Cast Blog: #RHOM

Lea and the Beefy Bus Boy Duo

A Therapeutic Season for Alexia

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea's Double Standards

Hoping to Move Forward with Lea

An X-Rated Reunion

Lisa's Vegas Regret

Joanna's Perfect Day

Lea's Lip Service

Lisa's "Peacemaker" Problems

Alexia's Not Sweating the Small Stuff

Real Friends Don't Hold Grudges

A Fun Party, Minus the Distractions

Apologizing to Lea

Alexia's Anniversary Celebration

Lisa Loves Texas

Meet Joanna's New Puppy!

Lea's Walk Down Memory Lane

Adriana's Wedding Full of Waiting

Adriana's Two Loves

May Adriana Live Happily Ever After

Romain's Troubled Past

Alexia's Birthday Drama

Meet Dr. Sex Therapist Lisa

The Wedding Evite Explained

Targeted by the Hate Club

Lisa's Button-Pushing Behavior

Peter's Healing Process

Lenny's Lipo

Lea's Over the Haters

Adriana's Difficult Past

Joanna Talks Role Playing

Update on Elsa

Recovering Frankie and Peter

Lisa's Bridesmaid Ultimatum

Joanna's Outright Insult

The Birkin Bag Bonanza

Adriana's Glamorous 'Great Gatsby' Wedding

Lisa's In-Law Issues

Shocked by Lea's Secrets

Romain's Big Heart

Lea and the Beefy Bus Boy Duo

Lea shares her thoughts on the wild Vegas trip and the conversation with Adriana.

Titty Twerking and Panty Droppers
 
Doesn't that say it all? Fun weekend. Crazy girls, crazy fun. (And certifiably crazy in some instances.) Not kidding!
 
What a weekend!  I'd like to say what goes on in Vegas stays in Vegas, but we all know it doesn't. Overall it was fun, feisty, and devoid of any sleep.

I personally like Lisa being feisty with a few cocktails, I think she was adorable. It was all innocent fun.

It's hard to be the clown and run the circus. I sort of felt like both during Vegas. LOL!

And what about all of those fabulous hot young guys hitting on me? Do you think it was my jewelry or me? SCREAM HERE with LAUGHTER! LOL!

What was crazier: 5 Cents at the pool and our dancing number? Or the beefy bus boy duo that I called Truth, Justice, and the American Way (because one had truth and justice tattoos and the other was wearing an American flag g-string. And that g-string wasn't an empty g-string)?

And why was she silent? It really was deafening for someone who called herself a friend. Thinking back, her perception of me not cheering on her slap, or suggesting to her perhaps she shouldn't have provocatively danced in a thong on national television in front of a see-through door, or told her she shouldn't have accused a cast member of giving a blow job on national television was interpreted by her as me not taking her side or me judging her. All of those things that I said and advice I gave her was in her best interest. Isn't that what real friends do -- encourage you to do the right thing and when necessary try to save you from yourself? So what if I'm not an enabler? I won't apologize for that. And I now see that she prefers to be surrounded by enablers. Oh, and those who rush to enable --shocking. Some people either live in denial or just turn a blind eye. God forbid anyone take a stand.

She is used to deception --after all, she's lived it for five years. Others may justify it or enable it, but it is what it is. The truth is she's lied to everyone, including you, for 5 years. All of those conversations with her "fiancé" were simply lies. That's the ugly truth. 
 
So now, at Joanna's wedding, love is in the air. So all these months later, she FINALLY, officially admits that I DID NOT plant the article of the marriage license in the paper and perhaps one of the "other" girls did to cause her to turn on me. NEWSFLASH! Hello? I wonder when and why she had this epiphany. All that drama and kicking and screaming and snubbing and wanting to "spit in my face" week after week was for nothing? Oops! 
 
In my world there are consequences to one's actions. I never doubted staying true to my convictions, maintaining my principles, my character, and my integrity, and I don't regret it. I refuse to compromise who I am to expose who someone else is or isn't -- and they always wind up doing that themselves. My instincts served me well after this saga.

For those who support me, a very appreciative and heartfelt THANK YOU. And for those of you who think I should have been more forgiving and move forward with trust instead of trepidation, or pretend nothing ever happened -- stay tuned for the reunion and then decide. I think you will agree that even with all the lies and camouflaging and pretense (and you've only watched a fraction of it), her core has now been exposed.  People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime, as they say. To me, this has been a learning experience. Perhaps I should just give thanks -- after all it's not every day in life that one can learn lessons as obvious as this one. I'm sure you've all heard, "When someone tells you who they are, believe them"? Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. I believe in second chances, but when you get into double digits -- enough! LOL!

I can, of course, move forward, be amicable, take the high road and put the past in past, but trusting or overlooking or enabling? Well, that's a different story, and that's not who I am.
 
Stay tuned for the reunion and please share with me your thoughts by commenting below.
 
A very special thanks to POP, Purveyors of Pop and their entire production team including the behind the scenes and editing teams, the amazing team at Bravo including their digital team and the executives, and to the ever accommodating Watch What Happens Live production team, to Andy, and especially to you the viewers for always giving me a second chance.

Love, Lea
 
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Stay tuned for the reunion the next two weeks…brace yourself!

Hoping to Move Forward with Lea

Marysol shares what she hopes will come out of the reunion.

For me the reunion is a forum to hash things out and engage in verbal mud wrestling and hopefully come out cleansed from the tension and disagreements. I would like to make it clear that I do not hate anyone; I am not a person that likes to live in anger as it only makes you miserable and takes away from the precious moments of our lives. It is no secret that I have spent a couple of years being accused of lying by Lea when we do not see eye to eye on something. It is very frustrating to have issues with someone and always end up at the same place of “her word against mine.”

Unfortunately, my father this year has also had a rapid decline in his health and has spent the better part of the past few months in and out of the hospital. While dad was in the hospital with nothing else to do besides sleep, read, and watch TV he watched every episode of RHOM. He was very upset when he saw Lea saying I was lying when I said she didn’t call, write, or send flowers to mom for 8 weeks. He called me and said to figure out a way to video tape me and put it on that show of yours because I’ve had enough of the lies. My father was by mother’s side every day from the moment she went into the hospital to the day she came home (2 months later). He saw everyone who passed by, saw every flower and card that was sent etc. I truly was uncomfortable videotaping him in a hospital setting, but I was leaving for the reunion and he called relentlessly several times a day insisting I let him speak his mind for the cameras. If you thought Mama Elsa was tough, guess who she learned it from, that’s right, her husband of 52 years, Donald Patton. You never met anyone more ornery, stubborn, or tough, but I wouldn’t trade him for the world.

I have said my peace, which is what I went to the reunion to do. I have moved forward and forgive those who have hurt me and I forgive myself for those I may have hurt. I truly want to move forward to a better place with Lea to the best of our ability. We may never be best friends, but I’d like to think we can at least be in the same room, be cordial, and maybe even share a laugh someday.

It has been a fun season with the ladies and it provided a great distraction from the personal emotional struggles I was going through with my parents’ declining health.  I hope you enjoyed the season, thank you for all of your support and best wishes for my mother as that has been the greatest gift the show has brought us.

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