Joanna Krupa

Joanna believes the show has helped her and Romain open up and deal with their issues.

on Oct 8, 20130

This was the most intense and personal episode for me and Romain out of all the past seasons. Going to a sex therapist and opening up about our intimate problems on national TV is already challenging, and I admire Romain for that. But this time, the therapist managed to dig deep into his painful and traumatizing past, something he has never done before with me or even with his own family. Romain was physically abused for years, and this is something he was never proud of. I know him so well, and he chose to never say a word, because he likes to pretend he is strong and tough like I am, something that leads us to be stubborn and forget we both have fought, suffered, and struggled in the past.

I have been reading most of the comments in my past blogs and some people hate the fact I am always talking about my past. Well, my past is my reality, and so it goes for him. Romain revealed to me after the therapy that his childhood with that specific monster of a step mom was actually way worse than he described. She put him through things that even the devil wouldn't be capable of doing. I am actually shocked he is as strong as he is nowadays. I actually understand much better why he is always insisting on making peace with people and always running away from confrontations. I think the last thing anyone would like to see is Romain angry... He still has so much inner trauma, and the kindness that he always shows is what makes him so likable and real. Still, Romain doesn't blame his past for his current problems. He never looks for excuses, and he is willing to work through our problems to make our relationship work.

Romain always likes to hear what I have been through, and now I understand why -- he relates to it. My childhood was different from his, but running away completely broke from a Communist country through the Austrian border when you are 5 years old wasn't what a child really wished or dreamed of. I was with my Mom and it is what it is. I appreciate life, I embrace it, I thank God every day for what I have worked for, and I definitely appreciate all of you guys that spend time reading and commenting on my blogs. I still read and appreciate the negative ones, but I don't let them bring me down; if they are valuable criticisms in it, I try to learn from it. But to the nice and supportive ones, make sure to include your Twitter name, so I can cordially respond and thank you. Romain and I love each other, and we appreciate the huge support and love we are receiving from you all.

109 comments
_Oraya_
_Oraya_

Men are delicate when it comes to sex, you making fun out of him, calling him the girl and telling all your friends that he doesn't have sex with you is creating this issue.  You need to stop what you're doing.  Nothing turns a man off and makes him paranoid like a woman laughing at his sexual prowess.  You're going to lose that man if you're not careful!!!


His past also explains his present, when ever you're playing the aggressive sexual role, it's reminding him of his first step mother, the aggressiveness that is..  You need to change tactics and realise he's looking for gentle and caring.

lorraine.yost
lorraine.yost

I like you on the show, but you are too aggressive and have a horrid potty mouth, you should really tone it down a few notches, I agree with one of the other posts that romain wants a lady, someone treasure and not a Bully!! I'm not trying to be mean but you need to watch yourself on the show, then you will know what others are saying. 

rosyposy
rosyposy

someone better get a prenup.  I see the handwriting on the wall.  If you are needing therapists before the wedding ever takes place, better to just stay lovers.

samsung
samsung

Romain is the sweetest guy ever. Joanna yes you are beautiful but treat him like you would have the little boy he was then. Dont you wish you could have saved him? I cried at the that episode . Be nice to him . He likes it when your sweet.

lorelye
lorelye

I hope you will wake up and reallze that Romain does not want a aggressive dominatrix.  He wants a sweet princess like lady.  I think your potty mouth and aggressive advances turn him off.  Be a lady and let him take the lead. Let him chase you and romance you.  Tone down the aggressiveness and allow yourself to be soft and vulnerable.  I noticed a long time ago that your aggressiveness turns him off. The session with the therapist confirmed that.  

lorenorway
lorenorway

Maybe you will stop bulling him into sex and start becoming humble and gentle, Let him chase you, it is not about finding the hole but uniting your souls, does it scare you? In my humble opinion I see you are scared of intimacy, of true love,

randrew
randrew

Joanna, when they showed that clip of Romain's past I started crying. What hardships he had to go through... and look at him now. I think y'all bring in the best of each other.

What's bad about his story is even today there are monsters like that out here in the world.

You two have a good relationship. Can't wait to see the wedding.

Good luck and God bless!

Dolphin3636
Dolphin3636

I can't  wait to see you real wedding. :) 

rosyposy
rosyposy

Oh,  Joanna, you are such a good little puppet.   You remembered your script so well and made the "request" to see Lea's closet so realistic.  You be good, now.  She will probably even pat your little head.

Micahjami
Micahjami

I love you and Roman too!! Please stop calling him the woman though, please!! I do not want you to lose him or push him away. 

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

Aren't you glad that you did not get invited to the biggest sham of the Miami scene?  You and Lea seem to always enjoy each others company and a pleasure to watch.  

JessiRiv75
JessiRiv75

I love you and Roman!!  Every couple has problems, but the ones that truly love each other go to counseling, and don't give up.  Marriage is hard, and when children come into the picture it gets even harder.  Continue to love each other, be each others best friends.  Try not to be so aggressive in your approach to him.  I can see the love you have for each other, and will say a little prayer that your marriage continues to blossom, may you be surrounded by your children and your grand kids one day!  At the end of the road, may you sit in your beautiful backyard as 80 year olds that are happy and continent. To Joanna and Romain !!!

VAnative
VAnative

I hope your lack of sex with Romain is just  a storyline. If not you need to run not walk away from him because he's just not that into you. I'm sure he loves you but it's not a normal relationship and will lead to one or both of you straying. Sex is an important part of any adult relationship.

be@ch
be@ch

Okay, don't let me down Joanna!  I hope to enjoy your wedding to Romain.  If I knew how frustrating watching Adriana getting married, I'd never have turned the tv on. 

erica8123
erica8123

WOW!  I thought the other cities were crazy!  You women are insane!  I love it!

 

I never got into the Miami cast until literally this week (a friend loaned me her episodes). 

I literally have watched every episode over the last week.  At first I wasn't fond of Joanna.  I thought her mouth was an embarrassment.  I realized while watching the season 2 reunion that Joanna is always backing the "underdog" and I can appreciate that.  She may do it just to argue or because she is loyal but regardless of why she still does it. 

I like Joanna more and more each episode I watch and hope she just tames her drinking and checks her attitude.  Match that tude with your outer appearance and GIRL you will be unstoppable! 

Best of luck to you and Romain, I am routing for you and you are one of the reasons I am watching!

Irishgirl2
Irishgirl2

I love that that in sharing your story that you actually helped many couples. So good for you both. Beautiful Bride ...enjoy your new life! You both are meant for each other.

cheatersville
cheatersville

I think Joana is a beautiful woman on the outside but when she opens her mouth to speak she becomes "ugly".  I think she needs to lay off the booze and grow-up.

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

Have you finally come to the realization that Romain needs to have a loving, nurturing, gentle partner?  He has had enough of the aggressive, domineering, condescending behavior from a female that he trusts to last a lifetime. Open your heart, let down your own guard be there for him and he will be there for you. 

TempAngel
TempAngel

I think that it is very brave of u and Romain to open up and share your life and past with everyone. You may not know it but u guys truly do help other people see that no matter what back ground u come from you can still have you dreams come true.. I am sure some will read this and think its stupid to say but I believe it and I am sure there is others that do too

JuliefromTexas
JuliefromTexas

I think it is brave for Romain and you to be so open about the problems in your relationship (as well as the benefits). It was disturbing, at best, to hear what Romain endured as a child and after reading your blog it is clear you too had a tumultuous childhood. You are both warriors. I wish you the best and a long and happy marriage. Keep up with the therapy!:) XO

 

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rzanna
rzanna

I wish you the best in your relationship with Romain.  You have a wonderful man there, and you are also a wonderful woman.  I think the two of you have a good chance at a successful marriage  if.......

kittypurry
kittypurry

I love you and Romain! You two are the most entertaining and the most real of all the cast members. Thank you so much for all you do to help animals. It's inspiring! I have so much respect for Romain! He's brave to share his awful childhood. That had to be difficult. It's amazing that he is so kind and loving after all he has endured. I hope you and Roamin have a wonderful life filled with love and happiness. xoxox

Dolphin3636
Dolphin3636

Stop drinking you lose self-respect when you drink. You are a grown up woman stop it for your own well being. I like Romain a lot more now. He knows how evil women can be. I hope you learn to give him more caring and respect.  He needs a lot of love and tenderness.  Romain does NOT want or need a  Mata Hari or  Dominatrix woman. With love to Joanna. 

rudy2021
rudy2021

I just wanted to jump through the TV and hug Romain.  You are very lucky to have such a sweet man! 

TSan
TSan

I like you Joanna but the potty mouth isn't a good look for you. My heart goes out to Roman. Hearing his story makes him that much more attractive. Please take good care of him, he deserves to be loved.

Dreid123
Dreid123

I'm over you complaining about your sex life. You would turn any man off with your behavior! Try cooking a nice dinner, talk, laugh, have a glass of wine. It will then fall into place. The calendar looks like chores. Who wants that?!! You're making him feel less of a man and that is a "mood killer" my dear.

rzanna
rzanna

Joanna, What a beautiful couple you and Romain are!  I wish you every happiness in your marriage.  I think you are willing to work hard to make it a success.  God bless!

Dr.Di
Dr.Di

On the one hand, I give you credit for sharing your struggles with the world.  On the other hand, that may come back to haunt you.  Your husband is looking for a soft place to land. No, not there. As your therapist noted, your masculine energy isn't going to turn him on.  Try being a source of kind, warm acceptance in his life and he will respond.

julesmalone66
julesmalone66

It was a sad episode to hear - as a Mother, my heart hurt - especially since Romain seems to be such a kind man - I think that the two of you will be great together - your values seem to be genuine and non-materialistic - even though you have great taste and lovely homes- your European upbringing is positively showing through, and that makes the show more interesting - and even though you live a sophisticated lifestyle, you still come across as down to earth -- also, nicer to see a kinder, more feminine side of you this season - honestly,  you are more likable -- and  I think that you will make a beautiful bride!

backgammon
backgammon

I thought the session was very good.  A third party is a great idea to get to the bottom of your troubles.  You make a beautiful couple, and I wish you both all the best.  Looking forward to seeing your wedding.

mrsdonut
mrsdonut

"She put him through things that even the devil wouldn't be capable of doing." The devil is capable of anything, Joanna. He's capable of making a person do evil things, on his behalf. ;-) I'm sorry to hear that Romain had such a horrible childhood. It does explain a lot about the issues you both were having. Hopefully now, you're both able to move forward and strengthen your marriage. I'll be honest, I wasn't your biggest fan, early on. I wanted to like you. (My husband's family are Polish-Jews who immigrated to the US after the Holocaust) However, you seemed a bit cocky and I didn't care for your behavior whenever you drank. This season, I'm liking you more. You seem a bit more humble and more reserved than in the past. More mature. I hope it continues! :-)

oceanna
oceanna

Joanna I don't enjoy your sex life being aired in my living room, I think it is classless.  I understand Roman, he wants love, not sex, I am sure he could get sext at anytime.   You are a pretty woman, not beautiful and I am sure there are many beautiful woman in Miami, honestly I think you turn him off with your gross talk.    

WandaP
WandaP

Joanna, it's very profound to see Romain talk about his childhood, vicious mothers like his have probably done and said things of a private to him. This would explain his lack of interest in sex, not you. I to had a very difficult child hood, that left scars, that took me 30 years to work thru. You must realize that when you say such Strong words, those words or the way u say them can bring back feelings. It's VERY difficult for men to go to therapy, I applaud both of you.. You both show the world what is needed when your traumatized so young! Now u need to have Romain make it clear, what way u need to speak to him, he seems to be spoken to kinder, I know you have it in you! Remember healing from this type of trauma takes years!! God Bless!

debmerc888
debmerc888

Joanna you will be a great support and comfort to Romain because you really get that he was deeply hurt and you are fiercely loyal to your loved ones.  My heart breaks for Romain's past. I adore children and cannot imagine what kind of monster he was forced to deal with.  But the most important thing is: Tell Romain God can heal all the pain inside him. 

 

I really enjoy hearing about your past too Joanna, it is remarkable how much you have achieved with your background.  Good for you! It's an inspiration to others to share your story.  A thousand hugs to Romain. If I had been his step mom so many years ago I would have showered him with love. He looked so innocent and adorable in his pictures,  Make sure he knows that what happened had NOTHING to do with him, but was just the mental illness/evil of that horrible woman.  The best thing he can do now is honestly and openly (when he is ready) work through the past and embrace what he has now.  All the best to you two. You are dynamic together.

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

Thoroughly enjoyed your playful scene with Lisa.  She seems like a little sister to you which must help with your own sister not living with you any longer.  

kekekinz1
kekekinz1

I cried when Romain shared his story. What a great man you have and vice versa!

reya_407
reya_407

I am glad you think that airing your laundry in public is dignified.  But then you are on a reality TV show and I am not!!!  LOL  I tried not to be judgmental by watching these shows before commenting, but now that I have had a chance to check out what these shows are about I am far less sympathetic to your plight than I was before ever seeing them.  Quite honestly, you people have no dignity whatsoever!  There is no amount of money that could coax me into broadcasting my personal life in this kind of manner.  Even if none of it is real it is pretty pathetic to do all this fighting with one another, show off how sadly superficial you are, and tell the world that your man has so little interest in your aggressive horniness.  He would rather you be a lady and not talk about your sex life on TV.  Your beautiful, but you are not very bright.

KALanne
KALanne

Joanna - In your blog you wrote, "...he likes to pretend he is strong and tough like I am..." I'm a survivor of childhood physical abuse and I can assure you -- he isn't pretending he's strong. It takes both strength and courage to survive abuse and then overcome the lasting effects we bring into our lives as adults. A trusted relationship with a very good therapist can go a long way to helping that process. I have nothing but praise and respect for this remarkable man who knows who he is, what's important to him -- and is obviously quite capable of articulating it without having it all interpreted, diminished, or dismissed by you on the show, in the media, on Twitter, etc. As Romain continues to learn about himself, I hope you're going through a self-discovery process with a therapist as well. As many have stated, we've all heard many times about your own life as the very young child of immigrants who helped out alot with your sister. I don't doubt your belief that this is what helped shaped your work ethic, etc. as an adult. But I believe there's more -- and perhaps something even more important that has shaped your attitudes about men and women in relationships. My observation is that you seem to wear your "strength and toughness" like armor, like a shield. It appears that you need to be in the "power" position, are quick to take offense and push back hard -- often out of proportion to the situation. I've noticed you generally use passive-aggression or outright verbal aggression to shove people away. I've also noticed alot of minimizing your own failures of thought, words, actions, attitudes while calling out others on theirs. I know you must realize you have no control over anyone but you -- just expect more of yourself. Last season you and your mom brought up the issue of your parents' fighting and their unhappiness. I wonder if you've explored with your therapist how this has also played a part in shaping the "tough chick" persona, nobody's going to tell me what to do, insensitivity toward Romain and others at times...and other problems you've experienced. There are two sides to every coin -- and I think it holds true in building character too. For example, I can choose to cultivate the positive trait of determination over holding on to the false pride of stubbornness. I do wish you well Joanna. There is obviously so much good in your life -- and it's not there by mistake. One last thought: With only negative experiences of mother figures in his life, Romain chose you to be the mother of his children. That's a sacred trust he's placed with you. Strive to be worthy of it -- that Romain and your children will look upon you and how you conduct yourself with love, joy and pride. God bless...

KALanne
KALanne

@lorenorway Very good points. I wonder how many of us can relate to the fear of true intimacy that stems from some negative experiences or traumas from our pasts. I certainly can...and it took a growing awareness, a desire to heal myself, & a lot of work to get there before I was able to fully love and trust a man. I've been growing more in love with my beautiful husband for many years now. Joanna's predicament struck such a chord with me. I strongly suspect her issues and lack of respect for men has something to do with her parents' marriage and how they treated each other. Also she had mentioned last season that her father "wasn't around" while she was growing up. Whether he deliberately absented himself from the family -- or worked long hours and wasn't available much -- to a child that can feel like abandonment.

lorenorway
lorenorway

 @rosyposy LOL, you obviously don't know Polish women... I live with one! Nothing fake about Joanna, she is far wealthier than Lea.

Pokadot
Pokadot

@Dreid123 Exactly! Very simple to connect. Dinner, wine , conversation.....

nycbunny
nycbunny

 @Tlr What is wrong with you?!? You obviously have some serious psychological issues.

Pokadot
Pokadot

@oceanna I have to agree. Reality taken to far. Your bedroom issues ,need to be handled privately. There has to be another storyline , you guys have? How about Romain club? Looks interesting and cool.

mrsdonut
mrsdonut

@oceanna ...I agree with you about Romain wanting love. I think he's more reserved when it comes to sex. Some people don't get in to role-playing or the wham-bam type of sex all the time. Sometimes they just want it to be tender and loving. As the saying goes, "You f*** a girlfriend but you make love to a wife!". ;-)

debmerc888
debmerc888

 @oceanna What are you talking about she is pretty not beautiful?  Come on, we can all agree that she is beautiful. Be nice! She is doing her best to evolve with the situation.

koczusia
koczusia

 @KALanne Agree 100% especially how Joanna treats Romain.Great observation

@GODISGOODALLTHETIME1
@GODISGOODALLTHETIME1

 @nycbunny  @Tlr 

Let's just say some people are MISERABLE and want to vent their FRUSTRATIONS by any means possible. ...LOL! If not WTF is she/he talking about????

Please don't waste your breath, I read that, but thought not worth my time to talk nonsense to those who don't get it anyway!!!..... LOL!!!

falina_c
falina_c

 @debmerc888  @oceanna She is talking about the beauty that radiates from within, I think.  I know quite a few "plain" looking women who are truly "beautiful" by being who they ARE.