Ashley's photo shoot was meant to be a good experience and to give a little boost to her self esteem. It is something she has been wanting for a long time. We decided since she was doing so well in summer school we would throw her a little bone. Ashley and I really hadn't taken a professional picture together in years so I thought it would be nice. I think at some point she started to feel a little uncomfortable in front of the camera and it didn't help for me to comment on that. I was only trying to help. It really upset her and she started flipping out on me out of frustration and embarrassment. I have just learned that it is never good to engage in that type of behavior. I have learned to keep my mouth shut and walk away before it escalates into something bigger. I've learned to pick my battles and there is a time and place for everything. I find when I do that she feels more guilty about the way she behaved and realizes how much she was out of line and is more apologetic and tries harder to control herself. I talked to her about the situation later when we weren't in a public place and explained how she could have handled things better and how I didn't appreciate the way she spoke to me. She did apologize. I was so embarrassed when the photographer was showing Ashley the pictures he took and all she could say was that she hated all of them. I felt like she was insulting his work and sounded like a little brat. By the time the photographer was ready for the mother/daughter picture I just wasn't feeling the warm and fuzzy bonding moment between us that I should have. Any thoughts of giving her the car were diminishing quickly. I'm not so sure now.
A lot of people have questions and opinions about my relationship with Danielle. We met right before the taping of the show. I learned right away that Danielle had a very strong personality. I can pretty much get along with anybody. In fact, I tend to like all people when I first meet them. I feel like I am really accepting of people. My sister-in-law Dina went out with Danielle when she first met her and from that moment there was a clash in personality. Not everyone gets along with everybody. She just wasn't Dina's cup of tea. I think Danielle was just trying hard to fit in but my sister-in-laws get very cautious of people that try to come on so strong so fast and I think they were a few other concerns as well. Danielle needed money fast, so I think there was some concern that she would try to con me for some, or use me for her benefit in some way. I think the rejection of my family angered Danielle more. I was honest to Danielle about the way they felt about her so she would just back off a little and forget trying to pursue their friendship. They had no interest in being her friend. Danielle seemed to treat me nice so I had no reason not to like her, but there was something about her that waved a red flag to everyone else in the family and I was warned MANY times not to trust her or be her friend. I knew we were all doing a show together so I wanted to make it work and for everyone to get along. It caused increasing problems within the family. There was a short time during filming where Caroline and Dina became very upset with me for continuing my friendship with her and Dina and I were battling it out about that and other things, but I NEVER wanted to make that public on the show, because I know that it always blows over quickly and I didn't think it was appropriate to air. There were times when I begged Danielle not to put me in an uncomfortable situation in front of the cameras by talking about Dina, but she chose to do so anyway. I warned her, if my husband saw that, it would probably be the end of our friendship. It would upset him and the family and I would have to choose my husbands feelings and wishes first. I won't let ANY friendship cause a rift between my husband and I. She seemed to respect that. During this taping there were numerous friends and people approaching my family about RECENT stories of Danielle that had NOTHING to do with the book. The book was a WHOLE other story. It was making everyone uncomfortable but it is not like me to cut someone out of my life unless they directly try to hurt me.
I WANT TO SAY JUST THIS, YOU ARE THE ONE THING THAT'S REAL IN THAT SHOW. GIVING PEOPLE THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT, NOT JUDGING AND LIVING YOUR LIFE IS THE WAY TO GO. DONT CHANGE, AND KNOW THAT WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS THE RIGHT THING. YOURE BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT AND US VIEWERS CAN SEE THAT. DONT BE LETTING PEOPLE BREAK U, YOU ARE A GOOD MOM, FRIEND, AND HUMAN BEING, DONT LET ANYONE MAKE U DOUBT THAT EVEN IF ITS "FAMILY"
IF U WERENT ON THE SHOW, I WOULDVE TURNED IT OFF FROM DAY 1!!! UR THE BEST STAY REAL
Jacqueline, I think your such a sweet person. I think you have had one of the most difficult spots one the show this season. I know its hard to stay true to yourself when your so pressured by people, especially family, but I say stay true to who you are. I think Danielle is odd but I think she is harmless. I think she needs a friend. Who wants to be judged on our past. Certainly not me. It was so long ago. Thats her past. Everyone has one. I know its extremely hard to stand up against family, but I think your sister in laws are wrong. Its no ones business who your friends with. You don't pick their friends. Your an adult woman! Stick up for YOU! Stay sweet and I love watching you on the show
Jaqueline, I am especially happy for you at this time because I find you very sweet and trusting. Even though your family gave you some pressure about your friend you can distance yourself. I am very glad you finally had a baby after all that heartache with the miscarriages. This may sound very strange, but I feel a connection to you and I don't even know you. You named your new son Nicholas Francis what a wonder ful name and it nmade me tear up. My brother Francis lost his son Nicholas,(who was 25) 1 week before Christmas. It's been a sad time for us. Nicholas, he just loved babies and worked with little kids in baseball. You see my brothers birthday was June 10 and with the name you chose and the closeness of the birthday I feel Nicky is now guardian angel and still watching over babies and little children. Well he's got a great job now. Congratulations from my heart,I am so happy for you and your family. Mary
Congratulations on your new baby!!
OMG~ You are such a sweetheart~~~~~~ Honestly, the BEST of the bunch!! I would love love to have a friend like you!!
Congratulations on the birth of your son! I wish you much joy and happiness. Thank you for sharing your struggles with infertility on the show. I have been going through the same and you made me feel less alone. I thank you for that.
Please do yourself a favor and stay far away from Danielle. Your family will always have your back and take you in. This must have been a very difficult lesson for you to learn, but it was a needed lesson.
God bless you and your family! C
Congratulations to you and your family on the beautiful birth of your new little son. You seem to be real. As far as some of your family -Dina and Caroline seem to have forgotten where they come from as children and Teresa just has no respect for money- and paints herself out to be an idiot in regards to the economy. Who in their right mind carries around $100,000 plus in their bag. Danielle a story all unto herself.
Hi Jacqueline ~ Congrats and God bless you and your family. I love you on the show. please always stay true to your family right or wrong good or bad they will always be your family, friends will come and good but family is blood.....There is NOTHING my kids will ever do that can change that, I will stand by them no matter what.
I LOVE your kitchen chairs with the round table, I know i could never aford to buy some like them so if you replace them I would give my right teeth for them and would pay to have them shipped to me. Let me know what you think..Thanks Thanks I will keep your family in my prayers daily. Silvia from Dunlap,Illinois
Congratulations!!!!God Bless you and your family,and all the happiness.Your a sweety.And as far as your show,just be true to who you are and don't worry what other people think of you.You seem like a person who has a strong minded head on her shoulders,but,you need to remember not all people are good for you to be around.So use caution when it comes to people,and weed out the users.Not everyone is sweet and caring like you. :)
Congrats on your new baby! J, be very careful of Danielle. She is using you for everything. At the end of the day you will probably look back and wonder why you didn't use your better judgement instead of the good heart you have. You seem like a sweet woman- unlike the others on the show-- well therea is ok.. but that Dina and mother hen caroline is another story! They are fun to watch their drama! Stay sweet and kind hearted, but be careful who you let into your life-- they may slowly poison it!
hi best of luck with the new baby i love your show am glad you did not stop talking to danielle ever one is not wit out stone
Hi there I just wanted to tell you you the sweetest person my husband and his friends talk about you all the time say how they wish all the girls were like you!!! He says I am very simular to you however I dont have the ammount of money you do lol!!!
Happy birthday Nicholas! A personal poem for your Mother who wanted you oh so very much.
Can it really be happening?
Can it really be happening? Can it really be so? Are there places to hide? Are there places to go?
Can I hide from the reality, He’s becoming a man? Or can I pay no attention To my once, “Little Man”?
And I know it won’t be long ‘Til I look up and see, A smile that says brightly “I’m grown can’t you see”?
Though I’ve raised him so carefully, With deep love and care, “I’m grown now! I’m happy!” That’s what he’ll declare!
“I love you” he says “But I must be free”! And with tears in his eyes He’ll say “Just let me be!”
And with that very last word You’ll leave him alone. For he’s grown to his manhood, He’s off on his own.
Congratulations on being a new Mom again. Thats awesome.. Kids are one the greatest gift ya can get in life I think.
Jaqueline: I really understand how it is not getting pregnant however, congrats on the baby and getting through it without negitive thoughts. I went through 11 miscarriages and still have not been able to get pregnant and the doctors look at me and say they do not know what to do or the reason why I am losing all of my children. Tell me how did you stay pregnant?? It would really help me and my husband because he is getting ready to go over seas and we want a child together before something happens. God Bless you!!
I feel sorry for you with that family. You are the only real person in that bouch. Congrats on the new baby, You deserve him.
I am soo happy for you and the birth of your son.. You seem like a real honest person. After watching the episodes I sometimes wonder why you choose to stay friends with someone like Danielle but you live your life and I know you have your reasons. I wish you nothing but the best of luck for you and your family.
Congratulations on your Baby boy. I'am so happy for you. I to have miscarriaged. So when i heard your story my heart went to you. i think you are so sweet and your baby boy will truely be loved. Enjoy your new bundle of joy.
congrats! i just wanted to say that you jersey girls are awesome! i feel like this 35 year old mother of twins just found what should be her true friends-too bad i'm from north dakota/minnesota. please let all of the wonderful ladies know how much i have enjoyed this peak into your great lives!!!
Hi Jacqueline, Congratulations to you and your Husband. God Bless you all. You are a very sweet girl, I know how you feel, because I'm the same way with people, I don't want to make waves, and I also try to see the good in people and give them the benefit. I can't cut people off easily. But Danielle should not put you in an uncomfortable position. And just back off. Just don't include her with your family. I try not to include all my friends in the same group I keep certain people separate. Well best of Luck to you and your family.
Congratulations! I am so happy for your and your family (my middle son's birthday is June 11). Stay true to yourself and everything will work out. Your family loves you that is their only concern.
Love you Love you Love you. Stay friends with Danielle. Your family (Dina, caroline) and your friend Teresa are evil people. They want to control your life and are upset that you because they can't. God will bless you for your heart that is pure. You don't judge Danielle but give her the opportunity she deserves. Danielle loves you and would not destroy your live the way your family did with the book. Sometimes we have to see people for who they are and the Manzo Sisters are pure evil. You may want to evaluate if they are people you want in your life. Teaching your children how to be evil also.
Jacqueline all girls your daughters age act like your daughter. You're so sweet. Your relationship will get better, if it works like mine did with my daughter. Just don't sweat it so much. I gave up on the housewives shows. Too boring, extreme self indulgence is boring, but you and Teresa have brought me back. I hope you two make more per episode, you should definately ask for more. U 2 are the stars!! I like watching you. You have alot of guts to be an individual. America loves you.
Throughout my life I've had many "instafriends", the kinds that feel a kinship and work their magic bringing you into their world and kind of bullying their way into yours. It's creepy I tell you and I'm sure you know what I mean. Spend your energy on the people that don't suck the life out of you. Ultimately, they won't be around for long as I'm sure you've already seen. Hopefully you shook this crazy lady.
I mean, stay positive and kind,but don't ignore your instincts. You're a smart gal with alot of wonderful stuff to lose when you deal with losers.
Don't let people make you feel bad for being nice. There are too many people running around hurting other people for that reason alone.
I completely understand you. You are a sweetheart and I wish you and your husband much happiness.
Congratulations on the birth of your son, Nicholas. After watching all you went through trying to conceive, I am thrilled you were able to have another child. Love the show and am addicted to it. You're all so real (more so than any of the other casts of "Real Housewives"). Can't wait for Season 2 on Bravo. Have lots of happiness and enjoy your family.
Congratulations on your baby boy! Your show is the first reality show that I've ever watched and I'm intrigued, to say the least. I too am a Taurus and have been in the middle of friends vs. family situations many times. You're smart enough to know that no one puts us there...we do that ourselves. You'll know when it's time to tell Danielle to hit the road. There's definitely a very dark side to that woman. You deserve a better friend.
I have to say you seem the most sincere and compassionate out of all the wives. I wanted to ask you if you could elaborate more about your difficult past. What was your past career? How did you overcome those hard times. I am 26, ivy educated, multi-lingual, single and trying to find my way in the world. I am a bit lost right now. Seeing your story is inspiring because you obviously worked your way out of a really difficult situation and honestly I think I would crumble in that situation-having to be a single mother and work. I am practically crumbling now. Since you seem like a really successful person who didn't come from money I wanted to ask you how you did it, how you got by, overcame the hard times and landed on your feet with flying colors. Any advice would greatly be appreciated.
Congratulations on your new baby. Thank you for being generous with your time.
Congratulations on the birth of your son this past week. From watching the show, one thing is certain. You are a GREAT mom and love your children immensely!! What a blessing your new son Nicholas is and I wish you and your family the very best
Congratulations on the precious baby!!! I was so happy for you when i read it! You are the sweetiest lady i have ever gotten to know. I hope you ladies do another season. I'm so upset the finale is tuesday!! I wish it went on longer! ...(p.s - sometimes i wish i dont to share the name with Danielle. She's an embarassesment to our name! lol)
YOUR MY FAVORITE !!! I love how you gave Danielle a chance despite what your sister in laws said and I love how you were still there for her when everyone turned there backs on her !! your a winner in Americas eyes and stay that way because you'll get a lot farther being a good person !!! WHY IS THE SHOW ENDING AFTER 4 EPISODES ??? THIS SHOW WAS MY FAV BESIDES HOUSEWIVES OF ATLANTA !!!!
Congrads on the new edition to the family, I know you and your husband wanted another child and now god has bless you guys with one!!! Your daughter will be fine, teenagers are like that, they get in their little ways but she does love you alot!! It's great that you can see the good in people because alot of people won't, & don't try to look at it like that. I agree with you on that she has not did anything to you for you to dislike Daneille. But her talking bad about your family to you is not right and you need to address that to her. She needs to know that yes you guys are cool, but blood is thicker than water and at the end of the day I choose my family!!! Show her that you mean that and maybe she will chill out on that! If I was you, I would just let her go because she seems to cause to much trouble that you don't need!!!
hi!!! i love the show!!! congrats on your baby boy!!! what a wonderful addition to your beautiful family! i have one question? how long were you a single mom for? and how did you stay strong enough to do it? i am in a crazy relationship at the moment with my daughter's father. thank goodness we are not married, however he has become emotionally/mentally abusive. i want to leave so bad, but that would cause me to leave the lavish lifestyle, heartache/confusion for my 3 year old. not to mention, i would have to go move back in with mom. lol. so many struggles. does anyone have any advice?
thanks, and wishing you all the best!! xoxo
I THINK YOU ARE A SWEET PERSON. WHILE FAMILY SHOULD ALWAYS COME FIRST, JUST CAUSE YOU MARRIED INTO THE FAMILY, DON'T MEAN THEY ARE ENTITLED TO RUNNING YOUR LIFE. THIS IS 2009.
Jacqueline, you are very genuine and have a good heart. Your family consists of your husband and children. Dina and Caroline are inlaws and have no business dictating who you may befriend. You can have your get togethers with them as well as Danielle but keep them separate. The best way to get out of the middle is to step aside and tell all parties involved you prefer not to discuss THEIR concflicts. If they keep it up....tell them one more time and change the subject. Just never go there again and you can have peace whether or not they do. This is your one precious life to live on your terms sweetie.
Congratulations on your baby boy!!! I was very happy to hear that you and your husband were finally blessed with another child. As I watched your story, about your miscarriages, it was very heartbreaking for me because I recently suffered one myself. My husband and I do not have any other kids, but my doctor has assured me that I am fine. Listening to how you had a lot of heartbreak in your road to having another baby, has given me the courage to continue trying and the end result will be wonderful, in God's time of course. Continued blessings for you and your family.
You seem like a very nice person and Im so happy you are a mommy once again. GOD bless you and your family.
Jac, Congrats on the baby!! You seem truly genuine. Please don't change that quality about you. In some of the other Housewives shows the women are so pretentious and full of horse doo-doo. Stay real!!
CONGRATULATIONS!! You are my favorite and I think you are adorable!!Your daughter is too!You could be sisters!!
Jacqueline congratulations on your new baby. Now the sleepless nights come your way. I admire that you are standing strong and that you will decide whether to be friends with Danielle or not. I think that she seems to be a good person and maybe she hasn't always made the right choices but haven't we all made mistakes? Should we have to pay for them the rest of your life? Yes it's very tough to be in the middle but you have to be yourself and make your own decisions or you will get lost yourself. Those other relatives aren't perfect either so as they say don't throw stones or they will come back to you and they could come back twicefold so it's really better to leave the sniping out of it. I can feel for your frustration on getting pregnant again. We had neighbors that were married for 20 years and couldn't seem to have a baby. The doctors said nothing was wrong but they still didn't have one. It wasn't until after they adopted their first baby boy that lo and behold the wife got pregnant. Then they wanted another and again another five years went by without success so yes they then adopted a little girl. Just like after the first adoption she got pregnant again! So I guess there is something to relaxing and not getting stressed as that's the only explanation. LOL
1st of all I want to say congratulations on your new addition to the family, and your story made me shed a few tears when you were having your little one-on-one time with the camera during your visit at the doctor. Even though I haven't gone through any of this personally at my age (19) I still do feel for you. 2nd I think you are raising your kids to the best of your ability and it was kind of wrong that Caroline wouldn't talk to her brother about the car but she was quick to go on you, but it was just her initial reaction to the situation and there's nothing to hold against her for that. Hope to see you guys on another season despite all the drama that may be happening and you may have been put in the middle of. Again congrats on the new addition and best of luck in all you do. Much
Congrats on your son. You seem to be a good person, but you know what right is right and wrong is wrong, and you know what your family is is wrong and the way they are acting and you laughing at their jokes about Danielle is just as wrong as they are, and if and when she sees those episodeds she will be just as hurt. You should be just as ashamed at yourseld as they are. Danielle may have made some bad mistakes but havent you hasnt everyone in their past. Grow up all of you and act your age.
Danielle is BAD news!!! She doesnot have your best interest at heart....your family is RIGHT....RUN....FAST & HARD...you WILL get hurt!!! I echo CHAZRO's comments
Oh my, just read on here, you have a new addition to your family, Congrats. :)
You are so kind and patient...Perhaps, if you want to be friends with Danielle, then, just let it be an acquaintance between the 2 of you and leave the rest of the family out of your get to-gethers, that way there wouldn't be so much dissention. There appears to be a big 'age difference' between you and Danielle. she needs to find a friend closer to her age group..just my humble opinion.:)
Congrats on the new baby boy! I am so happy for you. I too have lost two pregnancies back to back within a year..they were both during second trimester. Can you tell me what your doctor did to determine what the cause was for your miscarriages and what he did to help you stay pregnant and have a healthy baby. Thanks!