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Danielle Staub

Past Imperfect

Danielle addresses the controversy surrounding her past.

Jun 2, 2009

Hi, everyone!

Here we are at episode four! I want to thank all of those who have given me their unconditional love and understanding, and who relate to my position as a single women, mother, ex-wife, and friend. I can’t tell you how important it is for me to hear your positive comments, and your recognition of how wonderful my children are. Thank you for not judging me for being myself. In this letter I will do my best to clear up a few important issues, and some rumors about me. However, I will not tell my whole story here, but I will on a different platform very soon. Number one - over two and a half decades ago I was arrested. I was just a child, with no guidance or parents to speak of, in an industry that was very fast paced. I got in with the wrong crowd, and was not completely aware of the serious nature of my surroundings. I did not kidnap anyone. I am not a prostitute. I was merely at the wrong place with the wrong people at the wrong time. I apologize for being vague, but this is all I can reveal at this time.

I would also like to address to dancing portion of the show. I love to dance - it is my form of artistry. I have taken dance since I was a small child, and taken jazz through my adult years. A dance floor to me is what a canvas is to a painter. It is where I feel most free to express myself without words. I apologize if I misinterpreted the meaning of our dance that evening, and furthermore if I offended anyone. I was just having fun like everyone else, but perhaps I was taking it too seriously, because I have always wanted to learn Latin dancing. I would like to personally say I am sorry to Albie in particular - if you felt I was a bit to much, I promise that was not my intent.

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Danielle, you're beautiful and posses a great energy about you. Tough if people took you too serious over the dance piece.

These other women are not you're friends. They wanna pick apart everything you do or have.

Hey girl!

You know what? Every single one of us has done some things in life we are not proud of! (and for those of you who say you havent, seek help NOW.)rumors are evil, mean, and can in some cases ruin your life. but you are human just like the rest of us. keep on living your life for you and your babies. let people talk crap about you, cause that just means your worth talking about and they obviously have nothing better to do than talk about you. I am rooting for you girl! stay strong and pray.

It is so obvious that you were in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong man. And how dare anyone spread this information in the town where your children go to school. You deserve a fresh start and to be judged for your actions now, not in the past. Good luck.

Danielle, I respect your response. I feel like Dina and Caroline are very indirectly aggressive with you. I think if you were to completely clear the air with them and, perhaps, with the public about the details of your arrest, you would help your image a lot--even if you made some serious mistakes. Also, were you just arrested or convicted? There's a big difference between just an arrest and a conviction.

Caroline brought the book ,not Dina.

Danielle, I love you the most out of all the housewives. And i think people forget that they were divorced with their kids to take care of and used to be judged by people as well. I don't think its fair how people judge you instantly. I do believe that Dina started some of the rumors, and I think its childish. I wish you the best, Be careful who you call friends, because people have two tongues. And they are not grateful for having a friend like you, they take you for granted and thats messed up. You will get your prince charming hun, and God willing he will be a load richer than all of them put together. You'll see then that all of them want to be around you. WHenever one of them talks about you, just tell them God bless you, and you go on your way. You deserve better. You dont deserve to be stepped on like that.

I think that you come off clingy with a strong desire to be liked. I hope you find inner peace. Only then will the opinions of others no longer matter!

Thank you so much for telling Theresa's husband he was inappropriate. His constant comments throughout the entire dance footage were extremely insensitive. It takes serious bravery to stand up to someone like that. You in no way disrepected Theresa. She should not be proud of her husband for being intolerant of others. It only shows his personal insecurities to pick on others. Your friend Tommy is lucky to have you and you are lucky to have him.

Even if you did every single thing that was printed in the book, nobody has the right to judge. They talked about jesus christ and he died for all our sins. Stay Solid

Danielle, I'm not your biggest fan - but my heart goes out to your children. One of the worst things for a child to endure is to hear their parent getting slandered, ESPECIALLY by strangers; I hope the other ladies keep this in mind.

danielle, i appreciate the way you stand up to the plate and own your stuff. it seems most of the other nj wives hide behind masks and are not showing who they really are. perhaps they do not have anything really much to say or for that matter going on in their lives. each episode seems to be mostly about you. we all have things we are not proud of in our past, that is how we grow and learn. keep up the good work !!!

You are very abrasive.. Life is too short to harp on the little things, that you do. If you honestly don't care what the other housewives are saying about you quit talking about it so much, makes you look desperate.

i don't think dina is the one after you. it seems like caroline.

You are a talented go-getter. Don't let the jealous witches get you down.

Go Team Danielle!

Personally, I agree that Theresa's husband's comment was completely inappropriate. I think Danielle handled it pretty well. But the husband had too much ego to admit any bad judgment. After how Theresa and her husband responded, I feel a lot more for Danielle than I did before. I think Danielle's behavior while dancing was perfectly logical and I don't think she did anything inappropriate. She is a serious dancer and really appreciated the opportunity to learn.

The most important lesson is to realize who true friends are and to understand that only truly small people work to victimize others as is being done to Danielle. Let them continue on with their selfish trajectories in life. I would have liked to think that women of such presumed class would have something better to do than to plot the undoing of an acquaintance. I hope they dedicate as much time and effort in more charitable works.

Stay strong! It's the future that counts. Those women, accept for Jacqueline, are not your friends and stop trying to be friends with them. They judge everything you do because they don't like you! That won't change so stop trying!

p.s. Teresa's not your friend! She brought the book to the family and said you were garbage. Ex her out and make better, less fake friendships.

I totally get the dancing thing, finally it was something you could do well that the others couldn't do at all. But instead of seeing that and praising you, they used it against you. Stay true to you, ok? Please don't think those people are in any way real people. Who knows how they got their money but it doesn't give them class. Thank God for Jaqueline, the only real, honest, sincere member of that family. Don't give up on her, she may be getting pressure but I bet the real her wins.

first i love this show because is so much drama on it. Danielle i think u re a honest person and its true everyone make mistakes in their lifes and not one should judge. because everybody have a past these women are so mean and hurtfull.

i know it was hard for you to talk about what happened to you 24 YEARS AGO HEAR THAT DINA THERESA AND CAROLINE 24 YEARS AGOOOOOOOOOO but you did u didnt shy away when asked about it and im sorry that the girls are so nasty to you i guess we all cant be perfect like them. i think you should tell them the mafia look went out of style 20 yrs ago then get on phone with IRS and FBI

Danielle, true friends will not judge you based on an incident that happened more than twenty years ago. You are a great mum and your daughters will love and respect you for who you are to them.

Stay strong.

Stop apologizing for being you. these people think they rule the world. you don't need them, keep to yourself and your kids that's it. They don't like people who stand up to them i can see that and it's only the 4th episode. Stay strong.

I watch the show just because of you.....before i didn't like you for being so liberal sexually and exposing your girls to that a bit too much but who am i to judge...you gotta do what you gotta do...my heart aches to see how much you are misunderstood all around and happy to see that at least you have your daughters that stand by you...i do see thru your heart thus far and i think you are a good soul just a bit misunderstood....just pray for guidance and I promise it will come

I feel for Danielle. Who are those women who are throwing stones at her when they should look at their own back yard. Whatever Danielle did or didn't do is nobody's business but her own. By the look of things one have to question the background of each and everyone in the show. example would be who really gives out cash money like that when purchasing items such as furniture "Hmmmmm IRS are you watching"?

I thought everyone kinda overreacted about the dancing thing, especially given Danielle's background in dance. As far as the book, it's hard to judge because I haven't read the book and Danielle didn't really address it. I did though, think how the girls acted on the couch while talking about it was really mean, especially if it's not true.

It really freaks me out the way you say your kids are your best friends. And y'all are the "Three Musketeers". Thats just weird. Thats a lot of pressure, later guilt, for those girls. I think you must be really lonely and desperate. Since you happen to be in la-la land, I'll spell it out...you are your kids' parent, not their friend. Now ACT like a mother. The Real wives are about fully fed up with you as am I.

After seeing this last episode.. I think these girls aren't being fair to you, Danielle. You're qwarky and easy to not like from the outside, but we've all be in the wrong place at the wrong time.

I don't think you're kidnapping anyone's baby, Ladies.

Kudos to you for sticking up for all our gay boyfriends out there.

Hey listen Danielle, I'm from Queens, girls from NY & NJ are bitter, harsh & hurtful, dont know how to let it go. Are you kidding? I'm on a "social network" & reconnected w/people from 30 yrs. ago....& see comments about people that I cannot believe they still carry with them. That's just NY for you.

I laugh! I don't necessarily like you... that 26 year old looked like he was 56. Pa--leeeeeze. Oh & why don't you get a job???? I'll keep watching for the cheap trash entertainment!!

Dear Danielle,

TV editing can be evil. But from what I've seen, there is no question that I've gained a lot of respect for you watching this past episode. You are a true progressive and I congratulate you on your views and balls!

The other woman need to get out of their material world, there's more to discover than the Paramus Mall.

I wish the other woman could show more respect for others and stop acting like high school girls and grew go. Learn something from the "Real Housewives of NYC"!!! At least they have CLASS!

Please believe that in the end you'll come out on top when it's a wrap. Tommy was right, know who you are. And know there are many other like myself that appreciate you!!!

I think I'll stop watching after "Black & White and Read All Over"! I've turned the last page on this rag.

Mario B

Danielle, its not what they call you, its what you answer to. Always remember that and you will be alright. It's easy for them to judge you when they are living off their husbands money.

Why do you always think it's Dina that , going around saying things about you . And if you really think that's true why , would you keep telling Jacqueline it. you know that's her famiy . if you really care about her like you say you do , you would keep that stuff to yourself .really.

Danielle or Beverly,what is your real name? I won't judge cause we all have a past.But come on girl get real and just tell the truth.Don't blame Dina for everything.Start with Kevin Maher he is the one who wrote the book,right? I can say this for you.Your kids seems like great kids and that is something to be really proud of.

You are the realest housewife of all of the franchise. I admire your courage for being so open with your life. And, your comment about "You either love me or you hate me, there is no in between" is silly, because a lot of people will grow to love you. You are not a bitch and you do not have a polarizing personality. You are a warm-hearted, vulnerable, emotional, HONEST, truthful woman who raised two wonderful children. That does not happen by accident.

Danielle: you are the reason us New Yorker's watch this show. I think you are a beautiful woman and is truthful and honest. Thank you for taking up for us "gays" with Theresa's minature bulldog husband. Can you just move to New York housewives and tell all the rest of them to fly a kite? You can invite Jacquline also... I think she is in a difficult position. Lots of love and write a book about your own experience. I know we gay boys are rooting for you.!

Danielle-Other than being on a reality show together, what do you really have in common with these women? I would not waist my breath on any of them. They have all decided to gang up on you and act like pre-pubescent tweens and you shouldn't give them the time of day. Life is too short and they don't seem like great people anyway. Find new friends!

Why do you say you grew up without a family? I'm assuming there must have been some family there to send you to dance when you were young?

Danielle, your dancing was awesome, and I think you're great, but I can also understand how the other women could feel threatened by someone with a "past", especially the kidnapping part! But as Dina said in her blog, ex husbands are ex husbands, and I think we all know hurtful and vengeful they can be. I look forward to hearing the rest of your story. Your feelings for Dina really swing from one extreme to the other. I'm sure we're not getting the whole picture, and it just really makes me want to know more!

Danielle, I'm sorry this crap about you and the book came out. It sucks for your daughters. However, I just want to add my two cents: You need to lighten up and not be so intense. It tends to creep people out and repels them. You have to cut the drama, too. It's really immature. If you do those things, people will probably have a better reaction to you.

Danielle you were the only one who didn't look like an idoit at the dance class. You don't own Albie any apology. Caroline and Albie owe you an apology for not appreciating your help and mocking your talent. I am proud of you for speaking up to Teresa's husband. Teresa's husband is a neadrathal gaybashing homophobe and he should "keep quiet". You come off as honest and credible. I believe you when you say you were a young niave woman caught in the wrong place at the wrong time. If Dina outed your youthful indiscretion then she is a scumbage. 24 years ago is ancient history. Good luck to you. Don't let the Hypocrit Mobster Manzos get to you.

Keep your head up Danielle. I am only 22 years old and I too have realized you can not control how others percieve you. I have done things with the best of intentions and gotten a lot of grief. Maybe you are not meant to be friends with these people. Do what makes you happy.

I can't help but have some sympathy for you. However, part of being a mature adult is taking responsibility. People make mistakes, we are only human. However, I think you need to not point the finger and realize that the book and accusations against you are serious and should be taken seriously by those you associate with. Blaming others for "exposing" you in this book is silly. You were obviously at fault in some way and that is enough... OWN IT as you like to say

i think you are so honest and have been a really good friend to jacklyn. i think you have an amazing body, i wish you would make a DVD for a workout and write a book about what you eat and how you stay in such great shape. your arms are impeccable. i don't know about anyone else but i think you are the most interesting, fun loving, nice person on the show. everyone else seems like they are such awful human beings.

nj houswives has been the best so far and i'm from southern california!!

I must say this!! I have watched the show and do think that you have a big heart and are so pretty. I pray that you find the love you deserve and need.

Danielle, what I have observed on the show is that you want to be accepted. Nothing wrong with that. Dina seems to be jealous of Jacqueline's friendship with you and Caroline is just bossy. They are wrong for trying to choose Jacqueline's friends. I think you should just except the fact that Dina and Caroline will never be your friends and Teresa was never your friend. Keep your head up, everyone has a past.

For as much as the others hate you, they sure love to blog about you. Keep it real and stay true to yourself. You know who you really are...and that's all that matters.

I love it when people judge you on your past when they have a past of there own. The only reason people talk about others is because it makes them feel better about themselves. Im sorry that you have been hurt by people who have been so kind to. I hope you find a new group of people who will not backstab you,

Hi Danielle,

I think that you really are right about what you say about your past. The past can be full of mistakes we have made, but they teach us and make us the people we are today. You made some mistakes, SO WHAT? Everyone has and I mean EVERYONE. You should not be judged on that. However, I do think that you do sometimes come on a little strong especially to Jacqueline. I think she wants to be your friend, but NOT your best friend. I think her family is keeping her from being a good friend to you and I do believe she is judging you a little. Be careful who you call your friends! But you seem like a genuine person.

Danielle, I feel like you are misunderstood. I'm not sure why these ladies feel like ganging up on you, may be because they have nothing more interesting to do, but I think if you keep your head held high and rise above the hurtful gossip, you will be ok. I'm rooting for you!

I think that beneath the exterior of this show, most of the women are just cowards, i commend you and teresa for speaking the truth about everything, even if you are at odds.

The others are just fake. Apparently when they say there gonna do something, they mean sit by the sidelines, not really taking much action, ehh????

Good luck~~~

Watching the show makes me upset for you... I know and understand that women gossip, but were you ever even given a chance? It seems that since you aren't a part of the family, and you are single, that you are picked on a judged - tremendously.

Bless you for your strong opinion against the tacky little jerks who use the words "this is so gay" or "that guy is so gay". ITS HURTFULL. I admire the way you stood up to the trashy words that came out of Dinas husbands mouth at the dance lesson. I think you ROCK !!!!