chicagoland area-- from weather coverage to public health/well-being notices- they are given in two languages.  english and polish.  i LOVE that about our diverse Chicago, and our multi- cultural population! joanna, you're being an overly-dramatic brat about this one.

jbey
jbey

 @kimmerb I agree with everything you said. I mean its obviously possible that she was bullied - but i am a little surprised - I am from the Chicago area as well and there is definitely a large Polish population. I had multiple classmates from Poland who barely spoke English and no one made fun of them simply for being Polish. I also agree that if Joanna really had such great friends for 17 years - she should be asking them rather than Lisa anyways, whether she is in Adrianna's wedding or not. I am sure she suffered some hardships coming here from Poland at 5 but I her story seems a bit exxagerated....

ccollier08
ccollier08

 @AlexF ever heard of editing?! It is obvious that Joanna wanted her "real" friends to be apart of her wedding... just look at her bridal party....

Evangelia
Evangelia

@C... Joanna was very supportive of karent when she was under attack by the real mean girls!

kimmerb
kimmerb

@ccollier08 calm down. Read her blog again. If you were from here, you would know what we are talking about. She's miss-representing the situation,making it seem like she was ostracized because she was polish. I know what part of the city she lived in and if she were bullied, it wasn't because she was polish. In fact that would be almost impossible. You must not be from Chicago. In any case, you've isolated one point, exascerbated it and played the bully card. No matter, you are very much entitled to your opinion and I wish you peace.

kimmerb
kimmerb

@Rocky_Grundle I agree. Once again, we have a cast member playing the bully card. I find it suspect.

ccollier08
ccollier08

 @jbey  @kimmerb So, i guess that you went to her school? walked in her shoes? lived her life? Are you people serious?

VikkiP
VikkiP

 @jbey  @kimmerb

 Totally agree with you two.  Plus I'm getting sick of hearing it over and over.  She lets us know how hard working she is, how she raised Marta, how she had nothing and made herself something, etc.  Get over yourself Joanna.  You were blessed with a rockin body and good Genes. 

 

Luashtal
Luashtal

@ausfan @ccollier08 @solomonlady1 LOL!! True!! Maybe she should migrate to learn English!

mrsdonut
mrsdonut

@yelahjl @ccollier08 @kimmerb ......Maybe she was bullied because she's pretty or because the kids thought she was stuck up? Who really knows? Kids find all kinds of reasons to bully each other! ;-)

jbey
jbey

 @kimmerb @ccollier08 so true Kimmerb - I would not be surprised if Joanna was picked on in school - most kids have been picked on at some point, I know I was. But I feel like Joanna is exxagerating her story and bringing it up over and over again takes away from it, if it is accurate 

kimmerb
kimmerb

 @Standalone2  @jbey  @ccollier08  @VikkiP Indeed standalone2, , you are correct. However, that's not what she wrote and we are responding to her specific blog, not a general definition of bullying.

Standalone2
Standalone2

 @jbey  @ccollier08  @kimmerb  @VikkiP   Let's remember kids get bully if they think they are better than others, arrogant or just plain bossy.  Maybe her being bullied was for those reasons and not her accent.  Just saying.

 

Evangelia
Evangelia

@yelahjl @ccollier08 @jbey @kimmerb what bad behavior? Sticking up for a friend who was being bullied, rescuing doomed animals, taking care of her mother, working hard? I see more good behavior from her than other housewives. You seem bitter and jealous.

jbey
jbey

 @ccollier08  @kimmerb @VikkiP ccollier08 - some of your responses come off as so bitter - please reread my post - the first thing i state is that it is quite possible that Joanna was bullied - I actually think MOST children go through some stage during school where they are picked on or bullied - whether it be a group of kids who are being mean through an entire school year or just one boy or girl who decides to pick every once in a while. My point was simply that Joanna's reasons for being being bullied are a surprise to me, as there are many Polish and blonde children in Chicago and Chicagoland. Also the way Joanna repeats things over and over again makes her story comes off as an exxageration, in my opinion. Most people I know had a person or people at some point in school whether it was elementary, middle or high school had someone treat them in a bullying manner and made it through without bringing it up over and over again as  an adult

Evangelia
Evangelia

@yelahjl @ccollier08 @C... That's not how it happened. Lisa brought up the topic of being bridesmaid. Joanna didn't initiate it. I would never want to share a bridesmaid with a lunatic like Adriana who is extremely jealous of Joanna. I would be worried about the possibility of problems.