Danielle Staub

Danielle responds to Caroline's Reunion outburst.

on Jun 25, 20090

I will be happy to add to my post after I have been able to view the final Reunion episode. However at this time, I would like to address two things. One, I really do believe that when someone is talking from their heart that everyone should pay attention. Everyone's voice deserves to be heard. I still do not think that the ladies cared what really went on in my life. Thankfully I am in a much better place now. Two and a half decades ago, I was involved in a plea bargain, there were seven or eight charges brought against me, I did probation for five years. Instead of dwelling on the past, I would appreciate it more if everyone focused on what I have done for the two and a half decades since.

I appreciate everyone's support, and I can sincerely promise you that I will always stay true to who I am. I will appreciate the long and difficult journey it has been to get here. I have two incredible daughters, I have loyal friends whom I trust, and I have the most amazing support group behind me.

I hope the ladies will learn something from this. I never want to behave the way that they have. It's easy for them to judge me, but no one is allowed to address the things that have gone on in their lives. They are living by a double standard. They are hypocritical. They have been venomous. I will no longer accept it.

I want to go on and do big things with my life, and I want to move on from the past. But I will not back down. When I am attacked, believe me, I will attack back. I don't appreciate how they are still so focused on taking me down. I only wish they would leave my life for ME to live.

195 comments
ibcc2u
ibcc2u

Well it's a new season and you haven't been there to take all the punches! Look's like they are all slowly turning against one another. How funny.

Lisa58213
Lisa58213

Danielle, the difference between these women and you is that they are continually doing things that result in these incidence. However, they refuse to acknowledge and accept responsibility for their actions. What I really find funny is that Jaqueline scolds her daughter for her actions and tells her to be responsible, yet she is leading by her own behavior of not being responsible for her own actions and behavior. These are people who were raised by parents who bailed them out of everything and they never had to be responsible for their wrong doings. So much that they can't see what everyone else can, which is that what they have done, what they say and what they do results in the trouble that has been caused. That Kim G lady is beyond a joke! Two faced doesn't even cover it. Another example of throwing a fit over your response to what SHE did! It's truly appalling that these women act like this at their age. Not too mention disturbing. I feel very sorry for their children and what they will also become.

You, on the other hand, are teaching your girls how to take that responsibility and need to just enjoy your life. People like this have a great deal of psychological issues and cannot cope in the real world, therefore they huddle in their own private corner. Normal society has nothing to do with them. You can also see they try to relive life and fit in again through their children (that Teresa is beyond a prime example). It's sad what they are doing to their children and the way they are, but the live in insecurities and that's just how it is. If they weren't insecure and were decent people, they would not present themselves as they do. I had never watched the show before yesterday and find these women a sad excuse for any kind of human being. Forget about things like this. These are the people we take care of in hospitals and nursing homes at the end of life who are totally alone and even their children have nothing to do with them. Alone, bitter and die without anyone who cares for them. You will have your children always with you. That's something to be proud of.

Past is the past. You either learn from it or you don't. What you may have been involved in years ago, is years ago. Not now. But who you choose to be today, is what matters. You're above them. And you're above what was in your past. Move forward to the future and let that life fall behind. If someone brings up some stupid book, who cares. It's a book. Nothing more. Words are words and in our society very little is truth! Hope your girls are doing well and you all have moved past this kind of ignorance.

Reiblyfef
Reiblyfef

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DeHa
DeHa

Danielle, I admire what u tried to do in offering an olive branch to these ladies. I think it has shown those that watch the show that Caroline is the fool because she clearly doesn't know what she wants. She wanted all the drama, but she denies the group that simple moment by acting like a brat. U can only move on when u have had the kind of reconciliation that u were trying to forge. Keep ur chin up-- that was the real U when u let your guard down. u r strong, if u will simply ignore and walk talk n the fact that u have a hope and a future in ur children, career, etc. Much luck. This show wouldn't be what it is without u.

luana
luana

When these women throw hurtful words at you, you should not respond. They hate it when you don't answer. LOL

cynthia12
cynthia12

danielle i have to know where did you buy your shoes that you wore in the reunion

LPN
LPN

I like Danielle, and I for one think the Manzo's are Soprano, mafia wanna bee's! LOL how sad are they!

Pamela Palacios
Pamela Palacios

I really like you DANIELLE you were great last night !!! Theresa is crazy and low class .. where did she come from ? NOW I KNOW FOR SURE "MONEY CAN'T BUY CLASS"

Hope u get your own show !

Patti46
Patti46

I agree, the only reason I started watching this show was because I thought Danielle was the only "REAL" person. I can relate to her, I have not had her life experiences, but I certainly know what it's like to be judged by hypocrites!! Caroline & Teresa totally annoy me. I think Jacqueline can be a nice & non-judgemental person, but has now become a "follower" of Caroline & Teresa - their puppet. Yes, I understand the anger re: the hair pulling incident, but that was her daughter's fault. Overall, I like Danielle and hope the best for her & her 2 beautiful daughters.

Mari777
Mari777

I understand everyone on the show and where they are coming from. I honestly believe that from the season 1, if Caroline and Dina didn't look into Danielle's past all this BS wouldn't have happen. I think the whole point of what I am saying is that you should try to assume everyone is good unless you have been burned yourself . I am not justifying anyone's behavior but the cast hasn't been able to look forward and let go of the past. The reoccurring theme of the show is "tif for tat ." With that being said, no one is going to have resolution to this non going battle. I feel bad for everyone on the cast, the bickering and name calling, feels like a school yard. Everyone wants to have the last smack down but the egos and prides is what keep fueling this fire that almost engulf each and every individual of the cast. I honestly wish peace among the cast, Danielle has the right to defend herself even if she had a bad past but I understand if she is the one stirring the pot then she need to take responsibilities. That also goes for everyone on the show Caroline, Theresa and Jacqueline. Much love to the cast, Mari.

Gina Ruiz
Gina Ruiz

Danielle, I think you are great, I will be your friend I'm loyal, you don't need all that stress in your life neither do your children, God Bless You I'm serious I'll be your loyal friend. email me we can talk my name is Gina I'm not rich,but I'am loyal.

cgmoore
cgmoore

You started all this so be a big girl, sit down & have a big old helping of "your desserts". You caused all of this all by yourself, thanks to your big fat mouth. That "love and light" thing is not working for you. Maybe you do need a can of "whop ass" pulled out on you.

sflorida
sflorida

If it wasn't for Danielle this show wouldn't exist, since that is all the rest of them 'rest' on her for some reason. Danielle stands up for herself and I totally respect her.

You are a strong woman and they all seem to have nothing else to talk about. Go Danielle.

Caroline is a complete bully, and the others classless. New Jersey, embarrassing.

FoxyRoxy
FoxyRoxy

Danielle, let your spirituality shine. Your children are watching you deal with difficult situations and all I see is anger, resentment, and vindication from you. Practice what you preach. You don't want your daughter to say "a" (to use butt instead) yet you say the B word all the time. Let your girls see the beauty inside you and not the negativity.

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tattoo designs

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peeps
peeps

I feel so sorry for your daughters. Do you ever watch your childrens reactions when you go off on one of your tangents. What I don't understand is why their father dosen't go for full custody to remove his daughters from that unhealthy home.

Becky [ Brown ] Lawson
Becky [ Brown ] Lawson

Danielle, I think you are GREAT, I have been in your shoe's, so I know what you are going through...........my story is like yours.......... if I were you I would get off that show.... you do not need them, you are much better than any of them.......I really feel for you & your BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS........what they must be going through........leave the show for yourself & them, thank you.......... I live on the West Coast........ Becky......................

corncake
corncake

Danille you acted like a big jerk at the fashion show not looking at the modles! why didnt you just go home if you knew that was going to happen like you said. dont you get it that the other girls dont want you as a friend and neither would i.

snap it up
snap it up

HELLO, Y GO GRIL DANCE YOUR NUT OFF , I WISH Y THE DEST , DO NOT LET CAROLINE BULLY Y . TELL HER SHE NEED TO SEE HOW MUCH MONEY ,SHE NEEDS TO PAY OFF THE SCHOOL FOR SON GO BACK TO SCHOOL AND A WANT TO BE LAWERY ??THINK NOT TELL THEN TO KISS OFF

Delna
Delna

danielle i feel like you have an anger problem and i feel like you like to make things bigger than they really are and i truley feel for you when teresa attack you at the country club i could just see the fear in your eyes and i wanted to cry because it was very sad and im sorry for what happen to you i really am.

Concerned77
Concerned77

OMG the only thing this realty show is portraying about these families is that money does not buy class. You are blessed to live wealthy lives and have a forum to be role models but all that we see is how cady these women are....what example are they setting for other women and young girls.

Give back to the world show some restraint in your actions. Violence is never the answer.

Dottie B
Dottie B

Danielle, I don't judge people for things that have done in their past, because it's none of my business but you are on a reality show and you should have known that it would be brought up. Maybe,things could have been handled differently but they weren't. These things are done for ratings. You shouldn't have brought that one guy with you to that charity with you he made it a lot worse for you in the end. You do seem to love your girls and that's great but how do you think they feel that you are obsessed with the other wives? Try on focus on the new you, you know the one who is suspose to believe in love, peace and light? As for the episode where the table was tossed over I would have knocked that girl on her a** I don't need a body guard to handle my problems. Your best bet is to Eliminate them from your circle stop talking behind their backs because you can't handle it when they confront you so if you can't handle the fire stay out of the kitchen and maybe you should take Caroline approach she doesn't even want anything do with this situation. If you stop worrying about them you'll be fine.

lisahunn
lisahunn

danielle, you are a great lady, beautiful, smart, exciting and by far the best housewife on that show. the manzos are a self serving bunch that like to pretend they are this big mafia family... they are a joke!!! i like you because you don't pretend to be perfect.

AOkay12
AOkay12

Danielle,

It was not nice for Caroline to call you "garbage". At the same time, part of the reason that I think the rest of the cast is judging you, is because the type of people you hang with. Especially, the Hells Angels and that two faced Kim G. You should try and surround yourself with more positive folks.

Katie NJ
Katie NJ

Also I would like to say everyone has a past and life is about living and learning. Considering the other house wives have children who aren't fully grown they shouldn't be throwing stones. You never know whats going to happen to you in life so have a little compassion please. Your a survivor and you have to gorgeous daughters who I have to say are the nicest people on the show. xoxo

Katie NJ
Katie NJ

I truly feel for you Danielle. They are truly obsessed with you and trying to make your life harder. Teresa has gone out of her way to alienate you from your friends because she is nothing but a mean girl. Let's face it none have them except for Jacqueline has ever tried to give you a chance. Now she is acting like a 16 year old mean girl herself. I have some good advice that you should actually follow for your own well being and sense of peace. Stop fighting with them. When they come at you say hello smile and be nice. ignore there craziness. Because they want to upset you. They want you to fight especially Teresa who obviously wants the show to get good ratings so she can get more money and pay off some of her debt. Let's face it fighting back will do nothing but cause you more stress. Take there names out of your vocabulary when asked about them say I wish them well and I have nothing else to say. Trust me I have had issues with plenty of women like that in the past. I have learned that killing people with kindness is the best thing to do. It will bring peace to you and eventually them. I really hope you do well and you will if you stop letting them get to you. xoxox

to bless to be stress
to bless to be stress

hi Daniel..i was extremely moved when you met up with Dina at the restaurant for lunch and you offer in such a nice way"if she wanted to have something to eat and she refuse...i felt you were above ginuine and real. you really wanted to open up to her and be the person that you are but at the same time you were hoping she would have given u a chance to express ur self...and that u guys chould have forgiven each other..but she was there only to her detriment and to throw you a little pity party. i admire you...and do not belive that you should be judge by ur past...i agree..move on from it..become a better person..the past was only created to make you stronger not to make you weaker....i admire ur children..i am a dedicated church person...and i see the gud in people not matter what there past was God says come just as you are....no one had it easy in life...i did not ...i had my valleies..and some mountains..but i am thankful...my past is what made me who i am today...and no looking back...u have a gud heart and i do see you want to reconcile with the ladies..but their pride and ego are in there way...u owe no one an apology for ur existence...live ur live and to its fullest....i pray and hope that one day you will also come to know the true and living God..who has created you ...and that you will generate all that faith of urs to the church.....God bless...

Viewer2468
Viewer2468

Get help please! You need too much attention. You are not that important. No one cares about you and if I was the other woman I would stay away from you too! Your obsessed. If your on next season, I won't even watch.

Viewer1234
Viewer1234

You are a very strong women and I think you have a part of you that represents women extremly well. You are grounded and wont take crap from any girls. Girls can be vicious, but I do think you need to have an examination of conscience. These girls are catty and its all drama, but you cant just point the finger. Think of how you could have caused a lot of these situations that have occurred and how you put yourself in the hot seat a lot. I know its hard, but you could start to try an watch what your saying instead of fueling the fire like you do sometimes. No judgement passed, just some advice.

danielle=BJ's
danielle=BJ's

Danny and John give all incarcerated individuals a bad name. They're not even scary...more comical than anything. All three of you should be deported back to the island of stupid in the land of pettiness.

The next time you are going to a dinner you should call ahead and make sure you RSVP about having extra people, duh!! You literally gave Danny permission to go and raise a fuss as long as he didn't start up with Christopher who was underage, otherwise you were OK with them "cutting loose" as you stated.

I've been cruising around looking at all these comments and I'm really trying to find this loyal fan base you keep talking about. There must be a special link somewhere that I'm not seeing that sends you to the fan club. Or wait...maybe there is no club.....hhmmmm

Viewer9210
Viewer9210

If you really want to move on from your past, don't hang around thugs. Maybe the reason why they judge you is because you still show a little bit of your past. Just sayin'! Grow up

lucyimhomenow
lucyimhomenow

I don't feel bad for you at all. This episode today (ex cons) pissed me off.

Dancemom 12
Dancemom 12

I have to say that last season, I felt a little sorry for you Danielle, but after that season and you are still acting like WOW, I don't feel sorry for you at all. Half of the stuff you say on the show you turn around so badly so that it is poor poor danielle and then hanging with ex cons, like you need body guards. That family doesn't want anything to do you with so I am sure they would not waste their time trying to do anything to hurt you! I am happy for your daughter along she doesn't seem real thrilled with the opportunity so hopeful she wont end up missing out.

Sherr
Sherr

Danielle I thank you for making this show worth watching, If not for you it would just be a bunch of ppl blabbering about their children, its like they learned nothing from Kathy Lee. Oh look my son did this, oh gee mi family is this my family is that, look my son just took a dunk, oh no my daughter moved out, ahhh my brother in-laws' sister's cousin died their hair PINK! blah blah blah. I am a person that knows what its like to not have alot of family around, and it takes a very strong person to do what you are doing. I personally wish Caroline would just leave the show, I hate it when ppl stick up for their family just cause its 'family'. When you do that its not showing love for your family its actually the opposite. By not standing up for whats RIGHT, you are making your loved ones stick in their evil ways and that is not my definition of love by ANY means its like saying "here you walk down the stairway to hell first, be my guest". I think you are independent, strong, and the only reason why this show is still on the air. Id rather watch the Real Housewives of Homelessville than continue watching Real Housewives of New Jersey if you ever leave the show. Please keep doing what you're doing and stay strong!

Luley
Luley

Danielle - you need to move on with your life. Why do you keep going after rhose other women? The don't care about you. You should never have brought that book with you to Theresa's dinner -that was not the time nor the place in front of all those people -especially the children. And especially in from on your children. The only thing I don't understand - if Theresa can' stand you, why did she invite you to the dinner? I'm not understanding these women at all. Don't you want "real" friends. Real friend accept you for who you are. They certainly don't accept you. And I'm sick and tired of Caroline trying to act like such a tough guy. Because she's not! Good luck!

Detroit Viewer
Detroit Viewer

Danielle, I get really embarrassed for you when watching the show. Why did you feel the need to call Jacqueline back. Really honey GROW Up. Let it go. Prove to them that you don't care by leaving them the heck ALONE!

Sam0413
Sam0413

Danielle, I totally understand you. Who are they to judge you for something that you did 25 years ago. Honestly. Did they not get the memo that people learn from their mistakes? Everyone doesn't learn, but I have a feeling that you did. I think you did do a plea bargain and I understand you. I think that you should sue them for damages to your image and life. I understand why you didn't share something that happened to you that long ago, but people will always hate and you just have to let them. Well I hope that you learn to move on and focus on your life and your daughters because that's really all that matters!!! :-)

shelsay
shelsay

Danielle,

I've never watched the show until flicking through channels recently. I think you're awesome. I love that you stumbled and apologized, those are women are crazy and bitter. Keep moving forward and growing. When you get a chance, listen to the song "Hate On Me" by Jill Scott. You're gonna be alright - they'll hate you no matter what they do. I love you and hope the best for you!

cb1
cb1

Cant stand Danielle.............Such a drama queen and brings everything on herself....get over urself and stop acting so innocent b/c u r sooooo annoying!!! Love....Love....Love All the other girls Teresa, Caroline, Dina and Jaqueline!!!! Love love love em all!!!! Danielle...not so much!!!

CB
CB

Cant stand Danielle.............Such a drama queen and brings everything on herself....get over urself and stop acting so innocent b/c u r sooooo annoying!!! Love....Love....Love All the other girls Teresa, Caroline, Dina and Jaqueline!!!! Love love love em all!!!! Danielle...not so much!!!

Miranda from California
Miranda from California

I am so tired on this show about people attacking people. Why don't you be the bigger person and just let it go? You and Caroline sound like a couple of thugs.

doggirl96
doggirl96

Danielle, I understand where you are coming from, but you should understand that it is quite difficult to forget something big such as the stuff these ladies have read about you in "the book". I think that many of the things you have done are innapropriate and I think you need to "turn it down a notch". Quite honestly, I think that you are an embarrassment not only to the show but to New Jersey. You MUST realize that you are a housewife of NEW JERSEY and that you are representing NEW JERSEY. Hopefully you are going to take this advice. P.S. By the way........this is coming from a thirteen year old girl. Just thought you might like to know what age group behaves better than you at this point.

Sarah Ann
Sarah Ann

Danielle, Smile more - be happy (not just profess it). "Thou 'dost protest too much" Shakespeare saying don't profess - but do. You will win people over with good intentions and actions. You talk a big game - but don't follow up. Back off and stop pressuring Jacqueline - it makes it worse. Let people criticize and don't react to it. Another quote - "Your opinion of me is none of my business." Live joy with your girls. It does seem that every life experience - your relationships with women, your girls - revolve around what is in it for you. Your daughter's modeling - make it about her and not "remember me when you are famous". Let go and things will come to you. Including a love in your life.

Miss B
Miss B

You need some serious mental help. I just watched your latest episode last night. You need to focus on your daughters and what is best for them. Your daughter's magazine cover dinner??? Really it was all about you and not about having a dinner for your daughter with her friends.

I truly hope you watch these episodes and see some fault of yours here.

ladyoffaith
ladyoffaith

I just think you LOVE the attention! You need to realize you are not the ONLY one on this show, and that if you make a mistake, you should be held accountable for it!

SexyChocolate
SexyChocolate

Hi Danielle,

CONGRATULATIONS on your daughter's success!!! I can see why you're so proud :) A little advice: Let your daughter have all the shine and let her be truthful with you. I don't think she really was thrilled about your party that was given in her honor but she wasn't there or her friends.

I don't have anything bad to say to you (well I hope it doesn't come across as bad). I think you messed up a really good thing with Jackie. I don't care for The Manzos but Jackie was a true friend to you. And of course she is going to respect what her husband requests. I just hope that you really look at the episodes and sit down with an honest friend who will tell you why certain things were wrong on your part.

I really think that your daughter's tremendous opportunity was a blessing from God not so much for your daughter, but mostly for you. To give you something to rejoice in. But please stay HUMBLE. Don't blow this blessing. It can be taken away from you if you get too proud. I wish you the very best.

Love,

A NJ Housewives Fan :)

Aviva
Aviva

Danielle -

You have stunning, intelligent and highly aware daughters. Listen to them because they hold a lot of wisdom and groundedness.

Aviva

Wow!!
Wow!!

You need help and should seek it soon!!!