Joanna, you're being ridiculous. You named 10 reasons why you really don't want Lisa to be a bridesmaid and they all really stem from the fact that you have closer friends, for longer amounts of time that you'd rather have in your wedding. So you have your answer, don't ask her. But you did. Your mistake. The whole Adrianna backstory is ridiculous. Adrianna herself is often Ridiculous, and often a mean and nasty person whose rants and attacks seem to stem from crazy things she makes up in her mind. But, you're all stuck with her, Lea included, because you are cast mates and Lea and A's sons are friends, so you have no choice but to to make the best of it and this goes for Lisa as well -- she too has to keep it as harmonious as possible. From what I have seen on the show (as much as we see as viewers), Lisa has been a fantastic friend to you. So the loyalty argument seems like a childish and absurd excuse to back track on what you did to her and why. If you would have had preferred to have your life long friends in the wedding instead, you should have done that and never asked her. I am betting Lisa was quite hurt by that behavior at your LA home. I know I would be. But, you made it worse, girl. You've now blogged about her loyalty and not being a friend to you for "long enough." I am betting you won't have to worry about Lisa being a bridesmaid. I'm betting this will be the last dagger she takes and she will tell you "No thank you, but I'd love to be a guest and celebrate your day with you."