Here we are at Episode 5! It’s going so fast it seems. I hope all of you are enjoying the ride. Again, I want to say thank you to all of you who publicly approach me and extend your support, love and kindness towards me.
I have to say, I feel so blessed to meet all of you whether online, on Facebook, or in public settings. All of you bring me such happiness when I hear your stories, or your struggles, and it feels so nice to know each and everyone of you relate to some portion of my life that I have shared with you thus far. Thank you to all of the women who are standing by me and building me up, giving me their advice, and taking some from me as well. I simply go the local store for food with my daughters, and I leave with so much more. Recently, there was a wonderful group of cheerleaders, the all-star athletes group and their mom, collecting money outside Collators in my town, Wayne, and they were not only thrilled to see me, photograph with me, etc, but the best was that they really related to me, opened up to me, asked me for my advice on many things, from how I handle what’s going on, on the show, behind the scenes and behind my back, how it makes me feel, and then they tell me it’s enlightening to them that it may be happening to more of us than we think. They ask me about divorce and difficulties on relationships after divorce. They ask me to please inspire them to get back out there themselves. They want more is what they’re telling me. They tell me what great kids I have and that it’s a reflection of me, and that’s my favorite part altogether. They ask how I handle a lot of different situations. All this amounts to them telling me that I help them so much whereas, truth be told, they are the ones helping me. This is only one example but the most recent to show. And I would like to say you are the ones helping. Thank you from the depths of my heart. Thank you to all on Facebook- friends who support and love on a daily basis makes me feel so incredible. Thank you to my beautiful daughters- my world, my life, my inspiration, my best friends, my family- I love you both so, so much.
So the girls are away in A.C., and Steve finds a way to completely insult me and defy my trust. I wish someone would have told me about this when it happened instead of letting my find out this way. I don’t like the way it looks when other women enjoy the pain being caused to another woman- any woman at that. Women should build each other up and not tear each other down. Oh well. I hope it made you feel good to know that would hurt me. I would ask you to consider this: What if you were me and saw that women were laughing and enjoying your pain? Just think about it. Was it nice? I just know I would and will never do this to another woman.
Danielle ... you are growing on me - at first I was turned off by some of your actions but after tonight's show I do see that there are wounds from your past that perhaps have kept you from finding "true love" ... I think you trusted Steve because you are someone who can be trusted - I'm seeing a different side of you. I hope you find that someone special for you,
Danielle, I just want to let u know that not everyone is against you! You have had a past, who hasnt? This was 20 years ago and it's none of anyone's business! I think the other women feel threated by you and you just need to hold your head high and forget all the pettiness in your way. For them to criticize you for wanting a man who is successful is ludicrious considering all of them wanted and went after the same thing! You deserve the best..you are a beautiful, intelligent, compassionate woman. Let your past not hold you back but mold you into a better person for your children and yourself. FYI, your body is amazing and I think you should come out with a workout video and clothing line! I think it would do great and give you something to build you up as well as for your children to see you being successful for yourself. Wish you the best!
You are wonderful. Please do not let the other women get you down. Love will come your way. Let your past go and move on. Make new and true friends, jacqueline and Teresa are not your friends, open your eyes, please move on. You are a beautiful person inside and out.
I think you mean well but you should definitely tone down the "we will be best friends forever and ever in lifetimes to come" and the "i need a man to marry and love me and take care of me and my kids and pretend they're his own" language. It is easy to be turned off by that because there is so much grandeur in those words. Coming on strong isn't the best approach for men or friends. I am sure watching yourself will teach you a lot. You are lucky to have such sweet daughters. Take care of them.
It doesn't matter where you've been. It matters where you're going. Love you Danielle. Your daughters are a testament to your positive change.
Danielle, You are my favorite of all the housewives. You are real and I admire that about you. The other housewives also have a past history that if it was known about them, they would not be so judgmental towards you. By the way, I know we neeed to wait until next week for the big fight, but I never thought you should have trusted Jacqueline or Teresa. Stay strong and you will see that you will come out on top. Be Encorage and stay true to yourself.
Awww Danielle!!! My heart breaks for you!! I've been where you are and it does hurt, just be strong. Use your own advice and focus on your girls and loving yourself first! I love the show, I'm sorry that you had to find out that Steve was a loser by watching it. Be strong girl! You've got women here in Chicago that have your back! xoxo
Look, It breaks my heart to see the way you were treated and talked about. Though I haven't experienced the drama that you have in your past, I know what it's like to be talked about like a dog. In all honesty though, Danielle, sometimes,the episodes show you coming off as pushy and abrasive. Is that how you really deal with other women in real life? Do you think that maybe that approach made the other ladies hesitant? It really does help to sometimes censor your comments and actions with some people, at least until you really know them. I hope that you have found some true friends that like you for you since you recorded these episodes. My heart goes out to you and your girls. I wish you all the best.
I only just recently tuned into "The Real Housewives of New Jersey." As a former east coaster, with hundreds of relatives scattered around New Jersey (from Patterson to Fairlawn to Hawthorne to Pompton Lakes to the infamous Franklin Lakes), I get a real kick out of the show and the manner in which 'Jersey Girls' are portrayed.
When I tuned in to this evening's episode I had to ask myself, "What nasty, small-minded antics will be directed towards Danielle tonight?" Well, certain individuals lived up to their not-so-pleasant reputations.
Danielle, you are loved by many. Ignore those persons who build themselves up by putting you down. Continue to be honestly who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Remember, that to be honestly who you are is to give up your illusions and face today with courage. In the words of that immortal singer/actress, Judy Garland, "Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else." Keep rock'n, Danielle.
I believe you have done a great job witb your kids - now take their advice. You give it up to much. Maybe the whole truth is not what they should be hearing from you - edit. What didn't Steve have enough money?
Danielle, what can I say. I think you are delusional. I didn't see anyone laughing at you. If you think Dina is spreading rumors, why don't you confront her instead of putting Jacqueline in the middle. You seem to spend way more time worrying about what Dina is saying about you rather than trying to do something to improve your life. Go to who you think the source is and cut the BS off at the head. You don't understand that everyone is not going to be your friend and like you. Maybe if you stop trying so hard to with Dina and relax, you just might see a different person. Jacqueline likes you and that's all that matters. Be a real friend and respect her relationship with her family. Do you really not see that you are asking her to choose yourself over her family?
In the words of that imortal singer/actress, Judy Garland, "Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else." Never stop being the colorful character that you are. To heck with those persons who lack color, imagination, and the ability to be happy.
Hi Danielle, I really sympathise with you. I've been watching the show since it begun and its so sad to watch the other women form a clique and make you the outsider. Its so high school and juvenile. I can't believe grown women can behave like that. I believe you're lucky to have Jaqueline on your side.She's a good person at heart. I hope she doesn't get corrupted by the others. Just live your life whichever way is best for you and ignore them. All the best. zee, jersey city, nj
Hi Danielle, I enjoy watching you on the show and am really glad you called Theresa's husband out on the gay comment during last week's episode. But now I'm a bit confused. I just rewound the episode and no one was laughing when Steve called to ask to stay at Theresa's beach house. They all looked horrified. Plus you broke up w/ him that weekend anyway, so why would they tell you something just to hurt you since you'd broken up w/ him anyway? They aren't your friends so why should they get involved in your business?
Hey Danielle, the past is the past. Don't give it a second look. Women can be so catty. And you were so right, they are extremely jealous. Dina in her pathetic lonely life where she might see her husband 2 weeks out of the year. I mean what Kind of marriage is that. One of $$ obviously and no other reason. Like she has room to throw stones. I think not. Well you just keep holding your own and keep your head held high. Those other witches can't even hold a candle to you chica. xo
Hello Danielle, Hope all is well, I just wanted to say for the most part I like the show and enjoy each of the women for their own unique contribution to the great show. My concern is your need (maybe unknowingling to you) to surround yourself in drama. I just wonder how good can this be for the kids involved?? Maybe its unintentional but its very overwhelming. Im sure you do not know how strong this theme is present in your life on camera persona but consider the kids please
Danielle, keep your head up. Trust no one from the start also watch those who says they are your friend. Understand the old cliche "Blood is thicker than water." Watch yourself girl. Perhaps they are hating on you because you are holding it down by yourself. I have nothing against to other ladies, but it is what it is. I like Teresa for her free spirit attitude, Jacqueline; she's ok, but I will be cautious, Caroline; she's a hook she will catch you from behind, Dina, another hook, but I believe she come at you straight forward. Again, these are just my opinion, but I do like this version of The Real Housewives.
Danielle, Everyone has a past, with that being said always remember that there is only one person you have to answer to, and only one person whom you shall call on to help you make it through and that is God..... I'm watching the show and watching you become more and more broken...You seem so lost and alone....Just from hearing you say the things you say, right now you think its just you and your children, noone to call on or confide in whom is real and will except you for you.....Once again you have someone and that is God, always remember every step you take he is taking with you...... No matter how old we get there is always room for wisdom and change, look inside yourself there is more to you than what you are showing the world......
I am trying to verbalize this in a way that does not sound catty. I am a firm believer in an open honest relationship with your kids. My own are 23, 20, 16 & 16. We discuss everything and I think that is one of the reasons they are such wonderful well-adjusted kids (sorry young adults). Having said that there is something to be said for allowing children their innocents. Since you've choosen to be open about your quest to be loved I hope you've also informed them that not all men are heels. I cannot even begin to comprehend the trust and men issues that they are developing. Again, not trying to think of a way to say this without claws... If the common denominator in the problem is you, perhaps you are the problem.
Support to you from a Dallas housewife. Of all the ladies on the show I believe I would gain the most from sitting down and having a conversation with you. Though it's not likely we would have a lot in common on the outside for whatever reason I feel the most connected to you.
move on with your life he's not worth it!!!!his 10 min. of fame just went out the door!!loser!!BOUNCE BACK!!live life and don't let life live you!! you are an awesome person!!!
This installment of Real Housewives sadly proves that bullying doesn't stop in high school. It was sad to see the women gloating that your boyfriend was cheating on you. It was also sad to see Jacqueline severing ties with you because of something from your past that happened over twenty years ago! Friends like that you do not need!
You constantly try to befriend these women only to be hurt and backstabbed time and time again. Why would you want to surround yourself with negative individuals? Life is hard enough sometimes. If you surround yourself with hate, you will get hate. Try finding friends who care, who support and who want the best for you.
They are also hypocrites. If they looked into their own dealings and family history, I'm sure there would be things they wouldn't want to discuss or be judged for. How ironic that they punish you for what could very well be happening to themselves.
Take care of yourself. Don't try to figure out why they are who they are and why they do the things they do. You'll never understand them because you don't THINK the way they do and THANK GOD for that!
Peace and Love x
first of all danielle, the only one who cause d harm was you. you are on a reality show, did you really think these things wouldnt come out..you never should have been on the show if you have things in your past you do not want out... you did this..nobody else..take responsibilty and stop placing blame on everyone else..and stop bringing random guys into your girls lives..
Danielle, You seem to love the role of victim and thrive on drama. The real victims in all of this isn't yourself but your two lovely girls. How sad, and telling, that they mentioned MANY guys who promised to stick around for them but never did. Did you ever consider what YOUR CHOICES are doing to those girls? Stop worrying about what everyone is doing to you and start working on yourself.
Danielle, Read the blogs regarding you from the housewives of NY. They are a much more sophisticated group. The NJ bunch is no better than the Salem witch hunters. If you're upset that Teresa found pleasure in Steve bringing Monique, you must stop and realize the type of person Teresa seems to be. She seems very "SIMPLE", therefore she probably can't feel another's pain. The girl's life seems to be consumed in shopping and superficial acts. When Dina mentioned that Teresa has no stress, why would she, she does nothing but shop, etc. My advice to you would be to find some other friends, who have evolved outside the "Italian" girl box. I can say that because I am an Italian girl who has broken out of the stereotypical role. My mother would like me to act like these girls (family, simple thinking, etc.), however I don't feel this is the healthiest position in the end. With this sid you should move on.
I guess your comment about wanting a man to take care of you and your children instead of you taking responsibility is the center of all your problems!!
Danielle, I know you are looking to be taken care of, I mean find the love of your love, but do you consider the damage that you are doing to your daughters by parading men through their lives? It was painfully obvious how used to it and hurt they are by the abandonment by the scene where you were discussing Steve with them. Totally inappropriate. They are NOT your best friends, they are your children. It is your job to protect them and nurture them. It is not their job to "be there for you". As a divorced mother of two, my children are not involved in my love life. On another note, while you blast your other castmates, why don't you consider your own behavior? In the majority of your scenes, you are blasting Dina to anyone who will listen. Why is it okay for you to do it, but not them??? Time to grow up!
Danielle, stay strong, stop trying to be friends with these women because basically they aren't worth it. It pains me to see you try so hard. Put a period at the end of it and keep on moving. Also you have wonderful daughters but do this one thing. Do not share your love life with them, do not introduce them to losers. When the right man comes along and he deserves to meet your girls then and only then should he meet them. They are your children, and I understand you are lonely but they are too young to bear your burdens. Hopefully one day you will have some real ride or die girlfriends. These women just are not worthy of that, and even tho Jacqueline is a sweetie she will always be torn and she will always be down for the "family" Its best you find friends who are real true blue friends.
Hey Danielle, I can't imagine anyone with such nice kids being the terrible person others have portrayed you on the show. Keep your head up. Everyone has a past, and what happened years ago happened and you can't change it. You can, however, rise above it! Good luck and be well.
DANIELLE, IF YOU FEEL THAT THESE WOMEN ARE ALL TALKING ABOUT YOU, WHY DO YOU EXCEPT THEIR INVITATIONS TO THEIR EVENTS? YOU NEED TO STAY AWAY FROM THEM. LUV YOU.
People enjoy putting other people down to make themselves feel superior....I think it's human nature. One thing I know for sure is that I am NOT the same person I was 20 years ago...I don't think any of us are. If you were still practicing the same behavior today...now that would be scandalous!
Danielle, I have watched all the episodes so far, and congrats to you and finding your inner strength. You have a great family and some good friends, love will come to you when your not looking for it, for now always be true to yourself and keep on drawing from within and you will not go wrong. Laura NY
Danielle- I don't agree with you often, but I will agree with you here...you should have been told about the whole Steve thing before the show aired! It is hurtful and disrespectful to you!
Danielle, I knew just by looking at Steve that he was out only for one thing only and I think you know what it is. Why would you tell your daughters that you are not seeing him anymore and to say that he wants to be a part of there lifes, come on now. even your older daughter was making comments on what guys want from you. I would keep a close eye on who you introduce to the kids.
Love yourself before you can love someone else. don't give your body up just for a guy, get to know him alittle.
I am just looking out for you.
I like you Danielle, to me you are the most real. Keep your head held high, alot of people are rooting for you.If it was'nt for you, I would'nt watch this show.
Danielle, I bet you have learned what not to say on tv knowing that your daughters, their friends and neighbors will see it too. Now it is out so you can move on. It must be a relief. Okay, so who cares right? However, I do agree that the other women should check themselves and how they portray themselves too. Very childish. How would they like it if all the viewers could watch Dina go through her first divorce and her daughter hear all that was done and said. Would she like that? And Teresa...we in NJ know what paying large sums of cash for everything means. You don't have to do anything, these women will sink themselves and you will be surprised at who is forgiven. Good luck and feel lucky that you know who Steve is now before it went any further. You don't look bad, he does.
Danielle, thank you for being real. It bites when no one will take the time to be your be your friend, whether good or bad. We all have things we regret and learn from them, move on. Why these people hold on to grudges is beyond me. Personally, you are better without them in your life.
I think it was not good to put a whole family on the show who somehow thinks they are perfect, know all and have some superior presence over everyone. You were thrown in with wolves and in the process you are finding yourself.
Kuddos to you for taking lemons and making lemonaid. It is hard to be in someone else's shoes, but easy to judge. I really hope the other gals never have to go through what they have done to you.
Keep your chin up and know others can relate and understand. Not all people are self centered and you will find a friend or a soulmate.
I work with women who don't like me and I see this EVERY day in my face. Trust me...it's not better when it's not behind your back. It is 10 times more demeaning and insulting.
You're not a bad person, but you excuse your behavior by insulting the other women and that's not healthy either. Just go about your business; take care of yourself and your daughters, and don't worry about them...THAT is what will make the difference between them and you and show the world who is more of a human being.
Danielle, you are the star of the show. Without your personality, what would be entertaining about the NJ house wives??? The rest of them are stereotypes of what we would expect. You are the "Simon" of American Idol.... who watches that to see the other judges?? No one, he is the show. Your blog is from your heart and your head. At least you have the intellect to make sense of a crazy world. Your daughters are far superior to the brats of the other families. Take credit for being a strong smart woman. You have a ton of support from your fans. Barbara from Southern California
Danielle, You need to get outside of yourself, stop feeling sorry for yourself, my gosh, you have so much to offer--beauty, brains, drive (think of all those that don't have this!)--stop wasting this on trying to be liked by these women and the loser men you date, and get a job, volunteer, go back to school, develop yourself in a positive way, and give back to the world. You've got two beautiful daughters who look up to you, and who need you to set a positive example for them, by being assertive, successful, giving, so they will more than likely be this way. I know you don't want your daughters ending up like you, feeling angry and frustrated, and as you so often say "alone" when they get older. Stop wasting your time and energy on these types of people, the ones who are gossipy and mean-sprited and start moving in a direction that makes you feel good about yourself, and who knows, these women who you are looking to get validation from, might just give it, once they see you giving it to yourself! Camille P.S. I hightly recommend Yoga and meditation, as it helps you stay on the right track, it brings you peace, too.
Danielle,you are by far my favorite Jersey housewife!It's a shame that you are the only woman on the show that has class and acts her age.Dina,Caroline,and Theresa,the "Mean Girls",are stuck in a high school mentality.I wish you had some one on the show that would go to bat for you.We love you here in Colorado.
I'm not taking sides, but why do you think Dina is out to get you? She's not the one who wrote the book, yeah she found it and showed to her family and friends, but so what. The person who wrote the book is the one responsible for airing your laundry, not Dina.
Help me understand why you would tell your girls, Steve is going to stay in their lives? I am also a single mom and the number one rule to dating and parenting is, unless this is the "real deal ie: marriage" do not, do not introduce them to the children. The kids will get hurt. It appears as though your older girl has learned it well and built up a shield. Did you honestly think a 24 year old boy would continue to see your girls? You set them up for disappointment but twisted it as though it was Steve, which you seem to do a lot. You signed up for a reality show and when your past was revealed you blamed others. Look in the mirror, stop playing victim and you will become a much happier person. PS, your daughters are not your friends, they are your children.
Danielle, I just started watching this show. I cant help but feel that there are many woman that are in your place-and many have or are currently in situations similar to yours. I hope that you know that Jesus will Love you no matter what you have gone through. he loves you more than you know. He loves you, your family. He knows everyone's past. It says in the bible "he who is without sin = throw the first stone" what does that leave? no-one. But Jesus said-to the woman that was accused-go and sin no more. I pray for you to know Jesus as your personal lord and savior he died for your sins. He takes you-and makes you whole again. he will bring you contentment. He will cover you with his love. and embrace, provide for your family. Jesus is reliable-man is not. Jesus will always be there. men will not. My prayer is that you will know Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior. I pray for Godly Christian woman to surround you and bring you full encouragement, support and healing. tb
Danielle - there are too many comments to make - some in your favor and some not. I just wanted to point out that you can't point the finger at the other women for making you look bad - you handled that pretty well yourself. Did you consider your daughters watching the show when you asked Steve if you can go into the bathroom together at the restaurant for a quicky? You looked like a fool. And I am also surprised that you were flattered by Steve being younger than you and interested in you - he is not only a creepy human being he is also ugly and really wasn't worth your time. He didn't think you were gorgeous... He wanted to be on TV!