If you think you're going to lose your house...instead of begging your ex husband for money, why don't you get a job and support yourself...???????????

Good post.

Yeah! You should quit waiting for a man to support you!! If you're that hard up, sale your lavish home and get a job!!

Hang in there Danielle things will get better for you. They always do.

I so hate the way you are being treated. Women are so freakin catty. Much love to you and please keep your head up!

Namaste'

Danielle , in your bio you mention keeping your children involved in your parish. How can you set a good loving christian example when you are on TV asking a man to go to the public bathroom to have sex? However, all we see as viewers is what is aired. I think you are a decent lady, and I do feel you deserve a great man in your life. Why does having alot of income mean so much to you? You are better than that. I believe you could support yourself and have a great sense of value in that alone. Money is nice, but, it also can be a downfall. I feel you have a great spirit about you, and I wish you all the best in your life, and also for your daughters. Fitting in with yourself and feeling comfortabl in your own skin I feel is one of the ingredients to being healthy minded. Take care of you, and know you can do anything.

yes, i agree! forget styling & profiling, get a JOB!!

Danielle, you seem the most sincere out of all of you. Where were the other girls for CJ's party, helping to setup and deal w/ashley.. You Go Girl... You look great, treat people w/respect and know what you want. Also,Kudos to you for spending the quality time w/ your kids EVERYDAY. It seems Some of the others dont even give a crap! xoxoxo

You mentioned last week that you are being portrayed badly. However, this week, you asked your date to f*ck you in the bathroom at a nice restaurant. REEEEEALLY CLASSY. What's your explanation for that one?

Also, maybe if you stopped acting like a desperate woman begging for a hand-out, you could actually find a quality man who would treat you right. Getting a job, like every other self respecting woman in America, would definitely help.

Hi Danielle You are just going about the wrong way with Dina. And besides everbody is not going to like you so just go on and be nice about it.

SWEETIE IM GONNA GIVE YOU A PIECE OF ADVICE I WAS BORN AND RAISED IN JERSEY, AND ONE THING YOU DO NOT WANT IS A JERSEY BITCH ON HER BAD SIDE... IF DINA DOESN'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU FORGET IT... JUST PLAIN IN SIMPLE AVOID EACH OTHER!!!! AND ANOTHER PIECE STOP CHASING YOUR EX, GET A JOB!!! AND SUPPORT YOUR GIRLS!!!!

Danielle, I don't really love you or hate you, but I "get" you. I'm afraid though that being so candid and honest on reality tv doesn't really put you in the best light. People in general are very judgmental and quick to jump to conclusions. I feel for you in your divorce issues with your ex. Unfortunately, I went through the same thing with my ex. He was a habitually cheater, I got tired of it, filed for divorce and he got really bitter about it. I would like to say we eventually worked things out for the sake of our son, but that didn't happen. I can not tell you how many times I had to take him back to court for the silliest things just because of his need to control and get back at me. It does impact kids in a negative way and I feel for you. I wish you the best.

Keep your head up those bitches are jealous you are my fav housewives on the show , but I will always love my REAL HOUSEWIVES OF ATLANTA... I am a African American Male whom grew up with a Mom when my father did nonthing for us but keep your head up and I know you will find somebody to make you happy your # 1 Fan- Terreance

Hey,

I liked you a lot more this episode. I think we all have our issues and many of the things you do i don't agree with. you seem like a great friend though and I think Dina is being the immature and selfish one.

It really shows how much you love your daughters.

Danielle, I see what a vulnerable position you are in at this time in your life. This must be really difficult, going through a difficult divorce, not having financial security and having to be dependent on an ex husband who is being a problem. You have two very beautiful girls and your focus should be on your girls. Not trying to make friends with women who are out to put you down. I hope you can see how you are being presented and it is not a compliment to you. Realize that you can turn it around. Also remember that this is on film that your daughters will have forever. Hey as a single mom I made many mistakes...I am thankful that they were not televised. I think I would have just died if I saw my behavior. I was human. So are you. Reality TV is fun but I think it can destroy people. Be strong, be beautiful, be classy and be the best you can be.

I thought Dina’s comment about you not getting a ticket was incredibly rude! Hun, I would advise you to keep some things to yourself...I too was like you and I have learned the hard way that people will use the information you gave them and turn it around on you! Best lesson I ever learned. You have the upper hand when people know less. It’s tough to get used to but it’ll come. Do whatever makes you happy but please just think about taking my advice! Anyways, I’m enjoying watching the show so far! You seem real but a tad emotional (that’s not a dig, I am too). Don’t let the emotions control you! It’s obvious that if you consider someone your friend, you’re there for them 100%! I think that’s a great quality but don’t let yourself get involved in their drama as much as you want to! The most important person to look out for is yourself (and of course your kids)…in a perfect world we should look out for everyone but experience teaches you that 90% of the people you meet or are “friends” with will turn their back, are fake, or only care for themselves. Keep the good friends, ditch the bad and move on! I think most of your intentions are good but in the end the person you hurt is yourself!

-Kandy

I just wish you the best of luck and hope you find a good man. I think you could do better then with the guy you went out with. Hope things get better.

Hey, take it easy on Danielle. She is a great woman with a good heart and a personality to match that hot bod. If I thought she'd go for a tall good-looking, world-travelling millionaire around her own age I'd ask her out. Too bad I don't meet her dating profile. I am off to Rome to drown my sorrows. Be nice to her while I am gone guys.

Danielle,

You fell on your sword apologizing to Dina when you were obviously terrified to do so. It was the honorable and courageous thing to do. That is something Dina doesn't understand. Dina has no honor she parks in handicap spots flaunting it on national television for goodness sake. It was cruel of them especially Jacqueline not to invite you to girls night out when you clearly so desperately wanted to go. Jacqueline is not a true friend for she did not care about your feelings about being left out and stood by whilst others openly rejected and took pleasure in hurting you. You are vulnerable, lonely, feel powerless and these women who have been in your shoes are taking pleasure in adding to your pain by not being sympathetic as they should be. They all wear the cross of Christianity, but they don't actually believe and behave as true Christian women would.

Honey you are ust too much and I love it! You have to just live your life and screw what everyone else thinks!

I think you are great. Dina and some others are very judgmental. If I lived in NJ I'd want to date you myself. :)

Danielle,

Don't worry about the other women trying to get everyone to hate you, it's not working!

You seem like a woman that is trying to protect your friendship while others are trying to take it away. I don't know why women love to attack the single gal but it's getting really old. I don't enjoy watching women trying to make a person feel left out, especially when they gang up against you.

You apologised to Dina, it was obvious that you tried even if she didn't. She doesn't seem like a very open or welcoming kind of person. Who needs that negativity in their lives?

I see Bethenny and Tamra have trashed you in their blogs, don't worry! They trash all the single women in the series. They appear very threatened by the single women and love to spread their hatred. They're very transparent so take it as a compliment, their green is showing!

The expression is "Better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all."

I think you are a genuinely nice person with a big heart when all is said and done. I also think its wrong your ex won't pay the settlement. Can you get a lawyer and take him back to court for not paying? He's going against the judge's orders, right? I have some questions for you and some issues. The first is your financial situation. You can't blame your husband for where your at now. You married him,you did nothing to prepare in case something like this happened, and it doesn't seem like your working to fix it. You seem like you want some prince charming to come along and pick up your mess. Even if you start seeing a wealthy man you have no right to ask him or guilt him into picking up the pieces. Its not his responsibility and its very unfair to bring someone in your life when its so screwed up. Just because he has money doesn't mean entitled to it. I believe if you have daughters you need to go out of your way to set a good example for them. They should be able to look at you and see nothing but a classy, strong, and respectable person. We all know nothing lasts forever so why wouldn't you have a back up plan. Even at this point why not get a job or stop living in such an extravagant house with such an expensive lifestyle all you are is digging a bigger hole to get out of. The perfect man may never come along then what will you do? You and your daugthers might end up homeless eating at a soup kitchen if you don't start fixing the bad decisions you've made. The other thing I don't get is why try so hard to be friends with someone that doesn't want to be your friend? Especially when you showed up and you weren't invited. It makes you look desperate and i hate to say it but pathetic. On the show you look like the loser girl that would do anything to fit in with the popular kids. Its embarressing to watch. You try way to hard and you come off way to strong. It seems like you have a lot of emotional and psychological issues. You are way to dependent and needy when it comes to having friends and a man. I feel bad being so blunt but I don't understand there is something about you that seems off. I don't want to hurt your feelings but I also think you need to realize what people see when they watch the show and even what the actual people around you see and why they don't want to have a relationship with you.

DANIELLE ,DON'T LET WHAT HAPPEN WITH YOU AND YOUR EX CHANGE THINGS! TAKE CONTROL AND LET HIM NOW YOU ARE THE BOSS!!GET A JOB AND HANDLE THE PROBLEM!!!!!

I'm not just sympathetic, I'm empathetic to your situation. We're grown, let's admit that as women, we can be fearful of the bully if we aren't in the "crowd," and that sometimes being super-nice to someone is basically a defense mechanism. Dina and Caroline are tough broads. Not tough as in "she can take Danielle," but tough in the guarded, cold, I-know-I'm-holding-the-cards-you-want-and-I-love-watching-you-squirm kind of way. Danielle? You're unleashed, happy, have beautiful kids... its a shame reality TV makes adults behave like adolescents. I'm on your side, sistah.

Hold on a minute... Danielle is entitled to support, Child and Spousal support. If there is an order saying her ex owes her money..he needs to pay up... If she's seeking a "Settlement" I think she is referring to pension money, savings, inheritence's..... Don't worry Danielle, you'll get yours! Danielle, don't let the haters get to you! I love your personality... :)

I think you are absolutely fabulous!

DANIELLE , YOU ARE THE QUEEN OF DRAMA!! PUT SOME OF THAT DRAMA INTO A JOB!!! KEEP PUSHING IT FORWARD AND NEVER LOOK BACK!!

If someone dosent like you just move on, who cares what Dina or her sister think, I am sure they have skeletons in their closets as well! Your ex I hope we'll pay what he owes but until than, why not get a job? You are still young and attractive, you can work. The young guy you are seeing looks creepy, I hope he was a nice guy! Tone it down a few notches and maybe you'll receive less heat, or maybe not?

I really do feel you are misunderstood. Your intentions seem to be good but your actions perhaps come across as overly aggressive sometimes.

Your daughters are beautiful!

Danielle, you're going to be exposed, so do it yourself. Whether you do it or someone else does it, it's going to happen. So make your life an open book and try not to care what others think. It's worked for so many others, including our president, and no one had the power of exposing dirty little secrets because it had already been done. You'll have all the power holding all the cards. If anyone says something that's UNTRUE, well, find their weaknesses, and come up with some witty one-liners that will cut them to the bone. They'll stop, believe me!

Danielle, why do you have to "beg" your ex-husband for the money he owes you from your divorce settlement?? You should have a good lawyer - and there are plenty in Bergen Co. - going to bat for you. Get what is rightfully yours (and your girls') so you can move on.

Danielle, I don't get why you want someone to save you and your girls! Get a job and save your family YOURSELF! Don't teach your daughters that they have to rely on a man to support them!

Danielle, you should question your motivations. Especially with Dina. Why exactly do you want to be her friend? Make your own friends and then see what happens?

Danielle:

You are a mature woman, so why do you feel it necessary to bring up trash (true or not) of someone elses life??

Being divorced sucks....we get that!!....I get that !!!, but, it doesn't give you the green light to upset people and push other's buttons.

If you find it okay or joyful to push other people's buttons "just because", then you really do need to sit back and take a good long look at yourself.

You know the old saying "what goes around, comes around" isn't just a few words thrown together. There is WISDOM that should be listened to in those words.

Stop the drama, and take care of your children. Would you want people to talk smack about you or your children "just because"????? No, I don't think so. So don't set your family up for the same fate.

I am rooting for you and I hope that you will make it through. These people fail to realize you're paid for being on the show. Do like the NYC wives and write a book about your experiences. I think you're the most interesting wife but I feel so sad for you at time. You deserve compassion but you must give it also. File down the claws and use a softer touch. Its easy to draw people into your life but to keep them, you must show gentle care. I learned the hard way.

i agree with the comment jan made

Danielle. I think you are a beautiful and very nice woman and mother. It makes me feel bad for you, seeing how misunderstood you seem to be to the other women. Just hang in there and in time your good intentions will shine through. You have your beautiful daughters to spend time with, and I'm sure that in no time at all, you will find love with a man who truly cares of you. I felt so bad when you were stood up at Lua, but it was cool that your friends were there to cheer you up. You know, when you stop looking for love, it will certainly find you. So buck up and keep smiling and I'm sure things, both financial and emotional, will turn in your favor before you know it. And, don't take any of these negative comments to heart and make you sad. You know who you are and you will rise from the ashes! Mark my word!

You seem quite desperate for people to like you--Dina, the "dates", etc. Why do you care so much for Dina's approval? Surely there are other people in your area that you can be friends with.

despite what the show is making you look like, i think inside you really are a good person. take it down a notch as someone else said, and just be yourself. good luck with everything!

Regarding the ex: Call your lawyer.

You're doing the best you can and that's all you can do. Hang in there! :)

I am an Italian 40 year old mom of an 18 year old daughter, and I keep myself in good shape, but, I need to know: How do you keep your body so hot! Give me some of your tips! Again, I am not putting myself down, I have a great personality, pretty, and in good shape, but, what is your regimen? What kind of work out do you do! Nothing against the other housewives, as, I love you all, but, I believe they are jealous of your appearance, and rightfully so! Angel

Danielle, Have you ever thought that perhaps Dina and Theresa are the insecure ones? You would think they would have other concerns rather than to trash you. Your daughters seem like children (as they should) and not little women, so you can't be all that bad.

Even with all the trappings of money and good fortune these women are still lacking. Stay away and find some good friends. Jacqueline is a hanger on. She loves the money and is tolerating being bullied and belittled by her sister-in-laws for this reason. You are better off with out a friend like Dina.

Danielle, I understand where you are coming from. I agree people shouldn't another person, and any issues should between both parties and not the entire audience. As a single mom I learned not to share everything with my girls, and as far as dates or dating an individual ,I never brought them home. I wish you all the best!

Of all the girls on the show, (including Teresa's), yours are the most beautiful, thoughtful, and poised. It's clear they adore you.

Here is the thing...I am pretty aware that the ladies of this show receive a salary for appearing. Because of that fact, I know this is why Danielle is on this show. She has made no bones about her financial situation. So here is the thing when people on the comments tell Danielle to not associate with these women, I suspect the contract she signed to do the show says otherwise.

Like Kelly on RHNYC, Danielle doesn't hang with this group and they probably only met her a short time prior to the filming. Obviously something happened with Dina and Danielle and now Bravo has the drama it craves that drives up ratings.

This is why I like the original RHOC. Those ladies were all friends well before the show aired and most lived in the gated community of Coto de Caza...exception Laurie who at least used to live there and was friends with the group.

I was a single mom of one ,for yrs. she is grown now. I had to get my hands dirty just like every single mom, your no better than the rest of us to work. My cousin, bless her heart, once had the a huge house, swimming pool and all the works. Shopped till she dropped and a husband who was screwing her over the whole time. She had four kids. Yes I said four. He left,left with the all the bills (unpaid bills). She lost everything the house, the vehicles everything. She got up and off her ass went to work, went back to school, opened her own shop and raised those four beautiful kids into great responsible adults. They of course had hard times but, she did not stress the kids. So see it can be done.

I know you, but not personally. Let me explain. I have lived an extremely full life. I was in the military for an extended period of time. I ran into a variety of people. I am an open book, too open, but nonetheless open. I am not shy and have no problems speaking to people and voicing my opinion in general. I have befirended people like you who seem to easily and happily become a part of my life. We develop a close firendship very quickly. I have ran into a few who are too good to be true and that is you. You are actually a big hot heaping mess of a woman. You have a lot of deep seeded issues, emotionally. You think you are a gift to all men and deserve a rich one to take care of you and your kids. A real women is responsible for taking care of herself at all times. Relying soley on a man for anything shows that you are not a strong woman. Get it together and get a job and a psychiatrist. I am sure your ex would pay for it. You know you lie, appear to be something you are not, and are a "loose" woman. You can repent, but nobody can reverse the miles that you are putting on your body. Be a good example of a strong independent woman and raise those kids with a good role model. Rich men do not want someone your age. You need a reality check from Patty Stanger.

I completely agree 100% with Jessica and her comment about this type of personalities. She hits it right on the nose. I picked up this red flag immediatley with a comment like "either you love me or you hate me" Why so extreme? A mature, secure and mentally competent person knows there aren't ONLY two options and so on. (IMO)It is an attempt to control another person and every situation they are in, and if it doesn't go their way, they lose it, and bam! There you go. It is extremely negative and no holds bar destructive behavior. Please go see a therapist it might not be to late. Danielle you are a sad mess to watch. (IMO)The other women on the show all seem positive and fun. Danielle is a complete opposite, hence spicing up the show, and the producers/casting know exactly what they are doing, that in it self makes me laugh. It is fun to read the blogs and other peoples opinions, some of them are really funny. Best to all!