It is not fair to constantly look for someone to blame for your own problems. If everyone continues to use me and place the blame on me, then how will any of you learn from your mistakes and grow?
I am not here to attack. I am not here to be mean. I am not here to throw stones. I am not here to judge. I am also not here to be abused by any of you any longer. I feel awful that Jacqueline had to start saying horrible things about me for she herself does not understand. You have not known me long at all and what I thought at the time was an instant connection. I now feel I was completely wrong. I wanted desperately to fit in with new friends and mainly I wanted to be in your life. I thought you felt the same about me. It saddens me that I was so wrong about you. I will say this though. I genuinely wish you all good in life and wish you health, wealth, and happiness. I want you to one day look back at our time and remember that I was the one there for you to listen to you every day when no one else could tolerate it any longer. I was also the one who drove you to all of your doctor appointments when no one else would. I took you everywhere you needed to go - even to buy things for CJ’s birthday. I even took the time to connect you with party event planners I’ve know for twenty years. Even though you did not use them in the end they listened to you and worked with you because I asked them to. I also took you to my OBGYN of 16 years to help you with your pregnancy issues, and gave you contact numbers so that you could speak with him at any time you felt concern. I also took you to check your blood work weekly or every three days so that you could stay on top of your pregnancy. I did way too much to list and I do not want credit, however I want to remind you that anytime you needed me, day or night, I was the one there for you. You will remember one day.
Yay Andy! Thank you for speaking up and not allowing them to continue to make excuses for bad judgment and gay slurs. I would like to say that if most people heard what I had to off camera they would most likely have been even more offended. I just think no one should ever speak without thinking first.
I think you are an amazing person with a past like all of us. No your not perfect but who is. Some people like to put on a front and some don't like you. Keep being who you are. Most people with a brain sees what is going on. The truth hurts and that's why some of the other ladies just don't face it. I have much respect for you and wish you the best of luck in life.
You are not a VICTIM and have no one else to blame for your problems but yourself. Skeletons from your past could fill a graveyard. GROW UP and start taking responsibility for yourself and your daughters. They (Dina, Caroline, Jacque, Teresa) are not blaming you for their problems - they just don't want anything to do with you. You, however, are blaming them for you and your daughters' problems. Hypocrite, much? Respect is not freely given but is earned and you have not earned this viewer's respect.
Listen closely to what your own daughter said in an interview on the "Last Supper" show:
"My mom has always been a fighter. She will fight and fight until she finds peace."
I hope you find peace.
Im sorry that this happened to you, I can relate to being up against a clique of people that will never see you for yourself. Especially when you are going through a rough time with a divorce (which could play a part in how four married woman react to you.) It is terrible to have to explain a troubled past to people, espcially when you came out of it triumphant. In the case of Jacqueline, her being pregnant has cemented her into a family who have issues. It was very sweet how you cried for Caroline and Dina when they explained their father-in-law's murder. Stay true to yourself and this pain that you had to endure will lead to blessings. God bless you and your beautiful girls.
I watched the reunion show as well as the entire series. I know there is much that went on behind the scenes that we didn't see. With that being said, I think you did a great job and I feel very sorry for you. I have a question, how were you selected to join this group and were you friends before the series. I know that Franklin Lakes is a small community like the way Teaneck was when I was growing up there. It looks like part 2 of the reunion show will be painful for you.
I would say "Screw them mafia members and keep it moving. No matter what you did in your past that's what it is your past. When someone calls "The Family" out on their S--t she (caroline) wants to rant and rave about "Rumors" what is true and not true. Please just stay away from them. I am truly surprised about Jackie, she really shocked me. That only means she is a fake as the rest of them. What they don't realize is not only did they expose your past but GUESS what they have opened up theirs by being on the show. So the last laugh is on them!!!!!!
I wanted to say thank you for criticizing Theresa's husband and his "that's gay" comment. It's hard for some to understand that, in such a moment, they are using a specific identity as an insult. Would people suddenly understand if some of us started referring to generally bad or peculiar things as "that's so cerebral palsy," "that's so single mother," or perhaps most appropriately, "that's so rich Italian housewife". "That's gay" may happen everywhere, sure, and it may be especially common among some of the more insecure (or just immature) men in New Jersey (as I believe one of the other wives retorted) but that does not make it right. Your viewpoint (and Andy's support) in that regard is one of the reasons my partner and I have been cheering you on. Hang tough!! Keep on showing your girls that it's not okay to just sit back and take it!!
Danielle...I think you handle yourself Beautifully...they look like the immature Bully Jerks!!! They do so much Contradicting it made my head spin...doesn't make them look good at all!!! Who would ever think someone throwing tables and talking about sex in front of children is cool???( Oh...but lets put a book on the table and think that's just so wrong???-after all they are the ones that started the gossiping on National TV??) Unbelievable??? I still have not heard a good enough excuse for all their bad behavior...It's totally unbelievable to me??? Its a shame...because if it continues...i don't think Chris and Jacqueline will make it...Dina was always bossing Jacqueline around before and I can tell she was sick of it!!! Dina is very manipulative and you are right...Caroline goes around fixing her messes...they should really re-watch the show and see how bad they make their selves look!! It's one Contradiction after the other...and that Teresa does not listen...she dismisses and gangs up on you...she doesn't even really know what is going on??? She is Clueless???...just to get her air time...i think she is a real drama queen...i thought you & Jacqueline looked very beautiful and classy but those other women just looked classless, gossipy and backstabbing Mean Bitter women!!! I know some friends of mine, don't even wont to watch the show because of those women...Danielle you and Jacqueline should get your own show!!! Your two are the Real Classy Ladies from NJ!!!
I think you need to accept the fact that these womoen quite simply, do not like you. I think it pre-dates the knowledge of the book (and its contents). The way you behaved on the show (i.e. phone sex, proposing sex in public restrooms etc.) caused your children pain, perhaps more than the surfacing of the book. Move on.
Danielle, You said that you didn't want to point out all that you did for Jacqueline, then why post a list? You also said that none of the things written about you were true, and that the court papers were sealed. WRONG!! You have been caught in so many lies, and wonder why people call you a liar. I do believe that what happened in the past should stay there. Unfortanatly there was a book, and you denied everything when most of it was true. The comment was made about "think before you speak", maybe you should try it sometime.
Ah, Danielle. The "Queen of Denial." It amazes me that you never see any wrong doing on your part. It's always someone elses fault and you're always the victim. Just one question - why on earth would you even think of signing up for a reality tv show with a past as sordid as yours is? Did you honestly think it wouldn't be brought out? Or maybe you're in denial about that, too?
It appears from your blog that even Jacqueline has seen your true colors and will no longer believe your distorted version of reality. I wonder what truths Thursday's show will reveal? It'll be interesting, yet sad, to see.
Danielle, Yup! We all have a past. You can bet these other women do, too. I really believe it wouldn't have mattered who Bravo chose to be the interloper in this mafiosa-isk family, they would have suffered the brunt of whatever angst these women could muster. It's not you. It would have been any non-family member (I say this while rubbing my knuckles against my jaw...lol.) I just hope you were paid well for your misery.
And, I encourage you to let the Jacquline friendship go. As her friend, and a real friend at that, you wouldn't want to stress out her pregnancy with the obvious pressure her family put her under. The day will come, in this life or the next, she will see the truth. At this point, her truth is subjected to the askewed interpretation of her family members. She's a nice enough lady, but between a rock and a hard place. Forgive her, move on.
You can rise above all this mess. Good luck with your life and if you can't always be happy, be grateful.
Hi Danielle: I have to say you made the show. The other women were boring. Exspecially Teresa. Like who cares about her child's career. Stay strong and recgonize haters when they present themselves to you. Stay away from Caroline and her sister. Two women who have nothing better else to do than hate on a strong and beautiful woman. You go girl. Let the haters hate and everyone else appreciate.
Danielle, I don’t agree with your behavior sometimes but Bravo portraits you as the bad girl but at the end the Manzo’s girls look worst than you. You look sad last night I am sorry to see that. Best wishes John 3:16
Danielle, you have a very distorted self-image. You take all your bad behaviour and blame everyone else for it. You used Jaqueline as a pawn-she did like you and want to be your friend but that wasn't enough for you continually tried to put a wedge between her and her family. You talk about all the pain you've been "put through" but most of it is self-imposed. You chose to bring the book to a family event and make your points clear; but you could have done that alone on camera or at the final interview without disturbing anyone. You had no trouble talking on camera about your online sex talks with a man whose name you never bothered to get. You also paraded your "relationship" with a 26 year old man who clearly was using you. You had no problem putting it all out there on national tv and now you talk about what your daughters had to see. YOU DID IT ALL YOURSELF! A woman leads by example. Stop playing the martyr and drama diva, get out and get a job and know what it is to be a real role model for your children.
Only God can judge us...we all fall short. He turns evil to good and our messes into messages. May God and your children be your focus, not what others (who also fall short)think. Alone we are weak, but through Christ we are strong!
You were definitely the highlight of the show! I feel really bad that they always ganged up on you! as for Jacqueline as long as she is a part of that family they will always walk all over her!!!! As for Caroline she is so pathetic I can't satnd the way she tries to intimidate people she never shuts up it's like everytime someone was asked a question she had to but in and speak for them seriously!! she needs to let Her 40 year old sister speak up for herself that family is fake it makes me sick Teresa she is an airhead!!!!!!!!!!!!!! to the max and not to mention tacky and please tell me Dina is not a interior decorator her house is so cluttered and tacky its horrible!!!!!!!
Wow, for someone who "doesn't want to take credit" you sure made quite a list to build yourself up. I truly wish the best for your daughters, they deserve none of this. However I hope that one day you can be a better example for them and start realizing your own faults and try to fix them instead of teaching them to point fingers at everyone else and victimize themselves.
Danielle I have really been pulling for you because it must be hard to stand against a family. They are of course going to seem stronger because they have each other's support. I have a bigger problem with them being willing to bully you than with your character. Having said that I hope you will look back at the show and recognize where you could grow in modesty and discretion. You have a beautiful heart and I hope this experience grows that and you choose to turn completely away from the negative behavior.
Daniielle, stop thinking that you did not get your point across, you did, in a big way, kudos to you girl, now move on to bigger and better things. Forget about Jacqueline she could never be loyal to you, because she would never leave that life style, it's to good. keep your head to the sky precious little lady.
Bottom line: You're responsible for you actions - past and present - own it. When you were young, you made bad choices. Why don't you just admit it, apologize for the pain it has caused your family, and stop making poor choices today? If you talk about your issues and regrets, it will quickly disarm those who criticize you. Quit lashing out and blaming others. Distance youself from those who don't like you and move on!
I agree with the last post I read, you looked sad last night! No wonder, with all the lies and your shady past, I would too. The other women know a lot more to the story and so does the smoking gun. It seems there's a little more to the book than what you admitted to on the show!? Please, stop blaming others and start taking responsibility for YOUR actions. I'm sooo tired of your whining on your blog, poor me? The other women handled themselves very well...considering what they know about you, be thankful you weren't on the OC or NY, Tamara and Betheny would have chewed you up!!! You said you didn't judge, really??? You need to deal with your own garbage, and STOP playing the victim. I will pray for you, and remember, THE TRUTH will set you free1
Danielle, seriously, I would get as far away from these women as I possibly could. I wouldn't do this show again just to be away from them. The rest of these women are so fake and phony it's hard for me to believe that people can't see that for themselves. How "rehearsed" was Dina, Caroline (especially Caroline) and yes even Jacqueline on the 1st reunion show?! I swear, I have never in my life ROLLED MY EYES for a solid hour. I could barely stomach Caroline and her overly dramatical monologues. And I felt like something was different with Jacqueline while watching the reunion show. Typical. She's allowing herself to be bullied. And Teresa really needs to crack open a book sometime. A dictionary would be a good place to start. Danielle I honestly hope you can move past all this with your head up. Everyone has done things in their past that they're not proud of, but we repent, ask God's forgiveness, forgive ourselves and MOVE ON. Mark my words, your star will probably be the one to rise the highest from this completely ridiculous New Jersey season.
I don't feel sorry for you. You were invited to a dinner and you shouldn't have brought "the book". Shame on you for bring this up in front of children. And you should not behave in front of your own children like that. I don't agree that the family has acted completely correct but you brought this on your self. I would have lost alot of respect for Caroline and the others if they hadn't of put you in your place. That's what families do. Shame on you for trying to put a wedge in that. I agree with the other posters with your past what did you expect?
Danielle - I can't believe that Caroline could dare poke into your past, when there are hurtful & mysterious parts of her own family's past as well. She said that Bravo & viewers should consider her mother-in-law/grandkids, etc...but what about the pain inflicted on your daughters?? WHAT A HYPOCRITE! I can't believe that you or Andy didn't call her out on that, but I'm glad that she said it...it says a lot about her poor character. Also, I think you handled yourself incredibly well last night. You may have a past (we all do) - but you came out on top last night. Really.
It seems to me that the other ladies have nothing else better to do than to create "vicious" drama. Its like high school all over again. It was 25 years ago. I bet if you started digging into their past you might find a lot of things that they did not want any one to know.
Danielle, Great job! Whether we are actually getting the "whole truth" from any of you, only you will know. However, you are well spoken and have learned the best lesson- to be quiet. They are buring themselves with their tongues and double standards! The way Caroline was answering for everyone was very telling. Your comment said it all- let Caroline answer. It was as if they were afraid to leak out more coveted family info. Jacquelyn seems as though she has been given a "family gag order' to not speak. She was VERY different last night and body language doesn't lie- there is still a HUGE amount of tension between her, Caroline and Dina. The eye rolling and eye contact with glares was so telling and fake! My favorite double standard is that it is okay for your past to come up but not "Tiny Manzo's" murder. If they are accusing you of exposing Tiny's murder- NOT- DINA exposed that when she went on My Fabulous Wedding . .. on VH1. The MANzo dirty laundry was out there on the internet back in 2005! They need you as a scapegoat. I think it was unfair to put you with three people who are related and a close family friend and expect you to survive. One thing is TRUE you have taken some ownership that you made bad choices in the past and YOU have CHANGED your life! Good job! The MANzo's are so defensive. Defensiveness is driven by fear. They are fearful the truth of Tiny's murder is going to be rehashed in the media, AGAIN. Sorry, hog tied in a trunk spells . . . MAFIA not horrific accident. They are the type of family the Sopranos gets their script from. People don't you get it- they are insulted to be identified as being "like" the Sopranos because THEY ARE what producers and writers use as inspiration. They are THE REAL DEAL!
Caroline and Dina are the McNasty sisters, they seem to think they are so much better than you. I guess they are so full of themselves that they really do not see how awfull they really are. Teresa seeks their approval so she can never be friends with you. The McNasties would never allow it.
I normally do not comment on these blogs, however, this time I have to..lol.
"So gay" this must be a North Jersey saying. I have been using it for years. In no way shape or form does it have anything to do w/someone's sexual orientation. It's never said any other way, it's always said as "so gay". A person, place or thing can be "so gay" in the North Jersey context. Is it right, is it wrong, who knows but it's a saying, leave Joe alone, he's probably been saying "so gay" for years, does not mean he's homophobic.
Danielle, your past is really none of their business unless you choose to share it with them but at the same time, they have every right not to want to be friends with you.
Stop whinning and trying to guilt them into being your friend. They want nothing to do with you. They aren't trying to do anything to you, they just want you to leave them alone. Why can't you go away and go on with your own life?
You are a liar and out for yourself. All of a sudden you are trying to buddy up with Dina and turning on Jacquline. It's obvious you just want to start trouble. Maybe you are jealous because they have a tight close family and you have no one.
Speaking of family, where is your's? You don't have parents? Siblings? Aunts/Uncles? Cousins? Your own family has probably disowned you so now you want to destroy someone else's. You are pathetic.
Danielle, You obviously feel very misunderstood. Unfortunately, the viewers are smarter than you think, and you are showing yourself as an unlikeable person, as well as a sad person. Grow up, take responsiblity for yourself, stop acting like anyone owes you anything. You have two beautiful children to nurture and protect in this world. THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS, they are your children and YOU ARE THE MOTHER. Step up and act like one. Someday you can be friends with your children, at this point they need a mother, not a friend. Get over it, the Manzas do not want to be your friend. Move on. The great thing about life is God will help you and give you another chance, take that chance, you have a lot to offer the world.
You signed up for a reality show!! You should have known that "the book" would surface at some point. Quit being such a victim and move on with your life. It's obvious that your children have a better handle on reality than you do. Get over yourself and maybe you will live a happy life.... Maybe!!
Danielle I really like you and I know exactly how you feel. But take it from someone who has been through the same drama the less females you have in your space the less drama and jealously in you face. Those catty bitches are jealous of you. Misery loves company. They have some much that they are miserable. Keep your head up girl you will be alright. I am a single mother or 4 and don't depend on my childrens father for a damn thing. Pray and God will fix it for you even with the other ladies on the show. God giveth and he surely taketh away. They will see.
You don't want to comment on all of the things that you have done to be her friend, but then you list all of them. That is private information that we don't need to know.
You are unbelievable and quite possibly the worst "friend" EVER.
Danielle ~ Wow! You go girl! I love the way you kept your cool at the "Last Supper"! I will honestly say I wish you hadn't brought the book there but as you said, you felt it was the only way to get everyone there to address the situation at hand.
I am sure they all have skeletons in their closets, don't we all have them? It's just really sad when a group of women gang up and try to destroy another woman. There is nothing worse than breaking someone down. I have been there. I've been in a similar situation. The only difference is, I refuse to speak to this person any more and I will not acknowledge them even if at a function that she is also at. My town isn't that large either and from time to time I have to run into her but that's okay because now when I see her I just remember "karma"! She has gotten hers and I hope now maybe she learned a lesson from that!
Hang in there. I was happy to see that you are out of Franklin Lakes now and I hope that you are on your road to peace & happiness! You and your girls deserve that! Your past is your past & there was no need for Dina & Caroline to open this "can of worms".
I am SO convinced that Dina is such a liar and Caroline has lost my confidence too. Caroline is manipulative... Come on Dina... when Caroline started to fess up about the book in the salon, Dina was saying Caroline under her breath! Hello... Dina! You should have just kept your mouth shut completely. And then when Jacqueline brought up about them being in the same room & Dina finding stuff on the internet? That just goes to show Dina couldn't fess up then either. Danielle, you are so right about Dina & how she kept pacing and standing and moving from seat to seat. That definitely shows she was guilty and didn't know where to hide.
If you are back for season 2 I hope you have a new story line and a new set of friends. I get the feeling that you and Jacqueline had a falling out. That's too bad but Jacqueline's "family" is too controlling and I am sure they are the wedge that drove you & Jacquelyn apart.
Hang tough. The truth always comes through! Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but eventually, the truth will surface.
You have my support & I hope I get to meet you some day!
there'd be no show without you. You know that Jacqueline in the end has to side with the sisters. I'd quit the show and have peace in your life, either they find someone else to beat up on, and then the truth of their bullying ways come to surface, or they just become too boring for viewers to watch.....and bye, bye Manzos.
past or no past, Caroline is a hypocrite to bring it up and then say it's not fair to talk about her FIL and the way he died and the rumours
I watched the show last night. I think these women are far from being classy. I turned it off when Caroline started standing up for everyone. Like she is some Terminator or something. Dina and Jacqueline do not seem to be able to stand up for themselves. I think Jacqueline's lips look horrible. OMG she looks like Daffy Duck. She should really re-think that one. I will not watch this show again. These women are so fake and no one really cares how much money they have or their family. Maybe Bravo should find some real housewives that actually work and take care of their children. That would be real TV.
Danielle, You live for drama. Careful. Your children will learn what they live. They also will learn to live for drama. Get a job-even if it is just volunteering somewhere. Put your energy into something positive. Get over the fact that they found out about your past. Get over the fact that your past has made them fearful of you. Find some new friends. They do not want to be your friend. Get over it. After reading about everything you did for Jacqueline, I am certain that you can be a good friend to someone else. Join a club, do volunteer work, get a job and you will find some new friends. But for heaven sakes girl....if you ever decide to do a reality show again....be upfront about something so serious as being arrested, etc. These things are important to people who may be inviting you into their homes! Think about it! Good luck to you!
I wish you the best in life. I felt so bad when Caroline Sopranos and her gang attacked you. Are people not allowed to move on with their lives from past mistakes? Who are they to judge you so harshly? Nobody is freaking perfect. We all have done things that we regret. I have a few close friends and family members who had similar life experiences like you. They all are better people because of it. My friend M told me the other day it would have been very hard for her if people ganged up on her like Caroline Sopranos did to you. It broke my heart.
I truly wish you the best. I hope God sends more positive people to shower you with love.
An innocent child, who is sitting in a building, taking piano lessons and is struck by a bullet that rips through his spine and leaves him paralyzed for life. THAT IS A VICTIM. That is a situation of "being in the wrong place, at the wrong time".
You have a past, and made mistakes just like everyone else walking the face of this planet. What I don't like about how YOU handle it is this..... You play "victim". You were NOT a vicitm. EVERYTHING we do in life is a choice. From the minute we wake up in the morning, till we go to sleep. What we do and how we handle it, is a CHOICE. God gave you (and all of us) COMMON SENSE from the minute we came out of our mothers wombs. You did NOT use your common sense when YOU CHOSE to hang with this type of crowd. What did you think would happen?? Honestly !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OWN YOUR MISTAKES, INSTEAD OF PLAYING "VICTIM". Because you're NOT one !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Until you start to take respnsibility for your actions you will never be happy. Stop blamming everyone. Stop using your children as your friends and parent them instead. If you want friends you need to learn to be a friend. A friend doesn't keep track of how many nice things you do for someone, you do them without thinking about it or holding it over their head. Stop playing the victim. Victims don't choose their circumstances you did. You hooked up with a Columbian drug dealer - knowing who he was- so when you got arrested -that was your doing not anyone elses. STop boo hooing about what you brought on yourself.
Wow lady, amazing how someone can "poor me" as much as you do. Look they don't like you not everyone in the world is going to like you. Get over it honey. You put yourself out there to be scrutinized now deal with it. In all the episodes I saw you only wanted to hear what you wanted to hear. You didn't take advice from the girls but you sure did want to dish it out for them. Were you kidding dating a guy young enough to be your son and expect it to work? Look I just hope you get it together for your daughters because what they were exposed to at that "Last Supper" was nothing compared to what you yourself exposed them to in your household. Just take responsibility for your own mess.
Now you're putting Jacqueline on a guilt trip... Anyway, the sisters may have discovered your book and whatnot, but you allowed it to come on to television. They wanted it to stay off the air, but YOU let it on. Any bad that comes from this is your own doing.
Danielle, best of luck to you in all you do in the future. It saddens me tremendously that this mob family has ganged up on you like they have. They sit there and talk about how what is written about their family is SO wrong but just cannot see how what your EX-husband wrote about you could be incredibly over exaggerated. Because Ex-husbands never lie about what their wives did. Right. The intelligence of Caroline (the one who makes everyone else go along with her opinion) is severly lacking. And she actually called her daughter stupid.
Danielle, You made some mistakes. Okay...move on. That family is crazy, weird and their lack of education speaks volumes. Why bother trying to tell them anything. Because it makes good television? Find some new friends. I grew up on the east coast in a large Italian family and watching this show gives me flashbacks. Get out of Jersey...there is a whole big beautiful world out there beyond these weird families. You will find that when you leave and get far enough away...a sense of calm will come over you and you will delight in finding that not everyone behaves like that. Drama and control is the name of the game in these families. It's not healthy. Run...fast as you can.
I felt badly for you last night, but today read your blog and the sympathy soon subsided. While we all have a past, some with events we'd like to forget or work hard to forgive ourselves for, if the details (true or not) are so sordid that a book is written, people will want to know about it and will talk. Dina, Caroline, Teresa, the whole town of Franklin Lakes for that matter and the viewers of TRH's, found it to be salacious. After the episode aired concerning the book, I immediately "googled" it. Do you hate me, too? Maybe if you'd been forthcoming and less deceptive it would've blown over far sooner and with less repercussions. As a parent with two young girls, why would you agree to be on a reality tv show with all those skeletons in your closet? Your participation absolutely defies any semblance of common sense. And by the way, it's so uncomfortable to watch how much pressure you put on your daughters by constantly bringing them into your drama, consulting with them like they are friends (as you did after the dinner, standing outside of the restaurant smoking a cigarette, bitching about the other women -- so wrong...). You really need turn your focus away from blaming Dina, Caroline, and now Jacqueline for your dilemmas and try and get on with your life in a positive manner. Before there was any mention of the book, your true colors were shown when you bragged about being engaged 19 times, offered Steve a hummer in a restaurant on national TV (something so stupid and crass that your girls are certain to hear about), used the "P" word, and seemed obsessed with hating Dina. You need to focus on cleaning up your act and getting some actual self-respect. And getting a job would be a good idea instead of looking for the next man to take care of you and your daughters.