I want to thank everyone who approaches me with kindness and concern. I wish I could tell each and every one of you what a great comfort you have all been to me. I love all of you for making me feel as though I am not alone and that you are on this journey with me. I have been out and about with my children a lot and the outpouring of love and respect towards my girls and myself has been an incredible help to me. Thank you from the depths of my heart!
I love the comments from fans in public and on the blogs about how wonderful my children are. I'm so glad the world gets to see how great my kids are! They are my world!
Rock climbing on this week's episode was awesome! My girls and I have very busy schedules during the school year. Both of my children are in honors classes and have dance four times a week, and Christine also has soccer and year-round track. We are very busy! Rock climbing is our summer sport at the Rock Gym. I absolutely love all sports with my children and I think they help me to stay fit. My kids are definitely my inspiration for many of my athletic endeavors, plus they are tons of fun to be around. I think in viewing this week's episode I should keep my list of friends limited to my children. I don't mean to sound ungrateful, but it seems they are the only ones I can truly trust. They are my only family.
If I could offer suggestion. BEWARE of editing!! They way it is appears on TV is not nice. I am a single mother and I have been seperated from my husband for 2 years now. My children has not seen a man come to the house or me talk about men. When a man is ready and serious to marry me then slowly i will introduce to my children who are 9yrs, 7yrs, and 1 yrs old. Take it slow and try to spend time w/ yourself and get to know yourself. Love you and just take note to editing.
Unfortunately, Danielle seems to be confusing sex with love. She also needs to get her priorities straight as far as a romantic relationship and find a man that truly cares about her for who she is not because she'll have sex with him anytime ...anywhere. Men don't marry "easy" women. Does she really think she's going to keep a wealthy man around if she's giving away the goods before she's in a committed relationship with him?
Danielle..call Patti on Millionaire Matchmaker for advice NOW!
I have to agree with you. If you are entering my home respect is definitely warranted. You shouldn't have been disrespected in your home! However I don't quite understand why you would go to Jacqueline's home to gripe her and Teresa about your love life if you didn't want their advice! I'm still trying to feel you out as a person. You are complicated to me, but I'll remain open. I don't think you're a horrible person, I think you're just misunderstood. With that being said, Stay positive!
you are a sweet lady who is going through a lot. why don't women support each other. Dina who is a divorcee should be supportive not spiteful. Keep you head up Danielle. Many of us relate to you. Love to you and your girls! Diana
Just a word from experience - don't make it all about you every time you see your friends. It gets old and it feels like here we go again if all you do is talk about your relationship problems. Anybody would get tired of it. Lighten up, and I mean that in a helpful way.
That's for sure about not trusting anyone! None of those women are your friends including Jacqueline and Teresa. I hate women that do that and that whole family of women are all basically the same when it comes to treating people outside the family.They act nice to your face and as soon as you turn your back they stab you and not once of twice but multiple times. What Dina did was unforgettable and then she makes it worse in her blog by another snide remark that you were serving cheap wine. Dina isn't worth anyone's time of day that's for sure. Stay away from all of them. You will just get hurt and yes I'm including Jacqueline.
Danielle, get real. You say that you just wanted to talk to your girlfriends (on the triple date), but you were slinging barbs in Steve's direction at the table. You even told Jacqueline and Teresa that you had planned on breaking up w/Steve at the table. Who does that? People with any class or self respect don't break up w/their boyfriends or girlfriends in front of others. As far as your party...you were making comments too, maybe she shouldn't have said what she said, but you said a lot you shouldn't have as well. Also, while we are on the subject of things people don't do....Why do you want your daughters to know all about your sex life? Really, your daughters don't need that information. I have a sister like you who thought that the best kind of relationship to have w/her children was a completely open one. She was divorced too. Well, all she got for her practice of letting her children know everything, was to be a grandmother 5 times over at the age of 32 her daughter is 16. So, good luck w/your open relationship. Yes, it's great that your children see you as a friend, but they should also see you as a responsible Mom, not the flavor of the week.
what can i say, it is obvious that the family your are trying to push yourself into (?) just ain't "that into you."
Give up and go and try to find some new friends. and quite bein' such a bullshi--er. god, you can even tell it from your blog...
First of all, I just want to say that I am loving the New Jersey Housewives. I want to say upfront that my reasoning for commenting is not to pass judgment; however, I'd like to say that I can't gauge how I feel about you. That may be a good thing, though. I appreciate the fact that you are upfront about yourself, and despite others' criticisms about your openness with your daughters regarding your sexuality, I think that at least for your oldest daughter it could be a good thing if you focus on trying to find healthy relationships and being safe sexually. All in all, it seems that you are an amazing mother. I watched my cousin go through some things after her parents separated, and for your kids to be so well-behaved and well-adjusted after their parents divorce is very commendable.
Having said all that, I still don't know what you're about. I'm not saying this to offend you, but (on camera, at least) a lot of your actions come off as somewhat insincere. With all due respect, I think it would be good for yourself and your daughters if you took the time out to get to know and love Danielle on a deeper level. Free your mind from trying to find love from others, find out what you really want to do in life that will give you a since of independence and fulfillment, and do it. Try to let go of some of the drama and pain (Housewives related and otherwise). See if you can take your ex-husband to court for your due payment (he should be ASHAMED of himself, and karma is a total b*tch), and maybe consider becoming a personal trainer some day. Lord knows you have the body for it!
I love you and your honesty. I think you have shown to be the best mother on the show with the most rounded children. You need to find some real friends these girls on the show are so catty it makes we sick.. Dina is a neurotic mess that is clearly jealous of you. Jacqueline all though sweet I am sorry to say needs to get a backbone. I think it was very cruel when you needed a friend she made it on the show like it was a big inconvenience. Keep your chin up your beautiful and real Mr. Right will come when you least suspect it.
Danielle, You and Jacqueline are actually my favorite out of all and I think you have to know that you CANNOT trust any of the others. I think they do nothing but try to find things that are wrong with you (as if they don't have a past...cast the first stone). I love the fact that you spend so much time with your kids and they seem to be well-behaved, which is a direct reflection of the job you're doing as a mom (keep up the good work). I will say this:Do Not try so hard to find "Mr. Right", let "Mr. Right" find you....trust me, he will! Keep your head up!!
Danielle I think you hit the nail on the head. For some strange reason thats why I think you are considered an outsider. I kinda suspected it, but until you said it I have to agree. I haven't seen the 3rd episode yet, but I'm guessing the truth has come out about that. If these women are all happily married, then it would stand to reason that they shouldn't be afraid or threatended because your single, believe me I've been there done that. How many friends I lost in my divorce because of that very same threat my ex-friends thought I was to their relationships. Thats pathetic, why would anyone want someone else's man, and the same holds true, my ex cheated on me, and I immediately divorced him, so I would never do that to another woman EVER. If you want to find love again you need to cut out the men, and the sexual references you seem so fond of, its not classy and men won't respect you, and now its all out there on national TV. Take care of your daughters and if someone special comes into your life then so be it, but don't waste your time on all these losers who seem to be users.
i think that you get a bad wrap from the other ladies. Dina was incredibly rude with how she acted in your home. She seems to think that she is better than everyone else, it's nausating. You can be abit of a drama queen at times, i would recommend toning that down. Otherwise, keep your chin up and don't surround yourself with such negative people like Dina.
I do think you're a bit crazy, but I certainly don't think the girls picking on you is fair at all. They are starting to gang up on you and it's reflecting poorly on them.
Hang in there.
I just wanted to say I really enjoy watching the show. It has been my favorite of the "housewives" thus far. I do feel that you get a bad rep because you are not in "the family"......I think that you are a woman who has had some ups and downs in life...But who hasn't...and now all you are trying to do is make a life for yourself and your kids. It is hard when you are trying to be friends with women and there may be one or two that make it a little more difficult whatever the circumstances may be. Keep your chin up.....always try to do the right thing.....and most importantly try not to worry about what others think. You only have one life to live...so live it well !
Danielle, I'm confused. You say that the only people you can trust or be friends with are your children, yet you spend half this blog thanking your good friend Jane. I think we've all had a friend like you at one point in our lives. You come on strong and quickly turn from fun to exhausting. Watch these shows, and try to learn something from them. Maybe you can avoid repeating this pattern in the future, and just be a good friend. Nothing more and nothing less.
You are right you are a bit much. However, that's why I love you. Your the mosst honest as far as I can see. And you right Dina is jealous and she is heavy. As far as having anyone around my family it would be you. Theresa has 120,000 dollars in cash. What's up with that.Dina never sees her husband. Jacquline is a pushover. But I do like Caroline. Keep \doing what your doing you will have so many new friends f........ them housewives
Your Friend Susan
I don't believe for a minute that you are sorry for ruining Jacqueline's and Teresa's play day. And I especially think it's extremely low of you to turn it around and make it sound like they don't care about you just because YOU ruined THEIR day. You had already cried and whined about your Steve problem at dinner - not everyone's life revolves around you and your issues. It seems you are too needy and always want to be the center of attention and, when you're not, you say you don't have any true friends. I think it would be too tiring to be your friend. Get over yourself! Or better yet, get some professional help.
I love you Dianna! You are the best housewife on the show... uhhh but you need a husband to really be a GREAT housewife! Good luck! I'll be rooting for you! xoxox
Danielle, take it easy, try not being so sensitive and emotional about every little thing, although i think your dramatic bahavior is what fuels the show and what the public wants to see when we watch. If you kids are everything to you then start showing some more self confidence in yourself and take some steps to improve your self image. and good luck dealing with caroline and dina, you've got your hands full..... just be cool and calm......
You rock, girl!
I love that you spend time with your girls in healthy ways. No offense to Teresa but she's raising a mini-Dina!! ;) Your making memories with your girls that will last them a life time and it's really cool that you have the type of relationship with them that is open.
Dina.. well, she has no class. At all. Given the looks Jacqueline was giving her ... I'm really actually disappointed that she :: or Caroline for that matter :: didn't tell Dina to shut up.
Jacqueline :: as edited :: appears like she has problems standing up for herself or her friends when it comes to Caroline and Dina. Family is family.. and someone was talking about loyalty :: I believe it was Caroline :: so where is Jacqueline's loyalty to you? Poor girl keeps getting steam rolled but people will only do to you what you let them.
Anyway.. you're my favorite and the only reason I watch the show. Hang in there.. !
It's never going to work out with you and Dina, so don't hurt yourself anymore over her. She feels she has the upper hand and she can kick you around if she wants, so just get out of her way and work on being a strong and happy woman. Dina can be pretty toxic. Don't let her poison you!!
Congrats on your childrens's success. That is the best gift a mother can receive. There is no defense for putting Jacqueline in the middle of your drama with Dina. Jacqueline has been a good friend to you, but you are using her. Why did you feel it necessary to go over there and talk about how to break up with your guy. Come on. Your 45 yo. Give me a break. In your defense, Jacqueline does have a mouth and should have told you that she was busy. She needs to start being clear on her boundaries with you as a friend. I hope you do well, but understand that no man or woman is the magic answer to your happiness. You are the only one who can achieve that happiness. Take a look at yourself and decide who you are and take control of your life.
You need a hug and unconditional love. Your children provide you with that, but one day they will grow up and move on with their lives. They will not be there every single day to provide that affection and understanding you need. If you are looking for a uber rich man to take care of you I am afraid you will not find the love you need. You need to love yourself before you can be loved. I was blessed to meet the love of my life at an early age. He is my best friend and husband. He is a good provider and a wonderful father. We are not living in a mansion or driving high end cars, but what we have can never be bought with a black AMEX card. We are content with what we have and put our children first. I would not trade my life with any of the wives on this show because my life is just that...MY life. You need to get one for yourself and stop waiting for an open wallet and instead look for an open heart.
Danielle, all I have to say is you are right about one thing kids can be your best friends sometimes better than your women friends. You women have to much drama for me when do you all have a pieceful day or night in your lives. I guess the show would be really boring without the drama huh! You are a great mom no one can take that from you hold on and be strong.
I love your show.. and belive me it is your show. I come from a big family and it just seems like those other girls all team up on you because they are so clicky.. they act like a bunch of High School Freshmen who try to get back at the Pretty Girl in school, don't even bother with those girls as they are a waste of time.... I mean they act like if your not from there family of brothers marrying sisters and 1st cousins you are not okay in there book. Kepp being yourself and being a wonderful mother and let those caddy girls talk there trash, all they have is gossip because they don't want to deal with there own problems, Dina is a narcicist anbd thats why she always bosses everyone, Teresa is actually the typical girl who is living through her kids because she has so much "construction" money and nothing else going on everu show all she does is shop and she never is even dressed that amazing, Jaqueline is weak and controlled by Dina and the red haired lady who is a great mom except over bearing.. but Italian women have to be tough dealing with meatballs like us guys; Danielle your the Real Housewife of NJ.
Got to raise the BS flag on last night's show -- no way in the world a woman who has broken off 19 engagements needs to check with her girlfriends before she dumps a pudgy, balding bathroom humper. No way. That was so weak, I'd like to say i'll stop watching because of it, but i'm in it until Teresa dumps the table.
Oh Brother. I am sure you are a nice enough person but you seem so shallow. Is there more to you then causing drama and your sex life?
First I want to say Danielle you are gorgeous. I think your husband did a number on you and you need to work through some things. I think you should consider what aspects of your sexual life you choose to broadcast for your kids sake. They are going to get comments from kids at school about your sexual choices. As you date since you are new to this, keep some of that private to protect your girls. Stop focusing on Dina because Teresa is not your friend. She went on TV and broadcasted you are doing blowjobs without any regard to your children or the impact to them once this aired. I am a single mom over 35 too and have been dating a while so I understand but please protect your girls from your buisness because they will be impacted.
Good Luck and stay gorgeous!
Danielle, I don't think that you are such a bad person. You might be a little needy. Don't intrude on other's private times (ie Jacqueline and Teresa). Everyone doesn't want to be bothered all the time. And everyone is not going to like you. You say "love me or hate me". Mean it and stop crying about the other women not liking you. That might be a compliment!!
I agree that the worst thing a woman can do is date a married man. It is bad for everyone and the "mistress" usually gets hurt as well as the wife!! Be careful if you ever plan to continue online dating. I have heard too many stories of married men that go on those sites just to get dates and never tell the women they are married. The women usually figure it out, but, often, too late. Seems like the show set you up to be the "bad girl".. Don't give them ammunition to continue that. Be nice/truthful to your friends and don't come on so strong. Now that you have this TV exposure, you will find men. You don't need to push yourself out there to every man within reach.. especially the very young ones who are just being "men" and will always be on the prowl for sex..period.. especially the young ones. You have 2 girls who revere you. Be a good role model for them and take your time finding a good man. He will come along.
I started feeling bad about the way you are being treated in last night's episode. Caroline and Dina seem to be paranoid about you and your alleged "past." It's really none of their business. There must be other women living in Franklin Lakes with whom you can be friends besides Jacqueline, Dina, and Caroline. And if there isn't, there is so much to do in life than to settle for so called friends who don't have your interests at heart. Since you are in financial trouble, why don't you take the resources you do have at present and enroll in school so that you can learn a profession and be self-sufficient and not have to depend on a man for money? This is the best advice I can give you. You can sell some of the beautiful art objects in your house and use the money to become a strong, self-supporting woman. You can still live a good life without all the luxuries you now have. Think about the message you are sending to your daughters about depending on a man for survival. They deserve better than this. Just some thoughts - hope you don't mind and good luck.
Danielle, Do Not try to befriend people who are not interested in you. If I were you, I'd blow off Dina for the time being. This girl is certainly not interested in you. You must gain some self esteem and realize that if someone isn't interested in you, so be it. Move on and be kind to yourself. Right now, it's true that you're trying to find a partner, etc., but you aren't as desperate as you're acting. This 26 year old, isn't that great. if you're Okay with a large age difference, you'd be better off with an older man, than a kid who only wants sex. Also, you are up against the high school group mentality. Realize that they'll probably never let you in, so move on. You seem very nice, deep down, so you don't have to be so needy. Good luck and I hope things work out.
Dear Danielle, I can't believe how nice you are to Theresa and Dina and they continue to bad mouth you. Shame on them! Theresa had no business saying that the idiot Steve just comes over for a BJ from you on public television. How crude can that woman get? And Dina, who plays the prude is equally as crude and stupid. That idiot Steve needs to keep his mouth shut about his sex life. He needs to be a real man. By the way, he looks like his 40 not 26. You look younger than him. My mom, taught me that you do not tell your right hand what your left hand is doing and vice versa. You should not tell those women your most intimate details about your personal life these women do not have your back!
Danielle, Grow up. The world does not revolve around you. You just seem so caught up on your world and over dramatize things. I mean come on, dating a 26 year old? Grow up! You just do not seem sincere but more like a user. Seems like your friendships are empty, surfacey..and you can't be trusted. And can't you take care of yourself? You need a rich man? Come on...you are trying to be cool...but look ridiculous! You seem to have a sordid past and are trying to be some 'classy' woman. But a classy woman does not ask a man to have sex in the bathroom. You are not 21 anymore...time to grow up and be a mom!
Danielle, Saw the dance sequence and the ugly comments -- Jealous!! What is up with these women? So what if you gave the instructor the eye. He was handsome and you're divorced. So now the rumor is you're after one of Caroline's boys??!! Please let her know you only deal with men. That should shut her up.
You're right your daughters are the only females you can trust at this point but they are children. You have got to break out of the mold and find a true adult friend somewhere in your area. You may like Jackie but she lacks cajones (What's that word in Italian?). A true friend wouldn't discuss you with another, (Teresa).
You and I are the same age and I can tell you I only have one true female friend. The rest are acquaintances. I have long since stopped looking for acceptance from other women. There's always some bs involved. I, too, have found myself envious of other women. But envious, not jealous. The distinction being I like what they may have, job, style, money, etc. and want it only with a different turn. I don't want the same exact thing. Nor do I hate on them for what I admire about them.
BBFF (Best Blog Friends Forever), Kim. :)
Danielle I don't know why you are dating a "26-year old" guy who clearly looks 40! I believe Teresa when she says that he only wants you for sex. You are very attractive and can do a lot better. You can find someone very successful and closer to your age....easy!!! Please try to earn money on your own instead of depending on some man to rescue you. You have a lot to offer any man, and seem very intelligent. And about Dina, you are right....she was very rude to you in your own home. She was acting like a mean high school girl instead of a 40-something year old woman. She came across as catty. Could it be jealousy???
Wow, I'm still waiting to see what all the fuss is about. You seem ok to me. Like the other viewers said a little needy but who is'nt. The other women seem to have issues, only you may not have that family support system that they brag on all the time. Hold your head up. You seem ok. Viewers all seem to be in agreement. You will get through this just dont focus on the small things keep you eyes on your girls. We still watch 5 women that get along Brovo. There are other ways to create good tv. GEES!!
You are great on the show, just tried to be mindful and considerate that Jacqueline in related to the family that despise you. Try to keep her out of the drama, she definitly have her hands full with a 17 yr old.
Danielle~ It's sad to see that your daughters are more mature than you. Stop talking about your sex life, if you want to break-up with someone than do it, and for goodness sake, QUIT THE DRAMA!! You seek out compliments from others to build yourself up and that's annoying. Stop it.
Danielle, At the beginning I really did like you. I like how open you are & funny. But the "me, me, me..." stories are getting old. To be friend is to be a good listener. No drama, no "woe is me". No one likes anyone that sucks the life out of the party.
Honestly where did you think the "relationship" was going to go with a 26 yr old? And stop with the comments about needing someone to take of you. Take care of yourself! If you had a job you wouldn't need a man. You are gorgeous & funny, you don't need anyone. You can do this. You sound desperate. Stop looking for a quick fix. When you do and you focus on your girl's & yourself a good man will come along.
Also, no one likes someone who constantly is giving out fake compliments. They sound insincere when you say "hi gorgeous" "look at those legs", blah, blah...
Your daughters are so incredibly well-mannered and sweet. You have raised them incredibly well. Though I do not agree with you in having them meet the men you go out with. Best of luck!
I kind of feel sorry for you, very needy. If Caroline and Dina don't trust your motives then so be it. Why try so hard ? You seem very shallow.
I wish I could figure out why you think you are so beautiful! You look like everything on your face is plastic. Look in the mirror honey and come down a notch or two,three, four.....
This has got to be the worst of the "Real Housewives" series. Everyone of these women are totally clueless and classless. Bravo scraped the bottom of the barrel for this group. I sincerely hope this is the first and last season of RHONJ.
I truely believe that your intentions are good, most of the time! You seem to be exceptionally involved with your children, and for the most part, an outstanding mother. I commiserate with you in the sense that I understand, as do most others, that it is truly challenging to be around people who outwardly (and in some cases rudely) express their dislike for you.
I would not waste your thoughts, tears or insecurities on Dina. Her dedication to project Ladybug is admirable. However, her treatment of others (thus portrayed) and outright hostility to you is both pathetic, selfish and immature. Not to mention classless.
As for Jaqueline and Theresa, I don't think either of them truely had bad intentions. Jaqueline seems to genuinely care about you and is caught in a difficult situation with her family. Sometime the drama of your life is probably just a little too much for others to handle. I don't mean that at a criticism to you. Friends and family are not always the best outlet for emotional ailments, I know from experience. It isn't usually a lack of caring, most frequently just a lack of understanding. Perhaps consider seeking someone on a professional level to talk with. It may seem weird at first but it will free up your conversations with your girlfriends to be more fun...and less drama-filled.
Finally, don't give up on people! Remember that your show is edited...everyone says things they regret....give Jaqueline the benefit of the doubt. She seems to be a good person. Good Luck!
Danielle, I feel for you. You seem like a truely nice person and a great mom who has raised great children. I hope you do find some great girlfriends who love you for who you are and won't gossip about you behind your back. I thought Dina was very rude and disrespectful towards you when you invited her into your home for a night of fun. She is obviously feeling bad about herself and needs to tear you down to make herself feel better. Stop trying to be friends with this women, clearing she is not worth it. Maybe thats why her hubby is never around or on the show. I think Teresa and Jaqueline are afraid to disagree with Dina over you. It's pretty sad when someone lets their family pick their friends and are afraid to stand up to them. Keep your head up girl!
Danielle I TOTALLY agree with Jilly don't make it about yourself ALL the time and I speak from experience trust me. My husband and I were planning a divorce and I started dating a few men. ALL of the jerkoff's I found on the internet were either married (of course did not tell me) or just down right IDIOTS !! When I would see my "friends" it was all about me and which guy I was seeing at that moment. Little did I know that I was in the process of creating a horrible time in my life. Thankfully my husband and I worked out our differences and we are now together again and I could not even THINK about going back to that way of life again. I have always been told "Stop looking for a guy live your life and then someday "he" will be there when you least expect it" !!!