Jacqueline Laurita

Jacqueline reflects on the birth of her son, having "the talk" with her daughter, and gives her take on the Danielle drama!

on May 5, 2010

 

WOW! I can't believe we are in Season 2 blogging again. Yahoo! Good to be back! This could get long and ugly so bare with me. Let's start with that home video of my pregnancy and birth to Nicholas. Dang, I was rather large don't you think? 55 pound weight gain thank you very much! I was 30 pounds overweight this whole season so get used to seeing my chubs and love me anyway ... or don't look at me! You choose. Makes me cry every time I hear Nicholas cry in that scene. How cute were Chris and CJ bringing me flowers and CJ rubbing my head loving on me? Ashley had a fever so she couldn't get too close. My Dad was in the same hospital in another room with pneumonia. I love how the camera man (my brother-in-law Anthony) caught me telling Nicholas how we waited for him for a long,long time. I choke up when I hear that. Thank you God for giving him to us. Thank you Dina's fertility Zen Jen bracelet for sending me some of your special powers that just may have contributed to my pregnancy. Just in case anyone was wondering what else I did, I took a baby aspirin every day, sex every other day from day nine, after monthly starts,  to day 17, and then a progesterone insert the first three months from the moment I found out I was pregnant to help hold the pregnancy. Thank you Dr. Domnitz of Wayne, NJ for guiding me through it all. SO MANY people referred you to me and I'm so glad I decided to choose you for my OB/GYN.

What joy that little baby has brought to us all. It took about a whole week after the reunion show to resolve everything and begin moving forward again. The birth of Nicholas definitely reminded us all not to sweat the small stuff and that there are so much more important things in life than to be worried about nonsense. It was also a reminder of how special, important and what a blessing it is to have a family. It brought us all closer together. Who wants an innocent baby born into a senseless shit storm? AND YES, Dina was there the day of his birth celebrating in the joy with us. We are ALL in a good place with each other now.

I know some of you may wonder why I asked my daughter and her boyfriend whether or not they were being "safe" on a national TV show. Derek, Ashley's boyfriend, should be held as accountable and just as responsible for practicing safe sex as Ashley and I wanted him to be aware that WE are aware. This is a reality show and we are trying to keep it as real as possible. We as a family agreed to be REAL when we decided to do this show. I want other parents going through the same issues to be able to relate to us. We are not afraid to put it out there. Sometimes watching yourself as others see you is a good learning lesson. You get the opportunity to see things about yourself that maybe you didn't even realize. I'm always very open to constructive criticism, so I don't mind the advice if you have any. I'm definitely not saying that I make all the right decisions or choices with my kids, but I definitely love my kids and do my best with them. What you didn't see on the show or know is that I, as well as an OB/GYN, already had "the talk" about sex, diseases and pregnancies with my daughter when she had her first boyfriend. I even suggested that Danielle do the same for her daughters. Kids start young nowadays and a LOT of parents are in denial about that as well as teenage drinking, among other things. I explained to Ashley the reasons why I think she should wait to engage in sexual activity. I discussed and showed her many horror stories and movies that showed her the worst case scenarios of people that have unprotected sex. I may have even tried to tell her that it hurts REALLY bad and you bleed. Haha! The point is...I tried! You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink. Ultimately, it is an individual's choice to make and unfortunately once they have chosen to end their virginity there is no going back.(;0) Danielle) All you can do is give them the tools to educate themselves before they make their decisions. I'm sure we have many of the same concerns other parents have for the well being of their children. I don't know about you guys, but I thought that scene with Chris sharpening the knife was hysterical.