Caroline Manzo

Caroline talks Ashley's rash behavior, Albie's dream to become an attorney, and more.

on Jul 19, 20100

 

OK, we're in the kitchen again!!! Breakfast with the kids is always entertaining. I sometimes feel like a short order cook having orders barked out to me. I'm sure most of you can relate! However, I have to admit, there have been many, many times when Al, Christopher, and Lauren have been on the receiving end of those orders. (Notice I didn't mention Albie, that boy has no interest in cooking!) To be totally honest, I sometimes wish I was the only one doing the cooking because the mess that crew makes is not worth the time off!

Lauren and Christopher work with Al at The Brownstone and have been there for a while. Albie used to work there before he went away to college so he is very familiar with the routine. While Albie was an undergrad at Fordham University he interned for a very high profile NY Criminal Defense Attorney, as well as a very successful NJ firm the summer before entering law school. Once he started law school it was decided that Albie needed to give his full attention to school and therefore school would be his only "job." I can understand where Albie's reluctance to help out at The Brownstone comes from. In his mind that would be considered a failure, running to daddy to be his safety net. Allow me to explain something to you, that's ridiculous. If there's one thing Albert and I have always taught our kids it's the value of a good day's work and having a very strong work ethic. In our world there's no such thing as being the boss's son/daughter. You work hard, you respect everyone, and you get paid the same as everyone else. No better, no worse. Keep on watching, this isn't over yet.

I know many of you were probably having a stroke when I told Albie I'd follow him to school. RELAX!!! JOKING!!! That's what we do in our house, get used to it!!! Let's not forget that Albie went to college and lived away from home for four years. Guess what? I survived!!! Whatever Albie needs to do, and wherever this road takes him, I will support him 100%. I may not love it, but I will support it. I do agree with Albert however, sunny, golf courses, and oceans would be great for visitation purposes!

Finally, I feel the need to address some comments regarding Albie's story. We've received thousands of letters supporting Albie from men, women, and even children from all over the world in all walks of life. I've heard from executives, doctors, lawyers, writers, politicians, teachers, students, mothers, fathers, etc., etc., etc. Some told me of their struggles with learning disabilities and how they were told the same thing Albie was, and now they are living their dreams in spite of what they were told. I've received letters from children as young as ten years old saying they learned from watching Albie that even if they have a learning disability, they can still go to college. There were letters from people going through the exact same thing at the exact same moment, and watching Albie gave them the courage to keep on following the dream.

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Tough Luck, Tough Love
Tough Luck, Tough Love

Albie seems like a very nice young man and I applaud the support his family has given him thus far as he's dealt with the pain of failing out of law school. It is clear that he is loved, and that is wonderful. That said, there's a point at which support crosses into denial.

Albie wants to be a lawyer, I understand that. I'm an attorney and that fire was lit in me as a young woman. But wanting something doesn't mean you're going to get it. I wanted to be a country and western singer when I was young (cute, right?). I sang ALL the time, I wanted it, I dreamed of it, but no amount of hard work was going to make up for the fact that I'm not a good enough singer to do it professionally. That's OK, it's just part of life. I grew up and began to move toward things I was naturally gifted in; finding your natural gifts is, in fact, a very big part of growing up. My desire to pursue a career in the law didn't just come from my personal dreams of helping others achieve justice, it came from my natural aptitude for reading comprehension. After all, that is a HUGE part of what lawyering is: reading comprehension.

I sing flatly, I'm not likely to win a spot on American Idol. Albie struggles with reading comprehension, he's not likely to complete law school or be an effective attorney. It is disappointing, but it is part of life. We are not all gifted in what we want to be gifted in and there's a term for thinking that just because you WANT something it should be yours: entitlement.

Because Albie is good natured, it's probably hard to view the position he's taking on law school as one of entitlement, but that's exactly what it is. If he couldn't perform the requirements of his law school, he's not entitled to stay. He's also not entitled to have them say he could perform well elsewhere, if the school doesn't actually believe he would.

We fail our kids when we tell them, "You can be anything you want to be!" Because it's just not true. You don't have to low ball your children, you should encourage them to be the best they can be and, in particular, to use their natural talents to the fullest. My short, uncoordinated 18 year old ain't getting drafted into the NBA (no matter how much he might want it) and I'd be doing him a disservice by encouraging him to put all of his eggs in that basket.

There's a very real problem here. A law student with a 1.9 GPA is not likely to pass the bar of any state (the bar exam is, after all, nothing but reading comprehension), and is not likely to be an effective attorney (again, the skill most relevant to the foundation of lawyering is reading). In light of that picture, law school is just one small hurdle on the path to an effective career in the law. If that first hurdle is too much....? It's time to be real. And real support means being honest.

I recently read an article in which Albie was quoted as saying GPA and LSAT scores aren't good predictors of success in law school. As a former admissions committee member at my own law school I know this is wrong. GPA and LSATs are actually very good predictors of success in law school. One might ask whether it was a mistake for Albie to be admitted to law school in the first place if his grades and LSAT scores weren't where they ought to have been. That may be the real failure on the law school's part.

And what of failure? Why would Albie perceive adjusting his plans and going into a different profession as a failure? That's not wherein the failure lies. The failure already happened, being asked to leave law school is a failure. But, you know what, failure, like discovering where you'll flourish, is a part of growing up, part of life.

I have no doubt Albie will finagle his way into another law school, I'm sure there's no shortage of unaccredited or barely accredited schools willing to take $100,000 from him. But is that what's best? For him, or even for future hypothetical clients? It won't solve the problem. What does a graduate of a dubious law school with no bar membership do? That should be the question on Albie's mind. Not, "How do I get back into law school?"

This single-minded focus on a goal that is perhaps not meant to occur, should not be applauded. It is merely an example of what happens when a generation of children is told, in unqualified terms "You can be anything!"

Flunking out of law school, that was tough luck. The next step ought to be tough love.

ky girl
ky girl

I am sorry that your daughter is going through this. My eight year old son struggles with this as well. My only problem is I feel you are putting down children who have to take the medicine. My child has done a complete turn around since starting the non stimulant medications that treat adhd. Caroline's son should not have to feel ashamed that he has been prescribed a medication that helps treat adhd. Yes its true people abuse these drugs, but when used correctly there is nothing wrong with it. I wish the best of luck to Albie, Caroline, and her entire family. Love RHoNJ.

Charlotte 54
Charlotte 54

Hi Caroline! I must say this is a new thing for me to do....write someone in a show but you remind me of myself so much! But I must say I have a child who has a learning disablity and I had very rough times trying to get him help so I did! He had done many thing I am so proud of! First of all his 1st grade teacher told me that he would be lucky to get out of high school...his MD dad did not believe there was a thing wrong with him. So my son and I set out to get an education. He has been a arine and is now a Engineer for the oil company and is now making more than his Dad, who is a doctor! Just keep being there for your son and he will amke...my son certainly has! He makes his om very proud! Thanks!

Viewervsr
Viewervsr

Hello Caroline

I just started watching the show and I came across the episode with the situation your son is going through. My daughter is 7yrs old and is going through the same thing. We have been to so many doctors just trying to figure what the situation is and now that we have discoveried it we are trying to work with my daughter in making her a successful individual. Its amazing what the schools try to suggest before knowing what is going on with the child (its always medication). This has been a struggle and I hope that your son sticks to his guns and does not give up. Where there is a will there is a way! Having the parents support mean a great deal to them! Hang in there and best of luck.

Wanda Ortiz
Wanda Ortiz

Hello Caroline:

I wish I had your spunk and drive! You're the kind of friend I need to enhance my self-esteem. I love the unity in your family! You are the reason I watch the show!

Monica, Mooresville,Nc
Monica, Mooresville,Nc

Hi Caroline,

I just started to watch the show and I caught the one with Albie in it with the whole law school. I found it hits close to home. You, see I have a LD too. I ahve been told that I could not go to college either. Guess what, didn't listen and went and I have my Associates. I had a wondeful mentor in my life, My Aunt Bessy. Your son has a mentor in you and all that you do for him and the rest of the family. On another note, if Albie is on a IEP the school needs to honor that. The American Disabilities Act of 1993 grants kids like Albie,me and anyone else the right to have the extra help, weather it be extra time on test, a note taker and other things. The school OWES Albie the right to an education and all of the help.

Maybe the school is not for Albie and he needs to find the right fit to achieve his goals. Thats all I have to say and tell Albie, that the rest of "Us" kids are behind him.

Thank you, Sincerely Yours,

Monica Barth Mooresville,NC

momja
momja

caroline, i just wanted to tell you that i have a big italian family and we all know that family is first. i have 5 sons. one son has ADD and is in college and doing well. sometimes he comes across an obstacle and it hurts when i see that he dosen't get something that he knows he will be good at and loves to do. my other son is in his second year of law school in boston. i just tell my kids to not let anything or anyone tell you "you can't do that" you can do anything you want to as long as you put your mind to it and you have support. i know everything will go good with albi. and you are a great loving mom. i really look up to you

hinderson25
hinderson25

Caroline, I just want to say that i love u and u are an awesome person.U will do anything for ur family and put ur foot down to whom ever wants to start trouble.I think Albie is so hot....i wish him the best of luck with everything, what ever he does he will b great and look so freaking hot....i wish that i had a friend like u who hates drama love so so much ...........

mary m.Viewer
mary m.Viewer

CAROLINE, I LOVED YOUR COUCH IN THE SCENE WITH YOUR SON AND YOUR HUSBAND. THE COUCH COLORS WERE A CREME BACKGROUND AND LEAF OR FLOWERS IN A BROWN, BEIGE, MAYBE A LITTLE 0RANGE I'M NOT SURE BUT I LOVED IT. DO YOU KNOW THE MANUFACTURER. BY THE WAY I LOVE THE SHOW, YOUR KIDS A GREAT AND SEEM TO ENJOY EACH OTHER, I LOOK FORWARD TO YOUR PART OF THE SHOW.

hollythinks
hollythinks

Car- wish you were my sister, or even friend; I so appreciate your voice of reason and parenting style. You are right that Ash doesn't get it. It's a defense mechanism used by immature people. She needs direction in her life by her choice- not a parent forcing her into growing up and having a plan for her future. In 2010, people should be grooming their kids from an early for highier education regardless of their career interests (culinary, professional, sales, etc.) Evidenced by Albie's choices- he's on his way!

trace
trace

no preaching sweetie, You have no idea what was said either. Obviously the school thinks they let this kid down or they wouldn't have given him a letter to get into another law school! Remember this was filmed months ago. He received that letter way before anyone could "pity" him. You just made the motivation behind most of the negative comments even more clear. He's rich and privileged and you think he can use money to get whatever he wants. Jealousy. So what if he's on a reality show. He does have a learning disbaility or he woulnd't have an IEP. Maybe had they done their job he wouldn't still be on RHONJ or doing millionaire matchmaker. My motivation was to tell people just because you have an LD doesn't mean you can't cut it and to educate yourself about what they are before you make a comment.

Hookedhousewife
Hookedhousewife

I have to laugh when I see Caroline sitting on the counter tops...I used to do the same thing until my mother told me counter tops are for glasses not a**es.... I love you watching Teresa and you the most!

merv
merv

You are an amazing women wife and mother I ove watching the show to see you. Thank you for still being u and showing class you are truly amazing.

Robin Jackson
Robin Jackson

Dear Mrs.Manzo, Hello. I wanted to tell you something you already know, your family is so lovely. I lost my mom last year and I miss her so very much. She was a real special lady like you. I hope all your children's dreams come true. I saw that you have a Jack Russell. I got one about 8 months ago,talk about entertainment wow! He makes me so happy and he is so funny. I live on a lake so he gets to go swimming every day. He fills my life up and makes me happy,like your show. I wish you and your family best wishes! Oh I almost forgot you look beautiful in Blue! Thank you for listening.

Cindy from Carmel
Cindy from Carmel

Caroline, Last night on Andy Cohen they had a vote of who would you want to be your Mom. I just wanted to say everyone in my house chose you. You are the best Mom by far. Your children are lucky to have you as their Mom. We love you Caroline!

princess_workstoomuch
princess_workstoomuch

Caroline I admire you so much. Your instincts are spot on with people and wish I had a little more of that intuition myself. I am much more like Dina, giving people chances that they really don't deserve only to be hurt in the end. Having you as a sister, mother, or wife is the biggest blessing to those around you. My mother gave my siblings away which put me in the position of feeling still at 47 like a lost soul. That was the only reason that in the beginning I understood Danielle's wish to at least be a small part of a friendship with such a wonderful loving family as yours. She is right, as she herself said is a damaged person, but what she doesn't realize is she is much more in need of professional help than she knows. You are right to stay away from her! Just the company she keeps would have had me running and honestly had I knew about the book and her past I would not have chosen to be on a show with her. I am so sorry your family has to endure all of this drama from such a woman. Ashley does need to learn a lesson and stop acting like what she had done was funny, but the person I blame for the behavior that night is Teresa! If she had kept her distance like Jaqueline wanted Ashley wouldn't have been in trouble at all. Albie is going to be a success without a doubt! Love him! Love to you and your whole family!

Viewer8899
Viewer8899

When is Albie going to write a blog? You should have him guest write one for you!!

Nebbish
Nebbish

One question: Why are you always sitting on the counter top?

gyvhill
gyvhill

I love you Caroline!!!!

SHawkins
SHawkins

Mrs Caroline, You are truly the voice of wisdom and reason on this show, and if everyone would take a moment to listen to the advice you give, rather than just hear it, they'd be a lot better off. I'm not sure if you've watched the episode,but during the fashion show, Teresa and Jacqueline and then Ashley after her modeling debut...went to the gas station (metaphor), after the show,when Teresa addressed Danielle, poured the purchased gasoline on the fire possibility, and when Ashley pulled her hair, she threw the already lit match to ignite the fire! Teresa was in the wrong as well as Ashley. It's all about their own agenda though. Teresa is too old to be conducting herself in this manner...regardless, it's Danielle she addressed which wasn't even worth the time she sat and waited for her to come out into the area of where she was.... Ashley is young and very naive...naive to the fact that the world revolves around her and nothing can happen to her. Ashley did not pull Danielle's hair because she thought Danielle did something to her mom...it was simply because of opportunity. She went to this "story/lie" after the fact because she realized this wasn't something she would get away with.... Reality set in but not for long because she thinks it's funny and no big deal. You have called it correctly in every situation...including Kim "G"...she's way too old to act the way she does....but that's what insecurities will do. She's always looking for a way to "belong"...it's sad. You represent confidence....confidence in knowing who you are and not in need of the "drama" to feel "worthy"...they should all take notes from you....especially, Kim "G". It's obvious that your family is your first priority and what's important...and that's the way it should be. In addition, you are a great mom. You're totally there for your son...encouraging him and instilling perserverance yet, you don't fight his battle for him. You give him the advice he needs and sit back and watch him execute it....and that's being a parent. You have to know where to draw the line. Everyone needs assurance here and there, and that's exactly what you did...assured him that he was worthy of what he's pursuing, you were there regardless, and that he could do it. I, too, have a son that has a learning disability. He is a sophmore this year in high school, and the journey has been a long one...,but I instilled in him early on that yes, he was different in the way he learned, but everyone is, he could do anything he put his mind to...even if it took a lil more or a lil longer than others...so what, it's not how long it takes you to finish, just as long as you finish, and that I'd always be there for him. However, I also told him he would not use it as a crutch because God gives us no more than we can bear;therefore, he was uniquely put together,..as we all are..to dig his heels in, and to always give it one degree more!!! Also, I am a teacher. In addition to treating them as individuals and letting them know they all have "worth" in my classroom regardless to who they are, what they've been told, or how they may have been previously treated/labeled, there is a quote that I require them to put in their binder for my class after explaining that Life is about choices, as well as write if they "CHOOSE" to break a rule in my class...that quote is: "There is a choice you make in everything you do, so keep in mind that in the end, the choice you make makes you." I let them know that they are the ones in control of what happens or doesn't happen whehter positive or negative based on their choices. It's truly up to them. Lastly, your love is very obvious, and you can tell it's no show... I hope that they will begin to listen to you from now on...they can learn a lot from you and skip all the nonsense in between. It's not worth it! Life is about making memories...not creating drama!!

Bossy530
Bossy530

All of my friends that watch HWONJ say that I'm a Caroline, a statement that I am VERY PROUD to stand behind. Even my children say I am so much like her. Who could ask for a better complaiment.

Katie Beeper
Katie Beeper

Im glad Albie will be able to change schools. Maybe a smaller school is best for him. Good luck to him!!

Every Mother goes through the kids growing up. Unfortunately they leave on their own time, not ours. Take up a hobby, or better yet, help Deanna. Im sure her charity could use you.

Viewer0125
Viewer0125

EXCELLENT! I just read the comments by "Short Memory Much" and I couldn't agree more. Note to Caroline: Did you ever hear that "For every action there is a reaction"? You and Dina set out to ruin the friendship between Danielle and Jacqueline...you were successful but your hatred for Danielle (no matter the reason) has resulted in Ashley getting arrested. Own it.

ivanramon
ivanramon

If either of those Kims join the show I will have to stop watching. Caroline, save Jersey!

real
real

I think you are so right..she is not serious about her actions..I think she will grow out of that on her own time.I think you are fab and I applaud you on your motherly love towards your kids..I think you have great kids and a LOVING HUSBAND..YOU SHOULD BE PROUD..

Blue Bell Patti
Blue Bell Patti

Caroline, I think you're the best! I love your attitude, confidence, and your common sense approach to life. But, most of all, I love your family and the life you and Albert created for them. Your children are beautiful, respectful, and smart. I know you're proud of them and you should be. I will keep Albie in my prayers as he pursues the criminal justice field. I hope he ends up exactly where he wants to be. Lauren will be successful in whatever path she chooses. She is her mother's daughter and her daddy's little girl. Christopher will succeed in life. His easy personality will see him through. I am your biggest fan. God bless you and your family!

CT Girl
CT Girl

Hi Caroline,

I loved the "matee" or evil eye charm you were wearing in tonights episode. I'm Greek and I'm very familiar with the purpose of wearing the charm. It works!!! You are absolutely the best!! Until next week......

DeborahDR
DeborahDR

I really like you. I really, really like you. Last season I wasn't so sure, but now I am. I like you. You are a good Mother, sister, sister-in-law and friend. Your instincts about Danielle were spot on, but unfortunately, Jacqueline's kind heart wanted to see more in her than what exists. And hey, Danielle, good kids come from psychopaths all the time, honey. Doesn't mean you had anything to do with it! Ya'll all need to drop Kim "G" like a hot cake. She is nothing but trouble. She is one of those who likes to be in the middle and work the sides against each other. I miss Dina. You've got a classy sister.

AngelaMarieD
AngelaMarieD

Caroline you r one awesome lady! Take care.

denair60
denair60

Remember, Judge Alex worked as a police officer before he became an attorney. Providing you are a good person, nothing could prepare you more to practice law. Albie might stay there a couple of years, fine; he will either decide he is more valuable on the street or as an attorney. He has all kinds of time to make this decision. Find out what you need to do to make you click.

Chardy
Chardy

Hi Caroline, I am not sure if you read the posts or not but I just wanted to say that I know exactly what your son Albie is going through. I have been put in the same situation, except I am a future nurse, not lawyer. I to have had to find a different route to become a nurse. I admire Albie's determination and have been inspired by him to keep my head up and press on. Thanks

Lorrie K
Lorrie K

Caroline,

I think you are one incredible mom! You are there for your kids the way a real mom should be. You have great kids. They have grown up to be responsible and respectable adults. I wish you could adopt me. Albie will make it to law school. He has the drive and motivation and that's what you need. Its also so great to see the relationship you have with your husband. The way you two still love each other after 25 years is amazing and so hopeful for others. And its so sweet.

carole adamczyk
carole adamczyk

Boy do I ever agree with "short memory much!" Wow you hit the nail on the head. I can't believe the people that love you!!! You're wacky!

Kelleyb
Kelleyb

You are an inspiration to me Caroline. You define what good parenting is all about. You should write a book! My prayers are with your son. He's his mothers son and will be successful because of that. God bless you, Kelley

Viewer24
Viewer24

Hi Caronline, Just wanted to say that I love your son Albie and think he is soooo adorable and cute!! I would really love to meet him and think that we would make a great match together (not to sound creppy or anything trust me). Please let me know if he is single and available.

Thanks and wish you the best of luck!

Southern gal
Southern gal

Hi Caroline, as a divorced single Mom of 2 young boys I can appreciate how you feel about you children. My oldest (9 years old) has ADD with auditory processing disorder. He was diagnosed 2 years ago. Even though they do not classify that as a learning disability it does impact his ability to learn. I applaud you how you support Albie and believe in him. I believe in my son and I am his biggest supporter as well. When I saw the episode tears came to my eyes because I repeat the same words to my son that I heard you say to Albie. I wish him the best and can't wait to see not if but WHERE he gets into law school. Keep fighting the fight and believing in Albie. All my best to you and your family. Tammy

CMS
CMS

Hi Caroline:

I grew up with a learning disability, so I know what it's like to go through the IEPs, resource room classes, special ed classes, etc. I can understand what Albie is going through because I had people who told me I couldn't be anything I want. I had one teacher who told me that I wouldn't go further than a beautician, which is something bold to say to a kid as well as disrespecting a profession that I highly respect. It just motivated me to press harder and keep going that I was able to graduate college and be successful in life. My advice for Albie is to keep pressing and don't let anyone get in the way.

Ken Florida
Ken Florida

Miss "C" I give it to you honey, you are all that and a bucket of chicken !!! Get off this show you are the only sane one on it! Ken Fl

A.M
A.M

Caroline,

I know this is extremely late, but I respect and love you so much. I find it crazy that you see someone, or you watch someone on TV and have such a connection with them. I respect and love everything about you. I am black not Italian, but my boyfriend is italian, and I/we believe in Italian traditions and live by them religiously. I just admire and connect with you so much, I just had to get that off of my chest. I am indeed your biggest fan :o)

Knock Knock, Whos There, Karma
Knock Knock, Whos There, Karma

I absoltuely agree with Short Memory Much. You and your family couldn't hold back from bringing Danielle's past up, delighting in humiliating her, ostrisizing her, and it makes me wonder, what may you be hiding in your family? Why keep the light shining on Danielle and her past? Hiding much??? You give the appearance of not being involved yet there you are at every chance orchastrating the strings behind the scenes by engaging in the very dialogue that keeps your family entrenched in their hatred. Law of attraction? Now a family member has felony charges against her. Maybe Albie's law career may come in handy now.

Viewer6001
Viewer6001

no matter how old the kids are parents will always want to be there when they fall, as much as they try and fail you want to make sure they know their parents are behind them. Sometimes that means right there holding the bicycle seat and other times it's that ability to answer the midnight phone call. Other times they need the verbal kick in the seat and other times they need to see their parents tears. While no one wants the hard times they are what make us stronger...see the training that comes from childhood is put to the test in their adulthood. Some will learn easily, others will choose to go the long, more challenging way (Ashley?) But the life a child makes for themselves will be the legacy the parent leaves behind. Some look at the family name, their fame, or money but what we really leave behind is the morals, inspirations, and integrety that those precious children have been exposed to. If you have given your best to them...they will show the best of you.

mouseyhair
mouseyhair

Caroline,

I am very moved by your struggle regarding your son's learning disability. I want to encourage both of you that there is help out there. My daughter is severely visually impaired and cannot read most print materials. There are tools available that can drastically help him. I agree that he must not let the school dictate what he can do or not do. There are many very successful people out there with LD and visual disabilities. Please feel to contact me if you would like me to send you some links to the tools I mentioned.

Blessings to both of you.

nopreachingsweetie
nopreachingsweetie

Hey Trace,Getting sick of you. Were all these surgeons, teachers, engineers, presidents and even attorneys on the Real Housewives shows hyping up their situation and getting pity points and exposing some alleged unlawful act to get what they want but perhaps did not earn? I would love to hear what the law school has to say. If you listen closely to what Albie said, it was something like, basically he said I can't do it because of my disablity. In other words, the viewers have NO idea what was exactly said and Albie did not make that clear. Unless you were present during this conversation as Albie was and this certain person at the school you should not preach to the choir sweetie. Just move on and let Albie concentrate on filming Millionaire Matchmaker with Patty Stanger. That is another Bravo show. Do the research.

momshell
momshell

The housewive with sense and true character, that's you. Your opinion on Ashley's behavior are right on. God Bless you and your family.

Roger123
Roger123

As a young man starting out college I see that everyone has struggles to do what they want. I also want to become an attorney and seeing Albie and his situation makes me try harder. Although I do not have a learning disability its still hard so I can imagine how much harder it is for people with a learning disability. Caroline you always make me laugh on the show especially about the comments about Danielle haha! Hope you and your family continues to do well and good luck to Albie and his path to becoming a successful attorney :)

APG
APG

If I could I would want to be adopted in to your family!! Your one cool mom!!!

Janet001
Janet001

Caroline...thank you for being the first housewife to NOT bash any other housewife this week. How refreshing it is to read a recap and your opinions without actually saying anything mean and cruel about another person. You go girl!

fan fan fan
fan fan fan

Caroline, love the show and each and every one of your family...

I have only one comment really, that I hope you'll take a minute to consider.

I've read all your blogs today, they are well written and bring up the things, that a lot of people might have missed, the details that really are important when the viewers are viewing the "goings on".

So, here it is....Caroline, its Ashley. Every blog, you write about her behavior, attitude, and how Jacquiline needs to have a firm hand. I agree with you!

But, knowing that Ashley is First of all, not a blood member of YOUR family, puts her at a disadvantage, and its obvious. I see those little details, in how everyone treats her. She is a kid with a chip on her shoulder, sure but someone in the family needs to LOVE HER enough, to make her feel she is "one of you". To top it off, you mention her behavior every blog. That can only cause more distance, In her 18 year old mind, than already is there! I'm not saying she was right, or wrong about the hair pulling, because....Bravo has exploited Ashley by allowing a girl to be in the show at all! They know she'll "pull something" and that makes good tv. She is of age, so its not up to her parents, but Bravo uses her, no one seems to really give a crap about her, and Jacquiline is now openly sideing with her hubby, as she should but right after Ashley claims to have heard that her mom was attacked. The kid can't win....she doesnt need tough love...she needs someone to mentor her, in the family and perhaps a therepist to figure out how angry she is. She is just ready to pop and its not her fault. She was brought into the Bigger than Life family, and she is trying to be Tough to show she is "just like you guys are". Even the conversation with Albie and their dates, showed they dont really know one another. Your brother Chris, is trying to play Dad, but yet she has to ask him for a hug. I realize this is a show and its entertainment but Ashley isnt a show, she is a real person, that needs real boundries and real love and someone, who "gets her". No one in the family seems to "get her" and at her age, she is just going to go find someone that does! Pls....someone take an interest in her, and tell J. how to deal with an adult kid, that is going on 13, even though she is 19 now. You cant just "put down the law" when you havent been all along at that age. Sure, you can kick them out, but I dont think thats going to bring the result everyone thinks is good for her. Someone, needs to love her for real and pls, stop blogging about her, if you cannot stop yourself from the judgement and harsh words about her. Its true maybe but put yourself in her shoes. Its your job, as older sister and mom who has adult kids to help, give advice if needed etc and I love how you are totally into your family. But, you dont call anyone names, except Danielle and her friends, and Ashley. think about it. Just a lady who is a fan, speaking to another fine lady. Hope your hubby retires, at least half way.....and then you can go travel, and enjoy that empty next...together! Be blessed!