I need a glass of red wine before I can even begin writing this blog. Chianti is appropriate, I think, because if things get any more heated we're going to need a side order of fava beans and someone's liver to go with that. Oh my Jersey girls ... what is going ON? Holy hair-weave-on-a-head. Well, off a head, as it turns out. WOW. I was with Caroline, Teresa and Jacqueline earlier this week and because my blog was an episode behind didn't discuss any of this, but I have to say my jaw was on the floor in places. But before we get to the hair pulling...
Caroline is in such pain with Albie's law school situation, and I understand that completely. If it were one of my sons, I’d want to sue the school. Why wasn't he able to get the support he needed for his learning disability? Clearly at least one person at the school knew he needed it. If, with services, grades didn’t improve, that's one thing. If no help was available, that’s another. Given that assistance was available but Albie was not able to receive it, there’s no opportunity for improvement and that isn’t fair. Part of me wants to say more about this but I’m going to hold off for now. One thing I will say though, is that the tenacity Albie has displayed in working through this is a good quality to have if you’re a lawyer.
What the heck happened in Posche? Sidebar, can I just say that every time I type that I mistype Porsche? Is that meant to be subliminal? She doesn't sell cars. Anyway....Danielle walked into the boutique and didn't recognize the girl behind the desk. Here's what we don't know – how long she stood there while the girl was on the phone. Here’s what we do know – Danielle slapped her bag down on the counter and looked impatient. I've answered my share of phones at various college jobs, and if someone slapped their bag on the desk in a huff and it wasn't Hillary Clinton or Isaac Mizrahi, bag slapping would not make me get off the phone faster. If someone is on the phone and signals to you that they'll be with you in a moment, that doesn't automatically make them rude or disrespectful. That makes them a multitasker. In Danielle's world, multitasking is apparently offensive.
Here's my favorite moment of episode 9 – the 6,000 expressions crossing Albert's face when Caroline asked him to retire. When you get a reaction like that, it's reality TV magic, and when they went out to dinner, I understood completely Caroline's rationale that she wouldn't cancel plans with her husband to get involved in nonsense. That's why I always had Simon with me in season one! Speaking of Caroline, I was really proud that she had an open mind about the Posche fashion show and suggested that the girls go ahead and attend. It would be nice if all the girls could be at an event and smile, nod and walk away. Of course then they wouldn’t want to film it.
Alex- So glad you're back! As usual, your blog is right on the mark! Ashley, Ashley, Ashley is all I can say about her. As always- Best you, Simon and the chums! C
This whole thing with Albie and everyone commenting on how unfair the law school was is really making me angry. First of all, if he is an adult who is supposedly responsible enough to be in law school, he should also be able to take the initiative to contact the school's disability right office for assistance on his own, the school should not have to hold his hand. Secondly, VERY FEW accommodations are provided in college or graduate schools (at MOST he would get extended time on tests and maybe a note-taker) and in order to get them you have to have documentation (psychological testing, an educational or medical diagnosis, etc)- they don't just give them to you because you say so. If he didn't have an IEP in high school or these accommodations in college, he won't (and shouldn't) get them in law school (and if he did have them in college, he should have known to ask for that in law school). Are we supposed to believe that he made it through college and the law school application process (including taking the LSAT) without accommodations, but then when he fails out of school he suddenly has a disability? He seems like a nice kid who really does want to be a lawyer, but he needs to stop blaming the school for this.
Great blog...you are so well spoken and witty! I agree with your take on the episode. I guess we'll see how it plays out!
You obviously are trying to gain new friends in the Jersey quartet (C, T, J, and Dina). There is no need to excuse their behaviors because you want their company. You are indeed coming off as a bit pretentious.
Alex, As an educator,I agree with your observations on Albie's situation. As a side note,this season, you lookeven more FABULOUS than usual. Can't wait to read your book!
We must have been watching a different show because Danielle really was assaulted, and her "paranoia" as you called it, wasn't the same nonsense as Kelly's on that loony island. You need to watch this episode again because it was three lunatics running after a woman. After watching this episode, I totally understand why she would need protections. I'll write it in caps so you'll get it more clearly: DANIELLE WAS CHASED BY SOME GHETTO ITALIAN GIRL FROM PATERSON AND THEN ASSAULTED BY SOME TEENAGER. Good for Danielle for having a body guard there, she clearly does need it from those women.
Alex, you are truly one of my favorites.
And I guess out of all the people that watch the Housewives shows I maybe the only one who truly feel sorry for Danielle. She had a past so what she has over comed that I think they need to truly think about how it feels to have everyone against you. Alex the first season you were on I lost a lot of respect for some of the houswives that just attacked you with their words for no reason. How did that make you feel? Well in watching the NJ houswives I think she does have some drama tendencies, but enough is enough. They need to stop being mean girls. They are mother's how do they think her kids feel when they bring up her past or gang up on their mom. Let's make this a fair fight(one on one). Also Ashley has stirred up a lot. If she was my daughter after the first incident she had with Dainelle I would have stopped her from being on the show. Alex please know this is absolutely not anything against you. Just a fan weighing in.
I also loved the look on Caroline's husband when she asked him to retire..My husband got the same deer caught in the headlights look when I asked him to do the same. There was much drama with the extension pulling but after watching the show Danielle put on I can understand why a little bit of her goes a long way...such constant behavior and lies become a bore in time...Drama Queen is an apt description.. Waiting to see what happens with NY Wives next season..You add real class to they wives of NY. You looked absolutely stunning at Beths wedding.
I usually agree with you, but not this time. What do you think would have happened if Teresa would have caught Danielle during the chase? She would have yanked her hair, pushed her, etc. Teresa started this fight. Danielle did not start this fight. Teresa is very lucky that she didn't catch up with Danielle, else she would have been the one who went to court. There's no excuse for what Teresa did. Also, Ashley did not think her mom got hit. She stood there, and very purposefully attacked Danielle. It was a very calculating move, and she was happy she did it. She is very immature for her age.
Alex, You seem to be the only level headed one. I agree with everything you wrote here. I think you should take a drive over to Jersey and let Danielle know what's up like you did with Jill.
I agree with you on all points however one i must comment when your children are older you will understand..not a snarky comment the truth...my daughter is 18 they do not understand that their actions will have consequences be it good or bad they do not have that understanding in their brain i watch Ashley and want to say what are you doing and then i look at my daughter and say ...........(no words) Ashley is 100% wrong to adults but 100% right in her mind (same as me and my daughter) how funny we see things differently and who is right in their actions but they are her feelings and they are hers to own....do you have a chapter on this in your book if not let me kmow when you do i could use the help
I just love the fact that you tell it like it is with such class!! I think the reason you know Danielle so well is because you are stuck with CRAZY Kelly on your show!! Thanks for telling the truth in a way in which we all would love to be able to do!! Miss you and your family, and good luck with your book!!
Alex, your perspective is 100% correct on everything!! I also just want to say that you are wonderful!!
Five Stars blog Alex!
I read your book. Let me tell you, I liked you very much before reading it... Now I adore you two! Yours is one of the most loving histories I have ever had the pleasure to read. I laugh, I tear, I saw myself in you in several situations. I enjoyed so much! I wish you a lot of success! Now waiting for your next book! I want more of what you have to share with us! Loving Silex always.
A very funny observation that NY housewives really do try to use their words! However, if you & Jill return for another season you might want to watch your back because she was staring daggers at you throughout most of the reunion show (this well-meaning moron is just saying).
I grew up in New Jersey and I have to say I'm embarrassed by Teresa, Jacqueline & Danielle's behavior. Does America think this is typical New Jersey behavior? ML
Alex, I soo admire you. First class all the way! When will you and Simon make your way down to Phoenix? I wish you had your own show. Team Alex!
Your the only person out of all HW's that have their head in the right place. THANK GOD! You need your own show like Bethenny. Loved seeing you at her wedding. You and Simon looked amazing! Your dress was to die for! Aren't you glad you don't live in NJ???? Hope to see you and Ramona on Bethenny's show again soon.
Really? Really? That was your takeaway from the confrontation? It was Danielle's fault? And Ashley's behaviour is okay with you?
Any sane person can see that Teresa was the pot-stirrer here, and frankly, Ashley's unprovoked physical assault, along with her reaction to her parents' dressing down after the fact makes me wonder if she shouldn't be taking the same anti-psychotic medications Danielle most assuredly needs.
Your focus on Danielle's comment about Teresa's foreclosure (which of course, we all know is true), without mentioning the smirk on Teresa's face at the outset of the confrontation, her insistence on this confrontation, calling Danielle an old hag and a bitch, and finally chasing her out of the club, screaming, "bitch get outta the car and talk to me," makes me wonder if you might have started the chianti a little too early.
If that was your takeaway after this episode, I have to question your ability to see anything clearly, and ultimately, your judgment. Your summary of events in light of clearly inappropriate behaviour toward a person whose mental stability is clearly in question makes me question anything and everything you've ever alleged about your own victimization at the hands of the "evil" Jill Zarin, who I also recognize is a piece of work.
Maybe you should watch again without filtering how you feel about the individuals involved, or maybe you should lay off the chianti.
Great post, Alex! I'm in total agreement with you on all counts. I'm amazed by both Danielle and Kelly - is Bravo TRYING to find unstable women to stir up the drama? I think they both need serious psychotherapy and meds.
Ashley is young and stupid, and clearly needs to learn the hard way - many of us have been there (definitely referring to myself here). But she has a good, solid family who will eventually get her on the right track. The one thing I really love about RHONJ is the Manzo Family - they're solid people who are raising good kids - love, love, love them!
On the RHONY front - best of luck with Kelly if she sticks around for another season. I think you'll all need it! :)
I used to enjoy watching the show but know it just seem to be more violent. The only smart one of the ladies is Caroline. Jacqueline and Teresa you act like you are so innocent, if Teresa would not have been waiting for Danielle would this have happen. I am sure that Danielle has her share of problems. Do you know for a fact that she has done everything that has been written about her. If Danielle was that bad would she be on a tv show. I hope all of you ladies can learn from this.
I couldn't agree more! Ashley does need to face the consequences but I would have done the same and defend my mom but overall you hit it on the nail.
Most schools offer disability support services. Many professors even include this in their syllabi. It's the student's responsibility to request/apply for services if they feel that their documented disability is significantly hindering them. You really should stick to things you know, Alex, like um, well whatever it is you are an expert on...
Love you Alex! You are awesome and I hope you come back for another NY Season, or else I will be tuning out.
I think Ashley is a spoiled brat and a complete disgrace. There's no condoning grabbing someone older then your mother from behind like that. What a coward.
You thought Danielle was a little over the top when she went running though the halls [and I agree with you] and I thought you were a little over the top with your pretend panic attack when Jill showed up on the Island. Too funny that you can't see yourself the way you see others.
What do you have against Danielle. Are you seriously going to make her the bad guy in this episode too? Or is this about your allegiance with Ramona.
Good to "see" you, Alex. I also agree w/your perspective. Love seeing you on B's show too!
I think viewers love a "good story." This Danielle vs the world story is SO old. It's truly like the Kelly story.
Once the "NUT" has left the shell, there's no putting it back again. I guess Kelly and Danielle are "supposedly" bringing in the ratings, but let me tell you, they're not going to keep them up.
We all like a bit of conflict, but when it comes to the health of children and their well-being, well, I think most grown-ups watching a reality show would concur that nothing is worth watching that kind of destruction and demoralization.
as usual you are right on target - love your blog posts! and loved your book!!! as a parent, I could so identify with what you wrote and laughed right along with you and Simon -
WOW! What "D"rama! As always, you've pretty much stated it! While Ashley's intentions were good, her delivery was, well, inexcusable! I can understand Thersa wanting to once & for all confront D & end the BS, & I think D's real fear was actaaully facing not physical harm, but. That she would have come face-to-face with her lies! That's why she ran!
Are you seriously condoning that kind of violence? For once, Danielle was absolutely right. She was ganged up on and straight-out bullied. And that kind of situation is extremely frightening, and her feelings of fear and hurt were justified. I just hate the mentality that makes it ok for people to dismiss others' painful experiences as "overdramatic". It's really terrible.
I love your perspective. It is so clear and usually right on the money. Could you come to my house and spend some time with our family? We could use some of that insight here some days! Keep blogging.
Alex I love you and Simon both and you have always been my favorite NY Housewive! Your boys remind me so much of my own at that age, they are beautiful just like you.
New Jersey looks like crazy town to me and I am so thankful I don't have to live there! Poor Dina and Caroline.
Can't wait to see you on your next season. xxoo
Oh Alex, why are you being such an apologist for Teresa? I'd hoped you would be objective.
The only insightful observation you made related to Ashley's highly suspect claim that someone told her Danielle had "hit her mother". Of course she lied about that to make her actions seem more acceptable. I can't believe how naive everyone is being to believe her. (Though I suspect the family doesn't believe her, just going along with the lie for appearances' sake.)
That family is a bunch of bullies. I can't stand Danielle, but I can't stand bullies and liars more.
Holy cannoli! What a bunch of gavone trash! That is a capper of a generally trashy season--Spending $$ you don't have, fighting like street cats in your 40s, uneducated, tacky. Talk about giving Jersey and Italians a bad name.