Cast Blog: #RHOM

Lea and the Beefy Bus Boy Duo

A Therapeutic Season for Alexia

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea's Double Standards

Hoping to Move Forward with Lea

An X-Rated Reunion

Lisa's Vegas Regret

Joanna's Perfect Day

Lea's Lip Service

Lisa's "Peacemaker" Problems

Alexia's Not Sweating the Small Stuff

Real Friends Don't Hold Grudges

A Fun Party, Minus the Distractions

Apologizing to Lea

Alexia's Anniversary Celebration

Lisa Loves Texas

Meet Joanna's New Puppy!

Lea's Walk Down Memory Lane

Adriana's Wedding Full of Waiting

Adriana's Two Loves

May Adriana Live Happily Ever After

Romain's Troubled Past

Alexia's Birthday Drama

Meet Dr. Sex Therapist Lisa

The Wedding Evite Explained

Targeted by the Hate Club

Lisa's Button-Pushing Behavior

Peter's Healing Process

Lenny's Lipo

Lea's Over the Haters

Adriana's Difficult Past

Joanna Talks Role Playing

Update on Elsa

Recovering Frankie and Peter

Lisa's Bridesmaid Ultimatum

Joanna's Outright Insult

The Birkin Bag Bonanza

Adriana's Glamorous 'Great Gatsby' Wedding

Lisa's In-Law Issues

Shocked by Lea's Secrets

Romain's Big Heart

Lea and the Beefy Bus Boy Duo

Lea shares her thoughts on the wild Vegas trip and the conversation with Adriana.

Titty Twerking and Panty Droppers
 
Doesn't that say it all? Fun weekend. Crazy girls, crazy fun. (And certifiably crazy in some instances.) Not kidding!
 
What a weekend!  I'd like to say what goes on in Vegas stays in Vegas, but we all know it doesn't. Overall it was fun, feisty, and devoid of any sleep.

I personally like Lisa being feisty with a few cocktails, I think she was adorable. It was all innocent fun.

It's hard to be the clown and run the circus. I sort of felt like both during Vegas. LOL!

And what about all of those fabulous hot young guys hitting on me? Do you think it was my jewelry or me? SCREAM HERE with LAUGHTER! LOL!

What was crazier: 5 Cents at the pool and our dancing number? Or the beefy bus boy duo that I called Truth, Justice, and the American Way (because one had truth and justice tattoos and the other was wearing an American flag g-string. And that g-string wasn't an empty g-string)?

And why was she silent? It really was deafening for someone who called herself a friend. Thinking back, her perception of me not cheering on her slap, or suggesting to her perhaps she shouldn't have provocatively danced in a thong on national television in front of a see-through door, or told her she shouldn't have accused a cast member of giving a blow job on national television was interpreted by her as me not taking her side or me judging her. All of those things that I said and advice I gave her was in her best interest. Isn't that what real friends do -- encourage you to do the right thing and when necessary try to save you from yourself? So what if I'm not an enabler? I won't apologize for that. And I now see that she prefers to be surrounded by enablers. Oh, and those who rush to enable --shocking. Some people either live in denial or just turn a blind eye. God forbid anyone take a stand.

She is used to deception --after all, she's lived it for five years. Others may justify it or enable it, but it is what it is. The truth is she's lied to everyone, including you, for 5 years. All of those conversations with her "fiancé" were simply lies. That's the ugly truth. 
 
So now, at Joanna's wedding, love is in the air. So all these months later, she FINALLY, officially admits that I DID NOT plant the article of the marriage license in the paper and perhaps one of the "other" girls did to cause her to turn on me. NEWSFLASH! Hello? I wonder when and why she had this epiphany. All that drama and kicking and screaming and snubbing and wanting to "spit in my face" week after week was for nothing? Oops! 
 
In my world there are consequences to one's actions. I never doubted staying true to my convictions, maintaining my principles, my character, and my integrity, and I don't regret it. I refuse to compromise who I am to expose who someone else is or isn't -- and they always wind up doing that themselves. My instincts served me well after this saga.

For those who support me, a very appreciative and heartfelt THANK YOU. And for those of you who think I should have been more forgiving and move forward with trust instead of trepidation, or pretend nothing ever happened -- stay tuned for the reunion and then decide. I think you will agree that even with all the lies and camouflaging and pretense (and you've only watched a fraction of it), her core has now been exposed.  People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime, as they say. To me, this has been a learning experience. Perhaps I should just give thanks -- after all it's not every day in life that one can learn lessons as obvious as this one. I'm sure you've all heard, "When someone tells you who they are, believe them"? Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. I believe in second chances, but when you get into double digits -- enough! LOL!

I can, of course, move forward, be amicable, take the high road and put the past in past, but trusting or overlooking or enabling? Well, that's a different story, and that's not who I am.
 
Stay tuned for the reunion and please share with me your thoughts by commenting below.
 
A very special thanks to POP, Purveyors of Pop and their entire production team including the behind the scenes and editing teams, the amazing team at Bravo including their digital team and the executives, and to the ever accommodating Watch What Happens Live production team, to Andy, and especially to you the viewers for always giving me a second chance.

Love, Lea
 
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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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