Caroline Manzo

Caroline describes the heartache she felt over Albie's law school rejection.

on Jun 21, 20100

 

OK, time to talk about the two Kims. What was the one thing Teresa stressed on the phone to Jacqueline? She didn’t want to mention a certain topic, right? I thought I was hearing things! Both Kim G. and Kim D. knew how Teresa felt, and frankly I thought it was out of line for two reasons. First, the obvious, you were invited at the eleventh hour out of pity, and you completely disregard your host's one request. Secondly, why would you fuel the fire? This is a kid you’re talking to! You claim to be Jac's friend, then you corner her daughter and proceed to interrogate her? Why? I could sense Ashley getting a little tense, and I wanted to put out the fire before it got out of control. Next I get pulled over to be told of Jacqueline’s "obsession." I don’t know about you, but I think the pot was calling the kettle black on that one! Wait! I almost forgot about Kim D. and her cameo appearance during Teresa’s speech. I still don’t know how that happened! One minute Teresa was thanking everyone and the next minute, BAM! KIM D. I felt like I was on the Gong show, I was waiting for the hook to come out. Not only did Kim interrupt Teresa’s speech, she took the microphone and made her own! Who does that!? Teresa was great about it, I think it's because she's so nice ... right? Ain't she? Ain’t she a nice person? LOL, I love her, I really, really do.

OK, now I need to talk about Albie. For those that are parents out there, I'm sure you knew exactly what I meant when I said how badly you feel when your child hurts. I really can’t disclose too much of the story, it plays out over the next few episodes, so I’ll just talk about tonight. Albie has been classified since he was in Junior High School. He’s always struggled academically, but he persevered and overcame many obstacles with the help of his Special Education teachers and support at home. The one thing Albie never did was give up. As a high school senior he was told not to apply to Fordham University as an undergrad. His counselor didn't think Albie had what it took to get in, and even if he did get in, he'd never make it. I was at that meeting with Albie; I thanked the counselor and we excused ourselves from her office. When we got in the car I looked at Albie and told him to never let anyone tell him he can’t do anything. If you have the heart and desire to work it will happen. Albie applied to Fordham University. Al and I told him to make an appointment for an interview with the application committee. Although his grades were average, after meeting Albie and reviewing his records, he was accepted. Albie graduated with a BA in business from Fordham University in May of 2008. If you look back at the scene when Albie is at his desk, you’ll see two bulletin boards. On those bulletin boards are affirmations that he’s collected over the years on succeeding and overcoming obstacles. While he was away at school he would read them every day. On the lower board there is a picture of the Fordham Graduates throwing their caps in the air. Albie is in the second row. Can you imagine hearing your child tell you that they feel worthless?

I am not that mother that thinks my children deserve to have the world handed to them. I’m quite the opposite; I believe everything in life is earned, especially with my kids. To spoil your child and pave their way in life is the biggest disservice you could do. They will never survive once you're gone. Albie deserved to be in that school. He deserved the chance to be heard. He certainly didn't deserve to be told he wasn't smart enough and didn't belong. No one deserves to hear that, especially from someone who teaches. More to come,  WATCH WHAT HAPPENS!

P.S. To my kids - if any of you are reading this, Mom and Dad are very proud of each of you and love you more than anything. :o)

As always, thank you for watching. See you next week!

Xoxo
C

1622 comments
joanna Lunn
joanna Lunn

Hi Caroline

I never do this, but i just had to message you, i have just watch the the real house wives the finally and i think you were great, you kept your cool, you were very honest, and i totally understand why you would never be two faced regarding Danielle, what a piece of work she is! Go Girl you are strong and real keep up!

HollyMarie
HollyMarie

I just saw this episode on our local station.....my heart is breaking! I am a mother of 6 children,2 of whom have slight learning difficulties. I was told by various teachers to just shoot for their high school graduations. Are you kidding me? My kids will be whatever they work for. I hope everything works out for him(I will be watching future episodes for (hopefully) an update). It sounds like blatant discrimination to me and I hope he proves them all wrong! Best of luck to and yours!! xoxoxox

Mary F
Mary F

Caroline, This was my favorite episode ... and I admire you for standing behind Albie. I also have a son who has struggled with learning disabilities ... the world is already a tough place ... and having to face the world with those disabilities is extremely hard...I'm not telling you anything you don't already know. Like you, I also told my son not to let anyone tell him that he can't do anything he sets his mind out to do. I wish Albie every success ...he's a hard worker and I'm sure he'll reach his goals. Having you and Albert behind him ... he's already half way there. PS: You're my favorite RHONJ! You are one very classy lady!

Eye Know
Eye Know

Caroline, As an optometrist it is my responsibility to help people see. Did you know that 75% of learning occurs through vision? When I hear about the struggles Albie has had, as well as many other bloggers, it makes me sad. I know growing up and having glasses at a young age and struggling with learning and reading, I was very frustrated that no eye doctor found my visual function issue that was causing me to struggle. I found out my vision issue myself in optometry school. Because of my personal experience, I have been able to help many adults and children read and learn better. There are many visual function issues that could be the reason why Albie has struggled. Has he had his visual function checked?

Eye Know
Eye Know

Caroline, as an optometrist it is my responsibility to help people see. Seventy five percent of learning is done through our vision. When I read about your son who struggles with learning, and many other bloggers about the struggles they have had with learning, it makes me sad. I too struggled with learning through school and had eye exams all my life. It wasn't until Optometry school and learning about the function of the eyes that I finally learned why I struggled. Because of this I have now been able to help many kids and adults read and comprehend better because of certain imbalances of their eyes. Has Albie had his eye function checked?

pretty_angel_eyes32
pretty_angel_eyes32

Caroline, i just fell apart when i watched your show when you was talkin about your son having a learning disabilty because i have had one all of my life but it just takes us people longer but i proved people wrong to i went to college and i am raising my little boy on my own, I believe in my heart you son can do anything if he sets his mind to it and dont let anyone tell him different. I believe in my heart your a wonderful mom and you remind me of my self as well if you mess with are children we will bring out the fear in god in people that messes with are children, I love how you tell it like it is, I also belive that your the back bone that runs your family very well, my love and my heart goes out to you and to all of your family.

Lupe
Lupe

*CAROLINE*

you are a wonderful mother and your kids are very blessed to have you I have loved watching you and your family You are the Best Parents.You are a fabulous mother.

WE ARE IN DIFFICULT SITUATION '" ALWAYS keep in mind what you said anytime ? POSITIVE, NEVER GIVE UP , ALWAYS STRONG I WISHING YOU ALL THE BEST.

TAKECARE,

atte. lupe

Erica C
Erica C

Hey Caroline !

I just wanted to thank you for being such a loving mother to your kids. I am 23 myself and I also have had a Reading Comprehension problem since i was in elementary school and still have it till this day. I know exactly how Albie feels and how hard it can be when people tell you that you can't do anything. I am so glad that you talked to him and nurtured him as mothers should. Watching that made me choke up but you helped me push through my last semester with the talk you had with him. It inspired me to push through and prove everyone wrong. Best Wishes to you and your family !

Ciao Bella, Erica C Wilmington,DE

trista
trista

Hi Caroline, I'm watching the marathon today and just saw the episode with Albie and his law school problem and know exactly how he feels!! I was rejected from 10 law schools the first time applying and felt defeated and that I wasn't good enough. My family convinced me otherwise and 6 months later I re-applied to different schools and was finally accepted! My mother passed away from cancer 6 weeks before I started law school so moving away from my family was a very difficult decision but knew my years of hard work shouldn't be wasted...it's not what she would have wanted!! My first semester was absolutely the hardest with facing grades of C's, which I hadn't gotten since high school, facing the loss of my mother, my husband telling me he felt divorce was best, and losing my 7 year old dog. I was put on academic probation which had never happened and one bad thing after another came into my life - I felt useless, worthless, and that I couldn't handle it anymore. I will begin my 2nd year of law school in 2 weeks and am now more determined than ever to show everyone I can do it! I've raised my grades and gotten off academic probation and showed those who didn't think I could do it that I could!! Please tell Albie not to give up hope - if I can make it through all the life changing events that I did within a 6 month period, he can too!! Do not get discouraged and do NOT let anyone tell him he can't be what he aspires to be!! As you said, let this fuel his fire to fight back! By the way, I'm still appealing a grade from 2nd semester that was unfair - this is part of my fuel to continue to fight!! I sincerely hope everything works out for him & hope to hear positive news about it soon!

Much love & respect!

Tami Riddle
Tami Riddle

Hi there Caroline, I just recently saw the episode where Albie tells you he feels worthless. My heart goes out to him, and to you as his loving mother. I have sooo been in Albie's shoes. While I love school, I definitely have to work hard to focus and stay focused. My determination gets me through.

A very close friend told me something once that resonates with me so deeply, I use it as my own mantra. She was trying to get into medical school and was told by the dean of the school where she had applied that she would never make it as a doctor. Unfortunately it wasn't the first time nor the last that she heard this. She was told this by many. Without a second thought her response was always, "Watch me!" She said this to everyone who doubted her, including herself at times. It's such a powerful, short little sentence. Once you say it to yourself, you will never stop. I haven't. :)

Go Albie! Best of luck to you. You will make an excellent lawyer someday. Caroline, you are such a neat lady. Your kids are very lucky to have you as their mama. :)

Kgarcia
Kgarcia

Caroline, I think you are a wonderful mother and your kids are very blessed to have you. I don't think you have anything to worry about with any of them. As for your daughter, I think she does beautiful work! As a cosmetologist, I have an appreciation for good work. Albie will do great in life. I believe that he has the fight in him to go far. He gets that because he has been blessed with parents who support him and believe in him. Wish I had a family like yours. I wish you the best with everything in life!

Bunny
Bunny

Dear Caroline, I am dyslexic and my sympathies go to your son. Please tell him he really is an inspiration to people like us who have had everyone tell us what we can't do. He is very lucky to have a mom like you.

I have loved watching you and your family. You all seem very close and I am so glad that you support them in what they want to do. I am 23 and struggling with my life, watching Albie has helped me so much because I see I am not the only one.

You are wonderful, thanks for showing the support kids like us need.

XOXO Amy in CA

Learning disabled lawyer
Learning disabled lawyer

Caroline,

What you said to your son is correct. He can be an amazing lawyer. I did not realize I had learning disabilities until I was in my senior year of college (despite many warning signs). I process things the way your son does. I was determined since the age of 12 to be a lawyer. When I went to take the LSAT I did horribly. I spoke with the dean and got extra time and it greatly improved my score. Law school was extremely difficult and I did take all the extra time they had to give me by law. I was not in the top of my class, but I graduated. I am not going to lie, it was the hardest time of my life, but I would not give up. I did not give up because like you, my mom told me I could do it every single day. I graduated from law school 14 years ago, have passed 4 different state bar exams and have been a successful ever since. It is extremely hard, but one day you wake up and you almost forget you have a learning disability. I wish your son all the best and tell him his first case needs to be against his school for discrimination!

Sebastian Bamba
Sebastian Bamba

Caroline,

I cried watching the segment about Albie in the episode. Then after that they showed Danielle, and I was just like can't they have just put something light and positive after that scene? Anyway, I just watched it a couple of minutes ago and now I'm writing this. I'm 18 years old and I want to become a lawyer one day like your son Albie. I was crying for so long and I don't usually cry during reality shows but that scene just struck to me, deep. I'm gay, and I've been told all my life that I'll end up working at a beauty salon or end up something to do with fashion designer (not that anything is wrong with that, but that's not the path I want to take), but like what you told Albie, I want to prove them wrong. I don't even tell my family about my dream cause most of the time they don't really believe me. But my mom does, like you she tells me every time I feel defeated that I will make it. I want to be the next Harvey Milk which is a really far-fetched dream but after watching that episode and listening to my mother, I know I will make it.

Thank you! You have inspired me not to only be a good person and believe in myself but to be a good parents to my future kid.

More power to you and your family. Keep believing in them like I believe my mother believe in me.

Gosh, I'm still crying!

SMV
SMV

I JUST LOVE YOU!!! AND U FAMILY!!! I pray to be a a great mama as u one day :0)

Chelsea H
Chelsea H

Dear Caroline, What you did for Albie was wonderful to see. I'm not a parent but I' am an 18 year old with a ADHD, and an anxiety disorder. Since i was a little girl i have been told by many teachers that i cant do things and will never be able to do things. Even one teacher in the 2nd grade told my parents that i was probably retarded because i did not understand like other children did and that i would not get anywhere because i couldn't concentrate enough to accomplish anything. Even at this age I did not understand why a teacher could hate me so much even though i loved to learn. I have worked harder than most and fought harder everyday. My parents have been telling to me Go for my dreams and never let anyone tell me I'm not good enough because that is letting them win. I was recently told that i did not have a brain and no one is going to treat me special just because i have a problem. I have showed all those people that i can Do whatever i want. I will be attending Berklee college of music in the fall, and i wanted to thank you and Albie because I'm glad I'm not going through this alone. I would love to talk with you or Albie about this i know thats a tall order but thank you you have know idea how something like this meant to me. I know i will always struggle with this but i see it as a strength that will make me fight more than a weakness.

Lynette48
Lynette48

I know exactely what Albie is going through. I myself have the same problems as he. I am 48 years old now and I have proven to myself and everyone else that I can do anything I put my mind to yes it was hard but I kept plugging away at it. One thing that your son has that I did not was family support and that is awesome. I have lupus and had 5 mini strokes with it. I thought I was done noone to support me on getting on my feet again, then one day out of the blue I decided to do something. I put myself through medical school and now here I am a cna and I am going to school again to become a medical transcriptionist. I am proud of myself even though I to have a learning disability I didn't let anyone tell me I can't do it and believe you me I had family and many others tell me I can't. So Albie pull up your belt strap and you go and prove to them people they are wrong about you and it's their lost someone elses gain. God Bless and will be praying for ya. Need to talk I am here. Your friend Lynette

Crystal123
Crystal123

I am so glad that things are working out for all your kids and Albie. I have parents like you. they came from poor backgrounds and have worked hard for all they have. They taught me that hard work and sticking to your dreams and goals. I too have learning issues. School was never easy. i had a counsler in high school that would not let me take classes that would allow me to go to college. Parent like you and my own fought for me and was given a chance to try. Parent do play a powerful roll in their kids lives. This is why I stay at home and raise my 3 kids even when the money gets tight. They need to be told that they can dream and can try to do anything they want. We as parent have to give our kids their wings to fly.

teresab1107
teresab1107

I just wanted to say that i have watched the real housewives since it began and i love you as a person and all of your family. I think you set a good example for what many families need and that is a bond of love!! I know all of you have differences from time to time but you all keep it real and honest and in the end your a family first. That includes not only yor personal family but your sister and sister in law. I wish you all well and know New Jersy made a real woman out of me at age 20. I married a Yankee the first time (no offense meant) but he was an ass to me and real New Jersy women taught this shy southern girl how to deal with abusive men! Thank God for women that can be real and stand on their own feet without a man. Honestly you all have good spouces though and I now have one too that I have been with 18 years. Again thanks for being a strong, honest, caring, and nuturing woman that puts family above all things good or bad!!

cindylynn
cindylynn

dear carline at first i really thought you were a mean nasty know it all BUT WHEN i watched the episode abot ALBIE CRYING ABOUT law school IT BROKE MY HEART TO SEE SEEING HOW BAD YOU FEEL MY SON nick HAD ALMOST THE SAME PROBLEM i prayed and I PRAYED AND MY SON IS NOW A CARMAN AT santa fe for six years and nobody helped him get the job MY DAUGHTER IS 29 WENT TO u.C riverside college and graduated I AM VERY BLESSED WITH MY KIDS MY SON and I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM albie has TELL qalbie he is the most genuine loving person that loves you so muvh I HOPE YOU WRITE BACK OR AT LEAST READ MY LETTER p,s, I AM 49 YEARS OLD love and friendship cindy lynn

PattieUNLVREBEL
PattieUNLVREBEL

Thank you for sticking up for, not only your son, but for all those with a learning disability. I am a 23 year old female college student that lives/struggles with ADHD. I know exactly what your son means when he described reading a paragraph over and over in order to understand it; it is tough! As for his school, I can not believe they would say that to him! There are laws against what his school is discriminating. They should be ashamed. I believe our world needs young adults like your son and I because we see the world in a different prospective.

Thank you for caring,

Patricia

MEAGON ANTOINE
MEAGON ANTOINE

I THINK ALBIE SHOULDN'T GIVE UP ON IS CAREER.I KNOW WHEN PEOPLE TELL ME I CANN'T DO SOMETHING I USED THAT TO HELP ME DO MY BEST AT IT.I THINK HE SHOWNED A LOT OF PEOPLE WHAT HE CAN DO BECAUSE HE HAVE A LEARNING PROBLEM AND SEEM TO ME THAT HE DID A LOT OF THINGS TO BETTER IS LIVE.ALBIE YOU SHOULD SHOW THEM PEOPLE WHAT YOU ABOUT.

ANNALEEW
ANNALEEW

Caroline1. . . U R the sister who takes care of all.... I have 1 like that 2! WE as sisters live on "LAKE OF THE WOODS!!! yOU ALL SHOULD CHECK IT OUT!!! cabin for A weekend......hunting season, lots of fun up north . we love EVERYONE BUT DANIELLE

Another Mother
Another Mother

Kudos to you for allowing your child to savor life's ups and downs. I had a child who was born with a serious birth defect that would require multiple surgeries to correct. During those very important first years, she would not be able to speak properly because she could not hear. Needless to say her speech was delayed. During one visit with multiple specialists who were addressing her difficulties I was chastised because my daughter was failing certain milestones. I was told that I would be a bad mother if I did not continue with more aggressive surgeries.

I listened. I left. They underestimated the power of a mother's love and determination. I nurtured her in ways that might have seemed to have been unorthodox. I worked tirelessly with her every waking moment. I never gave up and I did not let her (the taunting in school was merciless). Through the hard times there were many tears that flowed. Once they were shed, we moved on to the next point.

You must know that my heart fell out of my chest when this child graduated Phi Beta Kappa, summa cum laude from one of the largest universities in this country. She is about to embark on a professional degree. I am so proud of her. Sometimes, I can't even breathe at times because this child has defied every obstacle placed before her.

These children are here to teach us, not the other way around. We are here to love them and nurture them in every possible way.

TYKMH444
TYKMH444

I see from all your comments that you know you have done more for all of us than you could imagine. My son has the same sort of disorder and has struggled since the 3rd grade (when we noticed). Our children are not less then adequate, they just need an extra hour or so. I have struggled with the Virginia Department of Education for YEARS to get accomodations for my son. I chose to send him to private school and paid THOUSANDS of dollars EXTRA for him to get accomodations. I tell you, I truly dont expect a response from you but I feel your pain and support you 100%. My son is not as advanced as yours but we will fight all the way....Mommy screaming.

Beth Rose
Beth Rose

Caroiine: I am posting for two reasons....first I would be happy to advocate for your son.... I am a learning disabilities specialist and the law school is in violation of ADA rules and regulations. Secondly, you dress beautifully. Where do you buy your necklaces?? Last week... (7/12/10) you wore a beautiful royal blue necklace..... where did you purchase this?? Thank you!

betty s
betty s

u made me belive i tried so hard through the schools my daughter is my life like ur son i will never give up what makes me mad is the schools they don't want her there shes going into 12th grade at a 5th grade level i wish we could could talk there is so much to say

bellap03
bellap03

Caroline,

I am watching this episode right now and it brought me to tears. I am 30 yrs old and have struggled with a learning disability since I was about 6 yrs old and was put in special classes all the way up until high school. I am continuing in college to get a degree in social work and still struggling. My teacher says my work is sloppy and i almost decided to quit all together. My family has always been supportive and did whatever it took to help accommodate me and my needs. I know how your son feels and I also take forever to read and comprehend something. People have made fun of me and called me stupid. It hurts but after watching you talk to your son it felt like you were talking to me. Tell him to never give up. Funny cause there are doctors, lawyers, actors who have the same issues and if they can do it so can we. I am a strong Italian women also and I will never give up my dreams! God bless!

Paula

Susan Cabri
Susan Cabri

Dear Caroline, I wanted to thank you for your honesty, constant strength and loving devotion to your children. I, too, have a child with a disability. When I say child, I mean my beautiful 25 year old daughter, that has endured 7 years of college, struggling with central auditory processing disorder. Between the ages of 0-5 years old, we were told that she was autistic and that possibly she would never speak. So through the special education programs she was placed in, we learned sign language. Remarkably she started speaking! Now let me fast forward through many years of special ed, disappointments, struggles, sadness, the occassional victories and let me bring you up to date. No, it has not been easy! I watched you tell Albie that nothing is impossible! Keep telling him that. Keep supporting him. Keep believing in him, (sometimes he may have a hard time believing in himself). In May, I watched my daughter walk across a stage in Albany, NY as she received her degree as a licensed school psychologist. These children our ours are the examples of what our future needs. They can attest to the struggles, the disappointment, sometimes even the shame. What better examples of what our youth is capable of, even if the hand they were dealt was less than perfect! Best of luck to Albie and to you, MOM. Hang in there, the best is yet to be. Susan Buffalo, New York

S McClenny
S McClenny

Mrs Manzo, Your son Albie, is a case study, I hope that he considers taking the law school to adminstative court though the US Department of Education because they receive federal money and stipends. I had to fight many peopkle whom beleive that people with disabilities should just take money from the government instead of trying to make their own way.I was told by some professors that I should take a job at a convenice store as a manager.I earned my degree in 1991.I hope that your son gets the help which he needs to succeed. S McClenny

Laura Joan
Laura Joan

Albie: THE BEST REVENGE IS LIVING WELL. I hope you become a lawyer, The journey there will be will be tough!You can do it! God Bless you and your family.

Gisela
Gisela

When I was young they called me slow, but I wasn't I just had ADD. I eventually grew out of it and have learned to deal with it. No one ever tells me what I can't do. I am actually also planning on going to law school. He will be a more compassionate person because of what he's going through.

Viewer from NJ
Viewer from NJ

Caroline,

I am 23 years old and going to Ramapo for social work. When I saw the episode about Albie I had just gotten a dismissal letter saying I was no longer in the social work program due to my gpa not being high enough. I was scheduled to graduate with my BSW in December I had 2 class left to take! I was going back and forth to appeal or not finally I talked to my parents and they gave me a speech similar to what you said to Albie. Anyways, the past 6 months I was suffering from Narcolepsy but didn't get diagnosed till april 2010 2 weeks till the semester ended. I went to appeal and I was baiscally told I wouldn't be a good social worker becuase of my Narcolepsy. I do not know the outcome of my hearing yet but I walked out crying and based on what was said it's as if they had a decision already made up before I got there.

Hopefully what I had to say change there minds...but I feel for Albie because I'm going through the same thing and on top of all that I have a learning diability as well...it stinks!

Kim Shoup
Kim Shoup

Caroline,

How I cried on the episode with Albie. I know exactly what you are going through. When you said "When you child hurts, you hurt twice as much". It hit home.

As a parent of a 9 year old child with Asperger's Syndrome (form of Autism) and Adhd. I understand exactly where you are coming from. On the outside my son appears to be like most children. On the inside he struggles, and works so very hard just to maintain what other children do as easy.

My husband and I work and work with him and it is a very upward battle but we keep telling him "someday it will all be worth it".

You were right when you say Albie should do it for all the kids after you, who someone said they couldn't do it. Do it for every disabled child out there. Pave the way for them.

My dream, as well is simple, for my child to be successful and lead a happy life, as I know the same is true for you.

I wish Albie all the best. Do it for my son and every other child who has dreams just like his.

Thank you

Kim in Ohio

Kathy A.
Kathy A.

Caroline: After seeing this particular episode a few times I had to share my thoughts and thanks to you. No, I'm not in school. I'm a soon to be 45 year old territory sales rep that at times needs a lift in life. With what you said and how you said it was pure from the heart as well as inspirational. You can see by the many people who have commented you have touched them in some way. When I have spoken with my Mom and shared my feelings of failure, she as you talked of, feel the pain of her "baby" hurting. I hope your son continues to push on. Thank you again for your encouraging words. Kathy A.

Naepooh
Naepooh

I too have a child who went through 7 years of in a special class for children with learning disabilities in school. When she was in middle school she learned to read sheet music and has been playing the clarinet for 7 years, not to mention was in the band until she graduated. Now she can do something I can't even begin to do. She has come a long way and has enrolled in the local community school and has started taking classes and is making great grades. I can relate to you on how you feel when people try to discourage our children who have learning disabilities. Your love and support of your children are REMARKABLE, and I am delighted that you show your children positive reinforcement. Society sometimes tries to crush self esteem and a willingness to succeed, but our children manage to succeed through determination and a desire to suceed. Our love for our children is undying and I wish Albie success and tell him NOT to EVER give up, he WILL succeed.

Joseph 1
Joseph 1

I lost my mother after I came back from Iraq. I am a captain in the USA Army and I do my best at all times. I was lifted in spirit when I heard what you told your son. That was the best a son could ever get from her mother. Someone just told me something of that nature, but you were there for as you were there for your son and I say thank you and I love you for that and can called you my mother.

Anna Daniels
Anna Daniels

Dear Caroline:

My son has a learning dissability and I cried over the whole thing with Alby. I worry everyday about my "baby" and I will do everything I can to make sure he gets the education he deserves. I never went to college but was lucky to land a great job that I worked at for 20 years and then I had my son and chose to stay home and raise him. I don't regret one minute of it. Alby will be fine and he wil get that law degree, he's Italian and he has a great strong family behind him, just like my son.

Tammy S from Pensacola FL
Tammy S from Pensacola FL

Caroline,

I have one child with a learning disability and my other child has an ADHD both of them have had issues throughout school. My heart breaks for you sitting her watching this episode because I have been sitting in your shoes and you feel completely helpless as a mother. My prayers are with you and your family.

Tammy S.

curlyque
curlyque

Caroline- You remind me of EVERY good memory that I have of New Jersey and it makes me miss the state that I grew up in and loved so much. What you had to say to your son touched my heart and my soul. My whole life I have been told that I can't...I lived for the fuel everyone gave to my fire. I grew up very close to where all of you are...very close. I moved away from New Jersey and then found, the rest of the world never told me that I can't. Because of this, I have never returned. I didn't get to follow my dreams but I live a life that is wonderful. Please keep motivating your son to fight the war of being told no. I'm sure it hit many lives and if it hasn't, then they don't really know life. Oh and the way your family is so close and won't let anyone else in without close caution is WONDERFUL...don't ever change that and I hope your children will learn from it. Fighting for a voice to be heard, Sherri

siobhan
siobhan

Caroline, As a mother of two learning disabled children and a special ed teacher I would like to commend you for your believing in your son and not listening to those who only think they know what they are talking about or couldn't be bothered to find out what can be done to help Albie. They would help others in another kind of difficult academic position. You are absolutely correct, Albie can do anything he wants to do and he will be a better lawyer for this experience as he will understand so much more than those around him who got to be a lawyer without Albie's experiences. He is obviously a smart boy with the backing of a loving family. Gotta love you all and it will be wonderful to watch Albie regain his much deserved confidence.

Kivey
Kivey

Caroline,

I have to say this episode really ticked me off. My husband also has a learning disability, not diagnosed until his senior year of undergrad. He also was told not to apply to law school, that he'd never make it. He did make it and the next 3 years were really tough on both of us.

After 3 years studying almost 24/7, he passed the bar the first time through. I couldn't be more proud of him, to this day - 10 years later. Tell Albie not to give up on his dreams and don't let the bastards get you down.

Regenia Hubbard
Regenia Hubbard

Caroline and Alby, I just saw the episode where Alby is facing challenges to complete law school. I just graduated from Law School in May and am now studying for the North Carolina Bar to be taken on July 27. I am a black female from a single parent home. Everything in my history said that I would never and could never be an attorney. I want you to know that you can do it and you must do it. As your mother said, do not let other people take away the dreams God has put in your heart. Although it is not going to come easy for you, you will do more with your law degree because of the challenges she will face to reach your goals. My brother experienced the same challenges. People always told him he would not accomplish anything and now he is going to graduate with a Master's degree in History. I am listening to your dad say that all you need is for someone to believe in you. I know that they believe in you but I need you to know that I believe in you too!!! If you work hard, and it is going to be hard, you can get that law degree. I can't wait to welcome you to the profession. Good Luck with everything and remember that what does break you will make you stronger.

Shabina
Shabina

Caroline, I have talked to Albie before on Facebook but have since closed my account. But I wanted to see if you could pass this message along for me. Spring 2009 I was taking 2 law classes and struggling very badly. I have a brain injury from a car accident I was in a few years ago and because of it I now have a learning disability. I messaged Albie for some advice on my practice law cases I was working on and never thought he'd respond. Your son not only replied, but helped me for over a week to develop my cases, he gave my other cases to cite, different laws to review etc. I never in a million years would have known that he has a learning disability like me. For the record, I was the only one to Ace my practice court case and my law final thanks to the help your son gave me! He called me from the LadyBug event last summer and I unfortunately didn't get the time to thank him for his help. Please pass my thanks along to him, and also thank him for inspiring me to become a law. You really have an amazing son!

nanaj
nanaj

As an educator...it's our job to help students (all ages) learn to adapt with any difficulties they have from Motivation, learning disabilities, reading disabilities, etc...

Stacie in California
Stacie in California

Caroline, what you told your son Albie was so incredibly touching. I don't care what people say about reality television, that was REAL. You are an amazing mother, sister and wife and I wish your family all the best.

I will keep in mind what you said anytime I feel defeated. You are an inspiration.

Clee222
Clee222

I have two brothers with learning disability, my mom was told by a teacher when my brother was in third grade that she thought he was retarded, Turned out he had learning disabilities. My brother worked really hard and he is a very successful attorney now. There are really great oeopl who have learning disabilities. General Patton, took five years to graduate from west point and he had to memorize his text books to do it. I am sure your son will be successful at what ever he trys,

blue's momma
blue's momma

Dear Caroline, I just saw the show where you had to endure the awful pain of hearing that your son is not worthy of his dreams just because of something that is not his fault or doing. I just died a little while that conversation took place. When my son Kevin was 9 yrs old he told me that he wanted to be an actor. That came totally out of left field. He was attending a public elementary school that had just became a magnet school for the arts. He went there because it was the only elementary school that offered an instrumental music program. My husband and I are very far from being rich, we struggled to be very lower middle class. We got Kevin a used saxophone and somewhere we managed to scrounge the $10 a week for lessons. He took to it right away and immediately became very good at it. People were using words like prodigy to describe his talent. I figured the acting thing might go away by itself. But it didn't. I finally broke down and started looking into getting him an agent. Getting the agent was the easy part, Kevin had the talent to line up 6 agents that wanted to represent him. Coming up with the money for headshots and the special clothes for auditions, that was the hard part. We also have a daughter, who was in high school at the time and she wanted and deserved what all teenage girls clothes, dresses for Prom and Homecoming. We somehow made it. The reason I bring up our finances is because they were Kevin's disabling factor. For about 2 yrs, North Carolina School of the Arts chased after Kevin to come to their school and that was the only school he ever wanted. He would not even discuss another school, let alone an in state school. While we waited for the acceptance to come from NC, we never once doubted that they wouldn't accept Kevin, the University of Florida contacted him. They wanted him in their BFA musical theater program. When he went to the FL interview he was told that his SATs weren't high enough, they were high enough for NC. Kevin said that he wasn't going to retake them. The guy looked at his grades and said they were high enough. He told Kevin to let him know within a wk if he was coming to FL. He would "flag" his app. and walk it through. We finally heard from NC, they said that NC was not the "right" school for and at least at FL he could pay the in state tuition. I found out by total accident why NC didn't want him. Kevin played "Jean ValJean" in hs final high school perfomance. People could not stop talking about it. I was asking the mother of a boy Kevin went middle school where he was going for college. She said that he was first on the waiting at NC for the first student that couldn't pay the tuition. I felt my heart break. I was devistated that my son lost his dream because of me. Kevin accepted FL's offer and did quite well while he was there. He made name for himself based on his talent. Your son will overcome his hurdle just like my son did. Both boy's are fighters and want their dreams so badly, they will do whatever it takes achieve them no matter what. Kevin lives in NYC with his dancer wife, Robin (they met at FL). He splits his time between working at a coffee shop and going on auditions. He continues to strive for his dream and he will get it. Albie will too. Our sons don't have a problem, it's the people who think they know what is best for our kids, that have a problem. Albie, whatever you do don't let go of your dream. If you want it bad enough you will find a way to get it. I still tell Kevin that and some days he says that what he needs to sell that next latte. Gail