Jill Zarin

NYC's Jill Zarin knows what it's like to be a mother and a Real Housewife. She shares her advice with the New Jersey wives!

on May 20, 20090

OK ladies and gents...this is my first blog on a show that I am not on. I considered myself very objective until TODAY! I was all ready to "let it all go" like Bethenny does until I ran into 4 of the 5 of the RHNJ today at a gifting suite. A gifting suite is set up for celebrities to "shop" among fabulous companies (Michael Stars, Balenciaga sunglasses, Habitual Denim, Heelys, Solstice Sunglasses, Lancaster Skin Care, Rebecca Minkoff bags, Lia Sophia jewelry, etc) In return, these companies encourage the celebrities to use and enjoy their products publicly. In fact, I ran into Joel Hale from The Soup. I don't think he recognized me at first, despite the fact that he licked a dogs face to mimic Ginger licking my nose. I also ran into Ramona and we had fun together. As we were about to leave...I saw them. You cannot miss them. I guess that is what people say when they see us coming, but it feels different because it is me! So I don't want to give anything away, but there are definitely surprises coming. Happy ones. After chatting with them (in front of everyone in the room) I would feel bad saying anything not nice. I am torn because I feel that if you sign up to do a reality show, there is a "public permission" granted to fans to write what they think (as long as it's not vulgar or illegal.) Certainly you have all said what you want about us good or bad. So with that "permission" granted to me in my head...here we go. These are my notes...cleaned up after I watched the episode.

Jacqueline...Guilt. We all have it...it's never enough...we are never there enough...we don't give enough. I am referring to Jacqueline's first scene with her daughter Ashley. Who has the answer? Gloria! Jacqueline, call Gloria! Email her at askgloriak@aol.com. Gloria always told me it starts in elementary school, and if by high school they don't have their act together, it's almost too late. You have another chance. Spoiling your son like that with that over the top birthday party is not giving him the values he will need. It starts now. Who was the party really for? Him? I promise, he will never remember anything except that he was never told no. You have a chance, start today.

Theresa...boobie...adorable. I wish I could show her a crystal ball of what happens when you overly indulge little girls when they are very young. They become entitled women who can't take no for an answer. They often become troubled teens with no boundaries. As Gloria might say, hard to find a husband that way, but I guess that is too far to project into the future. They are adorable and I just want to squeeze them tight too. Shopping a few times a week with them? You are creating women no man will ever be able to please. Be careful. But I am NOT the first person to tell you that, am I? Jacqueline seemed upset with Ashley throughout the episode and the producers did not do a good job setting up why for the viewer. I can only imagine the scenario of a teenage girl in my head. Too many boys, too many friends, possible alcohol involved and no good outcome.

115 comments
Teresa Green
Teresa Green

Jill, You're the best don't change don't let them make you feel bad. If you have money & want to spend it you go. Bobby is the bomb too! A Real Winner!I'm a 61 yr old Georgia Peach. Love your mom too! &&&&&&&& Allie. I'm a singer & composer I love life & your family. P.S. I'm a baptist LOL Trees Are Green A Song to Sing

Sheryl
Sheryl

Would like to send you and your fellow cast members an invite to a fashion show at the Metropolitan Pavilion in October. How could I go about doing this? Thank you.

Renee
Renee

Jill shame on you, how dare you say the wives from New Jersey are not acting classy....just because of that comment I will not watch your show anymore... You and Ramona deserve each other. how classy is the way that you have behaved over a stupid tennis game... Now is Bethany, Alex and even Simon want to move over to New Jersey that would be great, but Simon please leave those red leather pants at home

Christina
Christina

If you are not in love with Jill Zarin, then you have a problem. Jill is an amazing woman, with class, sophistication, and a hell of a lot of personality. She is undeniably the favorite amongst Housewives....The Ramona's, Danielle's, Tamara's...could have been picked up anywhere and plopped onto a cast for a show called "The Real Obnoxious Women of...." I think Tamara and Ramona are the most infantile, ridiculous women on T.V! I think that Danielle is disgusting and should be on one of those intervention shows that they have on VHI or whatever! I cannot believe that Ramona is a sucessful business woman, as she appears for the most part dysfunctional, irrational, and borderline raunchy! Can someone please give Alex some respect for how well she handles herself and how well she speaks? Honestly ladies, Alex by far appears to be the most sincere, other than Jill, on any of the RH shows.

Courtney
Courtney

Jill,

Your blogs on the NJ housewives crack me up. I love your wisdom and your thoughts, they are very similar to mine and am glad to see someone else thinks the way I do. I love that you are writing a check to Dina's charity, you are the essence of a classy woman. If I could, I would make an All-Star housewife cast and just put my favorite, non-dramatic housewives together. It would not be as dramatic, but I watch more to see how each of you deal with the situations and what's going on with your lives, charities, and companies.

Terri in Florida
Terri in Florida

I was a fan but since I read Bethanny's remarks about NJ Housewives...I've lost my interest in anything that comes from her or YOUR show. I do think that NJ Housewives is more real and interesting than your last season. Oh by the way, my mothers middle name is Therese and my name is Terri...I guess that makes us relatives of the mafia too and the fact that my husband pays cash for EVERYTHING..LOL Does it mean that everyone with the first name of "Barbra" like Streisand is Jewish...c'mon now...Please get real!!! I was born and raised in Pennsylvannia and also spent a great deal of time at my parents shore house in NJ so I would be careful not to make any comments like she did or you will lose a lot of viewers. Very disappointed in Bethanny's remarks and she had the nerve to put down Teresa? I wonder if she had one too many Skinny Margarita's when she commented like that.

Viewer
Viewer

guessing why Daniel changed her name. I know great many people that changed their name for various reasons. Life of many people is far from perfect and has many twists. You do not know Daniel. I do not know her either...But she is more intelligent then most of the women on thi show. And her kids are so wel rounded...it must be her influence on them .She does not appear insecure. She has enough wisdom to talk her troubled past. In front of the world. She is confident in her sexuality...she defies the establishment...In your comment about her, you portray yourself as the quote 'establishment'...you brand the woman that you do not know...I liked you in the show...but your comments cut short of the 'smart' woman you trying to shoe the world that you are. Daniel was wishesly attacked by those women in the front of the world without even talking to her first. So, let say wshe was a stirper,,,,even a prostitute...Yet, she stands tall today compare to the 'establisment'...she knows things about Dina...but she did not 'spell' them in front of the camera...Daniel is not perfect...she obviously had a tought time in life...yet she has enough wisdom to be herself....I am dissapointed in your comments

N
N

Hi Jill, Keep up the great work that your doing there in New York. I'm a Canadian Girl and I just love watching you ladies. Jill, you are my favorite on the show. There's that one shot of your dog licking your nose, that was soo funny, I laughed soo hard. I don't know how any of you ladies can put up with Ramonna, she seems so excited all the time. I'm looking forward to seeing the new shows, starting next week. Take care. N

stills_stinks
stills_stinks

Jill I have to say thank you for bringing out stills to the lime light. I also want to say thank you for supporting your husband in this illness some thing my own wife of 19 years did not do in divorcing me when I became ill but my wife now dose and I am grateful for! The sad part is more do not support then do and too many take the easy way out like my ex and forget about the vows of in sickness and only want in health. I believe it is people like your self that will help bring this from unknown to the forefront so that others may know what we fight day to day. I hope some day they can find a cure but tell then having supportive people like your self is a blessing and I am now also married to one of the same cloth as your self. Again thank you from my self an all stills people for your wonderful support! I can be found on The International Stills Foundation sight as stills_stinks.

Jenny
Jenny

I just started blogging today!! Couldn't help it after watching New Jersey Housewives, after the New York, and the Orange County! I just had to say......I don't know HOW you put up with Ramonna!!!!!! Her bulging/rolling eye's alone would have set me off! Does she have a Thyroid problem?? Or is she just on drugs?? Anyway, I have to say that you are my favorite of all Housewives and hope all is well!!

Katie
Katie

Team Gloria t-shirts PLEEEASE!!! If they are not out soon i might be so desperate as to make my own!! :) Your very blessed to have such an incredible woman in your life! MUAH to you and Gloria!!

Viewer
Viewer

I have watched all of the series of real housewives starting with the O.C,Newyork,Atlanta,and now New Jersey and I must say each show has thier not so Lady like momments but it's all very entertaining all the housewives have me laughing my butt off My fav is Newyork then Atlanta, NewJesery and then Orange county so to all the housewives keep it up I love it oh and by the way every villiage has thier idiot and they know who they are.

Viewer
Viewer

I love you and Bethenney on the show but the rest of it is a little boring. Great advice for the new housewives. This season wil be entertaining!!

Antoinette
Antoinette

Jill, great words of wisdom. Love you on RHONY! As far as I'm concerned it can just be the Jill & Bethenny show! Ciao!

Viewer
Viewer

Jill, the voice of reason!!

Theresa
Theresa

It's not surprising that BRAVO decided to show the "lost footage" from the NYC Housewives, as all of you are "up here" in comparison to the NJ Housewives, who are "down here," as Kelly might put it. I spent over 20 years in NYC, & from the first episode, I loved you guys! I've followed every season of every Housewives show & you are the only Housewives who actually seem real & like women I could be friends with (aside from Kelly, who seems like a nut!). I live at the Jersey Shore now, but don't know anyone like the wives on the new show - thank God - & find them an embarrassment as reps for my state. Would Gloria consider adopting another adult child? My mom passed away when I was little & I could use one like her right now! Can't wait to see you all next time!

Judy-viewer
Judy-viewer

Hi Jill,Even thoe I am poor and the $16,000 dollars for the purse would save our lives-$ wise.Your Mother has taught you well.There is more to Jill than meets the eye.Your Mom looks like Judy Garland-I am named after her.Can't wait till next season.Is Kelly mental or what?Thank You for your blog.Judy

Kim
Kim

Jill,

Love..love...love you! I can not watch NJ housewives. No sense, no class!! Keep up the good work Jill.

Viewer
Viewer

Hi Jill,

I started watching RH NYC after about the second episode. It was introduced to me by my son. He just loves the show. Well, I am addicted to the show. When I first started watching the show, I just loved Jill. She seemed to me to be a real person, honest and sincere not only to herself but to the rest of the her friends. But also one who would help someone if they needed you. I assuming that you get that from your mom. When I saw her on the show (sorry I don't remember your mom's name), and heard her talking to Bethanny, I started to cry. You must be so proud to have her to call your mom, and vise versa too. Jill, I think you have it all going for you. A lovely family, a great head on your shoulders, a successful business, and a good friend. God bless you. Stay just the way you are.

Shawn from Indy
Shawn from Indy

You were my favorie RH or NYC for a reason. Ditto on your comments....especially those to Dina and Danielle. I gave Dina a small piece of my mind about how she comes across that I hope you will read when/if it is approved. I have authored a book and teach classes (locally) on Grace and Etiquette too teen-aged girls. If you're wanting to give, I would love the donation of your time (and your mother's too). Our girls would LOVE a lesson from you. The local media would eat it up! I actually made reference to you asking Betheny to leave your party in one of my classes. I love Betheny (and so does my dad) but do agree that the confrontation happened at the wrong place and time....although the nasty little bar tender girl egged it on a great deal. She was SO WRONG for that. Anyway, I can be reached at shawnmjackson@comcast.net if you feel like coming to Indy to do an appearance. It would mean a great deal to me and the girls. I'm doing my best to bring class and grace back to our girls. It has all,regretfully, been tossed out the window over the years.

Latin Mommy
Latin Mommy

omg you and bethany are my favorite. I love the advice you gave the NJ ladies unfortunately I think the only Lady in that show is Jaquline.

Toni
Toni

I am so frustrated that this is how NJ is being represented. I am a single black woman in NJ and I don't understand why Bravo can't do a show that doesn't have woman that depend on men and a show about women really trying to make it and better themselves. none of NJ has not one black woman on it. Why? In addition why is everyone rich I'm a business woman and I'm trying to get climb up the latter that is real tv not these women who aren't doing anything and have gotten rich from men.

jamie
jamie

Jill I love your comments all true!!

E
E

Jill, thank you for your comments and your ongoing blog. Your candor and your kindness are wonderful to watch, and I am thankful that you remain on the NY Housewives show. Your relationship with Bethanny is my absolute favorite! I love that you are perpetually supportive of her and everyone else, and that you are such a wonderful mother and friend. I look forward to more from the NY Housewives.

carol
carol

i think the real house wifes of new jersey are the best they tell it how it is. they will have the best ratings yet. watch and see. as for Jill um i do recall you send your daughter Ally to go to Paris, so why is that ok for you do to. thing is when you have money you get your kids what they want every one dose and now you see the new house wifes and you just have to say something. what did you think when you saw your self? and have you learned from what you saw.

Viewer
Viewer

Jill,

I have watched the show from the first season. All I can say is that you and Bethenny seem to keep it real. I see no problem in calling a spade a spade. You should voice you thoughts. Opinions are like a--hole and everyone has ones. To me as a viewer I think you and Bethenny are the two housewives that most people would like to have as friends. If you can't be honest with your friends, then who can you be honest with. Hope you guys don't change.

Rosita
Rosita

Jill, What a class act you are & your mother Gloria LOVE HER you are genuine and you come from GOOD Stock. I love how your mom welcomed Bethanny. I wish you well Bobby & Ally are lucky to have you Mazol Tov

Viewer
Viewer

Jill has always been my favorite, but who knew she had so much SENSE! New Jersey housewives, TAKE JILL'S ADVICE! She's right, you don't have do-overs with your kids. They will be obnoxious adults that no one will want to marry, much less be with. NOW is your only chance. By the time children are 10, most of their personality is set.

Sherry M
Sherry M

I loved Your blog I totally agree.I almost died when I saw the job interview can You say sexual harrassment? If a man did that oh my.I'm still reeling.You are My favorite HWNC because You speak exactly whats on Your mind.You have good values and everything You a TRUE friend and You work very hard.I would have loved to been at the reunion show lol.Ramona is so fake and superficial it's easy to watch the show and see every episode she said something completely different.And I dont like Kelly either She is rude ,when she gets old and her beauty fades she will be alone.She had no respect for anyone. okay I'm done I can't wait till next season.

C
C

TEAM JILL!! Jill Zarin, you are my favorite NY housewife and I wanna let you know that I looked forward to watching you ever single week!! You are funny, stylish, and nice all at the same time...maybe I can relate to how you are because, from what I understand we're from the same area. When u and Bethany were laying in bed in the hamptons I died bc thats what I do with my friends all the time. I think you're a fabulous mother and a great friend. And btw, NY housewives were undoubtedly the best and the reunion special was amazing!! thank u for keeping me happy every week!!

Kelly
Kelly

I love you Jill 1 Your strsight forward and you say what you think, and I like that! You make the real housewives of NY a great show!!! LOve your dog!!

Viewer
Viewer

Jill, You are the classiest lady and the KINDEST person, someone whom I would love to know. I realize you have a ton of $ and you spend it lavishly, but you also seem to have a head on your shoulders that actually has a brain in it that you use. On these "housewife" shows, that combination is rare. And I love the relationship you have wth your daughter who also seems to be the most normal, kind and natural child on the show. (That poor kid Noel is so sad - all he wants is his mother to act like a mother and be home with him, instead of going out with a girl who is 20 years younger than she. What's with that? Tell LuAnn to grow up. She isn't "hip or cool" - she's a 40-something woman who is refusing to accept or act her age. The nanny is convenient for LuAnn - removes all maternal responsibilities from her, but her son sure is suffering! And getting rid of the daughter by sending her to boarding school was a brilliant move to relieve her of 50% of her maternal responsibilities. Noel knows he is next to go. Those two kids are rich financially but poor, no, flat-broke, emotionally.) Keep trying to teach those other women how to be adult women, responsible and empathetic.

Stardust
Stardust

Jill,

You, LuAnn, Bethenny, just make the show. And, your mom is wonderful!!! Can't wait for next season!!

Viewer
Viewer

Good way to explain your behavior towards Bethanny, it was for the good of the good of the guest! Good one.

Tony
Tony

Jill; What I absolutely love about you is genuinely care about those close to you, and even those who are strangers if relate to their problems. If you realize this or not, that particular trait, call it "empathy" seems to be dying in this culture. I fear with times being so hard, people will forget altogether how to care for other, or remember why it is on of the most important things we can do in life. You are without doubt Gloria's child for certain from the little I saw of your lovely and hysterical Mother, what a gem she is, and how much you take after her! OY VAY!

My real comment here is I think Bravo should send you to the OC to teach thesse wonderful qualities you posses so abundantly with those who need your wisdom, caring and sense of fair play. I am speaking of Tamra and Vicki of course. Their treatment of Gretchen after the death of her "whatever he was" was beyond deplorable, it was classless, distasteful and downright ugly. It has bothered me ever since I saw the OC wrap show, and when I see Vicki's face, I feel sick to my stomach she is such a miserable and controlling shrew, I fear she screw up her life, and anyone else she can grab on the down if there isn't an intervention of sorts. Enter Jill, and be prepared my sweet thing, we are talking Class A 1 Bitches with almost zero understanding of accountability for their actions. It would also make an amazing special for us fans, a chance to see you give it to these two hens I would pay money to see that! Without you to show them the way, I will be forced to stop watching OC, they are just too cruel, and that's not fun to see when you know it's actually real.

My best to you, and see if there maybe is a chance to do this, if you are the brave soul I think you to be. Much Love.

Clt
Clt

I do appreciate the fact that you actually commented on the show, but don't like your "advice" to the NJ wives. Let them figure it out on their own. The only little girl of Theresa's showing out was the 2 year old, it's her age. Jacqueline will learn to deal with her own guilt and teenager. She'll also see Danielle for the pit viper that she is. Rich men do not seek out 46 year old women which Danielle will find out soon enough. She needs to get her own business going or a JOB. Dina and Caroline should be thick as thieves, they are family. You are still my favorite NY housewife, but the change Betheny has made during the two seasons is not for the better, she's a bully and you indulge her which doesn't speak well of you. Kelly is obviously mentally ill and it's not fair to pick on her. Also it's not your business to broadcast the cost of her house.

Holly
Holly

Let me just begin by saying that watching the show makes me mad at my husband for the night. I lovvvvve him but we are poor and I often say to him I wish I was one of the Real Housewives of New York. I live in RI and adore the few times I've gone to NY (I have been fortunate enough to go to Chinatown and buy knockoffs, I couldn't imagine buying the real things.) Anyhoo my husband hates the show since the next day I fantasize about your lifestyles and glare at him with slight resent. I assume you will think this is distasteful but if you ever wanna make a broke 29-yr old VERRRRRY happy send me one of your old handbags! lol, you rock Jill. Also, how would you feel if Ally covered herself in tattoos???

casavaa
casavaa

Jill: I have to tell you that seeing your mother on one of the episodes where she talked with Bethenny, told me why you have been so successful as an adult. Please don't misunderstand, I believe that you are a very good business woman and just the kind of person that anyone would be priviledged to have as a girlfriend, but i could tell that your mom raised you with such common sense and instilled a lot of confidence in you. I didnt have parent's to give me that start in life. Do you think it's too late for me at 46 to find a man with business sense to marry so I can get off the loser line and start feeling like a winner, like you do? P.S. I agree, gay husbands make the good friends,:) Congrats on your success. You make me feel good and wish that I had a friend just like you.

Ardmore32
Ardmore32

Wow, Jill, I just love your intelligence more and more as time goes on. This blog was right on target....and I can tell you put quite a bit of thought into everything you wrote. "Kuh-DOOOS" to YOU!(as Ramona would say.....)

Viewer
Viewer

You, Bethany & LuAnn are my favorites!

I think you are classy, elegant, true, smart and sophisticated.

Don't change. And don't step down to Kelly's level. Ever.

Honest viewer
Honest viewer

Jill, I have watched you from the beginning of Season 1 on the NYC show. I think you are a honest and caring person, BUT sometimes I think you need to take some of your own advice. You said Jacqueline had an over the top party for her son and that Ashley seems spoiled. You seem the same way! Who paid for your daughter Ally to go to Paris? And who buys her her designer clothes and shoes? I'm sure it is you..well your husband. And what's with Ally's last name all of a sudden being Zarin? I wonder how Bobby's real kids feel about all of that... hmm.

Viewer Suzy
Viewer Suzy

Jill Zarin I must say I really love you the best!!! Your advise to the "ladies" of NJ was perfect. I myself was born and raised in Bergen County NJ however I still have some of NYC in me my father owns a 100 year old glass business and half of a block on W 17th St. You are a class act and so is Gloria she reminds me of my Jewish mother who I miss every day of my life! NJ is not as bad as Bravo is making it look and most of the ladies are class acts..

Suzy Rappaport

Ainsley
Ainsley

Jill,

You need to sit down and be quiet. How dare you tell these women to edit themselves on a show that is supposed to REAL. How ridiculous. I want them being nothing but themselves, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Season 1 Jill and Season 2 Jill were not the same people. I loved you and LuAnn last season. This season both of you seemed to let the RHONY go to your head and became caricatures of people we never knew. LuAnn was worse than you, but still. You changed. You need to go somewhere and work on yourself. You are so petty and child-like to be a woman of a certain age. The way you are always trying to one up Ramona and always have the last word is very junior high. You need therapy, you certainly aren't in a position to be doling out advice to other adults. You shouldn't be allowed to offer advice to small children or animals.

Love Always, Ainsley

Teresa LeRuo
Teresa LeRuo

Jill- You are great and hit the nail on the head with all the Ladies. Their mistakes keep therapists like me in business.

What I love about you is your honesty and people always know where they stand with you. Thanks for keeping it real.

Viewer
Viewer

Hi Jill, What excellent advise to these women! I could not agree more with your comments to Teresa. These children will be incredibly spoiled as they grow older. You were the most level-headed and down to earth woman on the show, and I think that all of us "normal people" could really relate to you. Kudos to you!

Viewer
Viewer

The Soup's host is Joel McHale.

Sue C
Sue C

Jill I must say you have been my favorite throughout all seasons of RH and your comments individually regarding the RHNJ are right on! Say it like it is baby!!! Thanks for the entertainment, I truly enjoy watching every Tuesday after a stressful day at work!