First I want to start by saying that I read Teresa's blog from this episode and I would just like quote her, "Jacqueline said in her blog last week, we're supposed to blog about what happened when the episode aired, why it happened, what we were feeling at THAT time. It's part of the gig. Do I wish I never had to talk about/think about/write about/see Danielle ever again? Of course! But I agreed to be on the show and I think it's a cop-out and not fair to the fans to write fake blogs every week or refuse to talk about a cast member." I couldn't have said it more perfectly. Now, that being said, how do I even begin to write about this episode?
This is going to be a long one, where do I begin? Hmm, I guess I can start with, where did I go? Well, after the lovely starring contest we all had, I was ready to go home. I went there to model for Kim, and I did my job. Once Danielle and I started exchanging looks, and after hearing what her and her groupies were saying about me, I decided it was probably best for me to leave. I wanted to remove myself from the situation. I went into the dressing room to start gathering my things and to help clean up a little before I said my goodbyes. I got my things together, and then went into the production room to give my mic back. While I was taking my mic off I was watching the monitors. I saw my mom and Teresa sitting in the hallway on one monitor, and then I saw Danielle and Kim G enter the hallway on another monitor. They then began to exchange words.
This episode starts with the continuing argument between my mother, Teresa and Danielle. What a mess. I honestly don't think that Teresa's intention was to start trouble. Knowing Teresa for as long as I have, I think she honestly just wanted to say hi. CLEARLY that plan was not fully thought through. Even if Teresa imagined she'd have any sort of altercation with Danielle, I can assure you all that she did not expect it to go as far as it did. Anyway, back to me in the production room. We were all on edge watching the monitors, and my adrenaline was already pumping from nerves. All of the sudden they all headed into the main room where the show was, AND ALL FOUR OF THE MONITORS went static. I then heard what sounded like a table, or a few glasses getting knocked over, and people screaming and yelling outside of the doors. There was chaos in the production room too. I left the production room to find out what happened. When I entered the hallway I saw Danielle running outside with Teresa following quickly behind her, with a crowd of random women trying to watch all the commotion. At this point my heart was beating so hard in my chest, and I couldn't find my mom. Someone had said to me, "I think Danielle hit your mom." My stomach was in knots. I then went outside to look for Danielle to yell at her. A few of my friends were trying to talk me down from an anxiety attack. I thought that someone had harmed my mother. What would you do in that situation? I didn't snap just because I thought something happened to my mom. Danielle had been messing with my family for over a year, and that recently she had even begun to purposely push my buttons. So imagine all of that, plus thinking she hit my mother?! I literally blacked out from all of the adrenaline. I didn't even think to try to find my mother to make sure she was OK first. I did not see my mom before I pulled Danielle's hair. Otherwise I would have asked my mom IF Danielle had hit her, and if she was OK first. If you paid attention to the scene of me right before I pulled Danielle's hair, you see me just observing the situation outside. The camera zoomed in on my face and if it looked like I was terrified and about to throw up, it's because I was. So all of those factors led me to act on impulse. I AM NOT MAKING EXCUSES FOR MYSELF. I am simply telling it like it is. Do I hate Danielle? YES. Is that the sole reason that I felt like pulling her hair? NO. Like I said, I blacked out from the adrenaline. I was acting on impulse. I don't just go around pulling the hair of people that I don't like. If I did that, I would be in jail by now.
A suggestion my dear child is to put down the shovel that you are digging a hole for yourself because you'll never be able to get yourself out of it!
Grow up Ashley! You my only be 19, but that does not give you an excuse for acting the way you do. Take a step back and look at the potential harm you are doing to your future with your actions on the show and your blogs.
As Teresa would say "Honey" you need to grow up. You claim you are adult enough to be on your own but your actions speak louder than words. You are a beautiful girl who has a family that has her back. Stop disrepecting them. They want whats best for you. Being a brat is not becoming to you. Show that you have a good head on the shoulders and figure out what you want to do with your life. You are not in high school anymore and you need to figure out what you are going to do if not college what kind of job you would like to do. Be an inspiration to young girls. Dont let Danielle push your buttons. Its really pretty sad that a grown woman cant stand up to your mom so she comes after you. She knows you mom is too much for her and she can't win against her but you are young and easy to push. take a tip from your mom and show that you are too classy to drop to her level.
WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? TERESA WANTED TO START TROUBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why would she say ANYTHING to Danielle and she despises her?!!! It amazes me how you all stick up for each other knowing you're wrong. What you and Teresa did was very much out of line and unacceptable, I don't care how much you dislike Danielle!!! You had now right putting your hands on her!! You may think you are bad, but there is always someone out there who is badder; let's just hope you never run into them!
Ashley, I am glad that your blog was written so eloquently. It really shows that you know how to self reflect. And you are probably tired of turning the other cheek with Daniel, and are probably frustrated with not having any vindication towards the insanity towards your family. Yet, I must say that although you feel you are old enough to make decisions that make you feel better at the time, it only blows things up further in the end. This woman is insane and needs to be taken off of the show, you do not know what she is capable of and she could hurt you or your family...the best way to get to her is silence.... remember "Words hurt, but Silence Kills"! And I think you are really a Ham just like your mammy and I enjoy watching you both!
Oh Ashley...you have so much growing up to do. I wonder if being involved in the show is such a good idea for someone your age. You don't need to be in the middle of the nastiness and chaos that goes on. Maybe you need to find something better to do with your time to secure your future? Maybe go to school full-time or get a job w/out the cameras? Leave "The Housewives" drama for your mother to handle.
Ashley I commend you for taking responsibility for your actions & also using your ability to reach the public about TWLOHA also! I also support this group and amazed of all those involved & supporting them! You are still growing & I appreciate you being honest about what you were feeling and also making sure to come across that this was NOT ok in any way!
You are a beautiful young lady & I know you will go far with wonderful parents & family to help give you that kick when you need it!!
Ashley, put down that shovel that your using to dig a hole that you will never be able to get out of!
When the camera showed your face you looked like you were itching to attack and get next to Danielle! If you were so concerned that Danielle had attacked your mother, why didn't you look for her first? Isn't your mother's well being more important if she was attacked, as oppose to looking for the "so called" attacker? This is because you are not telling the truth, you know that "NO ONE" told you your mother was attacked! All you and your family do is make excuses for your behavior! I am so tired of watching you all scramble around the truth and shifting the blame on the person who was really attacked!
Everyone keeps telling you to grow up, but I get where you're coming from. At 18, if someone hit my mother, I wasn't mature enough to respond like an adult. Everyone forgets what they were like at that age, and thought I'm a little older and wiser, it's even difficult for me to remember.
Hindsight is always 20/20, and obviously you realized that you're decision then wasn't the best, and I applaud you for that. That's a real sign of maturity. You not only recognized the mistake, but you appear to have taken full responsibility for it. That's something that some don't figure out until later in life, and some, still, never learn.
I totally get you. I get that the tension and adrenaline of the evening caused everyone to behave badly. No, you didn't behave well. You own up to that. You learned your lesson. You're growing. Life will go on.
How many times in this blog do you have to say you pulled her hair because you thought your mother was hit by Danielle? It's almost like you are trying to shove that down our throats. I don't believe you! I agree with the others.. You are spoiled! I don't care for Danielle at all but I honestly don't care for your attitude. Have some respect and act like a lady.. Give some of the young girls out there someone to look up to.
Hi Ashley! This was such a difficult episode to watch and, most likely, an even more blog to write for you. We all get upset, we all do things that we're not sometimes proud of, and yes - we do disrespect our parents sometimes. That's all apart of growing up...and we never stop growing. There's always chances to learn and grow throughout our lives and you're proving just that. I think you've made incredible strides! I love your look as well! I would love to do a make up tutorial of your look on my channel youtube.com/leira821! You're fabulous! Keep doing you!
Thats what the teenage years are for- to make mistakes and LEARN from them. Your parents may not like your actions, but they will always love you. Parents are there for guidance as you grow, not to be disrespected at every turn. Try to put yourself in your mom's place and you may see your actions and attitude a little differently. Good luck!!
Ashley - You sound very grown up to me. And yes it was wrong what you did but you just reacted to what you heard and the chaos Danielle causes wherever she goes.
Just because someone does not agree with your words or actions do not mean they are a hater. I suffer from anxiety attacks and you were not having an attack, you were angry and wanted to attack Danielle and that is what you did. The way you spoke to your mom directly after and then to your parents later shows that you intend to do whatever you want....did you tell them you had an anxiety attack and that is why you attacked her? No you told them you could do whatever you wanted....the saddest thing about it all is no matter what kind of person you or Theresa or Danielle are, there are ppl in this world who are proud of you and Theresa's actions. Why would anyone condone violence.
DANIELLE HAD HAIR IN HER HANDS IN THE LIMOSINE THAT YOU PULLED OUT! YOU WOULDN'T HAVE HAD TO WORRY ABOUT IF SHE HAD HAIR MISSING OR NOT, IF YOU WOULD HAVE KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF!!!!
Ashley I hear you but you have to stop! She is not well and obviously she knows how to work the system. The cops know her, they have been to her house or to other altercations with her. She thrives for this attention, don't be the reason she gets it. Be better then she is. It is not that hard considering the piece of crap she is.
You are a child compared to Danielle. PLEASE STAY IN A CHILD'S PLACE!!! All of this chaos would not be going on if your dreadful family had not dug up Danielle's past. Furthermore, your family have a lot of skeletons in their closet. They or you have no right to judge anyone.
people this is an 18 year old child she will make many more mistakes that`s what growing up is all about ,Danielle is the problem why can`t u people see that .
hey girly just do you i see where u are coming from i am behined u all the way just dont worry about her any more u know just focus on you and your family =)
Hopefully this gets posted...Ashley...I'm not sure where to begin...I just find it so amazing that for the first year of this show you were just kind of in the background, you were a normal teenager that of course fought with her parents here and there but other than that you were a sweet girl. And now you are acting less mature than you were a year ago. I feel that a lot of this ridiculous acting out with making sure to get involved with Danielle to the point of laying hands on her is for the purpose of bringing on your 15 mintues of fame, and I'm not sure how your fans and really your parents don't see this. Your acting out has been escalating over time and I think you have discovered that the worse you are the more air time you get...I mean all of a sudden this season you get your own blog and promote yourself on FB and twitter, disrespect your parents left and right, fail miserably at ignoring Danielle. Go back to enjoying your life instead of doing this to yourself, you're 19...you aren't one of the adult housewives that this show is supposed to be about. And I don't 100% buy all that you said in your blog today (how you have learned etc.)...just seems like excuses to me...you haven't learned a thing since this episode was taped. Just go back and review all your tweets and FB posts. In the end you do what you want...if you want to portray yourself so negatively to get your fame then go for it I guess...but that makes you no better than Danielle and that's sad because you can be better than that. Obviously you probably aren't going to listen to me or the others that clearly feel the way I do...we're just some stranger writing a bunch of words and you've already said you like the attention positive or negative...but I'm a fan of the show and regardless these comments are meant for your review to see an outsiders point-of-view.
This is you at 30 speaking to your younger self: SHUT UP! You'll be all the better if you just stop talking, and listen. Trust me! And for God sake, trust your parents!
Thanks, Ashley at 30
I agree that Ashley made a mistake in getting involved in the "adult's" fight, although they were acting like they were in high school. Ashley, I hope you realize that Danielle is trying to ruin your family. She was spurned by your mother, so now she is trying to ruin her life by ruining yours. Be the mature one, dont respond to her remarks, or stares, and totally cut her off. She is a narcissist, if you look up that disease you will see that they thrive on fights. The only way to end it all, is to not respond at all. Your best revenge is to be successful in life. And it looks like you are on the first steps of that. Keep up the good work!!
For everyone jumping down Ashley's throat, I want to see just how mature you all were at 19. She has clearly learned her lesson from this, but learning your lesson doesn't mean it changes your feelings at the time when it all went down. I can look back at situations in my own life (in my mid 30's now) where I can totally understand my anger and rage but wish I had handled it differently.
Ashley, I understand you and am glad that you can look at this and know that you could've handled the situation differently. Now, stay away from that "prostitution whore"… and I don't say that to make light of it, she is clearly dangerous and has an obsessive vendetta against you and your family.
I have to say if I were in the same situation as you, I know I would have gone after Danielle, too. And, I know my parents, like yours, would have been pissed at me afterwards. Your reasoning for going after Danielle is totally understood. However, I probably would have left as soon as I was done modeling. People are "yelling" at you on here b/c of what you did. Would these people have acted any different if they were in that situation at your age? I know you would have. I know that if my daughter was in your situation she would have done the same. People need to actually read your blog- not skim throuhg it. You admitted you made a MISTAKE. You have stated you learned your lesson. So at least something positive came out of the whole situation. I was like you at that age. I was disrespectful & mouthy to my parents. I got myself into some "difficult" situation, & yet my parents were there to help me out of it & give me guidance- like your parents. Keep you head up high & let the haters keep hating. No one is perfect, yet it seems like a lot of the viewers think they are an exception to that. Keep being yourself & give your parents a break. :-)
I agree with Ashley2 you knew exactly what you were doing. If she was gettn on your nerves and you wanted to pull her hair just admit it! You will not be the first or last adult to get out of character but in the same token what ever decison you make make sure you can handle the consequences! Your excuse that you hit D because you heard D hit your mon was BS Knock it off!
Ashley, I love you guys to pieces,,,,,but I don't believe for one minute you thought or that anyone told you your mom had been hit.....sorry but I don't. I think because of all of the drama that goes on with Danielle off screen that you snapped for a moment and did what you could to get to her. It saddens me for you because it was immature but most of all you played right into Danielle's sick drama. She suceeded that night, she knew something would happen and you and Teresa laid the ground work. I do believe that she truly causes your family alot of grief, but even at 19 you must act as a responsible adult. You said you parents didn't understand your feelings about the situation, well that's the point. It didn't matter what you felt, you jumped before you thought, as someone who wants to be treated as an adult, you must start acting like one!! Love ya Ashley, please consider my words are from the heart of a mom myself!!
Please get off of the show, you add nothing to it except to show what a spoiled brat that your mother has raised. I dont buy all this innocent, Ive learned my lesson BS. It takes two to tango so as much as I dont like Danielle, I also believe your family is not as innocent as you all portray yourselves to be. It's easier to make ppl believe you when you have number s behind you, unlike Danielle who only has herself. I think ALL OF YOU, have pushed each others buttons and now its totally out of control. I guess it will end when someone gets seriously hurt. Bravo, Ashley should be removed for putting her hands on another castmate. End of discussion. Even reality shows dont allow that.
Hi Ashley, I think it sounds like you learned your lesson. I watched the episode many times, and I don't think you could have gotten that much hair so quickly?? I'm with you on this one!! Laura, San Jose
Ashley, First off you looked AMAZING in the Fashion Show. And second, I think you handled the situtation very well, until you herd your mother was hit. If I EVER herd my mom was hit from someone like Danielle, who has been harassing my family.. I would have done the same exact thing. And I must say again as I have been saying on twitter: xKayla_Marie_ & Facebook: Kayla Marie Posada... Love & Light. & I love you Ash your one of my fav's ;). Can't wait to see the next episode.
Love & Light , Kayla
You are so lucky that your parents back you up but you don't hit people regardless of the reasons is against the law. You understand that dont you? Go to college get a job and try to be a decent member of society PS. At least go to the gym
ashley i wouldve done the same thing :X :0 lol! awesome blog and like i told you on the phone i'm a huge fan :D lol :P just happy its all over and i cant wait til the reunion..i hope that doesn't turn into a mess too..
You have a disturbing lack of empathy that really makes you seem more like Danielle than not like her.
Ashley: Your heart was in the right place, but the actual circumstances did not warrant your actions. This is why you are being told to "let the adults handle this". We've all been your age, and know that we act on impulse instead of common sense at 18 or 19. You admit you were wrong, and that's good. However, you need to take that admission and really let it sink in. Step back from a situation that doesn't concern you. Words are words, and all will come out in the wash if those words are not true. From a legal stance, what you did is called Simple Assault and is a crime. Keep your hands OFF of people and let those who talk smack about your family get their judgment day when the lies and rumors are revealed to be just that....Lies & rumors. You have to remember, you can't play with the big girls because you haven't got enough experience under your belt yet.
It's simple - you sunk to her level and actually for a brief moment made Danielle the martyr. It does look like Danielle would have exited the club and been on her way without Teresa opening her mouth. She might have been in her car and on her way without you attacking her. Have you ever heard of taking the "high road".
Ashley, what you forget is that there were cameras there taping exactly what went on so we know that either you are delusional or you are a liar or maybe you just don't know what the truth is. YOU were not having a panic attack before you assualted Danielle. The cameras not only caught where you were and what you looked like (calm) but it also caught what you said. Watch the show and see if what I am posting isn't true. How you can try and justify your actions and make it be Danielles fault is an example of how immature you are. The actions of a 12 year old are to think they are smarter than their parent, disrespectful, and covering the truth with either half truths or outright lies. You are not smarter than the viewers who actually saw the show Monday. I was willing to give you a second chance since you are a chld but I can see that you enjoy being disrespectful and immature. If you were my child, I would be embarrassed to no end and would make you apologize for your uncalled for actions. Please consider it. You might be able to retain some fans if you do so.
You need to stay out of adult issues, until you become one. You need to get yourself a job or go back to school. Really!
You are SO right. It is ALL Danielle's fault. I love how your "evidence" of that is that she told Kim G. that this would happen (i.e. that you would act like animals and then you did act like animals - shocker) and to not let Kim hit your mom because that would go against her plan. You know, the plan where she "planned" for you to grab her.
Oh my God, you are so full of sh*t. You WERE bragging. Your smug face showed that. You basically were telling Teresa, "hey, look at me Teresa, I'm as cool as you. I can act like an animal out of control". Yay, you. You should be so ashamed of yourself. I actually get that you may have blacked out from your adrenaline but everything else is BS babygirl and anyone with any sense would not buy it. Sorry kiddo. Get a job and go back to school. Try contributing to society because right now you are going down the wrong path. Good luck.
Ashley No one is buying this..you know good and well you pulled Danielle's hair bcuz you wanted to and bcuz you dont like her you even said it yourself to your mom that you pulled her hair bcuz you think she's a bitch and you dont like her so why are you lying and now sayn you did it bcuz someone said she hit your mom i honesty doubt anyone told you that..you are such a liar..Danielle needs to press charges and you need to suffer the consequences..
Hopefully this will teach you a lesson to stay out of grown people business
Bravo will probably not post, but: Let the hate roll off your back, Ashley. You're a pretty, sweet girl - and we've all been 18 before. I'm pretty sure I would have done something along the same lines had I been in your shoes at that age. And you know what? 20 years later I'm a responsible wife, mother and attorney. There's hope for teenagers I promise! ;-) You should listen to your stepdad, though - he's very wise. I think you would do well from now on to heed his advice, instead of trying to reinvent the wheel. Good luck to you, sweetie! You are a cutie pie!
Bravo never prints my comments so let's see . . .
Shame on Bravo for having you on the show and giving you a blog. You are still a child (even though legally you are an "adult"). Being mixed up in this petty and crazy drama has not helped you at all. Shame on Bravo for having Danielle on the show and feeding her obvious obsessive need for attention (positive or negative) especially when it is SO clear she needs professional help. Shame on your parents for involving you with this show. They shouldn't encourage you as it seems you too have a need for attention. Lastly, shame on all of us for watching.
This has gone from silly drama to hateful and criminal. ALL of you need to get hobbies.
You, your mother, and Teresa all played into Danielle's little plan. She wanted you guys to seem like the "mean girls" and it came off as exactly that! You will find that through life there will be people that you will hate, as you said you hate Danielle. No excuse for attacking her. I don't believe that you were trying to "protect" your mom. You saw an opportunity to hurt Danielle and you took it. I am NOT a Danielle fan, but I'm also no fan of yours either. You got lucky that Danielle didn't give you an old fashioned beat down. Honestly, you probably deserved it. Too bad Albie isn't a lawyer yet...you'll probably need one soon enough. Sorry to sound so crude, but it is what it is.
Ashley, as the mother of a 19 year old daughter, I would never tolerate her to be as disrespectful as you are nor would my daughter talk to me the way you talk to your mother. Yes, you seriously need to grow up, stay out of grown folks business and hang out with people your own age. It's amazing no one ever sees you with other teenagers.
Ashley, If Danielle even thinks anybody believes her about that mop of hair she said you pulled out of her head, she's even crazier than we thought. I agree like you do that you were in the wrong to touch her and I'm glad to hear you learned a valuable lesson but to pull that much hair out of someone's head, you'd have to have a piece of scalp with it!!! I was laughing when I saw that part of her waving that mop!!1