Cast Blog: #RHOM

Lea and the Beefy Bus Boy Duo

Lea shares her thoughts on the wild Vegas trip and the conversation with Adriana.

Titty Twerking and Panty Droppers
 
Doesn't that say it all? Fun weekend. Crazy girls, crazy fun. (And certifiably crazy in some instances.) Not kidding!
 
What a weekend!  I'd like to say what goes on in Vegas stays in Vegas, but we all know it doesn't. Overall it was fun, feisty, and devoid of any sleep.

I personally like Lisa being feisty with a few cocktails, I think she was adorable. It was all innocent fun.

It's hard to be the clown and run the circus. I sort of felt like both during Vegas. LOL!

And what about all of those fabulous hot young guys hitting on me? Do you think it was my jewelry or me? SCREAM HERE with LAUGHTER! LOL!

What was crazier: 5 Cents at the pool and our dancing number? Or the beefy bus boy duo that I called Truth, Justice, and the American Way (because one had truth and justice tattoos and the other was wearing an American flag g-string. And that g-string wasn't an empty g-string)?

On to the Wedding!
 
Driving to Vegas with a car load of late arrivals and no sleep was quite the experience. Thank goodness I'm a light drinker! But I do love my sleep! I sort of get irritable without it.

The wedding was fabulous and over the top. The most amazing part of it was the speeches made by friends and family. People that have known Joanna and Romain for years speaking from the heart. I thought it was heartwarming and touching.
I had scheduled us all Sudden Youth facials at the spa, but I think everyone was so exhausted they just slept in. But Adriana showed up and that was interesting?

Maybe people don't agree with my feelings toward Adriana, but I'd rather take a stand than be popular. You just don't get to rip my son's heart out, try to turn my friends against me (people I introduced you to), lie to me for years, accept help under false pretenses, falsely accuse me for months on end that I gave the newspaper your marriage license, join the hate club, come in my home and yell and scream at me, snub me at every turn (even in my own home), then try to turn it all around on me and play the victim -- all while wrongly accusing me of a fake name and a secret marriage. All this, just because I didn't overlook or enable your bad behavior. And let's not forget being silent during the character assassination at last year's reunion. (Stay tuned, you may be surprised to find who all was plotting that…)
And why was she silent? It really was deafening for someone who called herself a friend. Thinking back, her perception of me not cheering on her slap, or suggesting to her perhaps she shouldn't have provocatively danced in a thong on national television in front of a see-through door, or told her she shouldn't have accused a cast member of giving a blow job on national television was interpreted by her as me not taking her side or me judging her. All of those things that I said and advice I gave her was in her best interest. Isn't that what real friends do -- encourage you to do the right thing and when necessary try to save you from yourself? So what if I'm not an enabler? I won't apologize for that. And I now see that she prefers to be surrounded by enablers. Oh, and those who rush to enable --shocking. Some people either live in denial or just turn a blind eye. God forbid anyone take a stand.

She is used to deception --after all, she's lived it for five years. Others may justify it or enable it, but it is what it is. The truth is she's lied to everyone, including you, for 5 years. All of those conversations with her "fiancé" were simply lies. That's the ugly truth. 
 
So now, at Joanna's wedding, love is in the air. So all these months later, she FINALLY, officially admits that I DID NOT plant the article of the marriage license in the paper and perhaps one of the "other" girls did to cause her to turn on me. NEWSFLASH! Hello? I wonder when and why she had this epiphany. All that drama and kicking and screaming and snubbing and wanting to "spit in my face" week after week was for nothing? Oops! 
 
In my world there are consequences to one's actions. I never doubted staying true to my convictions, maintaining my principles, my character, and my integrity, and I don't regret it. I refuse to compromise who I am to expose who someone else is or isn't -- and they always wind up doing that themselves. My instincts served me well after this saga.

For those who support me, a very appreciative and heartfelt THANK YOU. And for those of you who think I should have been more forgiving and move forward with trust instead of trepidation, or pretend nothing ever happened -- stay tuned for the reunion and then decide. I think you will agree that even with all the lies and camouflaging and pretense (and you've only watched a fraction of it), her core has now been exposed.  People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime, as they say. To me, this has been a learning experience. Perhaps I should just give thanks -- after all it's not every day in life that one can learn lessons as obvious as this one. I'm sure you've all heard, "When someone tells you who they are, believe them"? Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. I believe in second chances, but when you get into double digits -- enough! LOL!

I can, of course, move forward, be amicable, take the high road and put the past in past, but trusting or overlooking or enabling? Well, that's a different story, and that's not who I am.
 
Stay tuned for the reunion and please share with me your thoughts by commenting below.
 
A very special thanks to POP, Purveyors of Pop and their entire production team including the behind the scenes and editing teams, the amazing team at Bravo including their digital team and the executives, and to the ever accommodating Watch What Happens Live production team, to Andy, and especially to you the viewers for always giving me a second chance.

Love, Lea
 
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Lea's Double Standards

Adriana explains why she was so surprised by Joanna and Lea's behavior.

I would like to start by saying that I tried my best to bond with Joanna and remain friendly after attending her bachorelette party and wedding. I truly was hoping for a budding friendship. All season long, she criticized me in her weekly blogs, criticized my wedding, and even then I took the high road and didn't engage in the low blows and continued hostility she has demonstrated towards me for a while now. However, I couldn’t stay quiet any longer when she started to attack my credibility. Enough is enough! I've learned that bullies like her will not stop the attack until you stand your ground. She showed me her true colors when she stated she wanted “to rip my head off.” Such aggressive behavior like that could no longer be ignored. Joanna is always stating that she is beautiful and because of that she thinks she has license to act UGLY!

Furthermore, I couldn't remain silent while she was attacking Lisa and being so cold to her and her struggle with infertility. Claiming that Lisa is a party girl and is always drinking is not the attitude of a friend. Joanna and Lisa had been friends and even had dinner together the night before and all was well between them, until Joanna decided to turn on Lisa... I was shocked, how can a friend blatantly attack her friend with such coldness?! She should not talk about things she knows nothing about!

Another shocker was to see Lea sitting there silently and not coming to Lisa's defense... She crucified me this season and did a complete character assassination of my person for not speaking up when Ana attacked her last year, so I was very surprised to see her do the exact same thing to her new bestie... Double standards, as usual!

In conclusion, don't judge others unless you have walked a mile in their shoes!