Lisa Hochstein

Lisa reflects on the wild bachelorette party and updates us on her status with Joanna.

on Nov 5, 20130

Hi everyone! As I'm sure you may know, this week was a bit rough for me. I think with everything I had going on in my personal life at this time, it all caught up to me in Vegas. To start, I was disappointed that Lenny could not attend Joanna and Romain's wedding with me. I of course realize he had surgeries already booked and he could not make any changes.

At the time of the trip, I was very excited to go and celebrate with Joanna at the bachelorette party in Vegas with the rest of the girls. I haven't been on a girls’ trip in ages and looked forward to having fun and letting loose. Unfortunately, I had way too much to drink. Watching the end of this episode had me cringing with embarrassment. I definitely did not realize how much I had to drink and wish I was more self-conscious of my behavior.

Watching the footage on the way back to the hotel, Joanna clearly started the argument with her constant jabs and low blows. Joanna then decided to insult me further by saying I married for money, said I shop 24/7, and called me a stripper. It of course set me off. I then used words I wish I didn't in the heat of the moment. I realize now after watching the whole season, Joanna has consistently thrown jabs my way. I'm not even sure why she asked me to be in her wedding or why I accepted. For the entire season, I had been nothing but nice to her, never spoke behind her back, and thought we had a friendship of some kind. She was very quick to kick me while I was down on that bus in Vegas and showed her true colors.

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ladyhopeful1
ladyhopeful1

When you and Joanna got into an argument at Lea's handbag party (for lack of a better term). Joanna was clearly angry with you. She has something against you because you are for what is right and good. Because you seek peace, because you desire amicable relationships. She wants you to be a hag on her side against those she doesn't like. I'm glad that she revealed herself with the sideways comment about you . . . at her wedding?! (Whatever Joanna, nobody believed you for a SECOND! That lie wasn't even believable. But, it was a good attempt at pretending to be concerned with saying something bad against Lisa.) I'm glad she was revealed with her sending an attack dog on you. She is vicious and hopefully you can smile and stay away from her.

 

Lisa, you are a beautiful person. And I say that because of the heart we've seen on the show. Obviously everyone of you women on the show are physically beautiful. But that beauty stops when most open their mouth...hmm, maybe I have a lesson of my own to learn!;)

brownsugar50
brownsugar50

Lisa- you are one of my favorites on the show. You are a nice and honest person, not mean hearted like Joanna. Sometimes you sell yourself short in the way to speak about Lea and her accomplishments. You are smart, funny and successful so you can do anything you set your mind to. You will have a child one day whether and you will make a great mom.

sassyhousewife
sassyhousewife

Being a foster parent or adopting children would show the world how much you truly want a child in your life and your unselfishness. Just sayin'. People who desperately want a child would help any needy child, theirs or not. As it should be.

tonia.sheridan
tonia.sheridan

Lisa, you're totally the most honest, genuine woman on the show.  I love your 'what you see is what you get' vibe, and the fact that you're really sweet and kind to people.  Joanna is a true narcissist and completely deluded.  Don't let her ridiculous comments get you down.  You're gorgeous and take care of yourself so well - you look fantastic.  I love how you own your mistakes and unlike the other woman, don't try to cover them or lie about them - you admit you're only human and apologise.  You are humble and that quality is lacking with the other women.  I hope soon you can have a lovely baby to take care of - you'd make a fantastic Mother.  Stay humble, stay sweet and kind, and pleaseeeee, surround yourself with like minded people. 

XFernandez
XFernandez

Lisa, you and Lea are my faveeeees. You are so honest and the only one that keeps it real. "Speak sense to a fool and they will call you foolish." Don't try to talk sense to some of those women, they are fools. As for Johanna, she makes herself look bad. I know it's hard to rise above but just keep working at it.. Retaliating will only make it worse and you look too good to let someone else try and make you look bad. :)

XFernandez
XFernandez

<3 you Lisa. You are so fun and honest. I love that you "keep it real" :)

MonicaChristofili
MonicaChristofili

This is so random for me to do this, but I'm putting in a plug for my sister after my partner and I were surfing through Hulu and watched a couple episodes of your show, where we found out of your trials to conceive. My sister, Therese, is a certified RN and fertility care expert of almost 20 years, has six kids (all born by plan), and has helped so many couples conceive. She is based in Maryland but works across distance in pretty amazing ways. I know you have tried so much already, but my sister is pretty exceptional at the work she does. Best wishes! And here's my sister's information:

 

Therese Rodriguez, RN, FCP* *FertilityCare Practitioner

www.fertilitycare.org/maryland

"your cycles, your fertility, in your hands"

8rodriquezes@gmail.com

Cindy81
Cindy81

Lisa you ar emy favourite!!! You are such a caring kind hearted person and not to mention abosolutely beautiful

 

I could not believe how Joanna turned on you...you did not deserve that at all..

jrichar4
jrichar4

I used to really like Lisa until the middle of the season when she started repeatedly inserting herself in everyones drama. I also see a lot of fake moments with you this season like when you were in Texas with Lea's family and how you are friends with Adrianna, anyone that hits someone in my own home I would stay faraway from. You were also particularly nasty at the reunion and ruined it by not letting the other cast members speak. 

SargassoC
SargassoC

It's hard to get behind any of the Miami ladies, but if I had to choose one it would be Lisa. That said, something doesn't add up. I believe if she truly wanted to carry her own baby like she claims, she would gain some weight, take better care of herself and TRULY do what it takes to carry a baby to term. Just like Guiliana, we never saw her gain any real weight - just fake tears about no baby. Why haven't we seen Lisa taking fertility drugs or getting shots? Hmm... I think the true story is that she (and Lenny) don't want her to ruin her barbie doll body. I wonder if they even want children, or they would have gotten a surrogate by now. He is not getting any younger, and there is a higher rate of autism in older fathers. Now it's the "search for a surrogate" that is the new story. Not buying it. Other than that, I do think Lisa is sweet and would make a good friend. If her husband wants to spoil her and they have the money (yes THEY, not HIM because it is household income in the name of the law!) good for the both of them. That is a mutual decision. My husband is a doctor and didn't want to marry a woman with a career because he works all the time and would never see her. He wanted to come home to someone who takes good care of him and our home, and I consider that work, thank you very much!  Feminism is about CHOICES. Women need to stop judging each other for choosing to work at home or outside the home. It's a beautiful thing if we even have that choice. What Lisa and Lenny spend their money on is THEIR business. He had many years of higher educations and I am sure that man works his @ss off for what they have. If it makes him happy to spend it on his wife, good for him! Happy wife, happy life! I'd rather have the positive, upbeat Lisa as a wife than the miserable pouty mopey puppy face JoAnna. This is America. If you don't like the freedom of socialism, go live in a communist country!

bswinnyc
bswinnyc

I love you Lisa. Joanna is nothing but Trash with a Trash Mouth.  She's 'ghetto'.

Don't stoop to her level.  Best of luck with everything!

notfake
notfake

Lisa,

Have you tried acupuncture for your infertility problems?. My husband goes to a Chinese acupuncturist who has really helped him with his health issues. She has several letters on her wall from women thanking her for helping them with their infertility issues. I have also read that it does help. It's worth a try! I wish you and Lenny success, I think that you are basically a good person. I wish you the best.

Candy_V
Candy_V

I truly like you and hope for you are getting your smile back after that awful reunion.  If Joanna is a friend boy you really really do not need any enemies - what a horrible person she is.  I could tell how hurt you were and then finding out you went to dinner the night before the reunion made me know that she blindsided you.  My gut is telling me that you are still feeling embarrassed about Las Vegas, but thought the wedding made it better and then to have the reunion later had to be the worst sadness of all. 

Just know you have real fans and we wish you the best.

aliceandwonderland@626
aliceandwonderland@626

I like both of Joanna and you, just stay away from rotten Adriana.  I'm not a doctor but I have heard of really skinny woman having trouble conceiving, maybe Joanna was to straight forward on that but I have heard of that.

cgarden
cgarden

You are a good kind caring giving person. Shame on trashy Joanna, stay away she is really bad news and is jealous of you. It's so obvious- you have all she wants and she has to hustle in a dark cold world to get what she wants and still falls short. Stay true to yourself- you are one of the few real deals on the show.

jvcatlvr
jvcatlvr

Lisa seems to truly love her husband, wants a family,  and as far as all the women on RHOM, Lisa is definitely my fav.  The fight of Joanna and Lisa on the reunion was so sad.  Lisa is so right.  Joanna has been taking little digs at her all season.  She never bothered to ask Lisa to be in her wedding and when Lisa accepted the other wedding request, Joanna was so demanding because she thought Lisa should just drop everything for what Joanna wanted.  As Joanna is so insistent on making it clear to all about how "gorgeous" she is, I agree.  She is pretty on the outside but the ugliest I have ever seen inside.  Lisa, continue with Lenny and focus on you and him and that little one that will come.  Forget Joanna.  She is a bitter, jealous person. 

women_first
women_first

Lisa u r a nice lady but it seems to me that there is something that hasn't been revealed on the show yet that broke u and Joanna up. I think Joanna excepts loyalty from her friends because she is loyal so I get why Joanna is very irritated with u. I would never be friends with anyone who slapped my friend on tv. but I feel there is something else going on between u both that is not known to the viewers that's why u oth really said awful things to each other.

MoniLA
MoniLA

Dear Mrs. Lisa:  Just want to wish you and your husband the best blessings in your family plans. May you guys multiply in great numbers. LOL I've been there girl, 2 years after crying every month I became pregnant. I am a stay at home mother of 3 girls (10, 9, & 7). Your most beautiful day is coming. Keep your pretty face up and be ready. Trust in God and that He has good things for you, girl.

jules@1216
jules@1216

Lisa,  I know you want to carry your own child, but it looks like its not going to happen. Be a big girl and for your health and safety get a surrogate. It is the closest  to the real thing. Please stop dwelling on it and just do it. Look at Guilliana & Bill see how happy they are, and what a beautiful baby they had. You will be so much happier wants you make the decision,  good luck

debmerc888
debmerc888

Hi Lisa: I think you are fabulous. Beautiful, awonderful wife and a great friend. I don't think Joanna meant to go so hard on you at the Reunion, but it got out of hand and she is not known for being warm and fuzzy let's face it! You will be a great mom someday no doubt. Ignore the negativity, you have it on the ball, you just ran into a tough patch in Vegas, like we all do. By the way, Joanna's make-up guy was truly horrible to you. You handled him really well though. His behavior was totally unacceptable in my book.

Reba39forever
Reba39forever

 Joanna had her in the wedding after being asked repeatedly by Lisa the "peacemaker" I agree they are not real friends they never were.  Who asks to be in someone's wedding.  How did Joanna's wedding become all about Lisa?  The same way every other issue of the season became all about Lisa - she made it so.  Joanna's delivery was not very nice but she was not wrong - the lady needs a job or a hobby other than other peoples lives. This is not a lily white princess - this woman would not let her husband go home after the 12 hour vow renewal from hell when he had surgery scheduled the next morning.  She thinks only of herself and how things ultimately effect her. She then created a stink and Lea's party about what? Forcing Lea to make up with the Barfy Brazilian.  Joanna is also not wrong about the alcohol, weight, drugs and lifestyle affecting Lisa's ability to carry to term.  Lisa made her ability to carry to term her storyline so yes it is fair game. What the Hell is all the whining about. Put your big girl panties on and deal with it. Its not like someone just said you cheated on your dead fiancé. If the doctor's have said otherwise say so- what is the big frickin deal.  Unless of course that is part of the problem then I could see why you might start with the boo hoo.  I liked Lisa for about the first half of the season then she just became like a little annoying nat buzzing around in everyone's business. Get a job, get hobby adopt a baby I don't care find something to keep you busy.

ocdoll
ocdoll

I don't think Joanna has a problem that you don't have a job.  It is that you haven't accomplished anything on your own.

whywhywhy999
whywhywhy999

Could you post a blog and share your thoughts on the reunion?

xxxemxxx
xxxemxxx

joanna and lea both were taking jabs at you. they are not your friends, Joanna always sticks her nose where it doesn't belong. but when she has someone like Lea then she really gets out hand, last season it with Karent and now Lea.

I hope you'll get your baby soon. XoXo

jackie78704
jackie78704

Hoanna had you in her wedding because she needed a fill in Lea is not your friend. You were absoultey right on being a peacemaker its a great  thing to do. But screw the both of them you desever nothing but the best. God bless you in all you do and I pray that a baby comes threw for you ! 

be@ch
be@ch

Lisa, saw an ugly side to you toward the end of the season, and it continued at the reunion.  Joanna says she's not mentioning something (I have no idea what, but you sure seem to.  Something must be making the rounds) and you get mad and call her a hooker?  Someone somewhere said it, so you spew it on TV.  That's right down there with Adriana who I think is scum.  You have quite the evil side to you and the glee when each barb was thrown sparkled in your eyes.  Lenny seems like a hardworking, supportive husband.  You seem like a spoiled, vindictive wife when you don't get your way.  Wonder how he feels when he watches you in action.

Jettexas
Jettexas

Joanna is right, If she wants a baby, then freaking eat! Stop the plastic surgery and diet pills.

marie.garcia.7146
marie.garcia.7146

I was wondering...Where  were sleeping  when they woke you up in Vegas...it looked like some kind of case?

kekekinz1
kekekinz1

Wish you had updated after the reunion but can understand why you chose to stay away. The show is over so the drama is gone.

 

Only thing I wanted to remind people is that Joanna insinuating Lisa is an alcoholic is laughable and hypocritical. Some viewers did not forget her behavior last season. Maybe she toned it down this season? That still doesn't give her the green light to judge. Toning it down a yr later... big whoop! Secondly, she had TWO bottles of wine at her house with Lisa. Obviously she had no issues with Lisa drinking! Or maybe it was her attempt to make Lisa look bad?

Evangelia
Evangelia

@jrichar4 I don't like Lisa anymore at all. She has a mean streak and seems to be jealous of some of the others and desperate for camera time.

Evangelia
Evangelia

@SargassoC Lisa's name is not on the house deed . It is in Lenny's name only. What do your two last lines mean?

Reba39forever
Reba39forever

 @SargassoC  @ss The only thing I would add is if it makes him AND her happy then STOP worrying about what anyone thinks.  I worry a little that she gets worked up because her own self worth is wrapped up in this somehow.  If a stay at home wife is NOT what she wants then she needs to figure out ASAP what she wants. Tic tock tic tock.  Being a wife or a wife and mother are what some aspire to and there is nothing wrong with that but there is something wrong with someone staying home if that is not what they want but they are doing it because that is what their partner wants or they think they are supposed to do.  Welcome to 2013 we have choices.   She just has a little growing up to do to become a little more comfortable with hers maybe?

Reba39forever
Reba39forever

 @jvcatlvr

 Why would Joanna be obligated to ask some person she met a year ago over friends and family.  This is ridiculous. Lisa should not have put her in this position. Being a friend should not come with strings. Be there for someone for the sake of being there not because you want something out of IE a spot in their wedding that oh by the way you know is going to be the big sha bang of the season.  I liked Lisa for the first half then she became annoying she is not little miss innocent. Joanna is a plain speaker Lisa needs to grow up and stop acting like the child she pretends to want to have.

Monroebaby
Monroebaby

@Reba39forever I have to agree with you. I just re-watched the reunion and Lisa started the trouble and wouldn't let anyone else speak. She had some very ugly things to say to everyone. And yes, she asked Joanna to be in her wedding. Joanna, unlike the Brazilian banshee, had real friends in her wedding party rather than cast mates. I doubt that Lisa would've been asked had she not put Joanna in an awkward position.

jvcatlvr
jvcatlvr

 @ocdoll

 Uh, known Lisa all her life??  Obviously so as you can say that Lisa hasn't accomplished anything.  As for Joanna "accomplishing" something, I think her beauty and general body shape has gotten her a modeling job.. That same "beauty" comes from her genes which is luck of the draw.  Also, although I feel that a modeling career is something that I would love to be lucky enough to be even in the running for, I certainly wouldn't call it an accomplishment.  An accomplishment, to me, is something that makes some sort of difference and affect..  Beauty is fleeting, do you think Joanna will still be a model when she is older? 

jvcatlvr
jvcatlvr

 @ocdoll

 How do you know what Lisa has done in her life?  Known her all her life?  Last I looked, being a model is not considered humanitarian.  It seems based on looks and body shape.  I think genes mostly determine that and that is luck of the draw, nothing you can "accomplish".

debmerc888
debmerc888

How do you know what Lisa has or has not accomplished?

ocdoll
ocdoll

 @jackie78704

 Joanna did not need Lisa as a bridesmaid.  She had plenty of real friends to fill those roles.  Lisa wormed her way in because she wanted to be a bridesmaid and feel important.

jvcatlvr
jvcatlvr

 @Jettexas

 I personally know several severely underweight women that became pregnant and delivered.

Shelleycon
Shelleycon

@Jettexas even though kinda like Lisa, totally concur, weight s a very important issue when trying for a baby. Some of these girls would rather try anything else first rather then put on a few pounds give up Botox and booze. Priorities.

jvcatlvr
jvcatlvr

 @Reba39forever

 I did not say anything about that Joanna SHOULD ask Lisa to be in her wedding.  Of course family should come first.  What I said was that Joanna waited to even let Lisa know that she MAY have Lisa in her wedding.  But Lisa WAS asked, not MAY that Joanna should, and accepted as Andrian was her friend too.  I see nothing wrong in Lisa doing that.  Then after Lisa had already obligated herself to Adrian, Joanna demanded Lisa go back on her obligation to Lisa's other friend just because Joanna decided she was more important than anyone else.  If Joanna was a real friend of Lisa's, she would have understood Lisa's obligation already made.  Lisa NEVER hid the fact that she was also friends with Adrian.  Lisa was also "there" for Adrian, why should Joanna EXPECT Lisa drop everything to be in HER wedding.  There is no law requiring a person to have only ONE friend.

 

be@ch
be@ch

 @jvcatlvr  @ocdoll

 Joanna is accomplishing something to make a difference, she rescues animals.  I think that makes a difference. 

And, uh,  why did you basically post the same thing twice? 

ocdoll
ocdoll

 @debmerc888

 I know as much about her as you do and from what I can see her only accomplishment is a marrying a rich doctor.

MoniLA
MoniLA

 @debmerc888 @ ocdoll- How could you say Joanna doesn't have a problem w/Lisa not having a job? Joanna kept bringing it up. And whether or not someone has or hasn't "accomplished" something on their own DOES NOT merit Joanna's nasty attitude. This whole Joanna thing is absolutely horrendous and gross. And, you comment about Lisa's personal business as if you know. How do you know what she does or doesn't do? Seriously.

be@ch
be@ch

 @jvcatlvr  @Jettexas

 Sadly, even some drug addicts that have an easier time conceiving than someone who truly wants a baby.  But did the severely underweight people you know have trouble conceiving and maintaining the pregnancy?  I'd be surprised if that were the case. 

Reba39forever
Reba39forever

 @jvcatlvr  @Reba39forever It did not appear that Joanna intended to ask Lisa but only did after Lisa asked to be in the Wedding putting Joanna on the spot. Making Joanna feel obligated after Lisa "went out of her way" for Joanna.  That is not how friends behave but then again I agree they were never true friend.  Lisa should Never have asked to be in the wedding then the issue would Never have come up Joanna would have had her actual friend and family in the wedding but Lisa would have missed her big moment because after all isn't that what Joanna's wedding was all about Lisa's big moment?

be@ch
be@ch

 @MoniLA  @debmerc888

 I don't think it was whether Lisa worked/works, when Joanna mentioned a job it was that Lisa seemed to need something to do to keep her busy instead of focusing on other people's business, and wondering why Lenny didn't pick up the phone. 

jvcatlvr
jvcatlvr

 @be@ch  @jvcatlvr  @Jettexas

 I really don't think conceiving was problem as most wasn't trying, but I do know that maintaining a healthy pregnancy was a problem.  Of course, it wasn't ideal for growth of healthy baby that wasn't affected negatively by either drinking and/or drugs.