Jacqueline Laurita

Jacqueline defends her actions at the fashion show and responds to Danielle's "coke whore" accusation.

on Jul 8, 20100

 

I'm trying to get back to blogging on time, but I have been really busy lately and I haven't had the head to sit down and write about the drama on the show. I don't mean to disappoint anyone. I'll do my best to put aside the time to get my blog done in a more timely manner. I'm sorry for being tardy.

I will address Danielle in this blog, because I feel it is important for me to clarify the events leading up to this point and how it all really played out. The events that took place in these recent episodes need explaining. I'm not going to write a fake "love and light" blog. This blog is about what was happening at THAT point in time and how we were feeling about it in THAT moment.

I enjoyed seeing my sisters-in-law Cookie and Francesca on the show. I love them. I'd like all of you to see them more. Francesca is really funny and has a huge heart and a huge love of animals. Francesca works for a Vet and rescues animals, so if you ever need an animal rescued, contact her through me or Caroline. She finds great homes for them. Cookie is an amazing cook and is a great person to go to for advice, like Caroline. Both Francesca and Cookie are very down to earth. If our whole family, including the Giudices had our own show, there would be plenty of characters, a lot of laughs, love, and of course, DRAMA (just not the dark, evil kind of drama that is lingering on our show now). Unfortunately crazy drama overshadows our family's most entertaining moments. My husband has five brothers, five sisters, and 18 nieces and nephews. There's always something going on.

I think that I understand what Caroline is going through. Empty nest syndrome is common among women at a certain stage in life. You spend the most part of your adult life raising your kids and focusing so much on your family that sometimes you can lose who YOU are in the everyday shuffle. For years Caroline has put her family first and her own needs aside. Caroline is at a point in her life when she needs to explore her interests, go on fun outings with her friends, and travel. Perhaps she should even "Get a hobby." LOL. She needs to find herself again. Caroline will be alright. She has plenty of support and love. Her kids still are around often. Fortunately or unfortunately for her, so is the rest of this big family. She's not REALLY alone. I think she may have been a little more emotional than usual that day talking to Albert. Perhaps it was due to her monthly overactive hormones. I'm not sure, but I do know that everything during that time always seems more intense than it really is. That is always when I seem to analyze my life. Albert will always be there for her as well. There is a lot of love there between them. They have weathered many storms together in life and will continue to do so together in the future. Albert is not going to retire, but Caroline knows this and has accepted this lifestyle from day one when she agreed to marry him. It's all good.

 

660 comments
kimmhobbs
kimmhobbs

what games was she playing ?? I can't remeber

Angela Johnson
Angela Johnson

I agree with this blogger. I love watching this show, I love all the girls, but I think Danielle has many, many, problems. This is why you ladies should just ignore her and let her be in her own little world. This will never end if you don't. I wonder if all this nonsense really goes on when taping is done. hmmn?

hbam883
hbam883

You need to own up to what is right and what is wrong....You are truefully a straight up person but, you have to realize that what Ashley and Theresa did was so planned...because Danielle did ignore Theresa and she just ckept on and on, and of course if she was being attacked verbally or even mentally...shewould obviously have to defend herself. I think whatever Danielle did in her past is her past...get over it, apparently she did...so dont point fingers because there is always your finger pointing back at you!!! Oh by the way love the show...LJL

Laura Meow Meow
Laura Meow Meow

Jacqueline you are so cute and funny! Its great to hear your take on the episodes on your blog since the scenes on the show are cut down so much. The drama is addictive but mostly I just love watching the show for your wacky, funny ass family. Dirty D stressed me out! Get her off the show and bring back Dina!

BARB1983
BARB1983

I'M A JERSEY GIRL AND I WATCH RELIGIOUSLY. I THINK YOU AND YOUR FAM ARE SO FUNNY AND LOVING. I FEEL SO BAD FOR ALL THE CRAP DANIELLE PUTS YOU GUYS THROUGH IT'S RIDICULOUS SHE IS INSANE. SHE IS CREEPY AND SO IS HER FRIEND DANNY. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND YOURS AND DON'T LET THAT CRAZY GET YOU DOWN. LOTS OF LOVE AND SUPPORT

sdickens
sdickens

I'm a huge fan of this show...I have to admit the drama does suck me in. Honestly though, I think you're all fame whores. Kim D knew what she was doing by inviting you all to the same event, sitting directly across from one another. C'mon! Give me a break! She's not innocent at all.

Teresa was definitely NOT trying to be nice & just say hi, puh-lease! She wasn't sincere & if she wants people to know that she's a sweet & classy woman, maybe she should represent that when it comes to filming episodes like this one & not turn into a complete psycho. Why didn't the two of you just let Danielle walk away? If you were both taunting me that way, I would not have hung around either.

cella38
cella38

i just recently started watching and i got so hooked i went and bought season 1 i love teresa,jacqueline,caroline and dina danielle-not so much!i think jacqueline has great parenting its obvious she loves her kids and teresas kids couldnt get anymore adorable!

lee3
lee3

I think Ashley was out of line, pulling on Danielle hair.I also thimk yiur whole family needs to leave Danielle,s past alone.That is her past Ashley knew Damielle did not touch you she is a child and should leave grownup stuff alone.Teresa harassed Danielle and lied about it.I use to look at Danielle as the villian but now I see her as the lady she as become.

Kate0227
Kate0227

Jacqueline please listen to this very sound advice. Pick and choose your battles with Ashley. Your constant berating of her is going to put a wedge between you that may never be removed. Your constant going over all that she does wrong is driving her away from you. You're young and new to being a mom to teenagers. They have to experience life for themselves. I do think she thought she was defending you, I don't doubt that. You should never ask a person what they would do differently. That is living in the past, It's not healthy, not reality. What's done is done. You need to always look forward, to the future. If you have to make her look at it you've haven't done your job well. Children learn what they live. If you want Ashley to be mature, you must act mature as a mother. Gentle guidance. When your son falls and scraps his knees don't you pick him up, wipe him off and kiss his face? Do the same for Ashely. Stop being so critical. Mother daughter relationships are so fragile to begin with. They are like a fine bone china tea cup, once you get a crack in it you can look at it but no longer drink from it or it will crack and fall apart. Please don't do that to you and Ashley. Work on gentle guidance. Just love your daughter for who she is. Stop picking before there is nothing left.

Rosemary Santero RN
Rosemary Santero RN

Jaqueline, i only started watching the show recently.........i swore I wouldnt get into this..being born and raised in an italian new jersey family myself..........i like you the besy but I need to tell you one thing, being the mother of 2 daughters.............i really do not believe that ashley thought you were hit...........i really think she just has it is for Danielle and wanted to hurt her.............i dont think she meant for it to turn out as it did but I ddont believe that it was because she thought you were hit.....it was an excuse she used when she realized she was getting into trouble for it............and as for caroline.........i like her but she is not the do all and end all of things........you have your own mind and dont need her approval...........I think you are lucky that you have a husband that has your back............I will keep watching.......come see us in central Jersey sometime.........

desire
desire

i loveeee u! ur a great mom; i would love to have a mom like u. ashley needs to appreciate what she has!

&danielle is crzy get awayyy! u were smart in not wanting to go to the fashion show.

21yrold
21yrold

hey jaq

So I've never commented on a blog before so just hear me out. I am 21 years old and have absolutely no parenting skills but I would just like to say I believe your are a good parent. It wasn't that long ago I was 18 and I know I was a bitch to deal with. I can't say that I've ever been in a situation where I've had to pull another woman's hair but honestly if I thought some one hit my mom I don't know what I would do. Everyone needs to chill out with the parenting stabs because NO ONE sees what goes on 24/7. I mean anyone who watches this show cannot logically say that Danielle is any better of a mother then you. Not to trash talk her but regardless of her children- let's say she never had any she still acts like a literal fool whether she has children or she didn't. Obviously that night at the fashion show was bananas and really over dramatic but if I had to deal with an individual like danielle the way you guys do I think I would be out of words and I would probably lose my cool and just hit the crazy out of her. lol But anyway every one needs to remember your just as human as the rest of us and we all make mistakes. I agree with Dina that ashley needs a good old fashion italian beating, I've been hit with a wooden spoon and I turned out to be a pretty good kid. I guess all I have to say is love you teresa and caroline and I truely hope bravo gets there act together and gets rid of the trash their spewing aka Danielle

Kathy R
Kathy R

Jaq- There is no manual for raising kids. Don't listen to negative comments - you seem to be doing all the right things. Sometimes kids don't listen and they are ALWAYS mouthy! I know, I raised two. Also, just wanted to say you looked absolutely beautiful on Watch. You and your daughter should do a beauty book together.

kimmie32
kimmie32

I think what happened at the fashion show was wrong and that Danielle had every right to call the police on Ashley. To all the bloggers supporting Theresa and Jacqueline, Would you let someone pull your hair and get away with it? Talk is cheap, but when you decide to put your hands on someone it has gone to a whole different level. To be honest I don't know how much longer I will be a viewer anyway, because of the dullness of watching so many ganging up on one. Is this all we are going to be subjected to? Or at some point will we see resolution?

jessica marquez
jessica marquez

You crack me up!!! You really are very funny! I wish you the best of luck with Ashley and I'm glad that you seem to be more of your own person this season than you were in the first season. Also, I think people forget that you tried to be friends with Danielle and she messed that upi for herself. If Danielle really wanted to be friends with you or your family, she would have been a good friend when you tried to give her the chance. Take care.

Annette_1113
Annette_1113

Jacqueline,

By the way, I think you are adorable, so is Caroline and Dina. Please, stay true to the people you are as we love you guys!!!! I live in Texas and love New Jersey wives!!!

mamap
mamap

Just some advice before any court date for your daughter to take her smug looks before a judge pulls a l lohan sentence on her when there young like her they don't realize how the faces,and attutudes they show effects the courts very much she needs to look very sorrowful about what happened when she thought she was defending her mother

Jamie Z.
Jamie Z.

Please stop talking to Kim G. She is in no way shape or form a good person. Haven't you noticed she's always stirring up drama? She is exactly the same "bread" of person as Danielle is! Look at the situation your in now with Danielle, I see another one brewing with this woman. I would LOVE to see her "called" out on the show and it be revieled as to what kind of person she really is.

Clueless
Clueless

You're totally missing the point! Reguardless of Danielles past it doesnt give your daughter the right to assault her. It does give Danielle every right to press charges.

I think Kim G. is too-faced.... but she was in the right to support Danielle by telling the truth about what she saw. Your daughter did assault someone and Kim told nothing more than the truth.

Having her walk you and your daughter to the court house telling the truth might be damaging to your daughters Foe story... " I thought my mom was attacked" WTF ever!

When it comes to raising your daughter, you seem very clueless. . . Your parenting is as immature as Ashleys actions.

Whats happened to you? You use to be my fav and seem to have the most sense of all the women. But I think you're hanging around Teresa way too much!

WINTERVIV
WINTERVIV

I agree with everything that you said!!!! You are my favorite of the Jersey Housewives.

sheilam
sheilam

Jaquelin, if u really want to help your daughter keep her away from the bad influence in her life(Teresa). Danielle is not to blame for what is happening to Ashley, Teresa and her childish behavior at the country club is, it's very scary that she is raising four daughters. It's probably in your best interest not to spend to much time around her.Ever heard the saying " you can take the girl out of the ghetto but you cant take the ghetto out of the girl" fit Teresa to the tee.

my3brats
my3brats

There would be no show without Danielle. You have really changed from the 1st season. You become ugly. You have been hanging out with Theresa to much. Your a follower. You show no class whatsoever. It was terrible what your daughter did to Danielle. I dont believe her when she says she thought Danielle hit you! Your daughter has lied many of times and this time she is just saying that to justify what she has done. She is an adult not a child. Danielle did nothing to deserve what happened. I really use to like you, but you have changed. Stop hanging out with someone who has so much hate in their heart. It's rubbing off on you. You and Theresa really look bad! Show some class.

gab12
gab12

i think Ashleys thought was right but her action was rong

mmvb
mmvb

I do understand that you are heartbroken watching your child in trouble. I wish that she would realize how her actions are hurting you.

I also understand that you want to blame Danielle for Ashley's actions, ("...she will do anything she can to destroy our family..." and other similar remarks)

Whether Danielle is a saint or a sinner is not the point here. The point is only that your daughter became physical. It was her decision to become physical....."I can do anything that I want to do to her", is what she said to your husband.

Please just convince the child to sincerely apologize to Danielle and stay away from her. They are like oil and water.

Now the courts will teach her self-control, and that is sad.

But, please stop making excuses for her actions.

pr
pr

Hi Jaqueline, well I just want to say that you are being played by Kim G! Why do you allow for her to talk to you! Stop talking to her! She's a hypocrite, a liar and a wannabe! She is a snake and you need to be more intelligent and stop allowing that nastiness around you! Seeing her come to your house unexpecttedly is the nerve of her! You now need to focus on your daughter and what she has to confront. Stop being so nice to that woman! Put your foot down once and for all!

Maliapika
Maliapika

I was impressed when you confronted KimG at your front door. I loved what you said to her when you invited her in and again when you sat down with her. You were right! She is not a friend when she incourages, agrees with, and instigates Danielle behind you back. I'm still confused as to why she is in every scene oh yeah ......that's because she needs to insert herself into your lives so she can spread the drama. Now I'm curious does she stalk the camera people around town so she can show-up, spread gossip, and cause drama? Whew....she's almost as scary as Dannielle and she's not even a Housewife of New Jersey. Say Bye-Bye to her!

summer2010
summer2010

So I never post comments on these blogs but I felt like I had to comment after this last episode. I find it extremely baffling that Ashley has no concept of what is going on. I also absolutely do not beleive she felt her mother was threatened by Danielle...that is an excuse and that is it. She was so proud of what she had done and lets be real there is no way that if her mother had been hit that others would not have intervened immediately..not to mention Danielle was running. With that being said there is no question that Danielle is a drama queen and she often exaggerates but she has a right to press charges when someone assaults her. How different would everyone react if the tables had been turned and Danielle ripped out Ashley's hair? Teresa completely instigated this whole situation and I am surprised no one is saying to her "why did you start this??!!" I don't usually agree with anything Danielle says but I think she hit the nail on the head when she stated that Ashley is desperately trying to fit in. I believe Ashley is a very insecure young woman and has gotten caught up in how she appears on television as well as a desire to stand out in her family. One last thought it is also beyond my comprehension that the entire cast is constantly saying they want nothing to do with Danielle but constantly talk about her? They also take absoltely no responsibility for their actions in everything that happens. Do you all have nothing else going on in your lives??

rissa
rissa

Jacqueline,

I thought you were okay at 1st, but after seeing you behave so immaturely on watch what happens live, I see where Ashley gets her mess from. You say she needs to suffer the consequences of her actions, yet, you run around like a chicken with her head cut off worrying about her suffering the consequences of her actions. I like your husband because he tells it like it is.

History Repeats...
History Repeats...

I can't help but wonder if there was someone just like Danielle in her past that "pushed her buttons" to the point that she (as you said) "beat someone with a 9 mm pistol". I don't wish this for anyone, not even Danielle, but what if a group of women Ashley tried to fit in with brought up her assault record 25 years later? She may bring it to fruition herself (like you say D voluntarily introduced the book) but how would that make you feel as a mother if someone chased Ashley through a few hundred people (even if they all hated her) calling her horrible things that don't even apply to her life now, but were just mistakes of her past? Excuses may rationalize that night for you, but when Ashley finds herself in a similar situation later in life, those people won't be there to make excuses for her. I can't compare Ashley to Danielle by any means (pls don't take the comment that way)- but isn't it obvious how violence perpetuates itself?

new yorker
new yorker

Jacqueline, hang in there, dont bother with them, you and caroline are the good ones that stay out of trouble. I understand that your trying to set a good example for your kids. No offense but Ashley needs to be taught a lesson because she shouldve stayed out of it, it wasnt her fight. Actually it wasnt anybodys fight? Anyway, WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK!

Viewer from Maryland
Viewer from Maryland

Take Caroline's advice and stay away from D. She is nothing but trouble. Hold your head up high and surround yourself with your family. Cut Kim G out also. She is not to be trusted. Those that know you will not believe D's lies. And you will prove those lies wrong just by being you. Everyone will see D for who she really is. She is so jealous of your whole family and cannot stand that she cannot be a part of it. Dina was smart to walk away. I miss her.

DebMcDon
DebMcDon

Unless you have had a child of 18-19-20 or 21 you really can't comprehend what they are all about. The are know it all and you can't tell them anything. That said Ashley was wrong to pull Danielles hair. Even though Danielle deserved it. At some point Ashley will get it. Kids at this age just have poor judgement. The best thing to do for Ashley is what you are already doing. Be there for her even when she makes stupid mistakes, or you can always just get her out of the line of fire by sending her out of state with Albi. LOL She is a good kid and she will eventually get it. As for Danielle....Bravo needs to fire her ass.

Tara e
Tara e

Jacqueline, please stop allowing that geriatric case into your home. She's just looking for a little extra air time.

thia
thia

I just read some very terrible postings from Ashley. I know she feels justified saying anything she feels but she needs boundaries.I am not a Danielle fan in the least but Ashley has crossed over the line from immature to bully. I'm sure she must understand that because she dislikes someone doesn't give her the right to attack.Her attack on Danielle's daughters about her personal thoughts about her mother or her private time is inexcusable.It was posted for the world to be seen and can't be fixed with an I'm sorry. I would think at parents you would put a stop to this by either your participation or hers. You seem like a kind responsible mother and would be horrified if your daughter was on the other side of the coin. You are a real housewife and now you need to behave as one.

Rigby
Rigby

The proof is in the pudding. Danielle's girls are well behaved and act like ladie. She must be doing something right. Ashley on the other hand provokes Danielle by stalking her and physically accosting her and then claims to be the victim. If my child ever pulled out an older woman's hair, for whatever reason, she would have some serious consequences. I do not believe for one second that she thought Jacqueline was hit. I think Ashley is manipulative and comes up with every excuse and lie to not be accountable for her actions and her parents fall for it every time. Jacqueline quit being a doormat and do something about your daughter before she gets herself into some real trouble. I can see that you love your children a great deal but do you love them enough to set boundaries so they may grow into adults that you can be proud of?

tcj
tcj

J -

Please update your blog. What's going on from your point of view... One thing for sure, please leave Kim G alone. She is the worse and I agree with your "brokdown set in the city comment" what is up with those ladies. please do not allow them to control you!! you are fab and stay on Ashley, she will learn the hard way i guess but don't give up!!!!!

imb4me
imb4me

Please stop lieing about Ashley thinking that you were hurt, or that Danille hit you. That is a lie, and anyone with any common sense knows that it is a lie. Is that something you all came up with after the fact?!?!

Kidherm
Kidherm

Not only tardy again...but totally MIA.

Kristine B.
Kristine B.

Jacqueline - you were spot on last night when you said "How can i tell Ashley to stop when I can't even stop". It shows that you understand your role in her behavior.

Ignore the nut - it is bringing your family nothing but heartache. Not everyone has the ability to be a manipulative shrew.

Not for nothing - don't people in NJ have better things to do than deal with this? It makes you all look shallow and uneducated.

LisaLee
LisaLee

Hi Jackeline love you and your family.I can't beleived that esqueletor went to the court house with her hoodrat friends not they only want to be on camara,lol.Because she who is a covicted felon needs protection from a 19 year old girl,oh please.She is el pollo loco for real.I am so glad you told Kim G to her face how dare she come over your house after what she did.Her face turn red when you told her come with me in my arm to the court house.

This is all done because the rejection she can't deal with it and its driving her more nuts than she is already.Coming after the kids in the family.I f i were the father of her kids i will take them away from her.I want to see how she is around her Ex for her daughter's sweet sixteen.I hope this esqueletor does not get her way, from all the lawsuits she is getting now... she won't.lol

xoxo to u and your family Jackeline.

Eye on Bravo
Eye on Bravo

What is going on here?? Everybody is hating on Danielle when they started this whole entire drama!! They dug out her past, went around town to gossip about her past, had a table flipped at her, got chased by the bully Theresa, and got her hair pulled by Ashley!! What is WRONG with this picture people?? I know Danielle is not an Angel, but lets just be realistic here people, she, so far, does seem like the VICTIM!

sha
sha

Let me say that you have a lovely spirit. Also, you and Caroline are he classcist ones. Teresa is funny. I'm a fellow Patersonian so I can relate. WE do have a tendency to fly off the handle when we're angry. Danielle is very immature and she provoked your daughter. I'm just sorry that her hot-headedness may cause her to have a record. Get her a good lawyer.

Gina Dempski
Gina Dempski

Jacqueline Hang in there I know what you and your husband are going through. She's a good girl who has just not found her way yet. She love's her family and she sould never be faulted for that, she was protecting you. The talk that you and Chris had with her was right, even though she was trying to protect you and Ashley felt that was the real point. Ashley needs to understand that her actions good or bad will fallow her for the rest of her life. I do think it's pretty pathetic of Daniele to charge her with hair pulling and I find it even funnier that the police know who she is and how wacked out she is, how old is this woman? Just hang in there and she will Ashley will find her way. Best wish's to you and your whole family.

DissedinFL
DissedinFL

Jacqueline, I really liked you before these last shows. I respected the way you made up your own mind and established your friendships. What has happened to you?? Cant you see that Theresa was at fault at the Fashion Show? She completely provoked that, chased someone and was on the hunt like a mean bully in high school. What amazes me is you to continually deny the reality because its "in" to blame Daniells. If your daughter thought you had been hit why didnt she go to you instead of assulting someone? Thats a convenient excuse. You really need to be your own person again. This show is getting old - your like the "in" group in High School bullying someone. Do Theresa a favor and buy her a grammer book. I am sick of hearing her say "I am nice, aint I"

Randall
Randall

Do you not blame Teresa at all for the problems that your daughter is going through. Honestly, the entire night would not have burst into any drama at all if Teresa was not sitting out there waiting to "JUST SAY HELLO." Maybe it is time to really start reevaluating you friends to see who live the lives that you want your children to be a part of. Like it or not, Ashley became a part of TERESA"S drama.

DanniM
DanniM

Wow, so I’ve been reading tons of these comments and I see everyone saying stay out of the drama. HELLO PEOPLE!! She is on a reality show; the producers purposely place the cast in these situations to create the drama we watch. If the drama wasn’t there we wouldn’t watch. Now on the whole Teresa situation, she is her own woman. If she decided to beat Danielle’s @$$, that’s her decision, Jacqueline doesn’t need to act as her mom and stop her. Now to you Jacqueline, I think you are a wonderful woman, and mother. Don’t beat yourself up for Ashley’s not listening to you, it’s the curse of the teenagers, I should know, I am one. I think you handled yourself perfectly, you didn’t engage until there was something that was thrown your way. Great job on handling yourself like a lady. Love you all! –Danni:)

Micheala Johnson
Micheala Johnson

Sorry but no one is truly making Ashley face consequences. Every time they scold her they excuse her at the same time. She will be worse than Danielle if she keeps being excused and rewarded by Bravo for her poor behavior. She assaulted a woman and gets more screen time and her own blog. It is irresponsible. She still is laughing, taunting and justifying herself on twitter and facebook. She is allowed to smirk and think it is all a joke. It isn't funny.

Danielle is horrible to people and a drama queen but NO ONE deserves to be assaulted. There is no excuse for Ashley's behavior. I am appalled that everyone thinks its fine because Danielle is who she is. So now it is fine to pull hair and chase people down while they are obviously trying to get away? Whether the hysteria of Danielle was an act or not, Jac Teresa and Ashley were out of line. It is classless and inappropriate and in Ashley's case obviously ILLEGAL.

Real housewives, real psychological issues?