Lisa Hochstein

Lisa explains why she wanted to have all of the ladies over to hash out their issues.

on Aug 12, 20130

I went to the bridal expo at Miami Beach Fashion Week to help Adriana plan her wedding ceremony to Fredric. Since Adriana was late, I had to socialize with the “three musketeers.” This was the first time in months I had seen them. It was uncomfortable and awkward for me, since I had not spoken to them about the issues that have surfaced within this group.

 

According to news reports, Fredric and Adriana have been legally married for the last 5 years. Nobody wanted acknowledge this elephant in the room, so I did. I also want to mention that there is a big difference in my mind between a marriage license and a ceremony. One is a legal document and the other is what every woman wants to experience -- a beautiful, magical day filled with flowers, beauty, and a celebration to be shared with friends and family. Adriana never had that with Fredric. I hate when everyone avoids the obvious and doesn't speak up. Ana, of course, had to talk down to someone (me), because that’s what she does. Although not very well. She seems to enjoy belittling people. If I needed her “help,” I would have asked, but I only ask for advice from people who are winning in life.

Just to be clear, I wasn't trying to talk negatively about Adriana with the other women. I obviously knew she was about to walk into our conversation at any moment, and I simply wanted to get it out into the open while giving her a fair opportunity to tell her side of the story. She deserves that.

I decided to have the group over to my house so we could reconnect after all the craziness from the past months.

47 comments
Erica21
Erica21

Lets see, you use to be a dancer, you are married to a plastic surgeon, you have a wonderful home, you don't work etc,etc, etc and you are so selfish that it doesn't cross your mind that you should to be so thankful for what you have. Have you ever thought to yourself, since I have so much money wouldn't it be wonderful to adopt oh say 3 of 4 kids?

theresag92@gmail.com
theresag92@gmail.com

I really like you, but I loved Ana, she was the only one to stand up to nasty Lea and her gross guy friends.

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

I LOVED when u put Anna in her place. She thinks highly of herself. Sadly she's the only one.

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

I am liking you and Lennie again this season. He's a sweetie and y'all seem to make a nice couple. Relax honey those babies will come.

jordy
jordy

Once again, Ana shows her true colors. Because you questioned Adriana's marriage, she "TRIED" to attack your intelligence. She is so condescending and obviously bitter. Bravo to you for calling her out on her B.S.

Keep being your fabulous kind self and praying that you get your baby soon.

 

 

 

I hope Robert is living happily with his "idiot girlfriend."

 

Trisha44
Trisha44

Hi Lisa,  I was ready to dislike you when Bravo first introduced you. Another young dumb sexy blonde latching on to a rich guy I thought. I was making critical remarks about you to my friend as we watched..and then something happened! Your inner *good wise sweetness* shone through. You are so damn likable. I am sorry I judged you without knowing anything true! Such a pleasant surprise. Hopefully you'll be able to resist letting yourself get eaten up by narcissism. Don't be too hyber critical of yourself as you watch the show back....you are good enough as is.

 

seasalt
seasalt

I can understand why you didn't invite Ana over for the gathering with the girls.  Why was she so rude to you with the "try to keep up" comment?   

Twins98
Twins98

Your splitting hairs with this marriage license versus a ceremony..... I have watched every episode of RHOM and I specifically recall Adriana in the first season crying to Lea upset because she was a single mom and was worried how she was going to pay her son's private school tuition. I also remember her saying in a episode last year, her saying she didn't know if she was ready to marry Fredric. In fact, there were several mentions by Adriana in regards to if she should get married and if she shouldn't because of her independence she had being single and the trust issue... so to say well what she meant was she had papers and was legally married but never had a ceremony is ridiculous and once again an attempt to pull one over on the viewers.  She was is and has been married but lied to everyone for the sake of her story line on the show, nothing more, nothing less.

 

cavex2
cavex2

I love you and you are my favorite.  But I am not sure why you are implying that Adriana was not legally married.  She was married, her marriage license was not simply an application as she stated.  She had a civil ceremony (as I did in the state of Florida) and that marriage was legal and filed with the court after her ceremony.  Please, tell me that you won't try to cover Adriana's lies this season.  It would cause me to lose respect and admiration for you.  Just tell the truth and own it.  

NC1000
NC1000

Lisa -- you are a kind, loving and thoughtful person -- we find you to be the moral center of the show. Best of luck with you and your ventures, and we hope you will get the family you deserve. Cheers!

funluv
funluv

Wishing you a great season and hoping you won't get caught up in the bs! Continue to rise above!!!!!!!!

notsosunnyinhousewiveslives
notsosunnyinhousewiveslives

Love, love your beautiful legs!  So toned and shapely.  Okay so I think you and Lea are probably the most level headed on this show.  I also think people misjudge you and think you are an "airhead" but you are quite far from it.  You seem to be a pretty smart chick to me. When Joanna said she thinks she was Lea 30 years ago, I totally DISagreed, she is far from being a generous, level headed person and is way too selfish.    I think you are the Lea 30 years ago.  That's a compliment. 

sabe785
sabe785

I love your honesty on the show. I'm so glad you called out Ana on her condescending comments and from my experience, you are spot on in your comments regarding the Cuban chicks.

jbey
jbey

You are my fave of the Miami cast and I agree that Joana was a bit cold with her comments about being too busy to respond to you. You were only saying you missed her and her response was kind of like 'I have a life, I dont have time'.....

@GODISGOODALLTHETIME1
@GODISGOODALLTHETIME1

You're likable, beautiful and the only one on your show who seems to be level headed. You're doing well so far so stay away from all the lies and BS of Adrian, she's messy.

Isee
Isee

I think you surprised all of us. A good person with a beautiful appearance. We needed that!

Lubby
Lubby

Lisa you are the biggest disappointment to me, you were by far my favorite last year.. I don't know if you have any charitable work other than your own self involved housing problem. It's a shame. For the record, you don't know what busy is putting together a small gathering of women which you don't even prepare is NOT busy. Just another ex playboy model that wants the world to think they actually can think......you've fooled no one. 

Marni511
Marni511

You are absolutely fabulous!!!! I loved the top you wore at your party! 

 

sajkel
sajkel

hey, think you're great! watching from all the way in barbados; whoop whoop!!!

prbronze103
prbronze103

You are the most level headed one of this group. Kudos for you for being open and honest and addressing the issues which need to be addressed.  Looking forward to seeing you thru the season!

playtone22
playtone22

I like that you tried to play peacemaker, but I think you're correct in realizing it's a moot point with this group of women.

 

That said, I think you should rethink your thoughts regarding this statement: "One is a legal document and the other is what every woman wants to experience -- a beautiful, magical day filled with flowers, beauty, and a celebration to be shared with friends and family." 

 

My husband and I eloped - no friends, no family.  Just us.  Does that mean we're not married?!?  Quite the contrary.  We did it that way because we wanted that exchange to be ONLY about us and our love - no one else.  No issues about money; food; flowers; people's feelings getting hurt for not being invited; people not wanting to be around other people.  Whatever drama that often surrounds weddings, we wanted no part of.  We've never regretted our decision for one moment.

 

The bottom line is: I'm pretty sure Adriana is just trying to cover her tracks for being a liar.  Because A) she contradicted herself and B) I'm pretty sure you're not "married" simply because you went to get a marriage license.  Being married yourself, you should know that it's a tiny bit of a process.  You apply for the license, then the license, the license is signed by the wedding officiant, and then you have to file said license with the County that you're married in - THEN you are married.  The license (in at least most states anyway) is void after a certain period of time (from what I understand it varies by state, but it's certainly LONG before FIVE YEARS) if you haven't filed the signed copy.

HWfan175
HWfan175

I really liked you last season but you seemed to confrontational this episode. I took offense to your comment about the cuban community its like labeling all canadian as being the same person.  I get that they may have more things in common culturally but your  tone when you made that comment just seemed wrong. Also, what do you care if Anna had an issue with Leah just stay out of it.

Gigitx
Gigitx

LOVE you... by far my favorite, but wish you would have invited Anna to your sit down.

divauta
divauta

Keep our chin up in the midst of all the craziness that is surely brewing!

CityGirl95
CityGirl95

Funny how you would say that Adriana is not considered married until she does it in a church. My question is that if people want to see it that way, should the courts see it that way if and when people get divorced (financially speaking)?

Rambo_is_Real
Rambo_is_Real

Lenny may be a great plastic surgeon, but your beauty runs skin deep. Keep being you and Best Wishes this season.

HeightsRHfan
HeightsRHfan

I like you Lisa! You were def one of my favorites last season! I do wish that you were not such good friends with Adriana though. You made a comment about her and Fred being the only ones who came to your party....That is prob because they do not have any friends. All the lies and drama that tags along with her, make me think of that old saying- "you are who you hang with". No one is 5 years old crying about who and who did not come to a birthday party. Seems like she is already trying to drag you down to her level. Stick with Lea and Joanna, they ROCK! 

s.martin
s.martin

You are my favorite! I just love you!

JenniferFM
JenniferFM

I love you, Lisa! Wishing the best for you and Lenny, and I know I (and the other viewers) can count on you to bring everyone back from the edge of crazy this season.

 

Thank you for your assessment of Ana too -- it's spot on. I can't believe I used to like her at the beginning of last season. She is someone who has gotten so caught up in bringing other women down. 

lisa2
lisa2

I expected the others to make excuses for Adriana's deception but not you.  Once the marriage license is signed and certified YOU ARE MARRIED LEGALLY.  The Ceremony DOES NOT MAKE you legally married.  Why is that so hard for you housewives to understand. 

I do like you Lisa but please don't connect yourself to Adriana and her drama. She reminds me of Teresa and she may be suffering from the same mental problems as well.

SiennaSky
SiennaSky

I loved how you brought it all together last night giving a recap as to what's been happening in Miami.  You are fair and honest and I think very genuine in your thoughts and beliefs.  Good Luck to you and Lenny.  All the good you give will come back to you hundreds times over.  Wishing you the very best.  I look forward to the new season. 

ccollier08
ccollier08

Let's Face - Adriana is married - legally married - she has been blatantly lying the past few seasons.. She was talking about how nervous she was about getting married again - they even staged an engagement on the show.. Now, she will have a staged wedding... Point blank - she lied... her nonsense of a story talking about she never had a ceremony - whatever.... you still lied to everyone about not being married - u called him your boyfriend, then fiance.... made the pulic think that you were not married... how can you call something off if you already signed the marriage license... that's not how florida works... just say that you got married at the courthouse and wanted to cover it up from your son....and apparently everyone else until the time was right...

Djra
Djra

Love your character on the show!!! You seem so sweet and genuine, and deserving of all your good fortune! I wish you and Lenny love and happiness. Good luck on the baby!!! It will happen!!!

mrsdonut
mrsdonut

I'm confused. Did Adriana apply for a marriage license and not have any kind of ceremony? If she was married in a courthouse, then she is legally married in the eyes of the state. In my state (MI), a certificate of marriage is given AFTER the ceremony, regardless of whether it is in a courthouse or church and is legal proof that a marriage ceremony has taken place. There is a big difference between a marriage license and a certificate of marriage. Anyone can apply for a marriage license, but if no ceremony is performed within 30 days (in MI) of the application, then the license expires and is no longer valid. I guess what I'm asking is this: Does Adriana have both a marriage license AND a certificate of marriage or just a license?

Viewer1000
Viewer1000

You are such a sweetheart.  I hope you are able to have that baby soon!!

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

@seasalt , because she's a witch and rude to everyone.

Cards
Cards

 @Gigitx Ew, why should she invite Ana? Ana is awful. Lea said it best during the reunion, all she does is make rude, condescending comments to other people to try and make herself interesting and relevant. It's not working. Ana should GO. 

Hulali
Hulali

 @Gigitx

 Why?  Anna is no longer a Miami housewife and is no longer relevant to the show.

Lubby
Lubby

 @lisa2 Agreed so disappointed in her blog.

@GODISGOODALLTHETIME1
@GODISGOODALLTHETIME1

 @mrsdonut 

You're right mrsdout. I suppose she got both because she claimed Lea was her "bride's maid"

Oh! mother, what a shame!

 

Rambo_is_Real
Rambo_is_Real

 @mrsdonut In the state of New York the same rules apply, my Husband and I had the License, then we had to give it back to get our Certificate. It doesn't make sense and left me confused.

lisa2
lisa2

 @mrsdonut

 You are correct.  The Courthouse would have never recognized the marriage license if it was not signed by the couple and the person officiating the wedding.  A ceremony does not make you legally married.

mrsdonut
mrsdonut

@lisa2 ..........You and I are on the same page, lisa. I just wish the HW's would turn the page and catch up! ;-)