I would first like to thank all of you who shared your pregnancy/miscarriage stories along with your happy endings on this blog. I know it's something that a lot of people like to keep private but for me it helped me in such a great deal to talk about it. I realized that this experience was more common than I had realized and hearing the success stories gave me the hope that I needed and the strength not to give up and I hope that it does the same for others. Best wishes to all of those who are struggling to conceive. I pray it happens for you as well. Be patient and don't give up if it's something you really want.
I would like to answer the questions that some of you had for me. The sunglasses I wore at my son's party and to the OB/GYN office were Chanel and I got them at the Chanel store at the Bellagio Hotel shops in Las Vegas, NV. I'm not sure of the style number, but if you call the store they may still have them or direct you to someone who does. They come in gold and silver and have quilted leather sides. The big cross necklace I wore with the turquoise shirt in my interview was a gift from my husband that he brought back with him from India so I have no idea where to find that. The navy dress I wore in front of Chateau on girls' night out was by Susana Monaco. I bought that online. The blue dress with the gold neckline I wore in People magazine and in the table-flipping scene was by AKA New York and I got that at the Maluka boutique in Wyckoff, NJ. Someone asked me how tall I am and how much I weigh. I'm 5'3" and when I'm NOT pregnant I am 115 pounds. I had two back-to-back miscarriages right before taping, so my weight was more like 120-123 while taping the show. I tend to get most of my clothes altered to fit me because my breasts are big and I have a small waist. I also usually need to shorten the length of my clothes. I hope that helps everyone!
I would also like to clear up some of the misconceptions about my in-laws. We ALL have friends outside the family. Everyone has his or her own opinions, but nevertheless it IS allowed. I was under a LOT of pressure from my family to end my friendship with Danielle. WHY? You will just have to watch and see. When I first moved to New Jersey, my husband and I didn't have our house yet, so Caroline generously invited us to stay at her house for the first 6 months I lived there. Dina and Lexi were also living there at the time. We had a LOT of fun and a LOT of laughs. Of course with a big family you have a lot of different personalities and opinions so there will always be some kind of conflict going on and someone in your business at all times, but the overall experience was great. It took some time to adjust to everyone's personality and sense of humor, because my family in Vegas is a lot smaller and different. I think when you have such a big family you don't always feel the need to branch out to new people because you know that your family will be there no matter what, there is always someone to talk to, and on top of that, you have your OWN family to run. They all were very welcoming to me. We can get on each other's nerves, we fight, but we DO get over it. They do have parties and invite "outsiders" to join in and they do give back to the community in different ways. They were brought up to be a little more cautious of people than me. They can be judgmental at times, but they tend to size up people to see if they can trust them first before letting them in. They are more street-smart than me. I tend to be more open and trusting of people. I would invite the devil over for tea if he was nice to me. We are just different in that way. I just wanted to clear that up.
You are so fabulous girl, The most down to earth and likable person on the show, where do you get your clothes? They look gorgous on you! Congratulations on your pregnancy!
You are the biggest sweatheart I have ever seen! Your only downfall is your to damn nice. I know it had to be hard to have that conversation with your daughter and knowing tons of people you don't know are going to see it. One thing I think is great about you and Dina is you have children from previous relationships. Why I think that is so great? Its because your showing single mothers things can get better. It says even though you struggle and have to work your ass off it will pay off. I'm not refering to marrying a man with money, but that there are great men out there. I have a daughter from a previous relationship that was awful. Her dad was very mean and doesn't have anything to do with her. When I finally got the courage to leave him I thought my life was ruined. Here I thinking I will never get another man because I have a baby and I'm a size 5 and not a 0 anymore. Then I met my husband and I couldn't be happier! He has been my daughters father, and treats us better than I ever thought a man could treat me and a child that isn't biologically his. To my surprise he goes above and beyond. Just today I found out that we are pregnant and even though he's raised Hannah since she was two and now she's five we get to experience this blessing from God with each from the very first step. Like I said it shows things aren't over when you and your childs father split. Your amazing and beautiful. Thank you for letting us into your life, very entertaining. LOL Plus I love your inlaws, my family reminds me so much of them. Plus I love my husbands family they are always their for me, and just like you sometimes we don't always agree but it blows over quickly. Good luck with everything!
You are awesome. My absolute favorite! Please just dump Danielle from your rolodex, she is a hot mess and seriously, is not the kind of friend you need or deserve. RUN do not walk...away from her!!!
I enjoyed reading your blog tonight. I feel for you being stuck in this awkward position of having a friend you care about who isn't as socially mature as you might think considering her past and her lifestyle. Breaking up with a man during a dinner date with 2 other couples is just tacky. What was she thinking?
I agree with you and several other viewers who made comments that Danielle needs to keep her boyfriends out of her daughter's lives until they are serious boyfriends. It's very hard on the kids to have strangers constantly walking in and out of their lives and never sticking around.
Kudos to you for putting your foot down about the car!
Jacqueline, i recently saw you on The View. Congratulation on your pregnancy. I happy for you. You seem like a very nice person and you deserve it .....
I think you're a great person that on TV comes off showing you having a big heart. Even though you say you want people to fight their own battle. You want Caroline and her family to fight the battle of properly disciplining your daughter with your husband. You want them to take it up with him. No, actually he's YOUR husband you should do that. Good show great season, as a NJ native I find it entertaining although I come from a whole other world than what is displayed on your show. Congrats on all your blessings, take care.
congratulations on your pregnancy!! my husband and i have been trying to have a baby for 3 years now and have had recurrent miscarriages.its nice to see some good outcomes like yours! AND ALSO CAN YOU PLEASE TELL ME WHERE YOU GOT YOUR FERTILITY BRACELET??? i saw yours on the show and loved it. i would love to get one...maybe it will bring us some luck. thank you and good luck!
I really understand where you are coming from with the miscarriage feelings. My husband and I have had one and we have been trying to get pregnant for over a year since that and have had no luck. Everyone I know has told me I need to stop feeling sad about it, but I can't. I feel sad all the time and it doesn't help when I see people who are pregnant and I hate that I have those feelings. I hope that all works out for you and your husband. I really hope that I can keep a positive attitude like you have.
Jacqueline, when the season started I really thought I would like you but tonights airing showed another side of you that I didn't like at all. Yes it's difficult when you are in between family and friends but to allow the kind of cattiness that took place at Danielles party is inexcusable. It was the way Dina said it about wanting to give Danielle the injections you could tell from the way she said it and the expressions on her face and then the remark about the c word was inexcusable. Apparently you don't understand what friendship is about and you have become part of the circle in every way. Be honest Dina wasn't joking & you knew it. Just look at the scene & the expression on your face tells that you knew it was awful. I just don't understand why you are making excuses now. Sorry but this close family circle is destroying the person you may have once been. Time to go back to Vegas.
PLEASE!! Make your daughter understand that high school is so important! It may seem lame now but the friendships, classes, and lessons that you can learn in high school can set you up for a great college and post college career. She is very smart she just doesn't want to try, and i think that pushing her to see it's fine to be smart and cool is okay. Guys young or old really do want the SMART, fun woman. ----love this show BTW!
Jacqueline, you are the sweetest and most sincere housewife out of the group and I think that ONLY you need to decide when its time to let Danielle go as a friend (she needs you though), don't let others influence you. I think you are a great friend, and mother and hope you stay that way throughout the season and I really hope Danielle doesn't screw up your friendship. Oh and I must say that you did not need to explain to anyone why your daughter was given a car, we all have to be the best parents we know how to be and noone should judge. Congrats on the baby, God Bless!
Jacqueline---I haven't watched the 3rd episode yet, but I did see the previews with Teresa throwing a table, so I can't wait to watch it. But I think you are 110% percent correct in telling your friend your opinion about the men coming and going in Danielle's house. You never introduce a guy to your children unless you are at a point in your relationship with him that its a commited relationship and he isn't going anywhere. You read stories all the time, unfortunately, these so called boyfriends are killing the girlfriends children. So its not so far fetched to think in today's world you have to be careful about who you are bringing into your home. I hope she takes your advice, leave the MEN out of the house and enjoy their company somewhere else. Her kids don't need to know everything, and they must be so embarrassed to see their mother on national TV discussing sexual things with these men, very unclassy.....and scary
Jackie, you are so sweet, just keep true to yourself. Danielle is a trainwreck, she is lucky to have you balance her out. She shouldn't put you in the middle with Dina nor should she say mean things to you about Dina. Hats off to you, you stay neutral. Most viewers know by now, it's all in the editing! Hopefully they won't use the editing to set you up. Blessings to you and your family on the new baby!
You are seriously one big-hearted, kind, and compassionate lady. I don't think they really make 'em like you- comparatively speaking, it's easy to say you look like the most welcoming.
And your entry was hilarious- I'm glad we didn't see you spit wine everywhere, either!
Can't wait to see how the rest of the episodes unfold. And best of luck with your soon to be born little one!
Kind regards, Alex B.
I don't think it is worth it for you to continue to be friends with Danielle. She has a very abrasive personality and puts you in uncomfortable situations, personally and with your family as well. I had a friend like her who was fun to be around and watch the "goings-on". But you never wanted to be on the receiving end of her wrath. She would always ask for your opinion and always thought she was in the right,
When I first started watching I was worried Ms. Staub would come across as a decent person. Im really happy to see you know what she really is. Your family is totally correct to ask you to end any contact with her.
Jacqueline--you seem to be a very nice person and I hope that you stay true to yourself--Do not let the show get to you and your family--You are always so positive and never seem to say negative about anyone--stay that way--I am in the middle like you..Keep your spirits up on getting pregnant it will happen if God wants it to..I watch the show b/c I like to see you and how you seem to be such a real person..thanks and good luck..
Jacqueline, best of luck with your new baby boy. You looked like you were carrying a girl (old wives tale theory). When I thought about it, it will be better for Ashley, to be the only girl. It seems like she's going through a special time in her life, and probably needs some special attention. this stage will pass, as most teenagers do give their share of trouble in one way or another. hang in there, and stay tough. Listen to Caroline about the car. The car can't be a good thing at this point. Teenagers need consequences, and they need to know that you mean business. Where school is concerned, it gets very serious. Try not to doubt yourself. You seem to carry the same guilt that Tamra had toward Ryan. There is no need for guilt, put it to the side and get tough.
Jacqueline, You are by far my favorite NJ HW. You seem so genuine, warm and relateable! God Bless ya on your pregnanacy! and God Bless you on raising a late teen daughter...yikes!!
Jacqueline I think your the sweetest! I hate that Danielle says she doesn't want you in the middle of things but she is the one who keeps putting you there! Dina is who she is whatever!, Danielle is being very clingy and very needy which isn't good for you right now, I know you have to get tired of hearing blah blah form her what about you?? Does she ever think about that? I am sorry you and Teresa's date went sour =( Danille needs to stop and think and look at her self.. I hope the baby is doing well best of luck - =0)
You are my favorite on the show. You seem to have your heart in the right place. Did Dina's blog let the cat out of the bag that you are pregnant? If so, I wish you every happiness.
Continue to be yourself and don't let your family dictate who you should be friends with. They are YOUR friends -- not your family's. Caroline said something in last night's episode that she wanted to know everything about someone before letting them in. WHY?? What does she have to hide. Hmmmmmmm. I get it.
Congratulations on the arrival of your little angel. My husband and I went through fertility treatments and was blessed with beautiful twin girls on the first try. I remember the aspirin and hormone treatments to maintain my pregnancy and know how much of a blessing these teensy little things help. I can not even begin to imagine how much it hurt to have had miscarriages. God bless you and your gorgeous family.
My husband has a teenage son from a previous relationship who has lived with us for 5 years now. How do you make a teen care?? You seem to have the same issue most parents have with teens now. You take everything there is to take from them and they don't care. When you find the answer to this mystic question please make sure to share it with all of us. It makes me crazy to punish and see no result from it.
Jacqueline, you are a very nice easy going person and sometimes being that way can hurt than help.I know because I'm like that and you never know who your real friends are until you are in trouble.Your inlaws are good people and they seem to love you alot and that's a blessing in itself. So you are very lucky to have them.I have a small family myself and I married into a big family it can be a challenge but the love that is shown makes it worth it.
You seem to be a very nice person and loving mother to your children. Please do not get discouraged over your miscarriages. I had 5 before finally having my precious Hannah. Yes it was hard and very sad, but they could give me no reason for the miscarriages. I think that was the hardest part of it as I kept thinking it must be something I'm doing. Jacquelene you must set boundaries with your friendship with Danielle. It's fine to have her as a friend, but you should make it quite clear that talking about Dina is not an option. She will either respect that or she won't. I am not sure about Danielle, but you get to choose who you like and who you don't. Remember you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family. Finally, life is not going to always be an umbumpy ride. The bumps are what make you a better and wiser person. Stand up for what you believe in and don't be afraid to say what you think when you need to. Good luck to you.
Hi Jacqueline, I admire your wanting to stay neutral and let the other housewives handle their own issues. However, on a more personal note. I'd like to know if you have ever taken your daughter to a therapist or other health care provider. I ask this because your daughter seems like she watching your lips move when you speak to her but has an inability to understand what you say. If you have taken away many of her pleasures and she still isn't getting it, then her problem may be mental. I see this as more than be spoiled. She really looks like she spaced out. Check to see if she's doing drugs. The parents are usually the last ones to know, but sit around and do nothing because something is wrong with this child and a new car is THE LAST THING SHE NEEDS.
I agree that they were a little harsh on you about your daughter's car. Everyone always tends to blame the "mom" for such things. My husband used to do the same... give my boys everything, then, I had to be the one on my broom and take it away or discipline them when necessary. Men do not like to be the bad guy. They will "yell" when the kids do wrong, but, many usually leave the bad Mommy stuff to us.. and use work/not being home to enforce it.. as their excuse. Your husband's family should have been on HIS back about the car, etc. The Moms always get the heat/have to be the bad guy, especially in families where your are the "in law"!! I know.. my husband's family always did that to me. I worked full time and did everything with the kids, school, etc. and when anything happened? It was always, how could SHE let them have this. have that, etc.. I was the only "girl" in my husband's family and they expected me to be the Miracle Worker.
You are my favorite housewife. You're beautiful, kind, and have a good heart. But your daughter is a little too lazy, spoiled and self-centered. But it may be because she's just a teen-ager. And btw congratulations on your baby boy!!!! All the best to you!
I didn’t see anything funny on last night’s episode. It’s not okay to just ignore Dina’s behavior. Tolerating it makes you guilty as well. Regardless of what happens in the future it is clear that neither you nor is Teresa a friend to Danielle. Of course things are going to get worse. Nobody wants it to get better. Especially you; you love the victim role. If you really didn’t want Danielle at your house then you shouldn’t of invited her. Danielle didn’t ruin anything. You made the chose to talk to her over Teresa. As far as your daughter never have your family in your business. Caroline’s children should not be in a position where the feel they can give you parental advice. Buy allowing all this outside feedback into your home you are making matters worse. Your daughters’ life should not be an open book for people to examine, judge and dictate resolutions.
I must say your blogs are extremely well thought out and written. Thanks for all the background info and I couldn't agree with you more on the family thing. I am sorry that you are constantly being put in these horrific awkward situations by Danielle. Seriously, what is wrong with this person? I couldn't agree more with your take on her dating choices and how it is affecting her children. Maybe if she wasn't so self-centered, she would take some of that advice.
Your parenting of your daughter is fine, so don't let some of these idiots tell you otherwise. Like most parents of teenagers, you are in an impossible situation and are handling it right.
Good luck with your impending bundle of joy - I"m very happy for you and your family.
This is my favorite housewife show so far! I love you Jaqueline because of your kind heart. I have been there I had two miscarriges. But dont give up!! I now have an 8 year old precious girl!
Now a word about Danielle. You have got to drop her like a bad habit. She is an attention seeking person, who only wants things to be about her. She probably never learned how to make friends because at this age, you would think she would be over the drama, but she loves it. I mean who wants to break up with somebody at dinner at a restaruant in front of everyone except an attention seeking bucket of nuts!! And you should have confrontedn her on how she came to YOUR house, wanting to talk to you about HER problems, but gets defensive when you all gave your opinions. She doesnt want to hear that she is or could be wrong. People like that are crazy and cant understand why they dont have friends. They think that others are jealous but its really that others just geniounly dont like them. DROP HER!! As far as your daughter, stop dealing with her and deal with your husband. He probably is trying to overcompinsate because he is not the bio daddy, but dont let him undermine your authority in an effort to be "liked". He is only making you look like the mean parent, you both have to get on one accord. I bet if you threaten her with public school, she will straighten up. Why should you pay for her to make bad grades, she can make them for free in public school. Of course this is just a bluff..i would not suggest you really send her there, but she doesnt have to know that..(LOL)!!
You seem like such a good person. I would love to have you as a friend. Hang in there with the miscarriage. I had one as well and understand how hurtful it is. There's just something about Danielle I don't trust so please be careful with who you trust.
Okay, so now I am a bonafide Jersey Housewife addict!! Never thought I would say that. You are by far the sweetest & most natural, honest & gorgeous one out of the group (or herd as my husband calls them). You try to please both sides. But honestly, you don't really need a friend like Danielle. She is toxic. Not to mention a little cuckoo-for-coco puffs looney! You don't need someone like that with all the drama & conflict. She sucks the life out of everyone in a 10 mile radius.
My friend's & I discuss the show over wine, lots of wine. We voted you the "GREATEST HOUSEWIFE" EVER!! We wish you all the best & much happiness! So excited to see your family grow. I swear we would throw you a huge baby shower. Goodluck with your daughter. Remember, we were all teenagers once.
And by the way, I CANNOT believe that someone asked you how much you weigh!! The nerve of the idiots. You look FABULOUS! It is your ta-ta's that make your teeny tiny frame a little bigger than it really is on TV. You ignore those jealous wenches. You look beautiful! We love you!! :)
Nathalie (mommy of an in-vitro baby boy, 16 months old)
I am not a real blogger, but I thi nk you are a geniune and sincere person. You have a warm disposition. I am happy that are pregnant and pray your continued strength thru your journey. You do have an amazing fam and Ashlee will get thru whatever she is going through. As for Danielle, I don't think she is real and that worries me. Be wise and continue to refraim from the cattiness.
I am 22 and absolutely ADORE you! Just like me, you hate the drama, dont want to talk about it, blah blah. You should have told Danielle it was not a good time when she came over to ruin your time with Teresa. You should have spent time with your kids and her and had a chill day, not have been interrupted by Danielle. Hold your head high, look out for yourself and you family, and let the BS out of your life...you're too great to be involved in it :)
Greetings Jacqueline! You seem to be the most down-to-earth, kind, fair and unpretentious gal on the show. Don't let the family bully you around about how you raise your children. They need to look in the mirror and SEE the issues with their own kids - like maybe Caroline should actually TEACH her boys how to tie their own tie for crying out loud! They are big boys now, let them dress themselves! Don't put yourself on such a guilt trip about your daughter. We all do the best we can, but the last thing our kids need is a parent behaving like a friend. They need a parent who gives them guidance, boundaries and consequences when they veer off course. Does your daughter have any career interests or more schooling in her future? Well all the best to you on the show - however "real" it is. Take care of you and set some boundaries between you and Danielle! You have enough going on in your life without having to take on more drama from someone else!
Jacqueline, I can totally relate to the struggles you are going through with your 17 year old daughter. I have exactly the same problem, my daughter just happens to be 14 years old. She focused on the social aspect of school instead of balancing it out. So she was failing 4 classes this year in 8th grade, and no matter what I took away or tried different ways of getting her motivated it seemed like nothing was working. I mean I was stressing out so badly about it my hair was falling out, I was upset about it, that if someone mentioned how my daughter was doing in school I would fight to hold back that tears. As a parent you want what is best for your child, you want them to be able to make it on their own when they leave the home and be able to be productive independent citizen's. Somehow don't know when it started turning around, she wants to design clothes for our puppies and possible sell them online and she wanted me to be her partner, since I would be the investing partner and she would be the talent. So I worked her motivation from this angle, I spoke to her as a potential investor in this new venture she wants to start. And basically asked her, if she with her business idea of designing clothes for animals, how would she go to a bank to ask for a loan? If her financial statement that she had to present to the bank looked like her current report card in school what would the banker do? Would they deny or approve her for the loan? Eventually she understood entirely what the result was of her doing so badly in school, she understood why I could not at this time in point invest in buying her material and supplies for her to start making clothes until she showed responsibility ie her grades in school. Well it's almost end of school year and I'm happy to say that those four failed classes are no longer failed except for one. She will have to attend summer school for one, but the other 3 classes she brought up to B-, C+. So she I hope continues to understand the importance of her education. I don't expect A's, would be great yes, but I just want her to do her best! And my hair is growing back:) Bless and rooting for your daughter to do well in summer school.
Jacqueline, You seem on the edge and I hope it is because you're pregnant and hormonal. If you like Danielle, be her friend and stop discussing her with other women. If they don't enjoy her company dont try to include. Have a day when you and Danielle and others who like her get together. It's not necessary to make it a contest of buddies. When the family starts dissing her refuse to discuss her. Say I like her and that's it. Be silent, like a tomb.
Learn how to handle your teenager. I say "handle" because now is not the time that you can be her friend. You have to DIRECT her to do the things that you know are in her best interest whether she cares for your input or not.
Don't try to make others, Danielle, Caroline part of the fray. Your daughter probably doesn't like that her business is an open book to all. She's not going to like that her business is an open book to you, but she lives under your roof and still needs parenting. You and only you should speak with your husband regarding the car.
Jacqueline you are just like me...you have a heart problem...and I mean that in the sweetest way possible.
If you want your husband's family to respect the way you discipline your daughter you have to treat them the way they treat you. Don't ask their advice...just discipline the way YOU see fit and tell them that THAT is the way YOU do it...and if they don't like it...TOO BAD! They will end up respecting you more for standing your ground, because right now they see you as a push over. Both by them and by your daughter.
Also, I hate to say it, but DANIELLE is the one you need to let lose. Friends will come and go...but you're family will ALWAYS be there.
I think you're great. I have a questions. I've noticed that you, Danielle and even Teresa all wearing the same necklace. The chain has a pendant that it Blue, and it looks to be a cross in gold on it. Danielle wears it all the time.
It's beautiful, can you tell me where you all got it.
Your my Favorite housewife! Your so cute and one of the sweetest people I've seen on the show. And I would kill for your figure.
Do not worry about your daughter. She'll be fine. You are a sweet beautiful mother and you simply do your best, thats all any of us can do.
I love your take on everything and your honesty...You seem like a very down to earth young women...Best of luck to you and your family