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Jacqueline addresses the rumors surrounding the infamous book!

Jun 2, 2009

 

Well, this week there were a LOT of rumors to address, including THE BOOK! I can't even tell you how difficult it is to confront a friend with bad rumors you have heard about them, especially with the knowledge of a published book that makes derogatory statements about them. To be honest with you, the book made some serious allegations that were a little frightening to me. It was VERY uncomfortable for me to approach Danielle, but I REALLY needed answers and I felt guilty having these rumors on my mind and knowing about the book without letting her know it was OUT THERE. I also wanted to give her a chance to explain HER side of the story and let her know the fears that were on my mind. I knew I shouldn't believe everything I hear, but also I knew that there had to be SOME truth in there somewhere. I had concerns, and questions that really needed to be addressed.

There was a lot of pressure from my family to end my friendship with Danielle. They were afraid for my safety and for my reputation if I continued to hang out with her. I never did believe in the "birds of a feather flock together" theory, because my whole life I have always had such a diverse group of friends. I always stay true to myself and I'm not easily influenced by others. I base my opinions of people by my own experiences with them. I feel I have my own mind and can handle my own when I need to. Obviously it can piss other people off when I choose not to dislike someone because someone else does. It's unfortunate that my friendship with Danielle caused such a problem for my family that I love. Danielle had always been really nice to me. I was just getting to know Danielle, so it was really important for me to know exactly WHO I was bringing into my life and around my husband and children. Someone's past is someone's past, but I needed to figure out FIRST if there was any truth to the things I've seen and heard and SECOND if she was still that person today. I took some time to figure out the best way for me to handle the situation and then I decided to take the risk of embarrassing her, upsetting her, and making her angry to get some answers. The problem with Danielle is that she wants me to confront her with things, but then she gets angry and upset with me when I do. Unless I find out that she is an endangerment to me, my husband, or my kids, I will "live and let live," and let people fight their own battles. But if I found out that she IS a threat to us, I have to do what is right for me and I have to protect my family. I won't allow for a rift to grow between my husband and me if he decided, in the end, that he couldn't support my choice to continue my friendship with Danielle. Don't you want to keep watching to find out what happens?

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Jacqueline is the best housewife!! I just want to applaud you on teh fact that you will make up your own mind and won't buckle under the pressures of your family . You are a great person! Don't let anyone even your family change that!

Jaqueline, I like you and I sense that you should follow your heart and not lean toward what people may say about Danielle, she is your friend and I dont see anything that she would jeapordize her relationship with you or harm your children

ur my fave housewife!u seem like such a sweet person. dont let carolina and dina bully you into not being friends with certain people. and i dont understand the whole husband issue which you mentioned. i mean if you didnt like one of your husbands friends, do you really think your husband would stop being friends withthem? probably not

Jacqueline--you are the sweetest one of all those women..The way your sister-in-laws portray you as someone who is easily influenced and cannot think for herself is WRONG...from what I have seen so far on this show, you have a very big heart and are willing to receive anyone who wants to be a part of your world. You are beautiful, intelligent and very wise, and your sister in laws are not just worried about your safety or your reputation, they just want you to stop hanging around her because THEY don't like her!! If they were understanding to you and your needs, they would let you decide for yourself what kind of a person she is and if she is worthy of your company. Tell your sister in laws to BUTT OUT!!!

Danielle's mess had me so frazzled I forgot to add congratulations! "To a healthy, happy baby :) God Bless" Toast(hear the ching of the glass)

I am so happy that you choose your own friends and don't allow others to dictate who you spend your time with. It seems as if the family is trying to find and justify a reason for not liking Danielle whether the reason is valid or not.

You seem really sweet and you may be my favorite housewife, but you are so blind to what is going on. I suggest you take a look at whats really happening with Danielle. Your entire friendship centers around her. If you notice, she never really asks you to do something, she tells you. That forced toast? Even you disciplining your daughter turned into something about her.

What are you getting out of this friendship?

I'm telling you this because I had a "friend" who reminds me so much of Danielle it almost gives me hives. She's what I call a Frenemy. Watch out. Also, you say that your family is putting pressure on your friendship with Danielle, but they seem to be looking out for you.

Watch out!

If Danielle is a true friend, try steering the conversation away from her and her issues for a few minutes and watch how quickly the convo turns to something about her. She'll "yeah, honey" and "oh sweetie" it up. Isn't it weird that she has latched onto you so much?

Good luck and open your eyes a little more.

Jacqueline, I am very happy to hear all worked out for you in the pregnancy department. I had to have the same treatment, and if I didn't hear that you are pregnant now, I wanted to get in touch with you to give you my doctors name. I was frustrated watching, because I knew there was a treatment that could help you!God Bless, and good luck!

Jacqueline, you need to seriously think about your relationship with Danielle. You shouldn't allow her to put your family down at all. She is bringing you down emotionally and it is so obvious how uncomfortable you are when you are in her presence. You don't need that. I would stay away from her.

Jacqueline as long as someone doesn't hurt u/your family or does something that is truely terrible/unforgivable then befriend whoever the HELL u want and don't worry about what others think/feel their experience with that person could be completly diffeerent than yours, make your own dcisions!!

CONGRATULATIONS ON THE BABY! I CRIED WHEN YOU CRIED ON TV WHEN YOU DISCUSSED THE MISCARRIAGES. MY DAUGHTER DIED AT BIRTH LAST YEAR AND I AM SO PETRIFIED TO TRY AGAIN. BUT, HEARING THAT GETTING READY TO DELIVER AFTER YOUR HEARTACHE...YOU GIVE ME HOPE! I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!!!

Jacqueline,

There is such a thing as loyalty to your family. Why is there such an attraction to Danielle? I don't think you care for Dina and Caroline as much as you say you do. I also think that you try and play both sides of the fence. You talk about Danielle behind her back but then you act all nice in front of her. I think your true colors are coming out.

You have to stand your ground when it comes between family and friends. If your family is trying to make you make a decision either them or your friend, then what kind of people does that make them ? Sounds like your family is jealous as well. As far as Danielles past goes, I think Bravo had to have done some kind of background check before putting her on the show. I don't agree with Danielle 100% but, I can understand her side to.

Jacqueline~

I am so happy to hear that you and your husband are expecting! My husband and I also experienced 4 miscarriages and the doctors never found a reason why. We now have two beautiful children with the help of one baby aspirin a day and progesterone! God bless!

Jacqueline,

I enjoy watching you on the show - I seriously think you're the only normal person in the cast.

I come from a large Italian family myself so I know what it's like to have to deal when family is telling you people are no good, yet you want to maintain a friendship. Lord only knows what's upcoming for us to see, but all I can say is be true to yourself and don't give in to the pressure from anyone, be it friends or family.

Health and much happiness to you and your family.

Dear Jacqueline,

I love the Housewives Of New Jersey its a great show. I have seen that you have had trouble with pregnancy, I also have had trouble in the past I now have a 21/2 year old. My problem was that I have O- blood so when I would get prrenant my body thought it was like an infection and would fight it off causing a miscarraige. I have to recieve a Rohgam shot to carry full term. When I waa going through this I also learned that a tilted uterous ( not for sure if that is spelled right) can cause problems. I hope this helps you out, I know how horrible it is to go through something like that. I wish you the best and dont give up.

Jacqueline, I think that it's wonderful that you are so faithful to your friends and family even when rumors get dropped. As I have watched you throughout the show, I have regarded you as an amazing, sweet, and caring individual. Stay true to your heart and your intuition. You have a good head on your shoulders, and you are capable of choosing your friends. I hate the cattiness of women and the rumors that can sometimes ruin friendships as well as lives. You are not like many of the women that are featured on the Real Housewives series. You have a heart of gold and you care about every person in your life, and I think that makes a "real housewife!"

Jacqueline,Congratulations on your pregnancy!! I know you are thrilled.I love the show.Your are so sweet and try to please everyone,or so it seems.Just please yourself sweetie and everything will be fine.As far as Danielle all I know about her of course is what I see on TV,so I won't comment on her...Again,best of luck to you.

I usually tune into your show because I find it lighthearted and amusing. You ladies are entertaining. Plus, I grew up in Bergen County, NJ. I have never felt compelled to ever comment on a TV blog (really any blog) before tonight. I found your comment when you got back your chromosome testing so offensive: "Yeah, I am not broken!" I wasn't so lucky. I have had some heartbreaking losses that you could not imagine. How about some sensitivity? You are after all airing your very personal journey on television. It all just seemed so staged. You had a real opportunity to show how difficult and sad it is to deal with infertility (secondary infertility) and you blew it.

You seem to be the most level headed of the bunch. Please continue to be strong and make your own decisions and not let your in-laws make you a puppet. If Daniele is garbage time will tell, after all trash do stink. Continue to be her friend until she stinks.

I would be very nervous about a family that does not allow or has a problem with you having a relationship outside of the family.

Darling - you are so sweet. It's really hard to keep balance and be a peacemaker. Just take pride in being your self. I am impressed by how much you are willing to battle through to stay true to yourself.

I like that you stand your own ground and don't give in to pressure............Strong, honest lady!

Hi! I think you seem really nice and genuine, and your daughter is very lucky to have such a great mom! Hopefully she knows! I dated a guy during my high school years that was from Manalapan, NJ and I remember what his highschool classmates were like. Many were spoiled and unappreciative so I can imagine how hard it must be with your daughter! But I wish you the best of luck and all the happiness in the world!

Sweetie, all I can say is Dina was right. Your heart is as big as your bubbies! And that's a good thing! :)

Just wanted to say that I love the show. Congratulations on your soon to arrive baby. Babies are truely a blessing from god. I have 4 ranging from 10 to 6 months and they are my life. Can't wait to see what happens next week!!

It was so insipiring to see you and your husband dealing with infertility issues. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for over a year. My husband is 27 and I'm 23. The docter told us 95% of couples get pregnant within the first year. My younger brother was killed in a car accident Oct. 8, 2008. I happen to think that is a huge reason we have not yet conceived. We went to a fertility doc. and got a lot of infornmation but we think we'll just keep trying before any radical tests or procedures. Its was good to see someone dealing with fertility issues. You never see that!

My family is a good stong Irish family. 3 brothers married 3 sisters, (they ran out of available sisters) so another brother married the sisters nextdoor neighbor! We are all very close and loud! Family dinner every Wed. I watching you family! Its like watching my own family with less money and less heartach for loosing such an amazing guy so young!

Now I'm bawling. so I'll finish up by saying. Stay stong and don't change anything about you! Your family is a treasure! Enjoy each any over one of them. You neve know what the future holds. Good luck. Hope there is good baby news soon.

WHAT is with all of this drinking and driving?!?

Jacqueline, why were you drinking champagne with Danielle, when you're supposed to be trying to get pregnant? Alcohol at the beginning of a pregnancy could be very harmful to an embryo. If I were you I'd lay off alcohol until a child is born, I wouldn't take a chance to have a child with birth defects.

Love you Jacqueline, absolutely love you!!!!! I am so happy to hear that you are expecting!!

Jacqueline. You are a very good person with a big heart, just as your siste-in-law, Caroline, has said over and over again on TV. That said, you need to remember that your relationship with you immediate family, as well as your in-laws trumps the friendship with Danielle. Remarks that Danielle has made about Dina are inappropriate and uncalled for. Dina and Caroline I feel are looking out for you. Some may not look at it like that, but it's just their way and it should be respected and recognized. I have every reason to believe that the feeling is mutual on your end. DUMP Danielle! She's a liar and her story about how she was arrested and the subsequent criminal charges doesn't hold water. The FBI and law enforcement officials may not always be perfect, but come on...where there's smoke there's fire. I do not believe she is a danger to you or your family. But, she lacks any class of the average human being with the way she carries on about her life, her expectations, and her lack of proper motivation to gain employment in some fashion to support her children. If she's waiting for a Sugar Daddy, then what kind of mother and person can she really be. You don't want to expose your family to that type of individual. FAMILY ABOVE ALL!

Everyone can totally tell that you have a good heart. You shouldn't have to choose your friends based on what other people think. You are your own person who clearly just wants to keep everyone happy but unfortunately, somehow, gets in the middle of the whole mess. Thank you for showing a human side to this show because without you in it, it would be seriously lacking.

Really enjoy watchin U. U seem to have a very sweet spirit. Please stop allowing Danielle to disrespect you. The way she overtalks you is not right.

Congrats on your new addition!!!

Congrats on your baby boy!!!!

I love your black Nanette Lepore dress - I have it too!

Jacqueline, you are so cute! I just love ya. I hope you and Danielle stay friends, that your daughter begins to do better with her life, and that you conceive a child and carry to term because that's what you want. I think RHNJ will be an exciting show with you and Danielle in it!

Hello! First of all, LOVE the show. Just wanted to say how important family can be. I'm sure you know family comes first, always. Good luck with your future.

Honestly, I don't really know what to think of the book situation. But I think that Jacqueline is a genuine person and can decide for herself what the truth is. I can see why the family is so protective, because I would be too. However, Unfortunately You have to let other people see things for themselves. You can't make people see things the way you see them, or do what you want them to do. You just have to let them learn on their own. I don't think Danielle is a bad person. She's alittle weird and awkward at times. But when I see her with her kids, she seems like a good person underneath it all. I think she is just trying too hard to be close with the rest of the girls and it's coming off the wrong way. But Caroline and Dina need to let jacqueline do her own thing and decide for herself and quit giving her the ultimatum! They are only doing that to get their way, and thats not cool. Because it's not life & death. So.. let jacqueline do her own thing and quit trying to control the situation, when there really is no controlling it.

as a viewer of all the "Real Housewives" series and a loyal watcher- you are such a lovely, gracious, sweet lady, and you should not let anyone but your husband influence your heart but always remain loyal to only his opinions-for your families sake!!!!and by the way wasn't Dina the single outsider at one point and she should remember how it feels to be treated so poorly!!!!hang in there actually nice guys do finish first!!

Jacqueline- I absolutely love your way of life and thinking. It reminds me a lot of myself and my place in my own family. Im not Italian, but I am Polynesian and we put our families before anything. I love your attitude towards life and the way. You see people for who they are and what they are. I hope to see more on you and the other wives. And maybe a baby???

you have a really hard choice between friends && familyy. But like CAroline said "Blood is thicker than water"

I saw you and your sisters on the view..So, BIG CONGRATS on the new baby....

Jacqueline, I must commend the way you are dealing with your husbands family and Danielle...Caroline and Dina seem to be controlling...you married your husband not them...stay unique as you are and maybe some of your emphathy will sway your sister in-laws...and watch your back with Teresa, she is two face and may not be your friend...I think you all should question Teresa husband Joe and why he carries so much cash to pay for a furniture delivery...suspect?

Jacqueline, watching scenes with you and your husband at the clinic brought tears to my eyes. i had similar experiences with pregnancy and understand how you feel. i am so happy to learn that you guys will be having a baby soon! i am actually expecting as well, though still early in the game. My prayers will be with you and your family during the next couple of weeks; that little one is almost here!

Jaqueline, you are great. I love you and I think you are so beautiful and sweet. But you're right, you shouldn't go by what others are saying or by what they want you to do. GO with your guts and take your conclusions for yourself. And your sisters in law should respect that. You don't have to be like them, and if you find a side of Danielle that no one knows, it's fine. Just be cautious and don't ever let her take advantage of your friendship and good intentions to be her friend. If she has problems with Dina, let her deal with them herself. Congrats on your baby. See you next week...

Congrats on baby Nicky - I had a feeling it was the progesterone. My mother also had 4 miscarriages after me (I came no problem, then all the losses after that) and after those episodes, the doctors put her on progesterone & my sister showed up (much to my dismay at that time). I'm glad it finally worked out for you guys :-)

Stay true to yourself and the truth will find you and guide you through the storm. You are such a kind person and no matter what your family knows your heart is good. I wanted to ask you what words are stenciled on your kitchen walls? I think I noticed that Caroline has stenciled words as well. I love the idea and think I might try it as well with some of my own words. Take care and best of luck with the new baby!

Sorry to have to say this but Blood is thicker than water. You can pick your friends but, you have to live with your family.

If even your husband is saying stay away from jacqline, she is not worth a fight with him.

I do not always get along wiht my family, but no one says anything about any of them to me. My sister-in-law is my family.

i have given up a friend who called her a witch.

I love the volume in your ponytails!! How do you do that?

Wow! I understand the "family above all", but why are they making you choose? It seems that they are the ones that are pushing the relationship away. If you do not do as the group then you are out? Family should be more understanding and let you decide who is in your life or not. I am really turned off by the sister-in-laws and that if you are not with them you are against them attitude that comes across on TV.

Enough of the drama...congrats on the baby boy. And keep your head up.