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Dina Manzo

The Power of Now

Dina lays book rumors to rest, and explains why she's in a much more positive place now.

Jun 25, 2009

Well that is pretty hard to do when you are in contract to do a show with someone...LOL. Every day I would hear more and more hurtful things this woman would say about me. It wasn't just your average "she's a bitch" or "she's a goldigger." It was some heavy hurtful stuff. I will NEVER go into detail with any of this. That would only give it LIFE. Why would I do something like that to rumors that were so outrageous and far the truth? If you notice I NEVER once in any of my interviews indulged the rumors about Danielle either. I would only comment on what I saw with my own eyes. The book was a fact, not a rumor and even then I only touched on it and said it seems she did some horrible things in her past, and again - SHE CHOSE TO BRING THIS BOOK PUBLIC.

I quickly found myself going to a negative place even before the cameras starting rolling because of this. That is when I decided to put out an olive branch to Danielle. I wrote her a very nice letter saying let's just agree to disagree on certain things, but show our daughters how grown woman should behave and treat one an other. Along with the letter I gave her a copy of The Power of Now.

Nothing...no response. I was shocked. All that followed was more anger towards me. It was so frustrating. I would try and go about my days working my ass off, dealing with my daughter growing up and my house falling apart. I had this CONSTANT thorn in my side named Danielle, fueled by a relationship with my sister-in-law Jacqueline that exploding in front of my eyes.

What people didn't know and cameras never caught is that Jacqueline and I didn't speak throughout most of the filming. If she had a problem with me as Danielle insinuated in the reunion PRE-Danielle, I had NO CLUE. If that were the case, why would I ever want to do this show with her? Why would I give her a fertility bracelet in hopes of her conceiving? Why would I give her a genuine hug her at CJ's birthday party? Why would she be invited to the first episode's girls' night out with MY girlfriends? But most importantly, why would I feel comfortable talking about Danielle WITH her? My problem with Jacqueline was because she continued a friendship with someone who had a mission to destroy me. It quickly became clear to me that Jacqueline was Team Danielle and that was hurtful beyond words for me. Jacqueline and I were friends, GOOD friends, not just sister-in-laws. It was also hurtful to my parents to see us fight. My brother Chris and I were as close as siblings could be. It was heartbreaking for them to watch this go down. At the same time, my battle between career and home life was weighing heavily on my mind, my mom was having serious surgery and the stress of filming was really getting to me.

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Hi Dina,

You are a very classy lady and I was very impressed by you on the reunion show. It sounds like you are in a very good place, but be careful! Danielle obviously has an unhealthy interest in you apart from all of the other toxic stuff she has going on. I really wish they'd cut her out of the show because the attention just fuels her. This is not a good situation for a person like her and it's uncomfortable to watch her making trouble for the rest of you.

Toni

Dina- You are a very classy woman! I am very impressed with how you handled the situation with Danielle and her FAKE attempt at an "apology"! I am much like your sister....I may be small but I am scrappy....and I would've let her have it! I can not blame Caroline for how she feels about Danielle at all and I think it's great she is SO protective of her family! Danielle has ALREADY went back on her "apology" and it just proves more that your sister is right...Danielle is GARBAGE. She spews toxicity! It's very obvious that she has DEEP psychological issues! Plenty of us have had rough lives and bad things happen in our pasts but don't use that as an excuse to behave that way! My goodness, could you imagine the way our world would be if everyone used their pasts as a cop-out?! Thank God most choose to rise above it and want better for themselves instead of continuing the cycle! Her poor girls....I pray for them!

Anyhoo, you are fabulous! You and Caroline are my favorite of all the Real Housewives by far! I can tell that you are a wonderful human being, friend, wife, sister, mother, daughter, etc! Keep being you, honey!

God Bless!

Dina, you really are wonderful. I understand Caroline's feelings. I can take a lot when its done to me, but if you hurt someone in my family I go for blood. I am sure you would feel the same if Danielle went after Caroline. God bless you and your family.

Dear Dina-

After viewing Part 2 of the Reunion (last night), I think that you are a wonderful person with a big heart. For you to show such forgiveness despite all that happened shows how decent a person you truly are. I know that in time, your sister, also a wonderful person, will let go of her anger and come around to accepting Danielle as someone who has had a rough life and who is terribly misguided. Anger is much too difficult an emotion to carry around. It drains you very quickly. I know that Caroline's rage is because of the way you were treated, but give her a big hug, tell her that everything will be okay, and to unload the negativity that can easily consume her. It's not worth it. Bravo to the Manzo family!

Glad it's over? I bet you are. Everyone blogging seems to love you. Good job,it's not easy to win over the public. I think whatever that crazy bitch tried to do was probably expected. I also saw what you were doing, part 2 reunion show, playing your cards right. She is a dangerous person that has nothing to lose. I had the creeps watching. If there's a season 2 we will watch. Good luck little mama.

Thank goodness you're moving on. If only D. would!

I can't believe I'm blogging! Just think you and Caroline are wonderful examples of Mother's and what it takes to keep a family happy and laughing a lot. I am a southern belle and do a great deal of charity work and really wish I could help you with yours. Are you ever going to reveal what Danielle did to you that upset Caroline so much?

You're awesome, Dina. You are so totally authentic. You have a class and grace about you that we should all aspire to.

Plus you're funny as sin. I'm calling my cousin's new baby Grandpa Wrinkle and she's horrified! I love it!!

Take care!

Well if all the bad feelings between you and Danielle started b/c she spoke to you in a way that you didn't like; why could't you tell her that? I don't know, maybe you did; but from what it looked like as a viewer, Danielle was just ganged up on by you and your family and she deserved the opportunity to explain. I'm sorry that Jacqueline's friendship w/ Danielle came between you two but I don't think it should have. Plenty of people have friends that do not get along with each other and it is totally possible to separate the two. I realize there was a lot more going on than what I, as a viewer knew. All I can comment on is what I saw and from my pov - you and your family never gave her a chance, no compassion, no empathy, no sympathy, no understanding.

Hi Dina, I'm a 35 year old wife and mother of 2. We have toxic neighbors and they just love to infect others. It is a very sad situation and very hard to not get sucked into the negativity. I recently explained to my small children that it is much better to just "kill them with kindness". It is so much better when you just ignore it and prove that you are a better person. Danielle can't even hold a candle to you and your family. Jacqueline will figure it out sooner or later. In the mean time, keep your head held high and don't get sucked in. It's just what she wants. You are so above her, I wouldn't even give it another thought. Peace to you.

Hey Dina I watched the both of the reunions and I think that your a very classy woman who held your own like you always do. I don't believe one thing that Danielle said she is so fake and a very very big liar! She likes to start trouble and that she did she stirred up alot of nonsense. What is all comes down to is that she wants to be like all of you woman who have it all!!!! I don't like her at all I am with Caroline on that one she is fake and will not change! You keep being strong and doing your thang. Your a good mother and wife and friend and sister you know who you are,but poor Danielle is still trying to find herself we will pray for her lol that is what you told her at the finale I was laughing hard! You rock girl stay sweet and be blessed.

Dina,

I am so proud of you that you are able to forgive. When you do not forgive you are giving that other person power over your life. I am so happy that you are able to forgive Danielle for the hurtful things she has done to you. As for Caroline she may never forgive Danielle but that is her choice and I am happy to see you doing something aside from your sister. It is nice to see that you do not agree with everything. I think from now on you should concentrate on what is most important in your life and keep the drama out of it! Life is too short and I am sorry that you and your family had to go through this for the "entertainment" of viewers at home. We do not know what you go through and we will never know. Keep up the good work and good luck with Project Ladybug! Stay positive and hopeful!

Hi Dina,

You've been one of my favorites all along. You're "reserved" which is an east coast trait. Don't apologize to anyone for being yourself.

It's fine to feel that Danielle is telling the truth that she's "broken" etc but know she's got sinster moviatives all along so beware of her.

I'm not a blogger but I felt sorry for you and Caroline. Honestly, mean to say that but there are excons writing these blogs "hating". I was battered, you name it, and Danielle is lying. Battered women don't go looking for a fight, verbal or physically. Danielle always was looking to pick a fight. The entire deal with you, was scary day one.

Enjoy your summer and don't think of those who mindless blog hateful words...they're strange peeps!

God bless you and your family.

Dina,

I read "The Power of Now" a year or so ago, and I think that I need to read it again, because right now I am dealing with a toxic person in my life also. I remember the book as being very helpful, but I think I should review it again. I live in a small town in Montana and yes, there is drama here too sometimes. Just watching your episodes gave me insight in how to handle drama and toxic people. I so admired the way you were with Danielle in your last reunion get together, you have become a real inspiration to me. I look forward to season 2. Thank you, Sheila

You still look exactly like your yearbook picture.

Power of now is a great book,but you should read "a new earth" it is also great. this book will reveal so much about the people that you have come in contact with and explain to you why they behave the way they do, for example it talks about some people have drama driven ego's that feed on drama like a drug, you know who I mean. P.S. you kid cracks me up.

Hi Dina,

I want to say THANK YOU!!! You are an amazing woman and I hope that Lexi and your husband will always treasure that. I just discovered these blogs about a week ago, and I have watched every episode faithfully. When I read your blogs I find them inspiring and they remind me to believe and be in spirit especially when I've lost track. I give you credit for being on the show and hold your composure and strength! I have become more spiritual in the past year, I am 23. One person that helped me is Jim Fargiano and his book, "The Spoken Words of Spirit." He has a website jimfargiano.com and he posts new blogs everyday which are messages that he receives from spirit. He is very inspiring and if you are ever having a negative day his blogs will lift your spirits and remind you of all the good you deserve.

Sincerely, Chelsea W. Bayport, NY

Dina, I think that you put it perfectly on the Last Supper show...Danielle needs someone to pray for her. She really is crazy and needs both divine intervention along with the help of a psychiatrist. If the things that she claimed to have happened in her childhood and first marriage are true, then that is a horrible thing and no one deserves that, but this is not something that should be rehashed with the Real Housewives at every gathering. I think she is an attention whore that really just wants everyone to feel sorry for her. A true survivor wants to address concerns that others have about their past and prove to everyone including themselves that these situations do not define who they are. Lastly, I was a Long Island girl for the first 22 years of my life. I just loved the show. It reminds me of home (minus all of the money...lol) which I miss dearly, although I have a wonderful life with my husband and a baby boy on the way. Family is everything to us and we come from a mostly Italian family that loves each other hard and fights with each other hard. I understand how the dynamic of that sort of family works and the show definitely reminded me of how much I miss NY and my family that is still there. Thanks for letting us peak into your lives, both the highs and the lows. I am glad that you are at a better place and realize that people can only bring you to a bad place if you allow them to.

Dina, I admire you for trying to reach out to a place that makes your life more peaceful. You come across as a classy lady who really is trying to be a productive person. Your contribution to your charity shows that you are willing to give back. You are setting a good example for your daughter. I can only imagine what rumors are being spread by Danielle about you! No one with an ounce of moral fiber gives a dam. You and your family have something no one can take away. A strong alliance that only gets stronger with time. Danielle is too poisoned by her past to appreciate that, so she chooses to try to destroy that. Let it go!!!!

I applaud you and will pray for your entire family to have good things happen from now on.

Jean

DINA...HELLO I JUST WANTED TO TELL U THAT I ADMIRE U ALOT BECAUSE YOUR A STRONG WOMAN..

You are a classy lady. I am from Idaho and California. I do not know anyone from New Jersey but I truly enjoyed watching you and your sister, Theresa and your sister-in-law on the show. I am glad that you handle yourself with class and that your parent's must be so proud how you and your sister handle yourself's on the show. There is nothing like a strong family. You are correct to get rid of the drama Queen who is full of toxin. I was raised with someone just like Danielle and it really messed me up for a long time. I was so happy when this person was finally out of my life and I to have moved on for the better. I hope the unhappiness on the show will not keep you away from next season. Theresa does not have a blog so please tell her that she is a wonderful and beautiful person and good for her. I loved her children and her life. Many blessing to you, your beautiful daugheter and your wonderful family. Thank you.

Dina i think you did all the right things and i have such an admiration for the way u carry yourself and ur family i only wish i could have a family as wonderful as yours i think u should write a book on how u keep ur marriage and family together and how u can teach people the confidence u have i loook up to you and think ur great !!!!!

Dina, I have been watching the various state housewives for awhile and I must admit the NJ Housewives was the absolute best. I would love to know what Danielle did that none of you want to talk about. I am sure your reasons are for the best. I keep asking myself if this was a good piece of filming or is this what really took place. I love Jacqueline and just hope she starts to exercise caution when letting outsiders into her life. Danielle in my opinion is a dangerous and unhealthy person to let into one's life. I feel sorry for her children. I adore Teresa but hope she doesn't allow her anger to rule her choice of words during an argument again. Your sister Caroline is a credit to motherhood, being a wonderful wife, a loyal sibling, a good strong human being. You my dear, are making, I think, the right decision in spending more time with your daughter. I wish all FOUR of you the best in your futures.

The best of luck,

Dina,

I am buying The Power of Now LOL

I'm sure you're sick of reading these, but I just want to say your grace, honesty, and genuineness is so admirable. I never watched any of the Real Housewives (shh), but this season grabbed my attention because of the family and friendship values that you all tried so hard to hang on to during hard times. I'm so glad to hear you're in a good place now, and I am seriously going to buy that book.... then a ladybug t-shirt. =0)

Dina, I think you are wonderful and you are beautiful inside and out. After watching this season with my daughter of 15 she loves Caroline and I think her and I both think she is a wonderful sister that wants only the best for her family and friends. I think she is a loving sister to you and you are very lucky. We have a family buisness and we all work together we have our moments but all the secretarys and technicians know we love each other and stand together you are precious take care of you family we love you.

Hi Dina, I too, am another person who never blogs or feels the need to respond to a reality show. However, I felt that what I observed on the second reunion show was definitely blog worthy. It is so refreshing to see a true family unit that works, even through ups and downs, arguments and fallouts you all still remember the value of family and REAL friends. Each one of you conducted yourselves with dignity and grace. You are so right to let things go with Danielle because if you didn't then you would be consumed the same way she is. I do think Caroline is spot on though, when she says Danielle will never change because I think she is absolutely the same person she was 25 years ago, maybe even a little more dangerous because she is getting desperate. I know you are smart enough to keep a close watch on her. Bravo for having enough sense of self to put your husband and daughter first and put your career on hold. Thanks, for putting life in perspective.

Dina, Just wanted to say that I think you set a great example for your daughter with the way you handled yourself at the reunion show. It could have very easily gotten really ugly, but you showed real class and grace. One of the things I liked best about the show was your relationship with Lexi. It is clear how much you two love eachother. I liked that you were worried about random things like some funky disease from the water park in Cyprus! That totally sounds like something I would be worried about with my kids! It was cool that despite having a life that appears very charmed financially, you two girls seem to be so down to earth and real. Lexi seems like a very sweet girl, I'm sure you're very proud of her! Hope you remain in a good place with all your family! God bless you and enjoy being a stay at home mom, it's the best job in the world!

Dina, I was wondering why you forgave Danielle. I'm going to check out that book you are talking about. Obviously she is a troubled person. I meet people like her quite often and so I understand what you may have gone through. How you dealt with it shows how classy a person you are. I just feel sorry for the fact that she may be in your life with more of her drama in the future. You don't need it. She needs to get some serious help. Enjoy you daughter and your time at home while you have the chance. Your 1/2 Italian friend in MA, Patricia

I work with a woman who reminds me so much of her. She is very jealous of the relationship that I have with my co-workers and she is always trying to make me look bad. In reality she only makes herself look like a fool. Just like Danielle! The way Danielle is constantly telling everyone what a good person she is, what a great mom she is, etc. drives me crazy. In my world actions speak louder than words and trust me, her actions speak volumes!! I think you are total class act!

Dina you are such a coward. You went all over town showing everybody the book and then you hide behind Caroline. Be a woman and own up to what you did.

Hi Dina, I respect you so much, and you are a great role model for us young mommas! You carried yourself like such a lady on yesterday's show, expressions say so much and I just am so happy on how you dealt with everything!! Caroline was saying that you are bigger person than her, and you really showed it yesterday. You cannot carry anger and unforgiveness in your heart, and I'm glad that you forgave Danielle and let it go. I can admit that you are a hot mama and am maybe a little bit jealous of your fabolous life, but I love my life and am a very happy person, but anyone that says negative things to you, are haters!! But good luck with being a "real housewife" now and enjoy your time with Lexi!!

Dina; I admire and respect you and how you've handled the situatiuon with Danielle. She is very "toxic" and I hope your sister in law can see what the viewers saw throughout the season.

Hi Dina

I really respect you for taking the high road and choosing to forgive Danielle. I learned at church that the Greek for forgive means to "untie the knots". I love that! My heart hurts for someone like Danielle as I know she is really a wounded and lonely person....her tough, harsh act is just a defense against being hurt. That doesn't mean you let her into your personal life but surely we can all pray for someone that has been injured as severely as she has and extend kindness and love towards them. I know she would love to have the unconditional love and acceptance your family has and perhaps that's why she acts so desperate. Anyway I found it refreshing that you chose not to be angry and bitter towards her but instead to wish her well. Isn't that what God wants us to do? Take care.

Linda

Dina, you are the reason I love this show! I'm not saying I don't enjoy the others but you are the best!! Keep up the great work and when oh when do we get to see your handsome husband! I love love your wedding ring. Hail Mary to you!! Carrie

Hi Dina, I actually just left a post for Teresa as well. You are both so "cool". lol Good people. Man alive did you and your family go through so much "stuff" on the show. Dina Dina Dina, you have the best style ever, so does Caroline! That "sequence" dress ... can you tell me where you got that ? I LOVE that dress!

Don't let the "bummers" get to you .. That's how they choose to live life! I'm with you, Choose to Love life!

Take good care.

Two things stood out to me about you in the last 2 shows. During the last supper you told Danielle you would "pray for her because that's what she needed." And then last night, you were willing to forgive her.

I understand why you wanted to forgive (because it helps you), and that you would see what happens and take it from there.

She's already defensive on her blog which tells me the apology with just more Danielle drama (but you already knew that).

Anyway, you are a class act and showed a great deal of character at the reunion. All the best.

Dina-

I enjoyed watching you on the show and how even in the midst of the chaos and what you called a stressful situation you maintained dignity and self-respect. I appreciate people like you and your sister who protect yourselves and your family and pay no regard to people and their diseased opinions. I have to say I enjoyed the season of the Housewives the very best of all others and I hope you will consider doing another show. Nonetheless I enjoyed watching your strength, which really encouraged me to keep pushing forward not allowing negativity to bind me. I wish you all the best with your charity and your family. Bless you.

Dina- I think that throughout the show you showed true class! You and your family should be very proud. I truly didn't want to watch the show in the beginning, but I am very glad I did. It showed that you are a real person, no matter where you live or what lifestyle you have. The closeness that you and your sister share is priceless. She is fantastic! Living a stone's throw away from you in North Haledon, and being Italian myself-I can see a resemblance with how my sister and I are close, like you and Caroline are. Keep up the great work you do for your charity and I hope to sometime run into you at The Brownstone (I too got married there). P.S. I grew up next door to Vic :)

Hi Dina-I absolutely loved the dress you wore to LuNellos in the season finale? Would you mind telling me where you got it? Thanks so much-and have a great summer! Sandy

Dina, that was a painful hour to watch but as much as I would like to know the whole story, you and Caroline did the right thing not to fuel the fire. Good Luck to you.

I think you handled youself very well in the reunion2 show. I have a new respect for you. When you accepted Danielle's apology and was willing to move forward from all of the negativity and hurtful things that was said really showed a side of you that seemed real and genuine. I hope that whole situation resolves itself and you all can move forward and learn from it. I wish you all the best and much happiness. Hope to see a season 2 of the RHWONJ. Take care.

Dina, I just have to tell you that you are such a wonderful role model for your daughter. She is a lucky girl. Your devotion is so admirable. Being a mother of three beautiful daughter's myself, I know how important it is to raise them with love and teach them tolerance and respect. You are doing a super job!

Dina, i didn't read all of your blog, because just reading the first page confirms what i have seen on tv... you don't need to justify yourself - you haven't done anything wrong. nobody should have to justify their lifestyle or choices unless they do something wrong.

i know that a lot happened behind the scenes, and that all of you are true to yourselves on and off camera, excepting Danielle because she doesn't know how to, maybe that is her one true characteristic.

that being said, i'm curious if you and the other ladies would have made the choice to live your lives on tv, knowing that you wouldn't feel comfortable talking about what goes on behind the scenes? i know that the situation with Danielle is catastrophic... but i also think for most normal, well-adjusted people it would be hard to let the cameras catch what they may and put their personal lives, no matter how drab or exciting, up for all to see completely. not many are comfortable living like that.

you four strike me as sensible ladies raising good kids and therefore it surprises me that you made the choice to go on the show in the first place. also it saddens me to see you all have to go through the drama and all it entails, danielle is definitely not worth it and you've done the wise thing to make amends and move on. good luck to you all.

Dina, You are awesome. Thank you for sharing and thank you for rising above all the drama and toxic behavior of Danielle. I wish I had a sister like yours...May God continue to bless you and your family.

Hello Dina

I really liked part 2 of the reunion show last night. I liked you and your sister Caroline more than ever too. I have recently gone through some rough times with relationships, work, ill and dying parents. Trust me if there had been cameras on me during that time, I would have made Teresas' table flipping look like a ripple. One of the great times about the Bravo TV shows is watching people go on a journey, it is like a great book, and I hope that you and your sister and Jaqueline, and Teresa are at peace with the show, you were all really great. Danielle was great too, but she is a person that a lot of people would struggle to deal with.

Thanks

All of you women are an embarrassment to women like me, one of the REAL housewives of NEW Jersey. Your little "big haired" corner of the world in no way reflects the state of NJ. I was born and raised here. I've never had, nor did i want "big" hair. How can a woman claim to have class when the words "frickin" and "freakin" have become a such a normal part of their vocabulary that they use it all the time? You do realize that this "word" is meant to replace a word that no woman of class would ever use, don't you? A woman of class would not be using this kind of language in front of her children either. And Caroline, enough about how much YOUR family loves each other. This doesn't make your family special. It makes your family one in millions of other families that are the same. My family has survived many many trials and tribulations and we've always come out stronger because of it, with a stronger bond than ever. So anyway, I implore anyone who doesn not know better....PLEASE DON'T JUDGE US WOMEN OF NEW JERSEY OR THE STATE WE LIVE IN BY THIS INCREDIBLY POOR REPRESENTATION!!!

DINA YOU ARE SO HOT I LOVE YOUR PERSONA....

The whole time I was watching the Reunion Part 2 - I kept thinking, "Dina must have started meditating or praying or something - she has so much peace.". I could see you were positive and joyful and above everything.

Keep it up - try meditation (if you haven't already) to enhance what you have learned from that book. Keep yourself and family surrounded by positivity - forgive Jacqueline and Chris - bless them and the relationship will be healed.

You taught the country a great lesson last night - KNOW THAT.

Dina!!!!!

You are such a strong woman! This has to be my favorite season of the Real Housewives saga. I love the fact that you, Caroline, Jacqueline, and Teresa are strong, opinioned, and mostly upfront people.

I'm interested in reading the book that you mentioned in your latest blog as I think everyone has issues that we allow to creep up on us unexpectedly. We can always use any help to learn and appreciate the people and objects that provide positive influence in our lives.

Best wishes in your future days to come and I wish you and your family the best of everything.

Stay strong and on course with your own lighthouse.

Thanks for providing the insight into your daily life.

Teresa

Hello Dina I'm from Ukraine, my name is Dilya.It was the interesting and very useful show. Very drammatic patern of relationships between you ladies. I do not know why but I found myself that I liked both of you Dina and Daniel, each of you have a different and reach personality, that is why you should go away from each other, but still respect each other for the what you are, and do not juge anyone in this life. This is still priority of God, we are,each of us, will be juged soon or later. p.s Does Caroline knows about this? Sorry for my poor English;)