My father-in-law. I felt a strong need to talk about this as I had been dealing with this in the press for months. Every time I did an interview my side of the story was never told. There is an elephant in the room and I had to address it. I hope the viewers understand and have clarity on things now. Some may say that I have no right to condemn Danielle. Valid point. The only problem is that our stories are worlds apart. My story is not about me, or my husband. My husband and his family have a stellar reputation in the community as being a hard working, honest family, that gives back to the community in many, many ways. Now, Danielle's story is about her. Not a brother, sister, parent, or friend. HER. This reputation far precedes her coming into our lives, and the introduction of the book. To this very moment Danielle reputation is suspect in every way, shape, and form throughout HER town.
I've said in interviews over the past couple of weeks that the reunion show knocked me for a loop. It's true, I wasn't right for days following the taping. As you can see from the clips I get very emotional. I'm not looking forward to watching next weeks show, not so sure that I even will. If you don't hear from me next week, I want you all to know that I appreciate each and every one of you, and I can't thank you enough for watching and your continued support.
You keep saying you are a true Italian family, however some your actions were very disrespectful during the show and this is not how genuine Italians from Italy act.
Se stai dicendo a mantenere una vera famiglia italiana, tuttavia alcune sue azioni sono state molto irrispettoso durante la mostra e questo non è vero e proprio come gli italiani da Italia agire.
I am a 53 year old mother of 3 sons. I really really like you. You make being a mother a wonderful privilege. I like the way you stood up to Danielle, I like the way you to a stand about your family. You are the best and you should do a talk show. Since seeing you and the "old fashion/yet contemporary" way you handle the family, I feel good and thank you! Keep up the good work!
Who doesn't love a big family? You're a gem Caroline and anyone with a brain who's watched the show can see Danielle is not worth any more of any of your time and energy, let alone anyone else in your family. Or Jersey for that matter. Perhaps she should move to someplace like Iowa or something. She's a nasty, dirty pig. I'm sure I'm not the only viewer who feels sorry for her daughters.
I think it is great how you hold the family together. I think every family needs a Caroline. Kudos to you for getting the elephant out of the room and I believe every bit of your story. I hope that your family can move forward and be happy inspite of your danielle road bump. That is all she was, you are a strong family and I know you will bounce back! I read that she and Jacqueline are no longer speaking....... Will we get an explanation on Thursday's show?
I think any level-headed person realizes that Danielle is a shady character who is not the brightest crayon in the box. Had she wanted to do damage control on “The Book” to clear her name, she could have done so. Instead, she dealt with the situation in a manner that brought even more attention to it and furthered her ill reputation.
You, on the other hand, have class. It is clear that your family is of respectable people and that you are a fantastic mom. You are correct, you and Danielle are worlds apart in defending these stories.
As for Atlas, I am a big fan!!! I was raised with German Shepherds and now have one myself. As for adopting a German Shepherd, that would be great. However, it is often a wise choice to buy German Shepherd’s from breeders in order to ensure their temperament. Unless people own one, they just don’t understand this. These are protection dogs and can be lethal. Their bloodlines and training ensure that they are not only protection dogs, but family dogs as well.
- Madison Housewife
I respect your honesty and the Italian way of protecting your family. I feel the same, being of Italian descent. I would do anything to protect my family, even if I had to give up my own life. After this reunion is all over, us viewers would like to know what it was that Danielle did to Dina. Seeing Danielle act the way she did on national television reminded me of a cousin of mine. They were made of the same mold and we never had any respect for woman who flaunted their sexuality in that manner. I feel your pain.
So... I watched last night and LOVED how you defended your mothering of your grown kids. My heritage is Swedish-American, and I'm married to an Armenian-American... I made a comment on Facebook last night. I said that after watching Caroline, I'm CONVINCED that I was an Italian mother in a past life, and it's carried over. ha! I have 3 sons, ages 18-20-22. I hope their wives will want to be as I've been to my husband, and that they can stay home and raise kids if they choose... I work part time (33 years with Disney in California!)... But I still do whatever I can for these boys because as you've said, we'll blink and they will be gone. And boys can very well cleave to their wives, and if the wives are from a tight family, we won't see as much as them as we want... But i just really appreciated your explanation of it all. If you lived in the OC, we could hang out. I know you would not like me at first, because you "don't like" people, before you like them.,,, haha.. loved this. OK. Have a great day.
You are an inspiration, a wonderful mother and wife. I wish I had a sister or sister-in-law like you!
I am amazed at the restraint you have shown through out this season. One bad apple can spoil the barrel and the show definitely had a bad apple. You allow people to be who they are and then let the consequences flow naturally. Life is like that. I hope that whatever happens in your life will bring you joy and happiness
Caroline, one of the biggest frustrations watching this show are the double standards. At the big dinner, Teresa was saying some pretty crude, non-child friendly stuff and you thought it was funny, fine, but how was it appropriate with children at the next table? But then Danielle is completely inappropriate with the book even though she doesn't actually say anything non-child friendly? And Teresa throwing the table up and calling her vicious names is totally fine? My biggest problem with you is that you do take your family and friends side 100% whether they are right or wrong.
And with the gay comments - you admit there was room for someone to be offended, but then it's all Danielle's fault for saying something about it? If she was making the comments I have no doubt you'd be saying how disrespectful she was especially since you have a gay brother.
Obviously you don't have to like or be friends with someone you don't want to be around, but take a step back and get some perspective before attacking another person. Being hypocritical is incredibly ugly.
Caroline: What I've found most interesting about this whole show is the need to defend. Danielle is busy defending her actions and your family is defending their actions. This show has been a startling, sad look at what is wrong with the entire world.
I don't know whether to laugh or cry, but I do know that you have everyone's attention now, can you do some good with it?
Caroline, i can't beileve that i'm saying this but its something about you that i like. Despite the fact that you said "before i like you i will dislike you!" Why is that? When i meet new people i generally think good about them, not bad! I love how protective you are of your family. Most families are not like that anymore. I dont know anything of how true italian families act but i love the closiness
As a viewer, I along with MANY others, feel baffled and SO confused. First of all has it EVER been explained WHY Dina and Danielle had a falling out to begin with? Secondly, everything is SO ambigious; where do I start? We can sense there's something going on w/ Jacqueline and Danielle, but yet, no one's saying what? Then there's obviously SOMETHING that went down AGAIN w/Danielle and Caroline and Dina, and Caroline's not supposed to bring that up either. Last nights show did NOTHING to clarify ANYTHING. I get that this is all of your personal lives, but you invited us into your lives and now you're pulling back and giving us partial truths and bits and pieces and frankly, we can't fill in these ambiguous, confusing story lines and it's NOT making ANY sense???? Would someone address this?
i'm sorry you feel that way. i'll be honest, i thought last nights show was uneventful. if your this upset i have to imagine thursday is the show that is upsetting. caroline, we all have had embarassing moments and around here whether or not your on a reallity show or not news travels fast. i'm sure whatever it is you and your family will come through it fine. keep your chin up and let it roll.....
I think you're fantastic. You're my fave and this has been the best season in the "Housewives" franchise. Family comes first with you and your devotion to them is breathtaking. I just wish you ladies (OC and NYC included) had at least one African-American friend. Other than that, you guys are gravy. Looking forward to season 2.
Caroline!!!!!!!! I absolutely love you! You are definitely my favorite and really hope to see more of the New Jersey's Housewives..by far the best of all Housewives! I respect you and how your raised your wonderful family:-)I think you speak very well and handle all questions and situations great and I admire and look up to you with that! I also think its great that you did let your emotional side come to light, it just shows how REAL of a person you are!!! Once again I lOVE LOVE LOVE you (in Teresa words lol) and hope to hear from you on your blog after the second part of the reunion I always look forward to it and Danielle is nuts lol with love Biggest Fan
Caroline, you are not really everything that you pretend to be and I don't believe your family persona that you try to create. If you were truly a wholesome woman, you wouldn't attack one woman and you would know how to forgive. I feel that you are not an honest person and you need to work on that for the next season. Don't blame Danielle, you had those traits all along.
Dear Caroline, I thought you handled your self well. I am older than you and very much understood the holding on to your children. At first ahhh I have time to myself. Then lonely but then grandchildren the best of all.
Dear Caroline: Remember this quote: What you are speaks so loudly I cannot hear what you say. What you are is dignified, honest, caring and a good sister and sister-in-law, good mother, and caring individual in the community. No words need to be said to convey your integrity. Unfortunately, Danielle can talk talk talk all she wants, and her lying comes through. She had no business exposing "The Book" at Teresa's dinner party and has yet to apologize for causing pain to your family. It certainly was not your fault that her "Book" was out there. If she wanted to cover up the book, why bring it to the dinner party for all America to see, and kept turning the cover up so EVERYONE could see it, then blamed the sisters for exposing her. Why sign up for a reality tv show if she did not want "her past" exposed? She is a fraud on every level. I did not enjoy watching her this past season. I love the rest of the Housewives, wish you all well and hope you return for a Season II, without Danielle!!!!
Caroline, I grew up in an Italian neighborhood in Brooklyn and married an Italian to boot. We are about the same age. I too would protect my family fiercely if someone did any of them wrong. You are one classy lady! I too do for my kids the way you do - is there any other way? And I hate to say it - my oldest went off to college and trust me hun, its hard to watch them leave. You hang in there and stay true to yourself - that right away makes you a winner.
Caroline, I must say you are my favorite housewife. Your sisters are great and so is Theresa but you, my dear, are absolutely awesome. I recognize the fire in your eyes as being pure love and determination for your family. I'm a single mom with 2 kids and we dont have the lifestyle you have but our values as mothers are dead on. I WILL NEVER allow anyone to hurt or disrespect them or the rest of my family. My mother is the same way. I will be 30 next year and she still makes sure that there isnt a hair touched on my head. She never allows anyone to mistreat me and she always stands up for me, even if that means telling me about myself in the privacy of our home later :-) Her love for me has made my love for my own children so much greater. Her stern attitude with me has made me strong, you will never push me around now and I know for sure that I am loved by my family because my mother keeps us that way. Keep doing you Caroline and dont change a thing. YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY FIERCE!!
I want to comment on the gay slur...If the dance instructor is in fact GAY, why would calling him gay be offensive. I respect people for being just who they are humans, equal to one another. with the gay community, if you chose to be different be just that and don't shove it down anyone's throat to accept your lifestyle. If it offended the instructor as I am sure he heard Joe, it should've been his battle to fight and Joe respectively SHOULD then apologize. I perosnally took the comment in stride just as I understood how you called your daughter stupid in a joking demeanor. If I am a pritzy woman and someone says to me, "oh you are so girlie," why would I get offended. It's true. A lot of things are blown out of proportion and everyone is looking for a shoulder to cry on. Geez! Caroline, nothing has changed about you in all episodes so I feel safe in saying that you are a well-rounded person.
I respect u a lot... and i myself feel like we have the same point of view wen it comes to family... and feel like i have someone to look upto.....
being the same always.. hope to c more of u in future too...
btw do u mind telling me wat actually happened after the dinner party , with dina n ur bro's relation.. also with jacquilene... hope ethin is back to normal...
You don't know me. I don't know you. However, watching you on The Real Housewives of New Jersey has been a pleasure. I would be a lucky lady if I had a friend in my life such as you! I am not Italian (Scottish-English) but I love my family with all my being. I am glad that we share that trait. I realize my family is not perfect, however, they are all that I have. I am sure you understand that and "get" that. It makes me proud to see a classy woman that truly loves and respects herself AND her family. I thank you for not being false or fake. I respect that you are honest, up front, and have a vulnerability when it comes to your family. Thank you for showing that our generation (I am assuming that you grew up in the late 70's, like myself) has it together. Blessings!
I really do not have the time to usually comment on blogs, however, I felt a need to send you a message. When you first came on, I thought you reminded me of my own family, and I liked you, but as the show moved on, I realized that you are a phony, and I really feel that you are giving Italians a bad name. Watching you lie and bully someone by telling them to "Look at me, I showed the book", you think that was nice, people are comparing you to the Sopranos, I think it is like watching Roseanne audition for the Sopranos! Danielle, she is no angel, and I probably would not be friends with her in the real world, but I think that you are more dangerous, because at least she doesn't try to pretend who she is, you on the other hand, are a phony, and I wish people would not buy into it, I wish that you and your family were not representing my culture on this show, again, you are making the Italians look foolish, I wish someone in TV land would finally show what a great culture we are, instead of having people like you, Dina & Theresa represent us, it is a disgrace! Theresa is C-R-A-Z-Y if you ask me, your sister, total two face. I really hope that Bravo does not bring you people back!
I have the greatest respect for you and totally understand your protecting every member of your family. Best wishes to you and your family.
I SAW THE 1ST. REUNION LAST NIGHT. ALL THE GIRLS LOOKED BEAUTIFUL, BUT YOU LOOKED SPECTACULAR!! YOUR DRESS WAS SO PRETTY.
APPARENTLY THE 2ND. REUNION WILL BE VERY INTENSE. I CANNOT WAIT TO WATCHED IT.
YOLANDA GARCIA-BERDECIA SAN JUAN, PUERTO RICO
Caroline you are absolutely my favorite of any of the housewives. 1) Because you actually are happily married 2) because you remind me of that special aunt that everyone adored and secretly wished was their mom. You’re real, kind, and strong. Your beautiful and intelligent, logic and respectful. Your family is blessed to have you.
I never comment but I had to tell you not to change a bit and you should be proud to be Caroline Manzo ....lata for the hatas.
It's easy to be ugly on the internet, and it's easy to make snap choices about people we seen on television. What isn't easy is to raise children. Looking at your children, and at Dina's children, it's obvious who you are. I would never want to be on a reality program, I know there are real emotions behind the entertainment. It might not get the same ratings as a table flip, but I would watch you and Dina with your kids far more often than Drama Llama antics. I respect your family, I respect you.
You and your family will always be remembered as good, respectful, strong and has close-knit values. You and Theresa are the stars of this reality show. The snake in the grass will crawl on her belly for long while. This woman is bad news.She is now exposed.I am glad that the feds are keeping tabs on this person. By signing in to this so-called "reality " show-it is apparently not good for her. Her nightmares has just began. What goes around comes around. I am glad that you called in about her lies and her being a garbage.Boy ,ain't the Truth! Have good life and good luck to your new career!
Caroline - last night was a big revelation for me. I NEVER heard rumors about your father-in-law's passing, or the mystery behind it. I think it's incredibly hypocritical of you to focus on Danielle's past, when you are so intimately aware of how some things from the past can be hurtful and should not be relived. You said that Bravo and its viewers should think about your mother-in-law, grandkids, etc...Well what about Danielle's daughters?? How dare you - you should be ashamed!
Caroline, I want to say that I truly respect you. You put your family first and that is something that should be valued. I respect that you understand that each family has its issues but at the end of the day you are a family and you make it work. A strong, close, and pretty large family is something that I also value in my own life and I am thankful for them everyday. Your love for your family shows in every episode and is unquestionable. Thank you for letting us into your life a little bit!
I just wanted to say what a strong, wonderful person you are. I hope Dina and Jacqueline are friends again and everyone can move past this.
I get the feeling that there is more going on than we, the viewers, know about. If you never speak of it, that is OK. Just remember I am but one out of many, many, many people that wish you love, happiness and health for your entire family.
We strong italian women need to stick together! I pray we laugh everyday and love every moment! God Bless!
PS: I would like to know your recipe for sausage and potatoes....I wonder if it is like my grandmothers?
I work in the entertainment industry. I'm a jersey girl myself. I've had the opportunity to meet many of the "new york housewives" and I was very excited to see the New Jersey spin on the housewives show. You're family reminds me so much of my own. You are a great mother, sister and friend. A huge part of the Italian-American culture are the values of honor, class and respect. You and your family highlight the importance of those values. When you fight, you fight it out and then you have dinner the next day; it's the way life should be! I hope you and the girls return for a second season. Everyone should see a dose of TRUE wives and mothers.
Caroline – I can say I respect you and all of the other women in the show tremendously, except Danielle, or Beverly, whoever she actually is. You, Dina, Theresa, and Jacqueline are all amazing women with unique and wonderful personalities. I feel you had the responsibility to reveal the book, since Danielle was in fact involved with your family; I would have done the exact same thing. I totally agree with Dina’s comment, “I am going to pray for you”, during the Final episode to Danielle. She is a sickening excuse for a human being. She should have never brought the comments about your father-in-law to the press; it simply shows what a vindictive person she truly is. The exposing of the book was justified; her comments and intentions were truly evil. I also feel it is true that the real person she is was shown in the last few minutes of the final episode, cigarette in hand as she talks trash around her 10 and 14 year old daughter – what a magnificent role model she is (Ha!). And as for her comment on no plastic surgery besides a boob job - No one’s eyebrows are at the top of their head, sorry Danielle; you are making a complete fool of yourself. It is obviously Danielle is jealous of everyone else on the show, and she should be, because You, Dina, Theresa, and Jacqueline are all amazing people with much to offer. What does Danielle have to offer… herself, to every man from here to west coast, as she portrayed herself in the show. Although I am only 21, I wish one day I can be a mother and women like you, Caroline, and don’t ever let the press or anyone else get you down, you are a truly magnificent person. :)
- From Illinois
I certainly admire the family work ethic and the laughter that you share while teasing each other.
There seems to be something more significant going on between the family and Danielle. It can't be a few dollars for a lawyer to deal with Bravo pay or a ticket to a fund raiser. For a strong woman, like you to have her heart broken, is unusual.
I think Danielle did something that might have harmed your sister and her child. She really seemed ferocious in the last few minutes of the dinner in the parking lot.
You can't be friends with someone happy to cause harm. They will do it again. Danielle has physical and emotional problems, but they will spill over on the family if she stays in your lives. Nothing is worth that.
You are great. Keep it up and we all do not have to prove Daniele is nuts, she has Lready done it. Love your boys and daughter-cute kids, you are a great wife and mother, so is Dina, & Theresa I can tell you are all about your husbands and kids, that's what it's all about! Yea!
Stop trying to cram your mob family down our throats. I have a close family too but that doesn't mean I defend them whether they are right or wrong. As Jacqueline said, right is right and wrong is wrong. Period. Let your sister and sister-in-law speak for themselves, they have their own minds, don't they? Everytime Danielle asked Jacqueline a question, you obnoxiously interrupted and tried to answer for her. Who do you think you are? You don't have to voice every thought that comes into your head. No one is that interested in your opinions! What an ego you have.
Caroline, maybe is editing but If you are not connected to the Mafia then stop speaking line one. For the record your pain and your family pain is a valid as Danielle pain.
Caroline, I am sorry to hear of the mob comments as well. Unfortunatally that is what happens when you are an Italian American, have your accent and you my dear are tough lady. I am also Italian american and have heard every dago, wop joke there is. I was raised outside Chicago and that was what people new the slick guido types so thats what they know. I'm Italian on my mothers side and she is from rural Oklahoma. No sh@!t Oklahoma and there is this lovely area that is almost 100%Italian. After the first time I took my husband there (who is a Polak) he never made a guido comment to me again. He saw my very Italian looking family with thick southern accents and looking like cowboys. The look on his face was priceless. So I do know what it is like to be offended when compared to a sterotype.
caroline, is dina allowed to speak for herself? every time she wants to say something you cut her off and EXPLAIN for her!! you seem to have an issue with controlling others!! all you ever talk about is PROTECTING your family,if you and your family are so PERFECT,as you claim, then why do you need to PROTECT them?? the way you speak sounds like some kind of mob mentality. maybe that's why people think your connected to the mob!! take a chill pill and SMILE!!
When the housewives initially came out , I was not a big fan,,,then comes the houeswives of New Jersey and i just have to say that your love for your family, the loyalty and your dedication is insprational , you are a class act!! I want to thank you for letting us in your family values , its great to see the strength that you have,its obvious to see that you are the rock of your familys foundation, thank you again!!
And you all call Danielle the "Drama Queen." You were huffing and puffing like the Big Bad Wolf on the Reunion show and especially in the clip for Thurs. What's with the "I dare my Bravo family to show . ." Sorry sweetheart but NOT EVERYONE IS YOUR FAMILY! I think Bravo is afraid of 'YOUR FAMILY" and that is why they do not post negative comments about you! HMMMMMM . . .think about it people!
I think you are absolutely fantastic. You're levelheadedness and general poise are things that I greatly admire. As a 21-year-old Florida girl, I hope that when the time comes for me to be a wife and mother, that I can fulfill the every day tasks of these important roles with the diligence, wisdom, heart and backbone that you have. I do not doubt in this time of backlash and slanted comments that you will maintain strength and dignity... but it is difficult to have to deal with negative criticism, so I hope that you just keep your head up and don't let it make you sad. You know who you really are, the heart you have, the message you want to convey, the principles you stand by and the morals you maintain, and I'm confident that your family does, too... and that's really what matters. Best wishes!
Sincerely, Kellie T.
i do believe caroline had the book and i'm sure D, walked around with it, i'm sure anyone else would of done admit it. this is what girls/women do.. as for jacklyn, she's stuck in the middle, but most probabally would of said no comment then to make it worse . as for her husband , men should of butted out and stuck with the family.or just said enough,the night was ruiend anyway. it was extremely ballsy to bring the issue up at a dinner party,it wasn't daniele's party to ruin. i basically saw my family sitting at that table. though my husband and i , my sister n law and her husband do not speak to one of my sister n laws for her big mouth. whats done is done , they never be friends,so move on. '
Caroline, Why do you care about Danielle's shady past? You have zero room to talk about her past considering your family history. You are so contradictory - First your shady family past - you hoped for clarity in the murder of your father-in-law. You live a fairytale existence if you think you clarified the matter. Please do not insult our intelligence by trying to deny mob affiliation. You are the poster wife, mother, and sibling of the mob. The comment you made that your husband at the age of 23 became the man of the family – who talks like that – oh yes, the mob. Don’t you get it - every time you open your mouth - you remind us that you have a connection? What did you think would happen joining a reality show. Did you think you were above being investigated and questioned by the media? You put yourself out there! Second you condemn Danielle's past - how does it affect your life? Why do you care? As I said, you have no room to speak ill of others, that does not mean you should cozy up to people you are not comfortable being around. Leave the show – let someone else take your place. Without you on the show, I must admit I would miss the hideous words of wisdom. Let’s face it - you and Danielle make the show worth watching, without the two of you the reality would be a bore.