Danielle,it's best to stay out of drama, especially between two friends let them solve their own issues, because that's only putting you in the middle and you don't want to be there you will feel like that you will have to go back and forth between them take my advice from someone who knows been there.

I remember Dina from when she had her wedding on that VH1 show called my "Big Fat Fabolous Wedding". Watching her plan her wedding was quite interesting given that she seemed weak and cry baby like on that show. Now on the Real Housewives she is super tough....I don't know I can't judge this show I thought it would be more of a variety instead of the cast members being related to each other. I can understand how Danielle is the outsider because the other cast members are blood and Teresa is family too because of the longevity of her relationship to Dina. Who's Idea was it to cast family as Real Housewives. I stay tune for this season petty drama!

The sisters seem to be terribly harsh towards you. And it seems very backwards that you are judged so harshly for being a divorced woman raising her children while looking for love. Dina was not so long ago in the same position you are currently in. I suppose once a person finds herself a husband who is only around enough to hand over his cash it is easy to forget the struggles they previously faced. It seems like you are very close with you girls and are trying to what is best for them and that is something that should be respected. Anyone who isn't invited to a time out with Dina should count themselves blessed they don't have to listen to her run her mouth, and even better they don't have to endure looking at her. Stay strong for your girls, they are all that really matter!

Holy canoli girl! Already with the bombs? I will enjoy watching you. As for judging you? Heck yes we will judge you. What other reason could we possibly have for watching this show? Lighten up Danielle. It's still early...

Danielle,

I was prepared to not like you, darn it! You seem very real and not the B*tch that was portrayed in the previews. You seem very normal and honest.

I am a member of an Italian family and know first hand how they can make you feel like an outsider and act like you have to earn their respect. I was raised to respect people and make other's feel comfortable around yourself. It wasn't pleasant and was very hurtful but I learned quickly that you must be true to yourself and be kind.

They have actually voiced their disappointment that I wouldn't act upset and beg for them to accept me. My husband explained that I already have a family that loves me and treats each other with respect without demands or conditions. Just love and affection.

I know not every Italian family is like this but it's also not that unusual. It's unfortunate that people aren't more accepted for who they are and treated with kindness instead of the somewhat normal hazing.

I am fortunate to come from a family that has always been very accepting of others and made them feel welcome. I will never veere from that upbringing and will always remember the lessons I have learned from my wonderful parents. Stay true and don't let it get you down!

Best. TV. Line. Ever: "And the phone sex... wow."

I like you and they are jealous of you. Look forward to seeing more of you in the future.

Danielle, if you don't want to be "judged" don't be on a reality TV show. Period, the end.

People need to give folks a chance before they judge!

I love the show already and I think this season is going to be intriguing. I think that you are worried that you came across badly, I don't feel that you did. Great blog btw, keep them coming!!!

well. i read the whole blog. i will give you the benefit of the doubt. the editing is really a big deal that i think alot of the fans don't pay enough attention to. especially if the editors have personal favorites.

all this stuff between the wives comes back around. last night - for the first time - i felt sorry for Ramona on teh NY reunion. she was being picked on so hang in there. even dina said everyone gets their turn to look bad.

but if i were you i would stop talking about sex so much - it is truly trashy. you are setting an example your daughters will have a hard time deciphering.

Danielle:

Everyone should reserve judgement. But please - don't tan so much - you'll regret it later.

i think you're a bit hasty in responding to "what's coming in the future episodes" clips. you should've just stuck with commenting on the first episode, especially since you don't know in what context those future clips will be shown. but it's obvious to see that you'll be the outcast of the group. don't be concerned as to why the other girls aren't friendly to you, you shouldn't care. the fact that you care is probably one of the reasons why they dislike you even more.

Maybe you are being too hard on Teresa. I think her comment was about her wanting you to be focused on finding someone to cherish and respect you - and she feels (however wrongly) that you're focusing too much on the - ahem - physical aspects of dating. I think she just wants you to find someone who makes you happy and she's worried that you're not going about it the right way. I understand getting defensive about it, but try and see her comment from another angle.

Loved seeing you with your girls. Whatever else happens, you seem like a great mom.

Jackie said it best when you and Dina started off on the wrong foot! Those first impressions can be a beast but as long as you handle it like women, thats all that matters and since it didn't go well, look what happens.... Lack of proper communication is the true problem and since everyone is like family, sides are being taken and you are not given a fair trial, but you also hold responsibility as well. Don't worry about what others say or think, HOWEVER, make wise decisions for you and your family. God bless you.

I must say, I'm still on the fence about the whole NJ Show. I think the show used poor judgement when showing you going to a bar alone, attempting to meet a stranger from on line. While I understand that this show is all about entertainment, we can't forget who might be watching. All it takes is just one young lady, teen or pre-teen, to see that it is okay to meet a stranger from on line. I just don't see that as a positive message in anyway.

As for the way you carried yourself on the show, I thought you did okay. You come across as a very strong woman, but I suspect, that hard shell of yours is just for show. You can't be engaged 19 times and not learn to develop a tough exterior. I'm also sure you use this tough side of yourself to protect yourself from being hurt.

Mona

I am reserving judgement but you are suspect. However, watch yourself not because of the others but for you own credibility and reputation. It would please me to see you happily married to a rich guy if that is what you want. I think some women have found true love on these millionaire dating sights. Maybe a better story line for you is to contact the millionaire matchmaker and make that a part of your story. My concern is that any rich man watching the show now maybe totally and completely turned off by your tv behavior. And what is up with the way you hugged the ladies last night, it looked like you were trying to rub your breast, are you bisexual? Cause based on what I saw last night I thougt that or you have some way of determing fake breast from real breast. Different strokes for different folks.

Danielle, you did a great job of explaining the reasoning behind what happened. You seem interesting. Can't wait to see what happens next.

Wow. First blog already shows you are too defensive. It's a reality show. Lighten up.

I do believe that editors can make someone portray a certain role. They might only show the mean side or fun side etc. We only see a glimpse of what is filmed. With that said, the cameras cannot make you say something you didn't say. The fact that you are looking for love and open with your daughters is wonderful. BUT, talking about the phone sex is too much. You never even met the man. That is horrible for your daughters, their friends and their friends parents to see. My kids would be humiliated not matter how open I was with them. Somethings need to be kept quiet, it makes you look bad and what guy would want you for a real relationship after that?

I was all ready to pounce on you but I will give you the benefit of the doubt since you explained yourself and the motivation behind what your actions however I'm still wary of you. While your explanations seem rational I get the impression that you are the type who enjoys pushing buttons. You seem the type to get a kick out of creating drama just to see what unfolds, or getting someone riled up just to see how they react and getting under someone's skin just because you can... With that being said I also saw the mob like mentality of Dina and Caroline and that can be very off putting. It seems like you have to 'earn' your way into their clique and if and when you do you have to be timid or content with being in the background. It seems to me both of them would be intimidated with strong women in their group which is why I suspect they don't have any real issues with Teresa or Jaqueline because both of the women are very sweet, stay out of the way kind of women. But this is just the first episode, so we'll have to wait and see what happens.

Danielle, you certainly seem honest. However, you shouldn't think that you need a man to come and save you.

I really felt bad for you when the date didnt show up I thought that was so rude to make you wait like that. What a looser and maybe you could get buddy buddy with the millionare matchmaker lady and she could hook you up . Just a suggestion also dont meet guys off the internet 9 times out of 10 theres something wrong with them . Anyway have faith and hopefully you will find someone look at whats her name from housewives of Orange county she was in your boat too look at her now . ~Ta Ta~

Let your friends fight their own battles. It wasn't your business to ask Dina why someone wasn't invited to her girls night out in the city. Me thinks you just wanted an excuse to talk to Dina.

Hey Danielle. I really like you. I like how you are honest but I would be a little more on the DL about the whole sex stuff. Good luck with everything you do :)

God bless.

Danielle you speak your mind and i like that about you.. you are very open about your life and i think people should respect that rather than knock you for it!! .. You are going to make this show very interesting and i love it!!! xox

You don't need a man to come in and save you. You need to get a job!

Okay, you totally lost me on the $750 that Dina asked you for. Has nothing to do with the epsode last night. These blogs are for you to communicate with the viewers, not to get the last word in an argument w/ a castmate.

I think you are too focused on meeting a "Rich Guy." How about a "Good Man?" Thats the problem with many women, unrealistic expectations. If money means that much to you then don't be surprised when the men with the money you seek are looking for a younger model.

I luv this show and can already tell there are going to be those cat fights that really make a show like this rock...I am a fan of all the housewives watched every episode/every city...The reason they are so mind blowing is because there is so much drama, not that we don't have our own, but to watch it play out on the tv it is just so exciting...........thank you girls...keep up the good work.........Tuesday nights are my favorite!!!

NJ was quite interesting!!!

Oh my gosh! I love everything about this show! I can't wait to see more!

I really like you and want to give you a chance to show yourself. Your kids seem amazing... but, your blog, here, is going to get you in trouble..big time.. Don't bite the hand that feeds you.. It's only the first episode and you are saying/exposing things about the other women that need not be put on TV. If you have an issue with any of the others.. You are best dealing with it in private..unless Bravo is goading you into this. I did like you and your bold way and your attempt to befriend the others and, actually was rooting for you to "infiltrate" the "Family"... That could not be easy for anyone..and, I thought you were MORE than lucky that your friends had your back with the whole "internet date" bizarre meeting... but, this blog is NOT nice!! Why would you start out this way unless Bravo just wants YOU to be the "bad girl"? Why would you put yourself out there to sit and go at it with them over a "night out" or whatever?? Who cares?? You and Theresa should just get over it and do your own thing!! Go out on your own and have a good time!!

You don't want to be judged.Yeah so go on reality t.v..I don't think your children should be hearing about their mother enjoying phone sex.You said they won't know about that.Like their friends are'nt going to hear about the show and tease them.I think you know this but its more important for you to seek attention by making statements about phone sex.Also your kids need a mother not another friend.Oh and please,do you really want sympothy for having such a tough life.I really feel bad because you're in danger of losing your mantion and lavish lifestyle.You may have to come down to middle class,oh what a tragedy.Danielle,you don't know what a hard life is.

I think that you are a fake person. I love it when you say "I have been with a thousand air, million air, now i'm up to a billion air". You want people to feel bad? Anyways love the show!

Danielle,

I just love you ! I like your style of cloths and makeup. I do you stay so skinny ? please email me back, Please sure your secrets! Forget the other women you have a great body. Have fun life is short! Stay real luv ya karaleah@frontiernet.net

Danielle, I think you are beautiful... ( you remind me of me) I was married to a very wealthy man, we seperated.... I know what it is like to be "left out" of the crowd... When I was married I was with the "in" crowd... Now, they treat me like an outsider... it sucks... I love all of the other girls on the show... I think they are amazing women and I know they would give you a chance if only you did not try so hard to fit in.. Just be yourself... You try to hard to be accepted and that scares people... Relax... good things will come to you naturally.... If your friends want to go out on the town without inviting you, let them go...Do not take it so personally... Be the better person and stand back... they will respect you more.... and they will feel bad for hurting your feelings...Prove to them who you are, without causing trouble, but, by being a good person... Eventually, they will see this... Just be yourself... You are amazing!!!

Danielle, you have the victim syndrome written all over this blog. Stop pointing your finger at everyone else as if they are the root of all of your problems. Reading your blog was like reading a high school, wait better yet junior high school girl's diary. Grow up and quit worrying about what everyone else is doing and take care of yourself. You'll be happier in the long run.

Danielle~ I gotta be honest..I've heard the term "Jersey Girls," and being from Arizona, never knew exactly what that meant. Until last night. Holy schmoley! And I have a hunch, I'm gonna REALLY get the gist of the definition as the season progresses. You're a trooper. And going up against the likes of Dina and Caroline, with her (Caroline's) "..we're as thick as thieves" commentary, were it me, I wouldn't know if I should laugh at how ridiculously Soprano-ish she sounded or how ominous. I'm not kidding. I guess I just don't know this type of woman here in my state, and I'm a wife, Mom and a very strong-minded and willed woman. They almost seem cartoonish to me, to be frank. If this show does serve as an outlet for you, then good. But I hope that your words here in this blog do not come back to haunt you at the season ending reunion show. They tend to do that. Take the OC and NYC Housewives reunions this past season as examples. You have a right to defend yourself, however, and I admire your honesty. Good luck to ya!

I know you who I am and that I know you very well .. And the phone call to Gucci Man at the bar was a "Danielle" classic !!! .. Especially the "Hey .. Scumbag" ... Sooo funny ! ... I'm watching you sweetie ;-)

i really like your character, you seem like the type of person that is misunderstood. you seem like a caring loving mom who has the best relationship a parent can ask for with a child. i do believe you will once again fall in love, BUT my only word of advice to you is STOP looking for love it will find you when you least expect it. and also open up your options.

I don't know why, but I really like you. I don't like, Dina. I think she's jealous of you.

Danielle,

You're the only one who makes sense on the show. Thank you for being honest about your situation, I can respect that. They need to re-cast all the others. Why should you have to be involved with the Sopranos. They are incredibly tacky. Do yourself a favor and learn to fly solo.

Overall you've received more positive reviews than negative, and that's a good thing; however, in order to keep it that way, you should be a little more discreet in what you put into your blog--keep it simple, state only the facts, don't be petty, like I've seen the other wives being...I agree with other posts: your comment that you feel a man needs to rescue you and your daughters is ridiculous; I became a single mother when my daughter was under a year old--she's almost 18 now, and I did it all myself--I don't have a house, I don't have a great car, my daughter doesn't have much; however, I have a wonderful, smart, compassionate, hard-working girl that I'm proud of and I needed no man to do that for me. You need to get yourself a job, work hard, downsize, and you'll be proud of yourself. Don't become obsessed with what others think; it's about you being a good mother to your daughters.

Danielle, Any woman who puts her children first and foremost in their life is aces to me. Call you what they want, but they can't say that you are a bad mother. I liked watching you three interact. Even the sisters treated each other respectfully. I know this is a reality show and unfortunately the producers will make you look like however they want to for ratings sake. I know people are knocking you by being defensive in your blog. If they were being portrayed negatively, you better believe they would take the time to explain. You strike me as a loyal friend who is just wanting to be included and have friends that she can count on when times are bad. The only thing I don't like about you is that you have a smokin' body at 46 and I don't at 41! Chin up and good luck for the future with your girls.

Wow! This is different from any blog I have seen after a RH episode. An explanation and good backstory. Danielle's blog will become a must read for me unless Bravo shuts her up like they seemed to do to Gretchen of OC.

Trying not to judge because it isn't fair and I don't know Danielle's whole story. But they are really editing her poorly if you ask me.

Danielle--

Please give us some of your dieting and beauty secrets for getting and keeping a great body like you have. I hope you get a book deal to speak about your fitness and nutrition.

In this day and age, Danielle, I'm surprised you didn't google your Gucci Man up. It would have been quite easy. This is how I confirmed a guy my friend was with for two months was actually a two timing scumbag himself - married twice, had two kids, just bought a house the previous year.

It wouldn't hurt to try and get some background info before meeting people online.

First i must say that you are so BEAUTIFUL and i would love to show you that chivalry is still alive and i would love to heel your heart . Contact me.

You are the most honest of them all. Dina is exactly the woman she wimpered about who were mean to her when she was a single divorcee. I totally believe you about the $750. Figures. Not exactly a shocker from the Bridezilla. Yeah I caught Dina's wedding on WE or Oxygen or something. I told my family to stay the hell away from the Brownstone. Yeah it is clear they are making you out to be the woman to hate. Good luck with all that. Ugh! Teresa is to crude for words. Teresa looks so low class saying the BJ word, not you. Teresa didn't do herself any favors. Best of luck. Caroline=bully Dina=hypocrite Teresa=vapid Jacqueline=overwhelmed Danielle=honest

You look great! Hats off to you for putting your children first. Too many women in this day in age are so selfishly caught up with their own careers!