Ashley talks about picking up her summons, and reflects on how she's learned from her mistakes.
Posted by Ashley Holmeson Jul 28, 20100
In the scene where I went to pick up my summons with my mom, there's no need to tell me, I KNOW I LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT. I blame some of it on editing, the rest was just me being immature. I wasn't excited for court, obviously. I didn't even remember saying that, HA! To quote my Aunt Caroline's blog:
"As reality show participants we have the unique opportunity to view ourselves from the outside looking in. I'm hoping that Ashley will look at her behavior along with her attitude towards Jacqueline and make a conscious effort to move in a positive direction."
Caroline is absolutely correct. Since we last filmed, I have grown a lot as a person. I still make mistakes along the way, but I definitely learn from them. Every time I watch an episode, I grow even more. As my aunt said, we can view ourselves from the outside looking in, and I have seen a lot that I need to improve. Most of it I already knew, but it's just another reminder of things I needed to and still need to change. I am young, but I am not a kid. I am going to be 20 in a few months. I am not going to use my age as a crutch for how I acted and have been acting. I know it was wrong to pull Danielle's hair. I am sorry for how it happened, but I do not regret it. Everything happens for a reason. I do not like Danielle, I have plenty of good reasons not to. I don't like her, and I never will. That doesn't mean that I didn't learn from the experience. I don't need to like her and forgive her for all she has done in order to learn something from all this. If you all still think that I'm a bitch for not feeling sorry for her that night, then fine. I tell things like they are, not how they should be. I'm not about being fake. I'm not going to sit here and say, "I wish her the best, I am so sorry, blah, blah, blah," like SOMEONE else does. To be honest, I don't wish her well. I just hope karma catches up with her one day. I have been trying to not talk about her, and for the most part I haven't. What some people have to realize is #1. I have people asking me questions about her, and the show, and I'm not going to ignore people's questions. #2. Seeing these episodes rehash a lot of angry feelings I have towards her and writing my blog and on commenting on my Twitter and Facebook is my way of venting. #3. Danielle is STILL currently trying to mess with my life. So, sorry if you have a problem with it. I do have a life besides being "obsessed" with Danielle. HA! I have a job. I go to school. I just recently started an internship in the city. I have another internship in the city coming up in the fall. I am looking into getting an apartment. Things are going REALLY well for me right now! I spend most of my free time with my boyfriend Derek, (we have been happily together for a year and three months now) and my amazing friends. I spend the rest of my free time with my wonderful family. I really am blessed, and I have been working hard to not let any negativity get me down. I am happy with how things in my life are going. I see a bright future for myself.
I'm re watching the hair pull episode on bravo today and you aggitated me to the point i felt a needed to say something, (and that usually only happens when i am watching Brandi Glandville, Gretchen Rossi, and the most recent one that seems to make my skin crawl is the OC wife Lydia and her judgement on her mom's pot smoking and her overzealous uptight and religious way.) but you don't need to here it, especially bc you didnt sign up for the show, your mom did. and if a camera was following my during my late teens and early twenties i'd be humiliated. It can't be easy. The smartest thing you did was get off the show, no offense really. Especially since you seem to act so impulsively.
I am on team ashley and all the other housewive but not on team danielle yuck gross! And I do agree with what you are writing or wrote about ony our blog here. I would have done the hair pull thing also if someone were or was to do something to my mom and I would know that their are or would be consequences for that hello! So are you like going to college? Cause last thing I heard from you was that your mom mentioned that you had a job that is so kool so now you are going to be able to pay up your own bills right. I love you and your family. Cant wait to see you next monday on the new show! And 1 more thing stay out of trouble and drama girlie! much luv and success to you!
Everyone needs to stop telling her to grow up.
We have all disrespected our parents in ways we cant take back. To what degree? That is for each individual person to know for themselves and live with. Just like Ashley has to live with her actions. Do you people think its a coincidence they (the cameras) show Ashley at her worst? No. Its good tv. I dont blame you for loosing your cool with Danielle, Ashley. Was it lawful or politically correct? Obviously not and nobody has ever denied that.. But I feel half the people telling you to "grow up" would have reacted in ways they might regret if it was THEIR family and if they were around pathetic people like Danielle first hand. But who's to say, right?
Good luck to you! Dont let yourself get hurt by your BF.
You need to grow up and think about someone other than yourself or you will find more in common with Danielle than you ever realized.
Like u said ur young & learning from ur mistakes well quess what so did Danielle..Stop mentioning that u feel sorry for her kids regardless that their MOTHER & she will always be so remember that when ur trashing her...GROW UP!!!!!!
personally i thought it was wrong for ashley to pull Danielles hair but honestly Ashley was clearly jsut fed up with dealing with this and noone seemed to be doing anything Honestly Tho You cannnot do anything to someone like that Danielle needs help and there is no making her see what really is there. And I jsut turned 18 lastweek and i know what your all thinkingg how can her opinion matter she is to young, That does not matter because it is proven that you are as old as you are by the experiaces in life you have that is why kids who grow up with everything handed to them never know what life is really about, i have seen more of the bad in this wrold than most people have, i have learned to read people to be able to look at someone and tell the true person they are and honestly everything Danielle says is a lie and there is no changing that nor is there fixing it. I jsut think Danielle should go away now for good but i do not think she gets it. I hope you all cannn forget about her because i know if someone like that was in my life id act as if they never existed because i know when i watch this show i wish she didint. And whoever thinks that Danielles children are not exposed to alot that is not true i can clearly see that they no more about whats going on than you think they do maybe even more than you guys do yourselves because school is a vicious place and you here more in the grapevine there than anywhere else in the world trust. Sorry im from Canada i dunno if some of what i said is confusing or not haha. I love all ya'll except Danielle i wish you all the best(L)
Ashley, I guess you're sick of everyone telling you to "grow up" so I'm not going to add to the fire. Only you yourself know what is right and what is wrong. You don't need people reminding you of that. You're becoming a beautiful, mature woman and your behaviour will come in sinc with your age, it's just a little lost right now. To mature, we make mistakes and we learn from them. That's what growing up is all about. Learning. Experiencing, and Acting on those stepping stones. I think you're just about there. Remember Ashley, you have one mom, so show your love, respect, and embrace her because there is no pain worse than losing your mom (as I did) and then suffering with guilt for the things I said and did to her. Love. Love. Love.
Surprise Surprise!!!! A few scentences in and off you go again!!!! Grow up lady, before you end up in real trouble, YOU and that daft Theresa are the problem, its a bit late for her to learn how to behave, you still have a chance!!! Danielle may have her problems but her kids, along with Carolines, are the nicest most well behaved on the show, I would be livid if my son brought home a young "woman" like you, you have trouble written all over you, he seems like a nice guy, i can only hope he has seen you for what you are and bolted!!!!
I think Danielle deserved the hair pull it wasn't even a grab but a tug she is pathetic and should worry more about fixing her square tit than trying to cause drama in your life. Carry on standing up for your family and love and light haha.
Ashley you have an amazing strong and loving family and your very lucky, I hope you realy do realize that. Your as beautiful and strong as your mother and I know you can make it through anything, especially with the family that you have behind you. Best wishes for you and your family
Ashley i understand wanting to stand up for your family and mainly your mom. I can understand what u did. But as a daughter who has lost her mother then six months later lost every memory of her because of hurricane Katrina. You really should respect and sit back watch and learn from your mom. She is a smart and strong woman. It is heartbreaking to see how you treat her sometimes.One day she will not be here with you. Then you will regret all the time you spent fussing with her. I do.I would give anything i have to take back all the awful things i every said to my mom.Love your mom and respect her.You will learn so much. I miss my mom so much. best of luck to you. You are a good daughter and sister. Stay strong.
Your mom loves you alot!! Your so young Ashley and you can have so much promise to become anyone you want to be. Just keep reminding yourself that Jacquline is your mom and your SO LUCKY your not danielle's daughter. Focus on your future and helping your mom. Don't let danielle drama take up any more of your time because you got your own life to live. Your letting her have the power over you to give you grief...don't give anyone that kind of power over you. lots of aloha!
I have a feeling you don’t read this, I don’t blame you much.
However, I will still write down what I want to say to you. Maybe, even if you don’t see this other teens will.
You need to stop smack talking Danielle and move on! Your forgetting one thing! You didn’t like how she talked about your mother well think of her kids. Think how they feel about you talking disrespectful towards their mother.
You and Danielle where both in the wrong!
I am 21 and I will be the first to admit if someone was going after someone I loved, I would want to fight back too to protect them. However, that doesn’t make it right.
I hope you really just move on and stop with the pre teen remarks. Your much better then that!
Unbelievable. Danielle wanted an apology but you could not do it? You are aware that it was your actions that put yourself in trouble with the law? You are also aware that you played yourself into Danielle's hand? And what she wanted was an apology and you refused? Yes, she is crazy. Why can't you be sorry that you pulled her hair? Or sorry that you made your family suffer with so much worry? Instead you allowed your family to go through so much grief? The only thing that an apology would have injured was your pride. You need to grow up and think about someone other than yourself or you will find more in common with Danielle than you ever realized.
You could have had this whole thing dismissed if you had just apologized to Danielle? But you chose not to? How stupid! You really need to grow up and learn how to take responsibility for your actions.
Ashley...and, that's my daughter's name and she's 40....learn from your mistakes..we all do..but better yet...go to college, get an education and show them all how competitive you can be...you need to be educated!
Ashley it's time to grow up put on your big girl panties and treat your parents with more respect or get off their payroll. You are old enough to know better you just choose not to do better. Shame on you for speaking to your mother the way that you do. GROW UP LITTLE GIRL!!!
Ashley you need to listen to your grandmother Caroline ... lol
that "dont blame editing.. own up " .... so stop blaming editing for your not so tasteful actions.. and own up ... you assaulted an older woman.. and stop acting innocent when the police ask you .. because its caught on camera fool...
what kind of example are you showing teens out there.. that assault is OK ?? you are a bad kid... who needs to be put on a program scared straight ... all the dis respect you give to your parents is a whole other level.. stop talking crap about danielles girls.. because truthfully they are smarter than you for not being nosy and fighting their parents' battle.. you should focus on your studies ... because your parents wont be there to give you money everytime you ask.. money doesnt grow on trees..
I 100% agree with what you just wrote. Ashley has a lot of growing up to do if she is spending her time disrespecting adults the way she has been. I know when I was 18 or 19 years old, there was no way I would have acted that way towards an adult no matter what the situation.
To me the entire family supporting Ashley was wrong, they should have never done that, but they did. And for Caroline to ask Danielle to drop the charges was wrong, because she is basically saying it was okay.
Kudos to you for your comment, I am so happy to see someone speaking up.
Just wanted to say that I am proud of you for really thinking about how you are dealing with Danielle.What goes around comes around and what ever she did or will continued to do to other people will come back to her.I have a daughter that is your age and you remind me so much of her.I tell her the same thing.Its not because we are trying to decipline You.We have already done that part in raising you.It's just that we are sharing our experiences that your parents and I have gone through in life.So baby girl when your mom is giving you advise just remember the difference between the two okay? We know as we get older we learn and realize how to handle what ever life throws at us in a mature way and I really think that you have realized this.I wish you all the best in all that you do.Keep that beautiful head held high and remember not to lower your self to Danielle's level.xoxo Cindy
Ashley, you are an absolute Beautiful young lady! It is normal at your age to not want to listen to your parents, but please try to respect them and know in your heart that they will ALWAYS have YOUR best interest at heart and they will ALWAYS love you! You will be just fine sweet girl, just lighten up on your Moma a bit, it will make a world of difference in your relationship with her and your Dad!
I wish you all the best!
Obviously the vast majority of viewers know what Staub is. It just hurts when you , and Teresa at times, play right into her hands. I hope being rid of her next season will make a vastly better show. And I hope you can learn the lesson of respect. Our parents may not always be right, but when you are still taking from them, they have every right to comment upon and help run, your life. What a handsome, great boyfriend you have! And great parents. I hope you will listen to all they have to say to you and at least consider it.
Ashley I was on your side all of the way! You didnt deserve what Danielle did to you. You were only trying to defend your mother. Any daughter would have done the same. I really enjoyed watching you this season. I know you & your mom dont always agree but just remember she loves you & it will get better as you get older.
I would have done the same thing you did if I thought someone was hurting my mother(and my mother was not as nice as yours to say the least). But as a mother of two daughters your age. I would not want her to do "defend me". I would not want my daughter to go through what you did. The scare of having criminal charges that would follow her for the rest of her life. I hope that you understand your mom wants the very best for you. You defend her by honouring her and your father. Keep this in mind, if you know that if you do something that may embarress or offend your parents maybe you shouldn't do it or at least talk to them before you do it. They love you.
Kisses, Hugs and God bless you and your family.
I love this show and I haven't missed an episode yet. Ashley just don't even bother with Danielle! Yes Danielle had caused a lot of problems, but that's her problem and not yours. I'm not taking her side, but each person on this show has, too. Teresa, she can get a little crazy when it comes to Danielle, but I love her on the show. Please, Ashley, just don't even bother with Danielle. No offence, but your mom's right. You do act very immature when it comes do Danielle.
Just saw the pix of you online with the new plastic surgery. Darling. You were already adorably cute, but the nose looks just perfect. Commend you for being public about it and discussing it openly. Good on you. And really looks cute.
Ashley, what you did to Danielle was wrong. No matter how you feel about her she is an adult. She should be respected as such. You shouldn't judge anyone's mom something must of went wrong for you to be disrespectful as you are to yours. Danielle loves her daughter's and will do anything to make sure they are taken care. She is a real world mom who doesn't have a husband to support her so her kids will grow up and be just fine. Why because they know how it really is in the world. I'm glad your life is going well, but I hope one day you realize it is not good to wish harm on people. Ashley that can be bad karma for you honey you do have a lot of growing up to do.
Something my mom said to me years ago might help you with your relationship with your mom. She knew I was a teen with an attitude. Her famous words were, "You can think it but it better not come out of your mouth." Maybe think about that next time you want to mouth off to your mom.
O.K. You posted this on July 28th, months AFTER filming ended, and months AFTER your Aunt Caroline went to meet with Danielle (on your behalf) and you are STILL using your words to attack and provoke Danielle. You were listening when Caroline said if you did any more to attack or provoke Danielle, you would be on your own in cleaning up the mess. Why, why, why, are you not listening to everyone who loves you when they tell you to just STOP??? You are this lovely young lady with her future ahead of her. Take the advice of those who love you, and stay out of this drama.
It's her future not ours...lol ..that's the problem with kids now..even myself..we don't listen to what our elders try to tell us..now there are millions of 20 somethings that cant get a job cause they have some bull... police record or because they skrewed up their credit..I have never once had an elder tell me something that didn't turn out to be true,might it have been ..stay in school..u will need your education or if it was..that boy doesn't mean you any good..you learn by experience..our parents and grandparents already have experienced much of what is to come for us..it would be stupid not to take what they have learned and grow from it..if i tell u that leaving bleach in your hair for 4 hours will break your hair off..are you gonna learn from my experience or will you just say..i don't believe you and leave it in?Now your sitting there bald and crying..lol when all you had to do was take my experience and grow from it..
Personally I think Ashly gets so much hate for some of the things she does because,i know my self coming from a average income family,she should be thanking god for the family and wealth that she has..Not so many young girls have a family that can offer them the type of future that she has access to.Every young person is gonna make mistakes and I think we all know that.Sometimes your attitude towards your parents is totally wrong..They want the best for you.They know how hard the real world is.You might think what you did was nothing but trust all of this can effect your future.I think your mom is so sweet and loving and you should hold on to her for as long as you can.I lost my mom 5 years ago and trust me,there will never ever be anyone else in the world that can give you the advise and love that your mom can.Someday you will really miss her and feel horrible about the way you have treated her.Ps most jobs now a days do criminal checks ,so remember what you think is nothing can come back and bite you in the future.Be young and beautiful but never forget to be smart.If danielle really means nothing to you then don't give her the chance to ruin your future.
You are a young woman and I realize that you're at an age in which you're struggling to assert your independence. I also remember how difficult it can be at that age to get parents to treat you as an adult while still retaining the respectful demeanor that a child should have toward their parents. That said, it is almost painful to watch your behavior and attitude toward both of your parents, but particularly toward your mother. In trying to assert your independence and be treated "like an adult", you seem to behave so emotionally and childish that it only feeds fuel to the fire and makes you seem immature and rude, completely justifying you being treated in the manner that you are so often complaining about.
Try to be more respectful to your mother, if not in private, at least when the cameras are rolling for everyone to see. Until you can learn to treat your mother as more than just a mother, but as a human being deserving of respect and a right to state her opinion (as many TIMES as she wants to), why should she treat her daughter as anything more than a petulant child??? The only time parents start treating their grown children as adults is when the grown child stops treating the parent with an attitude of resentment and disrespect. The apology you gave your mother in the finale was the first step in the RIGHT direction. Good luck!