Jacqueline Laurita

Jacqueline talks about setting boundaries for Ashley and shares how she met her husband Chris!

on Jun 28, 20100

 

Here we go again. Moving right along. I think we are about halfway through the season already. I don't remember exactly what it was but something reminded me of my first boob job that I FINALLY had done at the age of 30. I felt like I needed it badly and I am the first to admit that it was ALL for vanity reasons. My naturally big boobies were sagging after I had Ashley. I HATED them and was embarrassed by them. Chris was very sweet to say he didn't mind them, but I was always insecure about them. I was happier with them once I finally got them done. Childbirth can have a way of messing with our bodies. Having children is totally worth it though, so don't let that stop you. I don't feel the size of a woman's breasts matter AT ALL, but every woman should feel secure and comfortable with their body and I was not. Breast augmentation is a personal choice and I'm all for it.

My vote for the best scene was the heartbreaking, motivating, supportive Mom scene between Caroline and Albie. I was sobbing while watching that. I know how hard Albie studied to get that far. He successfully finished four years of college at Fordham University only to go on to law school a feel like he wasted a year of his life there by missing the mark by an 1/8 of a point. That was a very tough and depressing moment in his life to get through. The message Caroline gave him was to NEVER give up, no matter what people tell you, or what obstacles you encounter while trying to achieve your goal. Always keep the faith and believe in yourself and your capabilities, work hard and you WILL get there. If there's a will there's a way. The key is don't give up, make it happen. Sometimes on your journey you may discover that what you thought you wanted isn't really what you want after all, and it may lead you down a different path to something bigger and better. To quote Garth Brooks, "Some of life's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers." So true! It broke my heart to see Albie's spirits down and Caroline so upset. When Caroline cries, I cry. It's true that when your kids hurt you hurt too. It's a horrible feeling. Albie is a beautiful kid with a great personality, great work ethic, and great family values and with the support of his family he can't lose. He WILL be successful.

I am so proud of Lauren and all of her accomplishments. I am so happy that she has finally found her passion as a makeup artist and is doing very well. She is VERY good at what she does. You will be seeing a lot more of her work in the future. She has been doing Caroline's makeup a lot and it always looks great. Keep up the good work Lauren!

Teresa's housewarming party was as over the top as she is. People had been harassing Teresa and Joe to have a housewarming party for a while. They love to entertain and they are the most gracious hosts I know. Teresa handled Elvira with her forthcoming questions and comments so well. She always makes me laugh. Teresa's dress was fabulous too. We had so much fun. Geez, Chris and I had a simple barbecue for our housewarming. Why didn't we think of flame swallowers, break dancers, a personal chef, flashing rainbow lights on the house, Playboy bunnies to serve cocktails, a DJ and a red carpet? Speaking of the red carpet, did you love my red carpet walk? I always wanted to do that. I'm such a dork. I like to goof around. I crack myself up.

 

315 comments
jbintexas
jbintexas

Hey Jacqueline, I'm the one (or one of the many)that tweeted you wanting to know how you and Chris met......What an amazing story! Thank you for sharing your story.

Jamie

flutterbyu
flutterbyu

I watch you on the show and I really like the way you treat people and just your inter beauty. You are funny and you really make it worth watching the show.

SF2602
SF2602

OMG Jacqueline

You are my favorite .. I love you on this show. You're the most real, down to earth and funniest person. You are genuinely kind and impartial. Your family is beautiful.I think you should implement the wooden spoon and give Ashley some tough love, she will be mad but the life experiences that she will learn is worth more than her silly anger. She needs to have more ambition, respect, maturity and responsibility. You should follow by Chris' example and be firmer with her. I'm happy that after so many years you finally have your little bundle of joy, he is so precious. God's blessing to you and your family.

P.S. You should be more strong willed so that even though you love your friends, you don't get sucked into their drama. That incident at the country club was totally caused by Teresa and its sad that Ashley got involved.

TGirl
TGirl

Hi,

I watch your show all the time...I think your guys are great. Are you sisters-in-law with Caroline and Dina? I know Teresa is not related. I started watching late in the game and I'm not sure. Keep Danielle out. She is trouble.

Lisa-an avid viewer
Lisa-an avid viewer

Jacqueline your doing a great job with your daughter!

I am a mother of a 19 yr old I can tell you I am going through the same thing. Children do not come with a set of instructions and we can only follow our hearts and do what we feel is right.

I have felt so validated watching you go through issues with Ashley. It brings me peace to know that I am not the only one going through this turmoil and that making the hard decision is sometimes the only options we have.

I commend you and Chris for staying strong and sticking to your values!

Mildred
Mildred

Yey Jaquelyn, You're awsome on the show keep being you it's what makes you so interesting the only asvise I have for you is DO NOT TRUST KIM she is venim really! Anyway I wish you the best and keep you in my prayers for I have 2 girls of my own and know what you are going through and I think you a a very good Mom. Take care and be blessed.

Cat1972
Cat1972

I hope Ashley is finding direction, responsibility and accountability in her life.

laohare
laohare

I can't believe (and why hasn't it been told) that Kim D and Kim G are sister-in-laws.

I like Kim D and I think she tries very hard to fence straddle. That's not a bad thing at all, it just means she doesn't want any unneeded stress in her life. Who can blame her? She runs a business and one has to be diplomatic when doing so.

You know, you were always one of my favorite NJ housewives. You seem down to earth (I hate the intro line for you) but this season, you seem so caught up in the fifth housewife that you're coming across a little obsessed and through the magic of editing, it's diminishing your persona. Your heart always seems to be in the right place, and I know what it's like to trust a friend who then turns on you.

Maybe when Ashley has a child, she'll realize the pain and suffering you go through as a mom. She disrespects you but I think her boyfriend will help out. He seems like a solid guy.

Thank God, I have a boy, they are so much easier to deal with.

jane11
jane11

Jacquelin,

Your relationship with your daughter reminds me so much of my mother and I. I am 22 years old now, but I think back when I was your daughters age and we had the same exact problems/arguments/fights you two have! I also lived outside of my mothers house after I graduated high school. I make mistakes in life, and my mother always tried to take matters into her own hands, until recently she decided that the decisions I made in my life, (good or bad) were up to ME. I like how you and your husband discipline her by guiding her, but ultimately her choices come down to her. She is young, she will make mistakes, and I just wanted tell you that I think you are doing a good job trying your best in raising your daughter because I know how dysfunctional mother-daughter relationships can be!

wish you the best!

Paloma
Paloma

P.S.

Jacqueliene,

Learn from your past mistake when you stood against Dina, Caroline, and Teresa.. in favor of Danielle. This has proven to be a BIG MISTAKE! For heaven's sake do not repeat it.

Stay away from Kim G.....She and Danielle deserve each other.

You are a better and classier woman than those two troublemakers.

Passionrredhead
Passionrredhead

I just want to say that I understand what you are going threw with your oldest daughter cause I'm going thew something a bit like you. It hard to raise a teenager but all we can do is are best and love them and try to be there for them.. and what your daughter did for you was very loving but yet wrong I can"t blame her....

Shonda
Shonda

u r truly a sweet person but sometimes nice guys finish last i feel u need to stop associating with kim g. she is playing is playing both sides of the fence an with ashley with really can you do with your child when they assume they are grown except hope they learn from there mistakes you have two minor kids u have to worry about not saying to give up on her but she speaks to you like you are a peer to her stay true to yourself because you are a nice person

Viewer1212
Viewer1212

Jacqueline,

I love the show and I have been watching it since the beginning. About the issue with D, I have to say that you, the fabulous and nice REAL housewives of NJ, must ignore all the drama and issues with D and entertain us with trips, spa retreats, vacations, activities and all that stuff. I think that, all of you together without D (you could also invite Dina!!), making those enjoyable things is the best sour medicine you could gave to D.

chipchip69
chipchip69

We are all not perfect. Whatever Danielle did in her past is her business why has it affected all of the housewives. Jacqueline if your sisters-in-law don't like Danielle so what why did you have to stop being her friend what did she do to you? what did she do to the other housewives. It's not fair the way you all treat her. If you all can't stand her then stop talking about her and remember she is a mother too with two lovely young daughters who should at least be respected.

lia
lia

i loved it when u tried to sit thru the spiritual healing so hillarious ! :)

Laura84
Laura84

Jacqueline, as much as I love the other housewives (minus the obvious villain) I have to say that you are my favorite of all the ladies. You come across very genuine and honest whether or not you have made a right choice or own up to making a mistake. I think your funny and kind, I cant imagine how hard it must be to a parent(especially to a teen). I remember being 18 and having my moments with my mother. When I look back in retrospect, I can see that at that age it was just tough figuring out who I was and all the changes in my life, no one could change how I felt, thought, or acted. I think especially being a girl, no matter what you will always argue with your mother and say things that could be hurtful or disrespectful that you regret in the future. No matter how great of a parent you are and all the effort you put in to be as great of an example you can be, I have to agree with you that its not just solely the parenting it has alot to do with the personality your child has. I dont see Ashley as a bad daughter or think your doing a horrible job (at least from what I see on the show), I see it as you do the best you can and you are human and make mistakes. If you feel like you have to out your foot down more, you usually comment about it and try to act on it to handle a situation better in the future. I think you did that alot this season with Ashley, especially during the poker night becuase you put your foot down and told her to leave. I just hope that if you ever recieve negative comments about your parenting that you just ignore it bc Its obvious you have a lot of love for her and all your kids and try YOUR best and always self reflect on how to do it better......Its very easy for people to point fingers, no one is a perfect parent and NO ONE has perfect children/parenting skills and there is nothing wrong with that.

love the story on how you and Chris met :0) Im a big believer in fate and destiny.

Keep up the positivity, congrats on your baby boy who is super cute, and you look just as beautiful as you did last season! "baby weight" or not lol

funstuff
funstuff

Jacqueline, You and your husband did an excellent job with Ashley when you confronted her about the hair pulling. She is testing what it means like to be an adult just because of the number 18. There is so much more to it than just that number and she's trying to find her place in it. The limitations that you and Chris gave her is helping her with that. And believe me, she is grateful.

Chris did an excellent job in showing her that her parents are going to bail her out, not herself and therefore, no...she doesn't have the right to do what she wants, unless she can get herself out of it.

Good job also in talking to her about being disrespectful, because she was being so. You've given her a nice life and she needs to treat you with gratitude, even if she is mad at you.

Now, to Teresa. I wouldn't be surprised that if in the upcoming shows, you and she have a parting of ways of sorts. You know that Teresa fueled the fire at the country club. You said so in so many words over and over again during that episode. You also must've seen that the version of the story she told her husband wasn't complete when the show aired.

Just watch yourself with her...don't put all your eggs in her basket, so to speak. I think she likes to hurt others.

Danielle may be crazy, but she doesn't hide it. While Teresa, she hides her real intentions.

I think you and Caroline are the "truest" people in the cast.

From Guam

uracrackup
uracrackup

i just wanted to say that i thought the episode where the spiritualist was helping you release spiritual "hounds" or whatever she wanted released was so funny...when you started playing that game I totally lost it.

I am sure you all know that D is playing you all. Caroline has it right. Theresa played right into her game and unfortunately your daughter did too. From a concerned viewer, I really think it would be wise if you all heeded the words of Caroline and Dina and did not have contact with her at all. Unless you need the ratings and this is all a play to give the viewer some good TV.

Sitting on the sidelines, I can see that she's adding all the drama and tears to slowly build her case and the people who suffer most for all of this are her children. At the very least, if Theresa could only think of D's Children, she might be able to understand that it's not a good idea to continue to try to be cordial with her. Unless it's sweeps week and then my advice would be don't wear your good heels.

I see where your daughter gets her sense of humor...you both are unbeweavably funny.

flygirlinmydreams
flygirlinmydreams

Jacqueline, I haven't read all of the comments, and I'm probably "uber"redundant when I express the opinion that Ashley's coming to your defense is certainly understandable, loving, and a totally natural reaction, especially considering the history and if the immediate confrontation even slightly might have involved her mother. Does Danielle think her daughters wouldn't have reacted exactly the same for her? It was certainly a learning experience for Ashley, but I'm sure you've expressed how much you appreciate her loving her mother to risk injury to herself. I understand your husband's telling Ashley that you most likely can handle the confrontation and consequences with another adult with fewer opportunities for the other party to take advantage of the outcome (if you understand me and I know you do). I've only watched the episode once, but I didn't see enough expression from you and hubby that you appreciated her willingness to take strong action to protect her mother although probably not in this particular incident; yet she had to learn sometime. How was she not to know better, not having experienced this before? And...Danielle should also understand her daughters would have likely done the same if they love her as Ashley does you. It was most unfortunate for all involved and unpleasant to watch, but I think Ashley will be more receptive to learning from the experience and even sincere in apologizing to Danielle for the injury if Danielle and you were able to teach her together, explaining that you two and Teresa should and could have held emotions in check. How is Ashley supposed to feel remorse if none of you adults do? Your family and Danielle should do what I think the U.S. and Iran should do---realize personalitites/lifestyle/religious/environmental differences don't have to be negatives, and one MUST overrule the other. If the differences create "uncomfortable speedbumps", no problem. Realize they're there, succumb to the fact that lowering speed provides tolerability, and move on (separately, agreeably, and non-judgmentally)! You know, it's the old, "Can't we all just get along?" I mean...really...

ameliaP
ameliaP

Just a comment on the off chance that you (jaqueline) have time in your life to read these & with the off chance that my comment would be the one that you would listen to. I am the oldest of 6 kids, and the mother of a 23 & 20 yr old (that's my refences) in addition to being a social worker for the state. The one thing that always jumps out at me in any scene in which you & Ashley feature, is the (completely normal) attitude that Ashley seems to exhibit towards you and the way she discounts (again normal) the advice/boundaries that you & Chris try to set for her. While what she is doing is fairly normal (for a 16 yr old) there does seem to be a bit of immaturity exhibited also. At 18 she is supposed to think she knows more than her elders (we all thought the same thing, remember), but at 18, she is also supposed to have enough common sense to not disrespect you or disregard you to your face also. She seems to think that she should be allowed the privileges of being an adult, ("I can do what I want to Danielle!") without exhibiting any of the maturity of being an adult and understanding that actions have consequences. I realize that these episodes are already filmed, and much of life has happened since, but my hope would be that she would be left - not without the family's support - but without their intervention - to face the consequences and hopefully learn a valuable life lesson.

LILITH2
LILITH2

Jacqueline - you seem to be the most stable of your group, so I'm asking you to think of your daughter's future. She's a mother, moves to a new town and starts networking and socializing. A member of her new "set", discovers her earlier behavior on "housewives" and causes all her new friends to ostracize her out of "fear"that she's dangerous and a "drama queen". Would your daughter become defensive, or turn the other cheek and crawl away, never to darken the door steps of "decent" housewives again?

JoCarole
JoCarole

Hi Jacqueline,

I love the Housewives but NJ is my fave, maybe cause I live at the Jersey Shore. But I do love you all, except one housewife! I never read the blogs, but I read yours today and found it very interesting. Hope this show stays on the air for a long long time. :)

Jo at the Jersey Shore

Neaki
Neaki

Jacueline, I hope you don't mine me saying, but I think Ashley is calling for some attention from you. She may be feeling a little left out. She needs some time with you and you alone. No babies, no husband. Like it use to be before hubbie and babies came along. Just make a day for her. Just you and her spend the whole day together; at least once every two weeks.She needs to get a job.

TUNISHA
TUNISHA

HELLO JUQUELINE, I KNOW U GET A LOT OF MESSAGE SO ILL KEEP IT SHORT. I USE 2 BE A LOT LIKE YOUR DAUGHER INTO I HAD 2 GROW UP. I WOULD LOVE 2 HAVE A TALK WITH HER SO I CAN TELL HER DAT ITS NOT ALL FUN AND GAME. THIS WORLD WOULD EAT HER ALIVE. NOT SO MUCH IN THESE WORDS BUT I THINK ONCE SHE HERE MY LIFE AND WHAT I HAD 2 DEAL WIT WEN I WAS HER AGE SHE WOULD BETTER UNDERSTAND RESPECT YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. SO PLEASE FILL FREE 2 CONTACT ME AT ANYTYME.

B1
B1

From one mother of girls to another . You have got to step an Ashley hard and stay there . Tonight show ,showed that what you have been doing isn't working . I like that Chris put it on the line but she really isn't getting it . I have stood in your shoes and it hard but hang in there I don't think Ashley will get it for a few years. Let's hope she wake up sooner rather than later .

monet101
monet101

love so love you tell ashley to stop disrespecting you

Hannah26
Hannah26

Hi Jacqueline, Your my favorite housewife! Like you, I love people unconditionally and your innocent until proven guilty. I admire your impartial views! Take care, Hannah

Miss Elaine
Miss Elaine

Jacqueline, Every time I happened upon your conversations about Danielle not acknowledging the birth of your son, I always want to ask....Did you include her in your mailing of announcements. Maybe she felt left out of the picture once again. Just wondered if you should have expected anything back? M E

radcat38
radcat38

Liked how you and Chris met. You were smart to set up boundaries regarding the first date and you both got to know each other before jumping into marriage. All very smart and see how well it worked. Now, on the other hand, Kim used all of you to get publicity for her business and you even posted her website! She was smart and ruthless. Watch all the episodes and see. Does she like any of you....who knows...but she got her money's worth and a lot more business.

dinasfan
dinasfan

Jacqueline thanks for sharing how you and Chris met. You make a attractive couple with adorable children. Are you Italian? How did you all decide to do a reality show??

Rebeca
Rebeca

Jackie- you are so beautiful and have a beautiful family and are part of a beautiful extended family....step it up with ashley. Please it hurts so much to see you get trashed by a child. She isn't going to really firm up and grow up till 25, you have a ways to go.....GET TOUGH> I can't believe Chris seems to be more solid in his words than you. Leave the giggles and smiles and even the tears for later.....she knows she pushes your buttons. It is shameful to see such a young priviledged girl be so ugly towards her mom. She can eat the Im sorries!! You have nothing to be guilty about....Hit her with a wooden spoon!

NJtoNV
NJtoNV

I thought your story about how you met Chris was wonderful! And it is so funny how you went from NV to NJ for the one you love and I went from NJ to NV for mine! I live in Henderson and go to Sam's Town and the Riv during the holidays! lol I met my late husband via blind date set up by his uncle when I was out there visiting during my first divorce (to a south jersey Manzo lol of all people! lol) anyway, I love your story and it made me think of my own with lots of smiles - thanks! God bless!! Christine

W
W

Oh my goodness to Diamonds from Africa. Danielle's daughter was NOT respectful when she was taking runway walking classes. Do you not remember what she said to him????

congratsgirl
congratsgirl

J- Congratulations it's a girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Andrea,eliz
Andrea,eliz

I think you are absolutely the sweetest thing!!!

MagenFaye
MagenFaye

Jaqueline, I love and adore you, plain and simple. I love that you are a mother who is in charge but in a playful free spirited nature. I think that it is hard to have a teenager, they rebel and do anything just to get under your skin sometimes to see how far they can push you and i think that during this entire show you have done a great job. Keep up the great work and forget all the haters out there cause your true to yourself and thats all that matters!

monica
monica

Jacqueline, when are u going to write your book?-Mother of three

CW5
CW5

Jacqueline, I really pegged you as the lone voice of reason out of all the New Jersey Housewives... until this season. All of you women "claim" to not want anything in the world to do with Danielle, yet you can't stop talking about her. And the last scene of last nights episode where Teresa CLEARLY set out to provoke Danielle while you sat there and did NOTHING, well that wasn't cool. All of ya'll need to seriously grow up and start acting your age. When someone consumes that much of your time and energy, where you have to spend just about every waking moment talking about or bashing that person, guess what? That person OWNS YOU. LET. IT. GO. Please.

Amazing
Amazing

I think you are fabulous, I don't know if you get the chance to read all these blogs. It is so inspiring to see somebody that is financially sound and doesn't have an ego. You're a good person, gorgeous and have a heart of gold! You go girrrl!

The Magician
The Magician

She didn't mention how she me Chris.He's soooo handsome :)

A.C
A.C

Jacqueline ~ Claiming to want nothing to do with Danielle but the first chance you get. You and Teresa clearly provoked the situation. Don't you know not to prey on the weak?

Viewer123
Viewer123

I like your husband. He comes from a rational place and he just makes sense. I hope I'll find somebody as good as him someday!

Diamonds from Africa
Diamonds from Africa

Why in the world would someone even dare comment about Christine not modelling for a local boutique "Posche" lol. She is modelling for IMG in Milan runways! I will say this again. As much as you all say Danielle this, Danielle that, her kids are honor students and the most respectful on the show!!!

Endie
Endie

Let's clarify people, Ashley is the one who made a hate page against Danielle on facebook first. She was not even on Danielle's radar before that. Which means that Danielle is not targeting Ashley, but Ashley is targeting Danielle and hiding behind the excuse of "I'm defending my family". Danielle is outnumbered on this show. What can she really do to the Lauritas/Manzos? If Ashley really wants to tangle with adults, why don't she get out and get a job and start paying for rent, clothes and food. You don't see any of the other children on the show getting involved in this situation (including Danielle's children) and that is probably because they have alot going for them in life. They are too busy doing what young adults/children should be doing - working and going to school.

Susie from NC
Susie from NC

Jacqueline- I don't blame Dina for leaving. As a 63 year old mother who has raised two children, I want you to know I am concerned for Ashley. I really think D is dangerous, and I'd like to see Ashley stay away from Danielle completely. Please tell Ashley that I think she is playing with fire! I do not want to see her get burned!

The One and only WHISPER
The One and only WHISPER

Jacqueline,

Just wanted to tell you that you are very pretty. And that I was (am) happy to here and see you be prego. I wish I had a family like yours You have a beautiful daughter and two handsome boys, and let's not forget a Handsome husband. I wish you and your family the very best. I cried with you when you kept on try in to have a baby and nothing, but know you have 3 kids and they are very blessed to have you and your husband as parents. I'm hoping to have a family of my own one day. My husband is 14yrs older than I, but I am hoping that GOD will bless us no matter are age. God Bless you guys

LKSTEVENS_101
LKSTEVENS_101

Your so strong and beautiful!! I think you are one of the best on the show and you should keep your heart open and kind as it has been. Your decision about Danielle are very right and i think you are a great lady for even giving her a chance. I wish all the best for your family and your new baby!!

Sydney*
Sydney*

Hi! You're my favorite on the show because you're just so lively and vibrant and you're always just glowing! You're such a sweet heart but you are also very firm when you talked to Ashley about the "Big D" lol. You're so precious and i wish I could meet all of you one day (:

Jillmojo
Jillmojo

Jacqueline, Of all the things I've watched and read that Danielle has said, that comment about your parenting was the most difficult to watch. You and your family are beautiful from the inside out. I am 27 and I would be so lucky to have a mother like you. Jacqueline, I am so sorry that Danielle said that about you. You know who she is better than any viewer but I felt the need as a viewer to say how sorry I was to see that. Stay beautiful and funny....your kids are fantastic and adorable!